 Why narcissists discard you at the worst times. The narcissist will leave you at the worst possible times. They will leave you when you need them the most and this can be very shocking to you. It can be unexpected and leave you in a position where you are unsure of what you should do. The narcissist only got involved with you to get something out of you. It was never about sharing anything with you. They saw you as an object that existed to meet their needs. They were only with you because of what you gave to them or how you made them feel. But there was never any real connection where they actually cared about you. Narcissists are self-absorbed and lack empathy. They are constantly in survival mode. They are only focused on their own survival, even if it is at the expense of your happiness or safety. The narcissist will discard you at the worst times because they are only thinking about themselves. They are only thinking about their own needs regardless of how it may affect you. They're not thinking about the consequences of their actions. They're just trying to survive emotionally. Whatever the narcissist targeted you for is what will be drained out of you. They came into your life to use your time, attention, energy and money. It's only a matter of time until you find that you don't have anything left to give to them, until you find that you don't have anything left for yourself. Maybe you can no longer provide them with the extravagant lifestyle that they had become accustomed to. Maybe you're too tired to keep attending to them in the way that you used to because they will use up everything that you've got. That's why they targeted you to use you and they will use you until you've got nothing left. The problem is that once they've used up everything that you've got to offer and you've got no energy or money left for yourself, they are not going to stick around to help you rebuild. They're going to see it as though you're just struggling to meet their demands. They're not going to see it as though they've just used you up. They're just going to see it as though you're lazy or you're just no good because they lack empathy. They lack the capacity to share your experience or consider what you might be going through. Narcissists are constantly in survival mode. They're only focused on their own needs. So rather than helping you to get back to where you were before they met you, they're just going to leave and find someone else who they haven't used up yet. Someone who has a fresh supply of energy, someone who has plenty of money and they're going to leave you alone with nothing. It's like they just hopped in the car with a full tank of fuel. drove it around everywhere until it went empty and now they're blaming the car for breaking down. Rather than filling up the car with the fuel it needs, they're just going to get a new car because that's all you are to them. You're just an object that exists to meet their needs. The narcissists will take up all of your time until you have no time for yourself. You will either be spending every second of your day around them or they'll be constantly calling and texting you because they need constant attention and admiration. They cannot be left alone to their own thoughts and because you're spending all of your time and attention focusing on the narcissist you end up neglecting yourself. You're so focused on their feelings and needs that you forget about your own. You forget about your own feelings about the situation. You forget about your own needs until one day you look into the mirror and you don't even recognize the person you've become. You look and feel so tired. You lack the motivation to accomplish certain task or functions. You no longer have the desire to work or exercise. You just feel like giving up on life. You feel like your purpose in life. It's just to give everything you have to this person who doesn't even appreciate you. You feel like you're just supposed to give up everything. To be there nothing. Your health deteriorates and you sink into this realm of darkness where you've become anxious and depressed. You've lost that zest for life, that enthusiasm and energy which you used to possess. But now you've given it all to the narcissist and it gets to a point where you know you have to take a step back. You know you have to stop giving them all of your time and attention. All of your energy and money. You realize that you have to reserve some for yourself and the moment that you begin to do that that is when you become a problem. That is when you might be called ignorant or selfish because the last thing the narcissist wants you to do is focus on yourself. They want all of your time and attention to be on them. They want to be able to use all of your energy and money because that's why they targeted you. They targeted you to use you. They didn't get involved with you just so they could sit back and watch you enjoy yourself. They were only so focused on you because they saw something that they want. Narcissists are only looking for what they want. They are only looking for what they can take from you. And once they've used up all you've got they're out of there. They're not going to stick around to help you rebuild. Narcissists do not build, they destroy. And a narcissist is not going to break something down just so they can build it back up again. If they had that kind of mentality they wouldn't have broken down in the first place. They would have taken special care of it and given it what it needs but they didn't do that because they never really cared about you. That's why it was so easy for them to leave you when you needed them the most and it may seem like they've moved on and they're so happy with someone else but it's just an illusion. It's designed to hurt you because that's another way for them to get someone out of you. When a person engages in negative behaviour they are taking something away from you. They cannot be positive because they have nothing to give and they will never be happy with someone else because they can't even see us as real people. They see people as objects that exist to meet their needs. They don't care about anyone all they care about is what you give to them or how you make them feel and once they've used up everything that the new source has to offer they'll be done with them too. The cycle just repeats itself when you need them the most they just leave because they have nothing to invest. They have nothing to give to you that might bring you back to life. They take life because they have none on their own and when you have nothing left to give to them they'll leave you for dead because they only care about themselves they exist in a world with a population of one and everyone else is just visiting. Thank you for watching I hope this video has a new review please like, comment, share and subscribe click the bell icon to receive notifications for my future videos check out the new Knox Fiverr website at www.narksurviver.co.uk where you can read my blog posts, book coaching sessions and join our support forum. If you would like to donate my PayPal link is in the video description coaching inquiries you can email me at coachingatnarksurviver.co.uk thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.