 Welcome back to the 21 convention 2018 of Orlando, Florida Our next speaker is a writer personal trainer and ballet dancer. He's also the Twitter bash brother of at latimore Without further ado, please let me welcome to the stage Alexander J.A. Cortez And I'm like tough. I'm like tough. That's actually pretty bright How are we doing gentlemen? All right, I'm not gonna do a high energy thing. I just tend to talk fast and loud So I'll try to check myself So subject matter archetypes of masculinity clicker Understand who you are as a man the forces that shape you so To dive into this so fundamental a question. I like to frame this because I always like to have context as personal training You have to know what you're talking about So what's the issue facing men today? What does it mean to be a man? I get that question a lot from guys who are young and guys that are old and we're living in a Social political climate where you guys I'll see that being rewritten masculinity is toxic toxic masculinity We need to have vulnerable that masculinity we need to get outside the man box And a lot of this bullshit. It's bullshit fabrication If you're trying to find the answer to masculinity You have to ask yourself. What are the eternal values that have worked? Throughout human history that have proved themselves to work. What is tried and proven? What's new and what's new and improved tends to fall apart pretty rapidly and for good reason It's trend driven. What is something that has lasted for the entirety of being on this planet? And my alternate theory so to speak so the problem with modern masculinity if you were to characterize it like is there such Things toxic masculinity. Yeah, there is it's called feminism It's been who have been raised by the feminine imperative who have had mommy girlfriends and their momma's boys And they think that the role of a woman is to give them sex and my wife my good Virginal wife. She's gonna be so good to me that that's a toxic man because he's he's weak He's weak and he doesn't understand how the world works and as soon as he has his illusion broken or his needs not met It's like a spoiled child. He gets mad upset and he hates everything that he can't have and he always hates the men that has What he would like to have so that's toxic So archetypes what are the archetypes you could consider? The term comes from anthropology Jung made it popular, but it's anthropology term. It's basically a very deep version of stereotype We have stories that we tell ourselves every single day of our lives You all want to be not all of you, but you guys hopefully had a father If I ask you what is a father without describing your father, you're going to give me a set of characteristics You'll give me a story so to speak of what you think a man is as a father If you had a brother was it mean to be a brother was it mean to be a son? What does it mean for a woman to be a mother? There's a story with that that you have formed of the course of your life Yeah, it starts in childhood and it develops through stages as you age So these are some this example's names Kings. So King Solomon King of Israel King of scon That's such Charles Martel France Stop the muslim invasion and let's say 800 AD Genghis Khan probably the world's most successful man in terms of what you call it a roll over talking about this earlier in terms of Supremacy in regards to breeding strategy super alpha male had I think he's responsible for like five percent population of Asia to this day He won he won evolution So you have these guys throughout history and we look up to this we look up to this Genghis Khan I always like to use this as an example because in probably of like the perfect I must say perfect most idolized male world You'd be a conqueror you'd have unlimited access to women Everyone would know your name you would be feared and respected and you would have the entirety of the world before you as your domain Now that's not going to happen And if the world was that way we'd all be murdering each other right now But there's an ideal that gets attached to that and there's a reason why we remember somebody like him There's a reason why we venerate these men because they embody these very heroic qualities There's a reason if I ask you what is a hero? There's an attachment to the idea So there's more examples Achilles Leonidas again these things capture us for good reasons because these These ideas these archetypes they are built into our DNA. You could consider that your behavior is Downstream of your biology you have evolved to be what you are today Yeah, if you take I'm Jewish so I don't usually interject my faith too much But if you take a biblical perspective that you are made in the image of God you are made as something to be esteemed and These images are these men like this. Yeah, I've had guys complain. Well, that's a really high standard to follow So fucking what you need a standard of something if you're Just yourself Alice probably not that impressive to you. Otherwise you wouldn't be here real talk if I always ask people this If you want to if you were to Would you be happy with yourself if you died as you are right now? No, no It don't ever say yes to that if you're if you're saying yes, you're at your deathbed So more archetypes now in modern society. We've moved out of the King era Obviously, we have archetypes that exist in the modern rule Bruce Lee martial artists He was some sort of a magician so speak We know him for his philosophy which is based on Taoism, but he imbibe a certain archetype He was a warrior. He was refined. He was a gentleman. He also he was tough You went fuck the Bruce Lee Kobe Bryant. I'm not a sports guy so much But Kobe Bryant. He was a great athlete. What are our athletics in the modern world? They're substitutions in a sense for war. We get to watch men compete with each other in a physical setting We get to watch a game be played We get to experience the highs and lows of victory and loss and we bind to these things because archetypes run through all These things that's Robert plant. Yeah, so I'll talk about the artist archetype later on But men there are artists men that are perceptive women Flock to this guy. I mean women will flock to all these men but artists I always like to point out to men since we tend to a lot of time this when we talk about red pill blue pill What's the meme Chad thundercock? Yeah, I always I always crack up when I see that guy He's 612 and he deadless on her pounds He's huge and we like to think well, you know, that's that's well That's the that's the alpha guy that women are drawn to women are drawn to men that make them feel something And artists make people feel things. That's why we listen music Look at that later. And then you have these sorry sense of itches Which are new males and this is what this is an archetype This is an archetype is you all laugh when you see this because you know what this means You know what this means you have a story already that you've told yourself about this and this is what we're trying to You know exterminate honestly if I'm being serious. We we don't want these people reproducing breeding or doing anything At all. These are all these are the guys that watch like my little pony porn and they work at Google and YouTube and Probably in Twitter too and then you have the end. This is an archetype Yeah, why because well, this is an affrontation against God, but you know, there's a story to this There's a story to this of how somebody and up this way and it's a sad story and a fat story So like I said archetypes are the deeper more proven version of stereotypes So a journal stereotype black people are good athletes Don't argue with that because it's technically true and I could show you the data and it will upset those of you who have You know those proclivities to be upset by it. It's true If people are African orcs and they tend to have a higher instance of just as the athletically Coated gene so to speak I can say Ashkenazi Jews are more intelligent because they are the average mean IQ of an Ashkenazi Jews Like 120 they have very high verbal IQ. I'm an Ashkenazi Jew So there's stereotypes those are stereotypes But then there's within those cultures if I go to the anywhere in the world the cultures have they have archetypes and Archetypes always end up being pretty similar. So I wanted to do this again for context the word itself English language rice land rice from Greece the term. This is interesting And I want to put this out which means first molded or the beginning So when we're talking about archetype when we get the subject of male archetypes The idea is not for you men to try to be a perfect man or a perfect person office are perfect What you're trying to do is take a pure quality and use that as your ideal to follow and that's what Play doh gets to But what that's what he got to you know about what for 2,500 years ago roughly Pure mental form. So these are things they