 Now, if I had to rebuild my life from scratch, there are just a few things that I would do from the beginning that I think would make the biggest difference. Now, maybe these are not things that you've heard before. And so I thought I would take a minute to share some things in 2021 that I would do differently to rebuild my life from zero. What's up you guys, Alex Hein here. So I've included a free journaling worksheet right beneath this that will help you figure out how to get your life together and plan it out going forward. It'll give you a simple exercise you can do today to figure out what exactly you want and how to actually make it happen. So that's right below this video. So the first thing is this idea of the lion tracker. I heard this idea of just choosing the next best track from a guy named Boyd Vardy. Now, Boyd Vardy runs, I think, actually a safari company in South Africa. And he had this book that I believe is called A Lion Tracker's Guide to Life. And he said something that I thought was very wise that I thought can help you. And I think he did a great job of encapsulating this idea in a way that really makes this subjective feeling very clear. So what he said was that the job of the lion tracker is just to track the next step, right? You just track the next track because right now you may not know where that track will lead. Is this track gonna go to the watering hole? Is this track gonna go deeper into the jungle? Is this track gonna bring you to the carcass of a gazelle just killed? Your job as the tracker and for you, the tracker of your own life is to just find the next track. And that next track will lead you to the next track. And you can't always know where the track is going to lead. And in the same way, the lion tracker eventually always loses the track, as Boyd says. But that's just a piece of tracking. And I thought this was a great analogy because the way that I have framed it for people is there's a whole chapter in my book, Milk the Pigeon and it says the drunken staircase analogy. And the analogy I come up with is that trying to figure out what to do with your life is a lot like coming home from the bar at 3 a.m., hammered, trying to go up steps at night. You turn on the flashlight on your phone and you're shining it on the steps and you're just trying to get that first step. And you know that if you can drunkenly get the first step then you can probably get the next step. And if you can get that next step you can probably get the third step. You know what I mean? So if you can figure out how to get those furry first steps with your flashlight in the middle of the night you know you're gonna make it into your bed safe and sound. But you don't have to see the whole staircase at least for the time being. You just need to get on the drunken first step. So in the same way, the lion tracker just tracks the next best step even though you don't know where your whole path may lead. And let's be real, if you're trying to get your life together or rebuild it, one of the first things you wanna do is figure out what makes you feel good feel well on a daily basis. The second thing I would do if I was trying to get my life together is I would follow Susie Bates, the CEO of Pupere's advice on resonance or dissonance. So Susie Bates, if you don't know her is the founder of Pupere, the CEO. She has an incredible story of how she went from suicide attempts, double bankruptcy, divorce thinking she's the worst entrepreneur in the world and in general really feeling and kind of externally seeming like she didn't really have her life together that much. She struggled a lot. And now Pupere is a $500 million company. And she likes to share the story of because how was it possible that this woman could go from being so not together to being so together now? And she shares this idea of resonance and dissonance because she said that, you know, after her second bankruptcy she would have attempted suicide again, but she had kids. And so she dedicated the next few years of her life to healing. And the main thing that she began doing as she healed was she promised herself she would never ever do anything in business that didn't feel good. So she started applying this idea of resonance or dissonance to her whole life. Meaning if she went out to dinner with somebody did she feel elevated, energized, turned on, excited by that conversation and that person, that relationship, was it neutral or was it repulsion? And then she started applying that to everything in her life. Does eating that meal make you feel more excited? Does doing that work make you feel more excited? Does being with that person make you feel more excited or more drained? And as you begin practicing this exercise you become very dynamic or very fluid because you develop this antenna or this sixth sense for experiences and people and dates you go on and foods you eat. And you begin to understand which of the things will make you feel better after the fact and which of the things will make you feel worse. And sometimes it's not what you would have expected. And so take some time to do this resonance or dissonance exercise, recognizing that some things are gonna make you feel good, some will make you feel neutral and some are gonna make you feel worse. But the more you train that faculty, the more you can recognize it throughout your life. The third thing I would say if you're trying to get your life together is to keep a daily log to make sure you are not BSing yourself. So I coached hundreds of 20-somethings throughout my late 20s, primarily with life coaching and career coaching and that kind of thing. And I was often surprised to see, first of all, these were ambitious people because they were already willing to pay someone to be a coach and most people would not do that. But even these small sample of ambitious people, they were often not taking as much action as they thought. And let's be real, if you wanna be an author, you have to write every damn day. If you wanna be an athlete, you have to train or study your game every day. If you wanna be a doctor, you have to study or see patients every day. There is no way around actually doing things if you wanna be great at what you do. And if you just wanna see results in your life, if you wanna feel well, if you wanna get your life together, you probably are also gonna be doing things to make that happen. So what I recommend is keeping this journal to track the amount of action you are taking because just like I found with the hundreds of people I had coached, very few people are taking that much action. They all say they wanna write a book, but in the last week, can they even point to three hours they spent writing the book? Most people cannot. You wanna build a business, can you point to even one hour per day building your business on paper? If you wanna program an app, if you wanna be in a relationship or make new friends, can you really objectively show to yourself you've actually done some work every day? You've done something to make that happen. You've done a ritual. So I think the third step is not to fool yourself because we are very, very easy to fool and we like to think we're doing our best. Maybe you really are and maybe we aren't and we have to be honest with ourselves about that. 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