 Hello family, welcome to another Narc Survival Live video and in this one we're going to be talking about what narcissists think of you when you finally leave. They see you as their possession, you're this thing that belongs to them, an object that exists to meet their needs. Yes, that is how they see you, that is what they think of you. They don't even see you as a real separate human being, they just see you as a tool. It's something that they can manipulate into being or giving what they want. Which as we know is narcissistic supply and they see it as though they own you. In their minds you are their possession and they are very envious and jealous of you and they especially get very envious and jealous when you take this possession away from them and by possession I mean you. Yes, when you take yourself away from the narcissist, they look at it like you're a thief, you're robbing them, you're stealing their supply away from them. Something that is rightfully theirs, which will really irritate them because of their arrogance and the sense of entitlement, they're really not going to like it when you do that. It will cause a narcissistic injury, they will feel rejected, they will see it as an attack and they're going to do anything they can to get you back. They may try to love bomb you if they think that that's going to work, if they believe that you are still susceptible to their manipulation, if they believe that then yes they will try to hoover you, but if they believe that you're not going to fall for it anymore, if you've already confronted them and you've made it very clear you're not happy with them and you're not going to give them another chance, then at that point they see it as though they've got no choice. It will cause a narcissistic injury and that will be followed by narcissistic rage which may be passive aggressive or it may be overt and at that point they are going to do everything in their power to take you down, to punish you for leaving them and for showing them everything that you thought was wrong with them because they do not want to be seen as bad or wrong, they do not accept any criticisms or any blame. So they're going to try to prevent you from moving on because that's the last thing they want to see is you going off being happy whether it's by yourself or with someone else. They look at it like you're taking away or rather you're going off with everything that you are and everything that you have and you may see it as though you're a separate person, they're looking at it like this is my possession, this is my pet, my slave, this belongs to me, this valuable thing. You're going off with your health, your energy, your optimism, your confidence, your belief in yourself, your money, your resources, your qualities, you're taking all of these things and you're going off on your own and they just feel robbed because they're not looking at it like you're a separate human being with your own wants and needs, they're not looking at it like that. They view you as their possession, an object, a tool, an appliance, this thing that belongs to them, to where when they say jump, they expect you to say how high, they don't expect you to say no or for you to have your own agenda, your own intentions or objectives, that's not part of their plan, that doesn't align with what they want and they expect you to be tied and attached to them, not having your own thoughts and interpretations of what you are planning to do, that's not a part of their agenda, they expect you to exist to serve them, remember they're self-absorbed, they lack empathy, you're just an extension of them, you're meant to exist for them, not for yourself. That's why when you do try to move on, they're going to do everything in their power to prevent you from doing that, they will triangulate you with someone to try to make you jealous, to try to pull you back, they may try to make you think that they've changed, that they're better, that you're going to be better off with them, it's just more lies and future faking, well if you don't believe any of that, they will stalk and harass you, they will try to get you fired from your job, they will smear your name, they will place financial hooks in you, they will try to attack you in every possible way that they can, they will try to wear you out, break you down, just anything to prevent you moving on as your independent self and starting a new life without them. Despite everything that they were doing to you, all of the abuse, they're not even thinking about that, they're just thinking about what are you going to do next, how are you going to serve them? They don't see any reason why you should get to be who you want to be or why you should get to move on with everything that you are, it doesn't matter how hard you worked to become the person that you are or to achieve the things that you've achieved, it doesn't matter if you worked your entire life, they look at it like you belong to them. So everything that you are, everything that you have, that belongs to them as well, that's rightfully theirs. There's no separation between you and them. There's no boundary where it's like, okay, this is where I end and this is where you begin and there's a distinct line there that I cannot cross. Narcissists do not think that way. They have no identity, no sense of self, so they can just take anything you've got, whether it's you as an actual person or something that you possess, whether it's a quality, a resource. In their minds, they could just take it because they're chameleons, they're shape-shifters, there's no separate identity of their own, so they can just mix