end up being imprinted into your soul If you're in the process right now of trying to reintegrate yourself You're struggling with your old blue pill mentalities You're struggling with how do I refer myself from this kind of red pill perspective and our relationships or how do I just take everything? I've learned and coalesced into something functional. That's soul level work Then that's why it's hard it is you know, whether you dismiss the idea of there being a soul or not That's you taking apart your psyche piece by piece by piece And you're trying to put it back together again to something that functions well Where you don't have to think about all these things and be stressed by them So as I said broken down further so human mind you're always showing things in archetypes as we saw It's a pure story and it doesn't mean morally perfect So it's the representation of the thing and That's play dough and play dough. I always liked it. So there's there's lots of stories about him He was actually a very good wrestler and he was known if the students ever got mouthy with him He would actually wrestle them as a form of likes, you know punishment like he's like he's an older looking guy It's like you want to fuck with the old man. Let's go And he usually he usually won that he usually won people usually got their asses kicked So moving on to Sort of the Jung 101. I'm not gonna go too much into Jung I know Rolo doesn't like Jung but you had some ideas that were pretty good His problem was that he loved to take what I think was very practical stuff and make it overly metaphysical Don't make the pragmatic too complicated for people So here he realized some interesting things in the study of dreams So your dreams are sort of your unforced thoughts of how you think And he writes and talking to people and interviewing them and telling them like what are your dreams? Tell me about them. You can lie about your dreams, but you Can't lie about who you really are even lying about what you dreamt you're still revealing yourself And his big thing that he realized was that and saying dreams saying mythology studying anthropology All cultures on earth they all share these archetypes and henceforth when you're trying to change yourself You can apply these units for archetypes to your own personality. They apply to everybody So I can't reiterate human mind turns like I said needs to have characters poison archetypes So someone asked me the reason why I wanted to get the explanation I had a guy asked me the other day Is there such thing as making your own archetype and rebelling? I'm like there's an archetype of being the rebellious bad boy I'm like you can't You're not gonna make anything new with this You know even if you want to be the person that sort of defies you think logic. There's an archetype for that and That didn't render at all Okay, well whatever so Cool, I like from him. You're not what you think you're what you do Which I think I spoke to a at the core. He was a practical guy Although he tended to screw that up actually talking about himself Another aspect to this will be archetype and this is a deep one for you guys Especially for those of you who are struggling with the the red pill digestion So this was his idea and I'm gonna run with it within your psyche You have an anima. So you have every man in here You have an internal model in your mind your brain as to what you think a woman is You have a whole story that goes with that and it goes from your mother from your sisters from your girlfriends to the woman That cheated on you with the one you cheated with it It's everything every experience you've ever had with a woman that gets Compressed and that gets turned into a character so to speak and that is what shapes your perception What happens for you guys were or were let's say very blue pill invested with the ego investment Your anima was something like I'll be very stereotypical It was a woman is a woman is a woman that you White night for and if you're you do all the good things and you follow the script and she rewards you a sex And she loves you and that she's virginal and pure and I'm gonna have a perfect relationship And then at some point another that just got just blown out the fucking water in your face Yeah, maybe you were married for a while and then your wife lost interest in you dead bedroom But whatever it was it broke you it broke you of this Your anima because of how deep it is within you that breaks everything else attached to it Everything else and for most men the central point of their existence is not themselves. It's a woman It's a woman or it's women in general So your mental origin point when you're trying to reorient yourself You cannot make it this That's why a lot of you struggle because you still have that whether you rise or not that blue pill mindset Where the god of your life is female that fucking Ariana Grande song, which take yeah anyway I'm not gonna get that okay. God is not a woman Okay, okay the central power of your life is not your subservience to what you would like a woman to be in fulfillment of that It's not that's an aspect of who you are. It's not the whole thing The animus likewise and women they have a model of what a man is and most women today which All women are high in brain Let's say a red pill and their motivations, but they can be blue pill and their idolizations of what a man is Women get disappointed by men just as much as we get disappointed by them So women have the same issue. They have an internal male model in their head and that shapes their whole Development that shapes their whole does it that shapes all the desires that shapes what they look for in a partner And that can blow up in their face as well. And then this is the classical girl with daddy issues Yeah, for those you get this is a very familiar throat. You know a woman just grows up with no father No, no male love no male approval wish he looked for she looks for a daddy And I would attribute that the current trend were girl girlfriends like to call their boyfriend daddy That's a girl that had a weak father and she now she's getting that Sort of paternal love slash sexual love fulfilled by the guy she's dating I find that a little weird to be called daddy Some guys like being called daddy, but then I could say they have issues too Or me or maybe or maybe I'm maybe I'm the ones fucked up. I don't know. Yeah, maybe it's maybe it's all those things Um, yeah, so like I said your script for reason So when the opposite of what you are changes it changes who you are as well That's that's the meta less than that. So yin and yang. So if we take um You know animus anima within each one is a pure drop of the other Um, and if that gets like I said poisoned. Well, then you're going to be screwed. That's why a lot guys continue to have bad relationships regardless Moving on from there to understand the male archetypes like Samuel had a lot context for this So men have two biological imperatives meaning what these are meaning things that you have to do otherwise you are fucking useless You have to protect yourself So you protect yourself first and then you protect other second in a primal situation If this was 100,000 bc if you are physically weak you are dead Okay, if you are infirm you are dead if you were born specially able you're dead. Okay, you're all dead You have to be strong. You have to be able to defend and offend against what would offend you That's a requirement that is in our evil You can there's no counter to that. Well, no, maybe but none enough. Okay in a primal situation If you can't protect yourself, you're gone. All of your ancestors were pretty tough motherfuckers They weren't because that they had to be otherwise when I'm survived Following that you have to be able to provide for yourself You have to be able to hunt You have to be able to cooperate you have to be able to get along with your gang with your group of guys To reference Donovan And that is how men create things through mutual crop of effort. You're all here today because this is a this is a cooperation You're not just seeing on your laptop reading stuff You want to come here because there's an appeal in learning from men Within the sense of a group from learning from men and being able to network interact. That's how men prosper now within modern life, unfortunately You can provide for yourself and you can be wholly incapable of protecting yourself You know and there's a physicality aspect that there's a health aspect I have a cousin of mine. He's 19 he's In he's a pre-diabetic. He's 19. He's pre-diabetic. He's obese He's really tall kid. He's like six eight. So him being obese. He's like over He's around like two ninety And he sits on he literally it's serotype. He sits on his laptop all day, but it's true and he plays fortnight And that's all he does and he gets in chat rooms and out or forums and I don't know what he talks about That's all he does He can't protect himself