 You know, one of the big things I've had to learn about people is you can let people be who they are, not try to make them who I want them to be. Accepting people for who they are rather than trying to do more in their direction to push them towards who you'd rather they be doesn't make them become that version. When you do more for people who are doing less for you they still don't do more for you in response to your efforts towards them if they're not doing already freely. Let people be who they are rather than who you want them to be. It's been a life saver for me. Hope that helps.