and match. They can do whatever they want to you and then in another moment, they can be another character and be good to someone else because there's no boundaries, there's no separation, there's nothing that really distinguishes them as a separate individual themselves and as we're then so without, so they don't see you in that way as well. In their minds, they can just mold you into whatever they want you to be, into whatever suits their agenda, into whatever works for them because they can do that with themselves, so why can't they do that with you? That's how they look at it. They don't see any reason why they can't do that and this is why it's exactly how they will treat you. They will treat you in that exact way and it's a horrible experience to go through. We have to consider that murderers and rapists, they're narcissists as well and they have this exact same mentality. A murderer, a rapist, they're the type of people who they can murder or rape someone, they could do something so horrific like that and then the next day, they can just go on about their lives like they never did anything and they could appear like the nicest person in the world to everyone else other than their victim that they murdered or raped and we hear about this all the time. Murderers and rapists, they have families, these people could be someone's mother, someone's father, brother or sister, uncle or auntie, even their own child or maybe their co-worker, their neighbor, it could be someone close to you who ends up being a murderer or a rapist. And then to you and everyone else, they're acting like the nicest person in the world and you would never suspect it because murderers and rapists, they're narcissists too. They have no sense of self, they have no identity, they're chameleons, they're shape-shifters, they can chain from one moment to the next, they can do something so horrific in one moment and in the next, they're the nicest, most friendliest person in the world to everyone else and another thing with narcissists and yes, murderers and rapists, they're narcissists as well. Another thing with them is how they view people as possessions, as objects that exist for them, tools, not separate people with lives of their own so they can just come into your life and do whatever they want to you, they can rob you of your money, they can rob you of your energy, if they're a rapist, they might rob you of your innocence, your purity and if they're a murderer, they might rob you of your life. There's no difference between them. There's no difference at all, the only difference is the behavior and I know many of you. Some of the things that you've experienced, you may feel like I might as well have been raped physically, I might as well have been murdered, I might as well have taken my life because that's pretty much what they did, the only difference is that I'm still alive and that's the thing, because this is when their behavior gets the most extreme, it's when you finally leave and that is, in some cases, when they do not only become stalkers, but they may even become rapists or murderers. As I said, the narcissist, not all of them, but some of them, they may be the type to, even though you've left, you've moved on, you want nothing to do with them, after all of the abuse, they're the type of person who may be if they still have the key to your home. They'll come into your room in the middle of the night, and they'll rape you, they'll pin you down, they'll put their hand over your mouth so that you can't scream so that no one can hear you and they will use you just as they see you as their possession, as an object, and they will rape you, or it may have caused such a huge narcissistic injury and they don't like it the way you're showing them that you're not an extension and it's destroying their false self and their false reality, the illusion, so they may just hunt you down and just take your life in some cases. And as I said, yes, murderers and rapists, they're narcissists as well, but yeah, I'm sure some of you, the things that they've done to you, it's like, you might as well have raped me, you might as well have murdered me. I mean, they've done everything else, maybe they've done worse, because yes, I'm sure. I mean, I can't really deny that years of harassment and abuse, cheating, lying, stealing, who's to argue that's not worse. These are all horrific things to do to someone. When you leave, you need to be very careful because they're not looking at everything they've done to you. I mean, I've had situations where it's like I've been attacked by narcissists for years, they pushed me over the edge and they just pushed and provoked me to the point where I finally snapped, just for a moment. And then despite everything that I went through all of those years, then suddenly they pull up their phone, they record me, and then they got me in trouble. Then they made me look guilty. And not only that, but it made me blame myself in that moment. Of course, now I look back, I can see. I was tricked. But then that's the thing with many narcissists is that they're really that self-absorbed to where they're not looking at anything they're doing to you. They can abuse you for years, and you snap, you react just one time and they're pointing the finger at you. They're not even thinking about everything they did before that. Yes, some of them really have, really just completely lack self-awareness that much. And I'm sure many of you have experienced things like that. They live in a distorted reality. It's not even real. A reality where they are blameless and faultless, where there's nothing wrong with