Honestly, but he's taken care of by his mother and lives in his room. I mean, you know, he lives at home But he can't protect himself Maybe he'll find means to provide for himself. Maybe but the protection aspect isn't happening it's not Now the hijacking with this why I call the feminine imperative hijacking is this is what makes a man a man But Who's first You're a first. It's not the woman You're only a man if you fulfill the above in service for me That's what gets hijacked and that's what for the guys who are super Bluepilt, that's what they're invested in and you know, they get to punch their a woman I've you know, you were and I I was nice you ten times card now. Fuck me. Um, they've fallen into this now within a traditional model within Him history and even predating Motheism Christianity Judaism Islam If you're a man, you're going to suffer because that's how that works May your suffering be in service to god in service of the highest form of yourself So you're going to suffer because you are living for some sort of ideal That's the only way that life is going to make sense because life is going to be painful Modern world you can alleviate your pain a lot of ways You know, not modern world before I'd say you've been 1900 You had to go through a lot of shit people would have you'd have children you'd have kids dying You have your option to be dead your wife could die on your what your wife could die on childbirth They happen all the time family members could die average life expectancy was lower If you made it past three years old, you might live to be 70 or you might be used as a beast of burden in war And then you're dead on a battlefield with 100,000 other people and you just got corpses everywhere. You're going to suffer So it has to be for something and hopefully it's for yourself And like I said for yourself and it's for the ideals you're following. It's not just for the woman That said, however, within within this model of society There is a certain form of valence which can be sort of knighthood that doesn't exist anymore um, it's only within a very patriarchal society that Sacrificing yourself for a woman for family is considered, you know, very admirable and it still is today But it also gets cast aside very readily any man's ever been used by a woman even though he gave everything for her You know what that feels like is you thought you thought what you did meant something and you found out didn't mean anything because your usefulness was Used up So disney prince and princess This is actually a good movie This is actually a good movie because it tells you all the it tells you every hypocrisy about everything in the modern world but shows you The primordial archetype of what women want from man So and and it's also my favorite film for this So I remember seeing this I was like three years old and it doesn't make sense if you Analyze it from my perspective. So this is It's a beast obviously. He's a beast, but he is essentially the feminine Fantasy of a man where he is untamed and he is wild and he is uncivilized and he is savage He's savage women love violent men Anyone that's ever been a fighter anyone that's ever been Yeah, if you're for your guy where you've been hyper-aggressive when I was so I was in jail for two months and I was 18 19 it was a big joke getting out that you got like the prison pussy bonus Because as soon as you got out and you went back to neighborhood and oh, yeah, I just got out of being locked up. Oh my god, really Uh Fuck yeah, I fucking killed a guy actually too Fuck I killed I killed five people. I didn't fucking feel bad about either. I'm fucking psycho. Oh my god. Oh my god Really? Yeah, yeah, really. Okay women love psychos because they're like this Because that's the guy he listens only to himself He listens only to himself He doesn't need you and in not needing you he can do whatever he wants to you and not needing you and doing whatever he wants To you you can have with any kind of experience you want with him Versus the guy that needs you in which case he's already below you This is a female fantasy This is a woman in an idolized pure form of beauty before she gets wrecked by the world and she gets to take the most psychopathic narcissistic Beastly guy literally and she gets to turn him into a man and by loving her He is made into a human being And that's the female fantasy it so this it's a good movie. It's a good movie for that reason now with this though Unfortunately Is it disney kept making more movies and then they got more screwed up as he went along It led to why called disney prince and princess archetype Which is that's the modern architect today where the girl she has a checklist of 25 things Of 25,000 things that she wants a man to be and she's checking off boxes and then as she gets to 30 She gets the wall 35 that list gets shorter and shorter and it's shorter and shorter until it literally became i've a A female client of mine I've known her now for seven years So I I'll take a sidetrack. I so her list when I met her she was 30 It was this running list of I want a good christian man And he looks like this and he's really tall and really attractive and he's going to treat in this way And he's I want him to make this much and this is why I'd like my house to look like And I already mentioned my wedding is going to be and this went on on on you get the idea You want to know her list is today last time I talked to her? I just want somebody that's nice to me I'm I'm dead serious. That's her list. I just I just want to meet someone that just is nice to me That was Larry her words How things change So with this you know fitting in the archetypes Obviously alpha fox beta bucks there is something to this and this was an idea that I wanted to talk to Roll about sometime this weekend since I was exploring it There's something to this sort of protector and pregnant archetype versus provider archetype So the guys that excel at protecting you know, let's just say athletes physically gifted Those are the ones that almost by default get made into alphas by women because they're tall and they're the guy that's the They're the guy the log guys hate where My girlfriend got stolen by the the high school quarterback kind of thing You know everyone you see that guy like if you're not that guy It's a lot of guys that piece of shit. He thinks he's fucking cool just because you know all he gets female attention And I don't You're idiots. Um, of course he gets female attention. My winnie Women make that into an alpha because when you're 16 when you're 12 to 20 What's the thing that you you look for whatever stokes that budding sexuality, which is going to be someone that's primed to breed with Um, and then you know provider archetype then you get a little bit older and realize like, okay That guy that can be with anybody he wants He's choosing me. I'm not choosing him Since that's the real alpha dynamic the alpha picks the woman doesn't pick beta's pick or they just get picked by woman So then you go to more of like the provider archetype and ideally Ideally you get both. Ideally you get the asshole Psycho who's crazy and psycho to everybody else, but you but that you know, that's not really what how things typically happen So with this wrapping this up to the sort of segue These things protect and provide they get formed to a fundamental set of characteristics So leadership you have to be able to lead yourself And there's an archetype to that Strength violence these things these two things are always tied together All for those of you guys who suffer from anxiety and you're just you're really nervous Um, you want to get out of your own head go do violence go do jujitsu Go box go muay thai go find a serious gym Where you will pay for your overthinking and literal pain and blood and that will no i'm dead serious Okay, if you're someone you're you're prone to anxiety and you overthink things Okay, if you're on the floor and i've got you locked up and i'm choking you out You don't really you can't really overthink them Okay, just because you're you're suffocating you have an air choke and your brain is losing oxygen flow and you're over thinking We'll cease pretty quickly. That's why like I said, I'm dead serious. It's very beneficial to your mindset So leadership strength violence intelligence men are intelligent obviously Brotherly love romantic love so Lover is one of the archetypes, you know, I think an aspect of this it's overlooked That Guys can see this and they immediately think of like, okay, you mean like like playboy like seduction like pua like game There is an aspect to that there is but there's also no one to this of one artistry Which is being able to recognize beauty and create it and also loving your fellow men because men are cooperative And one of the things that I think guys overlook in regards to Attraction dynamics is if you really want to attract women be a man that other men look up to That's why