 What's going on, guys? Welcome to the Single Guy channel. My name is Lloyd. And again, I have my very special guest, Mr. Dave Parada back again. Dave Parada is back again and we are going to look at another set of text messages. So this isn't going to be as bad as some of the messages that we've looked at in previous videos. This is probably something that you guys are sending to a lot of the girls that you're interested in. So what's the context about this particular conversation that we're looking at right now? So basically it's a dude who is just a subscriber of mine, hit me up and he's like, man, I keep having these situations where I talk to these girls for maybe like a week or two and then I go for the meetup and they just completely drop off the face of the earth. And so basically he started the conversation with this girl, it was going well, then things kind of fell apart and he doesn't know why. Yeah, so he got this girl from some dating app, right? Yeah, it was called The League. Yeah, it was called The League. Special dating app. Right, so let's take a look at this conversation. Okay, so we talked to a girl called Becky. Becky is not her real name. So then he first writes December 19th. I see one of your interests is yoga. You'll have to show me your crane pose sometimes. And then he put like one of those little tongue out emojis. Yeah. This is actually a good text. Like he looked at her profile and said, okay, she likes yoga. This is going to be a good topic to talk about. Let me bring that up. And you know, it's a solid opener. Yeah, I think it's great. You know, it's funny. It's nice. And comments show that he's actually taking the time to read her profile. So there's a lot of good things about it. Then she actually keeps it going. She goes, I actually, so this is what the girl says. Yeah, I actually almost became a yoga instructor. Just didn't take the exam at the end. So I hope I be up to par. So she's playing along with the yoga line. Playing along. Yeah. And he had the opportunity to continue playing along with it. But instead, he goes, well, he kind of played along with it a little bit. He goes, ha, admitting you need more practice, question mark, much respect for your confidence to do so. So that's actually not a bad compliment. I think he's starting out okay so far. But then what he says after that, he says, what stopped you from taking the exam CPA study question mark? What do we think about that one? I guess you must have something about being like a CPA or profile or something like that. But, but bro, it's like you had this great topic of yoga. There's a lot of places you could have taken that scene if she was flexible, you know, joked around about that and teased there, built some attraction. But instead, you bring it from a really fun subject to one of the most boring topics on the face of the earth. Yeah. Accounting. Come on, bro. What are you doing? Yeah. And like, look at the response that she says after that. She says something like that. It was earlier in college and I knew I was going to be taking a lot of classes to be CPA eligible after that. Blah, blah. I'm not even going to read the rest because you did accounting, didn't you, Dave? I did accounting that she was boring as hell. Yeah. And like, for a person who doesn't do accounting, it's boring. For a person who did do accounting, it's super boring. So as you can imagine, this is probably not the best subject to be talking about with a girl. And she just, like, you just started this conversation, you're giving things going. She doesn't want to talk about the finer points of like the CPA exam. Like, that's not, there's no way you can be able to make it flirty from there and build any attraction. Yeah. You shoot yourself in the foot. In my experience, when you get a, when you match with a girl off a dating app or something like that, the best thing to do is just to tease them about their profile, keep it fun, light hearted on and move in from there. But he didn't keep that going. Well, his mistake, he's trying to like build this like super deep connection right off the bat. When he doesn't even have any attraction there yet, right? What he should have done is kept teasing, kept it fun. And then like, boom, she's attracted, they get out on a date, then, you know, maybe talk about accounting if you so choose. Then build those deep connections. Yeah. You know, you're not going to, you're not going to have miracles over text. Yeah. Especially not like the third text of the conversation. Yeah. The best thing you can do is go for fun, play goals and teasing. And that's probably the best, like, it's going to keep her interested in getting it. So, so instead of, instead of teasing her, he just kept diving a little deeper into the accounting stuff with the next text. Yeah. Say, I hear you, I hear you. I had to take a break from my college dance team to prepare for my CS classes. Sounds like accounting is demanding. What drove you to study that? Well, what a riveting question. And he took two days later to respond, which is not the bad part. The bad part is exactly what Dave said, which is that he's continuing on a subject that's not the most exciting, not something that's going to get a girl excited to go out on a date with. I mean, think about it. Who do you think she's going to go out on a date with? The guy who wants to talk about the CPA exam or the guy that's being fun, playful and teasing her? It's no surprise that she didn't respond to that. Yeah. She's wanting to be talking about accounting online. So then a day later, he doesn't give up. He says, please don't tell me you didn't spend Christmas studying. So we're continuing