them, where they can do whatever they want and they shouldn't be held accountable for it, or where they just didn't even do anything. And they'll gas like you, they'll blame you. They'll lie to everyone. And the entire time it's them. And yet they're blaming you and they'll start a smear campaign against you and make everyone believe that it's your fault. Or the reality may be that everyone else, they're just as crazy as the narcissist, just as delusional. So of course they'll go along with it. Maybe they're mentally ill as well because think about it, only a mentally ill person would gravitate towards something like that, abusing and harassing someone. I mean, just think about that for a moment. Who does that? What kind of a person would do that? Even if you do believe that someone did something wrong, are you really going to harass them like that? But this is what an narcissist will do. And it's especially damaging. If you're going through a divorce, of course they're going to file for alimony. If you have a child, of course, they're going to file for child support. Of course they're going to milk you for everything you've got, even if you were taking care of them the entire time and they never lifted a finger. Of course they're still going to do that. They're self-absorbed and they lack empathy. They're not even really there. They're just like robots on a mission, constantly in survival mode, just doing everything they can for themselves. Not ever thinking about anyone else. They're really menaces to deal with. They're an absolute nightmare. They're the type of people where, once you get involved with them and they do things to you, they will make you wish that you never met them. You may have remained hopeful until the end. You may have tried to see them in a good light, but they will do everything in their power to show you when you made a big mistake, to show you why they are the worst people imaginable. They are as bad as it gets. No matter how much you try to believe in them, they will always make that clear to you in the end. And really when you look back, it's like this person is like the definition of evil. There's like not even a villain in an action movie or a monster in a horror movie who even comes close to this narcissist. It's like if someone could write a book of, and with like some evil character, and the author wanted to describe the most evil possible character in the world of all time, who does the most horrific things imaginable. And this character has these certain characteristics, these certain traits, these certain behaviors. It's like straight away, that's the narcissist. That's exactly who they are. Like if we went to the brainstorm together, let's just act like we didn't know anything about a narcissist right now. And together we just imagined a character. What was the most evil, horrific things imaginable? Let's just write it down. What's the worst things you can do to someone? I mean, cheating, lying, blaming them for things they're not even guilty for? Projection, denial, gaslighting, the double bind, devaluation, psychological torture, triangulation, discards, stalking, smear campaigns. It's really like one of those things where it's like, it's the most evil things imaginable. Without them like grabbing a knife and stabbing you 100 times. Although, yes, someone else says do take it to that extreme, but now these days they're becoming more efficient at hiding it, at creating a code of silence to where it's like they stab you a million times, but they do it psychologically. So that there's no evidence because that's really what they're doing to you. These people are murderers. They murder you, they try to erase you. And I honestly believe if they thought they could get away with it, they would probably kill you. That's so much hatred they have in their hearts. And the envy, the resentment. Well, you know what? You know what I think they would do? Because they're really that evil. They wouldn't just murder you because that wouldn't be satisfying enough for them. They'd probably do something where it's like they'd lock you up in some room in that house, in the basement maybe. They'd have you tied to a chair. And they'd give you just enough food just to keep you alive from day to day. Just enough water so that you don't die because they want to keep you alive. And yeah, they tie you to a chair. Probably tip your eyelids open so that you can't close your eyes. They probably brainwash you in a screen with old pictures and videos of when you were together, making you believe that it's real. Meanwhile, they've got a knife and they're just slicing off a little part of your body a bit at a time. A little bit of your finger here. A little bit of your wrist, of your arm. Slice a little bit of your face. Weeks, months, years go by. They've sliced chunk after chunk out of your body. Meanwhile, you're being brainwashed on this screen. These pictures and videos of the love bombing until they're finally ready to finish you off and kill you. And if they had the ability to, if it was possible, they would resurrect you. They would bring you back from the dead just so they could do it all over again until the day they die. Am I right or not? Would the narcissist not do that? If they could, if it was possible, if they believed that they could get away with it, or if no one would find out, of course they would do that. That's exactly what they've been doing to you all of these months or years psychologically and not even feeling bad about it. So why wouldn't they do that? This is to wake you up and make you realize what you're dealing with. And some of you are thinking that