women like guys who are authority figures, you know, or the man the uniform It's not just the oh, well, he's successful and you know, he's buff and you know, he's clean cut That's a man that other men look up to and that implies status that implies power So you want to be cooperative that way Lover means a lot of things So to give you some examples of this Um So this is an old Mesopotamian story. He's one of the first kings of history, so to speak Um in I'm not going to tell you like if you want to go read this you can But it's an epic tale But he embodies essentially all those qualities of running through Leadership running through using his strength running through uh intelligence running through, you know, um eventually In his old age trying to find the meaning of life and whether you know love is substantial Not in the sense of just a woman, but what does it mean to have appreciation? Conan the barbarian Warrior archetype that there's a reason why this movie was successful. There's a reason why he's Arnold There's a reason why his physique is idolized. He looks like an ideal So this is an artist rendering rendering of Merlin Magic is an interesting thing. So I realized this Like I was watching this. I might have been in high school. I was watching like chris angel mine freak Um, so he's like super emo looking pierced very pale. You know, I kind of buff the pale Doing magic women are just fascinated by that I'm not going to say go learn magic his game But he was just it was amazing. He was never watching it and he had chicks as constantly. They're just were absolutely Enraptured with him. Yeah, what is it about magic that fascinates people? You're playing with reality You're not just playing with reality. If you can play the reality, it means you understand reality Which that means you can make somebody experience something they've never experienced before Which going back to what is truly compelling for a female? experiential feeling Women based their life off of what they feel so a magician in that sense that that's attractive And with this as well, you know going off of the bouncing back to like the the magic aspects Magic, this is a metaphor for learning natural laws value time production creativity Mathematics today is a modern form of magic If you know math, you know math well, you can create things that can make the world destroy the world There's immense power in that lover So Casanova, so he was a real guy He wrote a story about his biography about his life, which I would suggest reading Basically, he's went around to europe decided that his goal his his way of being was that he wanted to live for pleasure And he absolutely did that Up until the day he died Very fascinating james bond very classical kind of like the mixture of not a you wouldn't call him a king Because he's not a leader that's sort of that you know sort of like warrior lover where he goes around Women who want to sleep with him he would clinically classify as pretty much like a psychopath He said people die in front of he's he's gotten women killed all the time So he's a classical trope of james bond films the girl dies immediately in the first five minutes. He's like Like that's a good lady shit. Okay. She's dead. I got her. I got her killed like wow. Wow. I'm gonna go to do somebody else No, but why is that attractive because it is because he doesn't care As he lives for himself. He leads himself So king warrior magician lover I recommend this book last year and it was a really big hit on twitter I still got questions about this day So the guys that came up with it robert more dug gelette. They were younging psychologists. Um, you can agree with that means So like I said, my personal issue young psychology some it's really good, but it's just completely inaccessible Trying to read I'm a pragmatist. I like to give people useful tools You know with with training. I've been personal trainer for nine years Um, you can't lie about mostly you can't lie about strength your biceps got bigger or they didn't your squat went up Or didn't your dead lift is 500 pounds or it's not there's no bullshitting bad So if something's gonna work, I want to see it work and when it works, I know that it works Um, you know the reasons why it works. I don't necessarily care so much about that There's always different theories as to whether something is good and how it works or correcting how it functions So this is useful. Um But okay there it goes So this is from the book And this you know speaks to the fact that if you're a man and you feel you're under developing these qualities why Your development always starts in childhood now ideally Ideally I might come around to the side ideally You learn how to lead yourself and you end up becoming you know, they call the king and his fullness which terminology that sounds cool Whatever. Um, so you learn how to lead yourself You learn how to be a hero so to speak you learn you learn physicality you have that confidence So you learn intelligence You train yourself that way Loving it's fullness and you you have a healthy relationship with your parents You have a healthy relationship of femininity and you're able to enjoy life and you're you're a relatively complete man in that sense what happens In the modern world is it this tends to go sideways So you can have a guy where if you get raised, let's say by a mother who gives you everything Uh, you can observe being like the tyrant High tier tyrant's term they use the unit being the guy where as you come up You're sniveling and weak and demanding and you everything everything revolves around you Or maybe you're the guy where your mom yelled at you all the time And your dad was weak and he got yelled at all the time and all you know how to do with women Is just get down your knees to ask for things and that's all you know how to do that's your whole relationship with them And then same thing physicality for some guys, let's say who I I always sell as a bodybuilders Um, physically They're made you know massive looking But they have almost like a bully and a coward personality because they're undeveloped here and here and here And what you'll find as a man is some there always will be things that appeal to you Those of you gentlemen who are in leadership roles who are CEOs who you're in charge of others You have an advocacy and aspect of leadership where you take care of people And then there's those of you who maybe you're very much, you know cop in your Intellectualism in a good way and there's something about you know magic in a sense like programmers. I find have this a lot They want to create things they want to find a problem and create a solution for it literally You know, then you have the guys they're warriors warriors to know they're warriors. Um Jocko willink is a guy that's you know, very popular. He's gotten very popular last few years I remember listening to a podcast with him. He was talking might have been temporary. He's talking about the seal selection process Why he wanted to do that? He said he was like in high school 1516. He saw advertising for being a seal He decided he's gonna be a seal That's it Done there was what if what if I can't make it in doubt and fear Fuck it. He decided he was going to become something. So he became that thing Now that's I use him as an example of these guys oftentimes like to mimic some of his suggestions not in a bad way But mimicking something doesn't make you that thing You all can wake up at 4 30 am if you want It's not going to make you him That he is the man that he is because of who he is You know what you what you are trying to become you need to find one of these or find these equations in yourself And take them out of you. They can't just be copying somebody else's model and thinking that then you'll be that By way of mimicry We're good So characters of king. Um, I'll probably this is going fast and I thought it was awesome I'll probably be able to have time for questions So king, this is the classical quality where every guy regardless of who you are you have to do this You you lead yourself. You are your own mental origin point You write your own story Whether someone else had a story for you whether you were falling one you take control of your script You're the one that has authorship over that And I've said this many times not all men are destined to be leaders of men I don't consider myself a leader of men that way. I have an influence. I have a following. I keep myself day to day I'm very private that way You know, but I am responsible for myself and that's that's how I live because that is what is necessary to survive and thrive So you always have to lead yourself King is led by ideals So an idolized version of himself has potential So I call this positive narcissism Since that gets anytime you go about changing yourself Um And you start leading yourself you'll oftentimes be accused of that you've become narcissistic. You've changed Um, you're an