with the CPA exam. He's trying to save it. He's trying to, like, make it a little farty. But, bro, you've already gone too far. It's not, it's not the worst thing he said. But it's definitely, it's definitely not the best. And so then later, he pulls in the frickin Hail Mary attacks. Hail Mary about like two and a half weeks later says, hey, what are you up to tonight? Let's be spontaneous and meet up. Of course, she did not respond to him. How often does that text work? When you randomly out of the blue, you have a message, this girl, she's been kind of ghosting you and you say, Hey, let's meet up. And that text is never going to work, especially with the way that the conversation fell off. It's not even, it's not even a 0.0% chance. It's 0.01% chance. It's a 0% chance, man. Like, if you do want to re-initiate after a long time, it's possible. But you kind of want to start a little bit of rapport and then go into the meetup. If you just say, Hey, let's meet up when you've been ghosted by a girl, 0% chance she's going to respond in 0% chance that you're going to get a text back. Because if you think about it, nothing has changed since the conversation ended. So why is she going to do anything? Exactly. So that was the bad version. And let's take a look at the better version, what we probably would have said. So Dave wrote down the better version that would be right now. I see. So this is how I would have gone with it. And so at the beginning, it's the same opening text where he says, I see one of your interests is yoga. You have to show me your crane pose sometime. I think that's not Yeah, it's solid. And she comes in. I actually almost became a yoga instructor. Just didn't take the exam at the end. So I hope it'd be up to par. So here, this is where we go in a different direction. Instead of like, oh, that was very confident of you to say that, like trying to qualify or like, start getting deep, which wasn't terrible, but it wasn't the best thing. It was too soon, man. It was too soon. And you have a great topic. Why not keep keeping with it? So so the new text would be, you might have to teach me some poses. Just promise not to make fun of me if I'm not as if I'm not as flexible as you. Yeah, keeping it going, keeping it playful, keeping it fun. This is exactly what you want to be doing at the beginning. When you first get someone as a match, or whatever they call it in the other apps, when you first are messaging someone off the dating app, especially with the topic like yoga that has kind of sexual connotations to it. Because it has to do with these body movements. Like it's a little it's more of like a, it's an intimate type of type of exercise. Something that's probably going to get her more excited to talk about them. Yeah, definitely. Which really would be anything. You talk about paint drying, more excited than that. So so from there, he responds. She R. She responds. Okay, we'll see. I am pretty flexible. So I won't go easy on you. So it's giving him a challenge. He's playing ball. This is going great. And then he would come in and say, you've already got me intimidated. But I think we need to get drinks before we do any yoga. I don't show I don't show my pose skills to just anyone. Exactly. So he kind of gives her a challenge too. So like you say he's going tip for tad here, like they're going it's a very good, flirty conversation where they're both kind of challenging each other. They're both moving a little bit of push pull. It's fun. It's playful. It's exactly what you should be doing at the beginning and also to rather than getting derailed by a very deep conversation, he's going for what Tinder and all these dating apps are supposed to do. Get you to meet up in person. Yeah. And he's doing it by creating this like this fun flirty story about yoga and drinks. And it's like, it's just like this whole little world that they've created. It doesn't seem like a your average boring less go get a drink and soup. Yeah, yeah. They already they have something to connect on which is yoga and like that they're gonna get to drink. It's gonna be a good time. Yeah. And so from there, okay, okay, that's fair. And then he could come in going for the meetup. He could be like, Listen, there's a cool bar on Brook Street called me fattings. You want to grab drink there Tuesday or Thursday night? Boom, he's going for it. Yeah. And yeah, that was pretty good. So we're going we're already talking about going for the meetup now if she gave him a little bit of resistance there, maybe he's trying to figure out her schedule and then do some of the stuff that we talk about in other videos, which is basically how to set up the date after you've got a girl's number. But yeah, I thought that was like pretty good. You know, that's a lot better versions a lot more fun. She's a lot more excited to meet up with this guy. And she didn't ghost it. Yeah. And the good thing too about giving him like two options to hang out like Tuesday or Thursday night. That way, if she's not free in one of the nights, hopefully she's free the other night. And if she's not free at all, she's probably going to give you a different day like, Oh, I can't do those. But how about like Friday? Yeah, and she's like, Oh, I can't do those. Like, sorry. Usually so. Perfect. Yeah, that was really good. So basically, if you guys are looking to get some text conversations analyzed, or you wanted us to look at them, you should send them to me or Dave, you're going to take a look at this or any channel at all. I'll take a look at it. Nice. Nice. Alright, cool, guys. Well, that's the video on texting. 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