the narcissist can change, that they can be better. You really think there's any hope for someone like that? Of course not. They are very sick, evil, twisted people. They will do whatever it takes to destroy you in the most hurtful way imaginable. And then they'll come back just to give you a little bit of hope. That's only so they can do it again. They will put you in a pedestal just so you're that much further away from the ground. When they knock you off, that's the type of person they are. And as I said, murderers and rapists, it's the same personality. They're narcissists as well. Keep that in mind. And maybe the only reason why they don't murder or rape you, it's not because they're nice people or because they have empathy. It's not because that doesn't do it for them. I'm sure it would. The only reason they don't do it is because of their false image. They're worried they won't get away with it. I could say that they're worried about what people might think of them. But I can't even say that for the narcissist because even then, they're only worried about what people think of them because of the image it reflects back to themselves. They're that self-absorbed. People are just mirrors. We're mirrors, we're objects, we're tools. This is what you're dealing with. So what do you think they think of you when you finally leave? Of course, they can't stand you. They just want to kill you, destroy you. Never mind that you invested everything you had into the relationship. You did everything you possibly could to make them happy. It was never good enough. And they did nothing for you in turn other than abuse you, manipulate you, lie to you, future fake gaslight, just trying to destroy you completely. Despite all of that, when you finally leave, they're just looking at it like you've still got the strength to get back on your feet and move on. That means you didn't give it enough to me. And then it just resurfces that bitterness and then they really just want to take you down once and for all. They're looking at it like if you're going to move on, you're going to move on with nothing and no one. You're going to move on in a state where you're not going to be good for anyone else, where you're going to be so broken down that you can't even think clearly, but you don't even know which way is up or down, left or right, but you're so scared and broken that you're terrified of your own shadow. And you guys believe it or not, that is a thing. I remember a psychologist Richard Granan from Liverpool, he spoke about it in a video. He had one client before who was involved with a narcissist for so many years by the end of it. She was quite literally afraid of her own shadow. That's what these people will do to you. They are the worst of the worst, the lowest of the low. They are crazy. They belong in a mental institution. That's where they belong because they're, that's f'ed up. They really are. Like I said, the only reason they don't kill you when some cases rape you, when you're trying to leave, the only reason they don't do that is because they worry, they might get caught, they might get in trouble and they don't want to get in trouble. They don't want that for you. They're gonna blame and accuse you. They might make up something and say you tried to do something to them just so they can get you locked up and get you a criminal record so that it destroys your reputation and then you can't get a job. You can't provide for yourself. You can't be independent. And maybe they might do that so then you're stuck with them. You're dependent on them. They're willing to control you. They're extremely dangerous people. They're really no different to the people you see on the news. The murderer is the rapist. It's the same personality. I know sometimes they do videos and we laugh and joke about things. Even regarding arsicis. And you know laughter is the best medicine. It really is. And it can be healing. Those can be quite dark like this one. But this is really what it is. How I'm describing arsicis in this video, this is exactly how it is. And I know it sounds dark, but this is real. This is the type of personality we're talking about. This is what's going on in their brain. And the only thing that will really stop them is that fear of getting caught. And sometimes even that doesn't stop them because they're so impulsive. And then afterwards they just think the gas like you, blame you, accuse you, call the police on you even though you did nothing wrong. Or it may be reactive abuse and they'll get you in trouble for that. Or they'll smear your name, spread this false narrative about you. Just to make sure that they have this perfect clean image. Meanwhile, they are extremely dangerous. Destructive people. And in all honesty this is what makes them even worse than what you might find in a mental institution or even a prison. This is what makes them even worse than that. Because these people are, they are kind of clever enough so that they don't end up there. So that they can move on without any accountability. And of course if they can get away with it, they're going to do it again to someone else. So they're worse. They're even more dangerous than what you might find in a mental institution or a prison. They're really that bad. So messing with one is a really bad idea. And when you do leave you need to be very careful. Because you never know what they might do. You may think you know them but they will do something you've never seen before. And I'm talking about this from my own personal experience. It's like when I was with them I thought I knew them. I thought okay yeah, you know they can be a