asshole now You know, I remember I friends I've known for a while like you just become more of an assholes You've gotten older. I'm like you say that but I'm happy with my life And you are with yours and more successful than you and you're complaining to me So Who's doing life wrong? No, maybe maybe I'm fucked up. I don't know But I call this positive narcissism so you have to believe in the ideal form of your own potential you have to Otherwise, where are you going? Where is your life going to go? You know when we talk about believing yourself? I remember hearing that as a kid. I'm like, it's kind of lame as I got older It's not that it's a belief in yourself right now. It's the belief in what you can be And well the characteristics of a king is that you are leading whether it's you're leading a kingdom Whether you're leading a nation whether you're leading yourself You're leading yourself into a future that is aspirational that is above your current state You are becoming more So and I mentioned this earlier performing deeds to win a worthy woman. Um Only down the context patriarchal society, you know, was it sort of the king queen model every king needs a queen And then the current model this is the white knighting. That's synonymous with being used by a woman That's not the way to be a king obviously So how to cultivate this for those of you who have sons I've had lots of guys asking this like, you know, what can I do if I have kids? You gotta give your sons opportunities to lead And even if you're a grown man now you have to put yourself in positions Where you can take control and actually be in charge of situation that starts with yourself And maybe that eventually progresses into working with other people Make your own decisions. This is where goal setting short term like I'm playing all that comes into play If you're feeling uncertain with your life at when they within any given stage Start making it more sequential, you know apply some linear linearity to you know, your chaos Otherwise you're just going to be lost in your own spiral Someone I mentioned the sigma males. I had a guy message me that he's like, hey, what do you think of sigma male? Like you're a sigma male. Like I've I've I've I hadn't I didn't heard that like two days ago I guess solo male the tooling charge of his own life. I might be wrong with that one But um, I thought it was a good way of characterizing it so lead people services companies, you know Again leadership of people at the highest level One of the thing the character is always associated with being a king with leadership There's a certain level of status to it and you find this out if you're like Solo entrepreneur or it's an entrepreneur. You're somebody that works for yourself. You run your own business There's a certain level of status comes with that People will respect people where you are no longer subservient to another man But you are subservient to this essentially your own decisions your own mistakes Your own goals There's always respect that comes with that and there's a form of I would say positive status that comes with that as well Since most people are never gonna be in that place Um, and that's not necessarily a bad thing not everybody's meant to You know work for them yourself So moving on from there King warrior the big thing with this Um, probably the one thing if I reduce this presentation down to nothing lift weights guys Physicality, okay physicality physicality athletes. I can set a modern incarnation Violence There's an aspect of honor you honor your body because you develop it and in developing it you recreate how you were seen by others There's level of self-respect there um I want to say lifting weights when what happens is when you lift weights is all these lessons we talk about all whether deep work self-improvement progression You get to actively apply to something you can make something move You can press something forward you can pull something back the active metaphor of having weight over your chest and having to press it off you You know what it's like to have to bring out some internal aggression having weight on your back and having that literal pressure pushing down to the ground Are you going to stand up when you get knocked down? The same thing with going after what you want if you have a barbell in front of you on the floor And there's hundreds of pounds on it that either goes up or it doesn't go up Do you have it within you to go after what you want? Yes or no, it's right there. It's a big test I've worked with power lifters for a long time Guys will get crazy wild when they're in the gym. They're in tipping max effort lifts And sometimes people they look that it's like well, they really need to act that way. Well, maybe they're getting a little unhinged But what does that represent that represents their entire life that represents their whole life because You can make that stupid and simple sounding but in reality that's a man He has taken himself and he has applied himself to a literal numerical goal That's going to test every ounce of his mental physical neurological resolve right now Um, and you don't have to get that into it but on the level of Development. Yeah, we go lift some fucking weights. I'm not gonna expound on that any more than I need to So The characteristics of warrior probably the last one discipline so this applies to everything but the warrior What happens if you make a mistake? You're dead Uh, there's there's no do overs you don't get to there You don't respawn you don't get to turn off the console You don't get you don't get to we'll give you another try you don't get to get up again You're probably dead or you got someone else killed You got people killed and that's that's on you those deaths are your fault So you have to be disciplined in your actions. You have to you have to have that level of self-awareness and commitment to yourself Jaco Like I love Jaco, but I use the 430 thing that's not as a chrism of him as an example When I'm talking about these things guys, it's the internalization. It's not that you Find a person that's a king or a person that's a warrior a person that's a lover a person submission I'm going to copy that guy Take the quality and start living it out yourself And he's a very excellent same thing with Swift. They're very excellent examples of these very pure qualities ideals Use all the references. Um, yeah on the subject of lifting weights as I find myself going back to that again um, if you want to Be physically healthy fully developed. It's not since I know I know I'm going to ask this later and I know I'm not mad about it It's not do you do high reps? It's not do you do low reps? It's not get you do everything because that's what your body is capable of Strength endurance build submaximal endurance builds maximal endurance. So that means you lift high reps You'll be reps lift low reps and you do all the different angles of movement because that's how you get to develop physique It's not any one thing you break out of the diametric model where it's mutually exclusive So cultivating the word qualities continued like I said learn violence find a gym find a place you can train Be kind to people not to this be a simp and be sweet But be kind because empathy makes you appreciate the potential you have for paying your life It does is when you see people suffering in your eyes that could happen to you Or you suffer and you realize how much you can have your life taken apart it gives you a perspective on the it gives you a perspective on the How should I say on the fickleness of fate? You have to use that phrase Things can be going life can be going well things can be perfect and you can have everything taken from you in a day You can have a child die. You can have you find out your whole marriages will lie You can lose your business. You can get hit with a me too scandal. I read a terrible story a day a young gentleman who's 16 In his step sister accused him of a sexually abusing her for like four or five years He got sent to jail Like his parents left him there to teach him a lesson And then later on he kept denying it and then like three months into it His sister as it's like going through the core system finally breaks down says, you know what it's all a lie I've actually been having sex with my boyfriend And I felt really bad about I didn't want you to find out mom dad So I accused my step brother of raping me multiple times and his life's already rude Um Yeah, what's that testament to you're gonna well like I said you're gonna suffer as a man pain's gonna happen Be kind to people be kind to each other I don't know what all of you are going through but you're all probably going through something like we all have There's meeting there So magician So I put this Peter Thiel Elon musk those guys. I think are fairly well known Modern magician. What is it about magic? You get to create substance Out of vapor so to speak you're creating things that were not there before It's very easy to idolize guys who are Warriors playboys. It's very easy to idolize certain physical certain qualities that are very Apparent but men that make an impact on the world at large on a deep level level of subtext That's men who create It's not just men who leads men who create and that everyone's obviously not going to be at this level But like I say here magic is technology So there's a level of being a magician where I could said earlier your detail oriented your aspirational There's ingenuity. There's creativity to this 99 of the role was invented by men Everything you see in this room is built by men Someone had to think this up. They had to come up with these ideas Like the design of this glass there is work that went into this same thing all electronics Yet there are people that apply there's men that apply their mind power to these to these problems or to these possibilities And they made them they made them and that didn't exist before So there is truly substance. There's there's a substance. There's truly merit and value to be able to use your imagination And social media kind of takes that from us today And it's the the inundation of information we get where we are all the time drowned by all these sources of stimulus You have to be able to separate yourself from that and be able to sit and think and use your thoughts and You need to practice creativity You need to be able to imagine Yeah, that's that's why when you yeah, that's why that's why little boys refer on stories for those of you guys who have kids They like they like to have books right for them. They like to see films. Like why do they like these things? It's a story and they get to imagine and they get to play and they get to create Um And that's being lost unfortunately So cold to being machine qualities One of the first things with this and not to this is not about money But it's about you sort of understanding how the world works. You have to be financially independent for those of you guys who are younger I made this mistake when I was in my earlier 20s where I just ran up cracker debt didn't pay bills The inability to financially take care and support yourself shows that you don't understand Basically how the world works That you think that you can get something for doing nothing or you can think that you can continue surviving On the backs of others or you think that somehow you're always going to be taken care of and you'll get lucky Or you just don't understand that time is value where the work is value Be financially independent. Yeah, I like I said, I made that mistake when I was younger Changing my attitude towards money changed my attitude Not just to what I made but I realized it was the attitude I had towards time itself If you understand that your actions compound and everything you do as consequences and that you can create things That can surpass the hour in which they're made you can do some extraordinary things If you never get that if that that escapes you then you're always going to be a beast of burden And you will always be chasing the value of the hour with the dollar From there magician qualities paying attention. So this one When guys ask, especially the women The truth reveals itself if you see it clearly Men have this tendency to want to narrow things down to oftentimes linear or single details when we're first learning something Because it gives us an origin point You have to take account of the whole picture That you have to be holistic in what you see all these things all these qualities I'm talking about is run through these archetypes they all integrate together It's not any one thing that you are any one thing Is it like I said you have this within you and it is an aspect of yourself to develop And whether it leads or whether it's number two, you know, whether it's superior inferior. It's there It's not something that's unknown to you, but you're never going to see that in yourself unless like I said you you paint into it You have awareness of it adam and eve obviously You know being in the garden, but what was the apple the apple was knowledge The apple was a woman finally deciding that she knew what she wanted to eat for the first time in history and look what happened That's why I always pick the restaurant always, you know, where you make her you make her think it was her idea But you actually reach us But what happens when when they eat the apple? Well, they're where they're they're aware that they're naked. They're where they're in a place. What is it? Is it? Well, I'm gonna know it's there. It's awareness It's awareness now that life is finite. It's awareness that we see things now that we didn't see before Most many days often say they're very blind You're very blind to your own nature and that makes you blind to women So before you start addressing the femininity struggle that you have been broken by What is it that you can't see in yourself? What is it that you're trying to see in yourself? What do you perceive? Um, and then last thing learn actual magic, uh, so I did uh when I was in college I did like a few lessons and like how to do car tricks, which I forgot like I said Learning magic is not just for the sake of this. Oh, I mean this I didn't I didn't learn some sake of entertainment It was not to entertain to like oh, this is gonna be cruel. I'm gonna do this at bars and parties It was the fact that when I practice it with people I raise that people's literal Belief and literal understanding of the way the world worked you could manipulate it That could manipulate. We all can be manipulated Your sense of reality It's malleable and that magic makes that malleable media makes it malleable You see that all the time in media today. They can gas light and attach a narrative anything They can fabricate something that people will believe it So what you see is not fixed Neither about the world or about yourself Characters because of lover. It's my favorite quote from the counselor. Um Chromac McCarthy novel and later movie The truth about women is that you can treat them however you want As long as you don't bore them Women hate boring men. Why? Because they don't make women feel anything Why do women stay in abuses relationships you and we can go deep down that rabbit hole Well a guy who beats you and fucks you he makes you feel something And if you have to trade feeling something feeling nothing they'll take feeling something. Why do you children love abusive parents? Well, because my parents, yeah, maybe my maybe my my my dad or my mother Maybe they beat me. Maybe they whipped the shit out of me But you know what they said they love me too and I will trade those Good things that I felt for those bad things Women want to feel something their whole existence is selfish tree. It's based upon feeling as soon as you become boring You're disposable Means that means not worth much of them. That's why women love artists so much artists are literally just engines of feeling That's right. The rock star example yet Robert plant. How many women has he slept with in his life? And i'm not saying that's the ideal to follow truly How many women pray thousands At least he's up there on a stage and he's singing and everybody's emotions and all their All those neurological cycles are just firing on all the cylinders and he's making people feel something And women will chase after that because again, it's that felt experience Women needs complimentary complimentary to a man to be be nothing like a woman and you'll start to understand them Don't ever be like I'm I'm just rehashing things were even said um by men better than me but Relating to women doesn't make them want you nor like you. You always want to create contrast Goes back to feeling state Polarity provides experience Sameness is sameness is familiarity is comfort is contempt That's not the route you ever want to take So this is Roberto Bollet. I'm a ballet dancer. He's probably one of the best in the world People always ask me like why would you do ballet? That's not like that. You know, I always got absolutely Is that gay? Is that like a gay thing? I'm like Look at look at me and tell me what you think. I don't give a fuck I saw ballet when I was 16 and the women they were beautiful It was absolutely pure femininity ballet is based upon beauty is an idolized form of femininity. It is beauty. It is Beauty and that's all it is It's not about necessarily even the story it's not about well It's range of motions is that you can watch a woman at the absolute peak of femininity And she moves in this pure refinement and pure grace and ballet you are chasing a perfect ideal You will never reach it and every person that doesn't knows that I saw it for the first time and the girls were stunningly beautiful and the ratio was about 100 women to one heterosexual guy I'm like, I like my odds here I like my odds So I got into ballet and then the the funny thing is in ballet it's