bit messed up. They've done a lot of hurtful things to me. But this one maybe they are a bit self-righteous. They wouldn't do that. They wouldn't go that far. And then you give it a bit of time and that's exactly what they do. That's exactly what they do. So never put it past them. You never know what they might do. Be very careful. I'm not telling you not to leave. But what I would advise is to speak to a therapist or coach. You can even book a session with me by going to narcsurvivor.co.uk or there's also BetterHelp which is a service that I trust and I have used in the past. You can go to betterhelp.com slash narcsurvivor for that. To book a session with a licensed therapist. Yeah speak to a therapist or coach and tell them about your individual situation before you go no contact, before you leave because it may save you a lot of trouble. I know there's a lot of coaches on YouTube who are saying yes the best thing you can do you've got to leave, you've got to go no contact straight away I can sometimes be a very big mistake. Dependent on your situation, dependent on who you're dealing with and again I'm not telling you not to do that I'm just saying speak to a therapist or coach first. Remember you're dealing with a very dangerous person. Narcissists are dangerous, they're self-absorbed and they lack empathy. That means they don't feel what you feel, they don't feel your pain which means they could do anything to you and not even care and sometimes you just got to look back at their past at the things that they've done to people before to realise just how dangerous they are to realise what they're capable of they will play it out as though yes I did that to them because they did this to me because they were bad, they were crazy as an example maybe they cheated on someone to get with you you could have worked it out and realised that if they did something to get with you if they did something to someone else before you who's to say that they won't do that to you or that they won't cheat on you to get with someone else because that's typically how it goes it's like if you have a friend and when this friend is with you they're always gossiping about people they're always talking about them behind their back telling you all of their personal business I mean at some point you've got to think what is this friend doing when they're with other people when they're away from you I mean of course they're probably gossiping about you they're probably talking about you behind your back and spreading your personal business because they can tell you things about someone else so why can't they do that to you because they've already shown that they're capable of it and this is what we need to identify in people because someone with a strong character who has morals and good conduct they're not going to do that with anyone it doesn't matter if it's you or someone else they're going to be like no I don't gossip, I don't spread rumours I don't talk about anyone behind their back and somewhere like that you know you've got a good friend if they don't do that to anyone or for anyone like if you're going to this friend and it's like you're asking them private things about someone else who they know and they're like no I can't reveal that information they may not want you to know you may feel like that's not a real friend if they're not telling you what you want to know but actually that means that you can trust them that means they're very loyal it reveals good character and that's typically the way that I am as well I mean of course I've I can't speak too much about it but I've had clients in the past who would ask me personal information about someone about people who we mutually know people who also create content and although yes I did have a certain information I had to say no I can't reveal that information to you just as when I'm working with a client I'm not going to reveal that information to anyone no one's going to know their personal information I don't do that I set boundaries there's a very clear distinction between myself and other people unlike with an narcissist where it's like we're all just extensions there's no separate individual and it's like you don't know what's yours and what's theirs you don't know where you end and they begin that's because they have no identity and they have a weak sense of self that's how they're able to have this sense of entitlement they can view you as a possession, as an object, a tool an appliance, an extension of them that comes from a weak sense of self and why do they have a weak sense of self and no identity of their own no individual characteristics that distinguish them from other people the reason why is because they have no inner sense of value and you will know that from dealing with them all they ever did was rob you of your time energy maybe your qualities, your money and resources and anything else they could get their hands on because there's no boundaries, no separation there's no line between where you end and they begin or where they end and you begin everything's just enmeshed because they have no individual identity of their own they have no sense of self and again that's what makes them so dangerous that's why they're like chameleons, shape-shifters and at one moment they could be the nicest most friendliest person in the world and in the next they can do the most horrific things that's why you can never trust them because you never know what they're going to do next especially when you leave them very unpredictable, which makes them very dangerous they destroy people's lives and many of you may think that it's just you you may