female-dominated The patriarch is just built into ballet because all the great choreographers are men And all the ballets that girls love to do they all want to be princesses They all want to play the role of damsel in the stress and every single ballet that you'll ever do where you're partnering It looks like this. So, you know, it's something to frame You know, you know, roll a body language Who's leading the situation Is it her or him? It's always like this. It's always like this and there's always that rapturous moment when she's literally in your arms And that's what women want It's the man that leads Artist lover, so I've been hanging on this Women love artists because they'll see aspects and parts of women that she herself cannot see and are unknown to her So there's this Female fantasy, so to speak the aside from a man, you know Blowing your mind sexually. He has all these things for you. What's what's the real meta subtext? He's expanding what you thought life was Pablo Nerudo was not an attractive man. He looks like a mexican grandfather He routinely he got hooked up with women that were 30 years his junior his entire life Why? He was an artist but what that that's attractive And whether you like his art or not It was highly appealing because in going and you know posing for a nude and sitting with him Somehow maybe he's going to teach me. Tell me something about myself that I didn't even know He's going to add on to my personality That that's compelling. Yeah, that's the one we talk about. You know, you want to talk about seduction? That's deeply seductive Yeah, but like again, if I fucking look at like he's overweight here She's probably like let's say she's where he's at least 70 in this picture This is one of the women that had an affair with him and she and her husband with him That doesn't logically make sense, but he's an artist Man makes sense so cultivating these qualities uh, some of these basic things that I have to say because jesus Outer world gentlemen financial success. Obviously, that's always compelling because it shows that you can take care of yourself Dress better. Thank you tanner. I'm insecure about my shoes now because of you wherever you are But no the shoes, but yeah, I've been cram busting people up on twitter lately with shoes What it makes you rise when you dress better? And I mean this sincerely because I always relied upon my looks to get women my whole life. I like I'm tall I got you know, I go like this Like walk in somewhere Um, obviously it worked but as soon as I started dressing better women noticed those details like, oh my god I really love your shoes. I really love. Oh, that shirt fits great. I like your whole outfit like wow I would start getting open. I got way more open to women with this approach me Um, more than they already did. I was like, wow that that that really works that really really works Dress better Just better be interesting Again, that goes back to feeling And then in our world your mental origin point one of the things to read castin of us biography He screwed up so many people's lives so many times. He never gave a shit He just kind of like it's like he'd go with his situation So at the time he tried to get the girl that he seduced married to somebody else He's like, I know I just slept with you for five weeks and I got bored with you But let's find you a husband so I can go screw another 18 year old and you know, uh, st. Petersburg because that's what I feel like doing mental origin point The outcome independence you have to not care how situation goes uh I don't die games. That's me. I dive into Typically, but yes since run subject When you are in a scenario with any kind of woman and she thinks that you want something from her and she gets the feeling Then she starts running it when women know that they're disposable to you And that you're simply enjoying the process of being with them. That's when they'll love you That that's how that goes. Um, again, that's the difference between alpha and beta and alpha has an abundance mindset towards women A beta is always in a place of supplication Um, he takes what he can gets if you can reverse and that's that's that's mental That's not physical guys too many guys have to get on the subject. Well, you're tall motherfucker. Shut the fuck up Okay, it's it's not about it's not about being tall It's not about how much money you make you could be dirt poor living in a fucking van Okay, you could be out of prison Okay, you could literally be out of jail and be sleeping at your mom's house And women will want to sleep with you if you have that mindset of abundance If you lead yourself in like I said You present yourself in that way or you are that way I should say Now the question I always post to people is she with you or are you with her? She should be with you Not the other one Life is a confidence game Confidence is confidence. You have to go back to believing yourself if you're going to be these qualities You have to live them out and you have to internalize them And then on the subject of humor or just could probably be a whole talk into itself Being humorous it's its observancy It means that you pay attention to things and that you understand people people that people that are Let's say autistic with other human beings where they lack understanding behavior They're typically not funny and if they are it's purely by accident When you can be humorous on purpose or you can crack jokes on purpose and you Show a lack of seriousness. You don't take yourself too seriously. You make fun of her. You make fun of yourself You make fun situation. Whatever the case may be What is it? It's perception It's perception. It's understanding of human nature. Yeah, that's why comedians despite oftentimes being gross guys They have groupies too. Why because they make again feeling and they make them laugh and also show somebody Why he made me see things and feel things and see the humor things I didn't see before Yeah, women on a certain level they're like children. They don't want life to be too serious So if you can take a scenario and create humor in it again, that's compelling. That's attractive So last slide and we'll go into questions Gospel of thomas is always my this is probably my favorite quote for us to say favorite quote If you bring out what is within you then what is within you will create you If you do not bring out what is within you then what is within you will destroy you meaning what Meaning you have these things in you you have leadership in you you have magic in you you have strength in you You have the capacity to be a learning compelling attraction you that has to come out of yourself That means you you take it you define that into your own story story and then you live that out. It's not It's not yours to borrow from somebody else. It's not me to give to you and say here's the prescription That's in you So that's going to be your journey of self exploration self discovery self development If you can do that and you can attach a vein of artistry to it since artistry is a quality of life That makes things unique then you'll be a man that you can be proud of You can be proud today. You can proud tomorrow you'll be able to die and you'll be able to say I did something with myself and who I became is somebody that if I had a son he could look up to He'll do that if you don't do that It will destroy you and I've seen it happen to men I've seen it I've seen it for everything that you are deficient for everything you fear for everything that you wish you were That you don't fulfill you will either hate it You'll try to destroy it in another man Which is way common with melon security Or you'll take that part of the world and you'll pretend it doesn't exist You'll want to declare that thing stupid and pointless and how could anyone be that way and I would never be that way And you'll be miserable for it So the projection of what is within you and what you leave lacking that Poisons a whole well of your whole existence rest of your life And if you've ever met anybody that's bitter You know what that looks like because bitterness is all pervasive. It takes over your soul So that's it Questions Hey there. Thanks. My name is greg. That's okay. I wanted to know On that's road of self-discovery What was the best Guidance that you found like what helped you find those things that are within you so you don't self-destruct That's a good question. Um So the terrain There are two things that I don't know if they've red-pilled me one. I had a mom who was honestly a very red-pilled woman um The whole whole my whole childhood growing up. I never had any illusions about women that way I remember being like in middle school like let me was old. I'm like, I like this girl mom She's like, oh, okay. That's cool. I'm like and I somehow I probably went on on about her Am I she's really pretty but she's like honey. She shits and pisses and farts like everybody else women aren't special like So I'm mother telling me that like shit. Okay. I'm like I kind of knocked off the Pedestal that way for many. Um, but the the seminal turning point So I was uh, it was 19. I was in jail for two months in camp maguire kind correctional facility I was arrested for grand theft, which I did willfully and I totally stole shit. You know, I didn't feel bad about it because I didn't Um, I'm not gonna lie about that. I felt bad about the effects and consequences afterwards But I didn't feel bad doing it. It was fun Um, but I'm in jail and I'm sitting there. I'm in a cell and I'm in a cell block with Like a little other guys there's 12 of us and there's this there's varying degrees of um You know convicts and incarcerations and some guys have been in and out there for 30 years their whole life Some guys they had their sons in there at the same time Uh in that that showed me that everything that you believe in and do has a consequence So I rise I I had a path before myself I could go the route of who I was at that state And that probably was not going to go somewhere that was going to be good Or I could change one of them what is within myself But in changing yourself you have to believe these things already in you I don't believe in the idea that you can take an external equality and then okay, I'm gonna now I'm gonna adopt it There's no adoption. It's either in you or it's not You know, and there's a level of zealous Unwavering self-belief of faith you have to adopt with that You have faith that you can do this because it is who you are or it's not So which one will it be that that was a turning point But I can't assign that to anybody's like go Get yourself arrested and incarcerated since that's not good, but Obviously they hopefully there's something that in every man's life where you you see those two pathways before you Answer either this one or that one. That's it's a pivot point decision. What will you become? Okay, did I answer the question? Okay, cool. I tend to go in tangent. So if I don't answer the question This reminder with the question was Yeah, quick question. Um, you kind of touched on it in your talk about strength training like progressive overload versus high rep pump training Um, I just found out that I have low T. So that's why I've been having a tough time losing weight But would you recommend like focusing on because I can lift like pretty heavy like I've made some good PRs so Should I focus on like burning fat first and then good get back to the strength or do both and just do a slow Bloody body recomper that can actually be done simultaneously. So if I was to give you a program right now your spring everybody Do one rep do I'm sorry do one lift for maximal strength Do two movements for moderate reps. Do two movements for high reps That gives you a very complete workout. It will be challenging. Um, but the higher petition metabolic stuff It's not just the oh, it's endurance. It changes how your body processes sugar So it changes your usage of glucose and fruits and sensitivity Um, it also has positive effects on growth hormone as well. That's a big positive effect And also overall this strength training that way gives you that complete Sort of holistic stimulus where if you're going to get any kind of software and boost from training It will it will be from that way Um, and you know the thing is too, it's of trt. We can talk about this another time or testosterone Trying to elevate If you're hypoquinadol and you're trying to do these natural things that's not going up That's when replacement therapy would come an option. Oh, yeah But journey speaking for guys that are young and decent health from good genetic stock You can usually elevate your testosterone pretty good. Um through natural means if you can't then Yeah, that's where you start having to research that route Which if you want to talk about later, we totally can so do all those in one workout or like break them up And it's yeah, so if I bench uh, so pressing work out So you're going to train chest shoulders to be an example Incline bench press for five by five CD dumbbell press for four sets of eight Low incline dumbbell press for four sets of eight Dips three sets to failure push-ups three sets to failure. Okay. Okay. Thank you. No problem Okay, yeah, sorry, um So you mentioned earlier About like the whole idea of like, you know women love a bad boy stuff like that Yeah, and then later on you're kind of mentioned about, you know be kind Um, can you talk to a little bit about like how those two go hand in hand and how you can kind of get a balance of those things Well, so here's the thing what's the bad boy stereotype this guy like I've said before I he leads himself Um, you know oftentimes it's a rebel persona When you talk about being a bad boy in the context of a relationship Women are usually aren't relate aren't in a relationship with bad boys truly He's in a relationship with them and they usually know it Um, I mean, I've had I haven't I haven't always treated women like me myself at times, but I got what I wanted from them Um, there is some a certain level awareness. We're like, okay, this isn't gonna last But I'm going to enjoy it for the time that the racing that it does Uh, you know in a certain sensibility Yeah, what else is appealing It's a fact that a guy if if he's a big jerk to everybody else and you know Or maybe he's a guy where he like women will know like oh, he fucks everything, but wow, he's showing interest in me Then the fact that he's still seeing other women or the fact that you know, he's a shitty boyfriend They're fine with it because again, there's always that There's always that desire, you know within sort of that, you know, both the hind brain and the million brain Maybe I can tame the beast Um, you know, does that mean that you treat a girl like shit? No, I'm not saying to do that um, but there's a certain, you know There's a fine line that men will find out Unfortunately when they go from being like you know role talks about the external alpha That has all the qualities but he gets into a relationship and he turns into a bitch And all the things that the woman was drawn to in him now that he's with her and he's committed Well, now he's just he's he's gone from beta. He's gone from alpha to beta So you're maintaining that kind of mindset Yeah, I mean if that's the question that you have to have a sense of your own masculinity, honestly Um, yeah, and a guy that does this naturally, he doesn't really think about this He just you know, she's with me so you're going for the ride. Cool Um, it's the struggle where you're trying to take it from Consciousness to instinct where you know, that's where the the friction lies Thanks. No problem In your experience Can a woman become jealous of a man over the course of a relationship? And how do you delineate her jealousy? From her crave of your attention Can't you become this jealous of the man in like what sense this jealous Uh Let's say you're dating your alpha equivalent as a female but you may have your hands in career passions hobbies and she says that you know, I feel like I should be doing more and then you notice that she starts to give you Uh backlash for pursuing your your passions So with that so with typically with women, there's always going to be an insecurity level Women like obviously you know, pardon me. They're going to try to date up If you start being too up for them that insecurity will pop up pretty readily So, yeah If it's I mean to use like a numerical example if a girl if you let's say The girl's an eight and you're an eight and then you go from eight to nine And then you go from nine to ten, but she's still an eight Is she going to still be able to keep your maintain your interest and hold on to you? Um, and at the same time too as well There's always going to be that female drive where she wants you to subsume Your passion and your mission into being about her Even if it sabotages the dynamic then she's no longer attracted to you when you do That still is going to be there the more attention you give women the more they're going to expect So the jealousy factor it could be that maybe you're ascending and she feels like she's static That could be a fact or two as well. It could be or maybe it's not even there I mean, this is very like so this is very case-by-case Maybe it's a factor where she has very much been ingrained with why lury d like the blue pill people mentality Where she's the chick trying to have it all and she feels like she's in competition with you Maybe she feels that way where she has to compete with her man And then that's creating the the tensions and the issues of the relationship So, I mean, I know that's not really I can answer but I mean that could be multiple things It could be all those things wrapped up at once, right? It's going to be very case-by-case Sounds good. Thanks. No problem That's all the time we have guys to give it up for alexander cortez