not know what they've done in their past because the odds are you're not the first they've destroyed people's lives before you they've driven other people insane they've got another people locked up put into a mental institution made them homeless they've done that to other people as well they've ruined other people's lives and you may not even know about it because they don't even care they can just move on, create a new character somewhere else they're chameleons, they're shape-shifters they're crazy they're completely insane they're sick twisted people and they are very dangerous just being around them you are putting yourself in harm's way all they do is destroy if you're around them long enough, they will destroy you because that's really it once they see you they want to own you they want you to answer to them to be their little puppet and their puppet master they're pulling the strings they want complete control over you and your life they want to own you like their little toy, their little possession and at the same time they don't want any accountability at all because they use these false characters when they're playing their little games when they're doing these things to you they give you one false character in the beginning to manipulate you then another one when they're harming you and then they've got another one where they've discarded you and they're off with someone else, no accountability they don't stand for anything they have no values, morals, beliefs or principles they can change from one moment to the next and you should know that already you should have seen already that they are capable of doing that and not even feeling bad about it not even feeling like they need to correct it extremely dangerous people I see we've got 152 live viewers and only 48 thumbs ups it will take you just two seconds to hit that thumbs up button down below it supports the YouTube algorithm and it helps to get this message out there to other survivors as well so please do that if you can they appreciate the support but yeah be very careful around them as soon as they set their eyes on you it's like they already have these plans and they're just thinking about how they're going to rob you of everything that you are everything that you have not all of them will actually go as far as to murder you I mean that is typically quite uncommon but they will murder you psychologically yes they do have a murderous mentality a rapist mentality and also a child molester's mentality as well they groom you they prepare and train you for a purpose for their own agenda regardless of what you want for yourself and your life they don't care about that rapists, murderers and child molesters are all narcissists and that's why if you study murderers, rapists and child molesters you can just watch the videos on YouTube on YouTube about real criminals and their personality, their mindset you will see that it's exactly the same it's the exact same thing as what they've been doing to you maybe you're not a child so they haven't been physically or sexually molesting you maybe they haven't physically raped you or murdered you but just study the mindset, the personality you will see that they've groomed you they've molested you, raped you murdered you psychologically and perhaps the only reason why it didn't become physical and they didn't actually sexually molest and rape you or take your life perhaps the only reason why they didn't do that is because they feared the consequences they feared being exposed that may be the only reason why in many situations it may be the only reason why those of you who are still under the illusion that they may be good people they may be able to change you need to wake up that person you're dealing with it doesn't matter maybe they have a business they may be a CEO they may be quite physically attractive you're dealing with a monster that's really what you're dealing with that's why you need to be very careful if you decide to leave them be very careful they may try to take your life and I don't mean they might physically murder you because remember they have a fear of being exposed they're very protective of their image they don't want to deal with the consequences they don't want to go to jail that may be the only reason why they don't physically murder you and instead they will take your life in every other way possible they will destroy your self image your identity they will completely change everything about you and your life they will rob your reputation get you fired from your job target you financially destroy your business that's essentially murder they've robbed you of your life they've robbed your identity your self image the murderers it's the same personality same mindset, same mentality the only thing is that they're cowards they're pussies they have a fear of being caught a fear of the consequences that's the only difference between them at least with a murderer they've actually got the balls to go out and do what they want to do and I'm not justifying murder but that's the difference they're the worst of the worst but not only that they're also the lowest of the low that's what we're dealing with that's what they are quite a dark video today I know it's just something to wake you up when you see the false self you get manipulated and you start to think maybe they can be a good person this is what they really are underneath the mask they're really dangerous people and those of you who feel like you're slipping back into the illusion you may need to watch this again drill it into your mind until you begin 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