 welcome everyone to another live video just doing a long drive over four hours and I thought it'd be a good time to do a video as well as you can see I've got my microphone so hopefully the sound should be clear I know I did one video over a month ago I think and the sound wasn't so good but now this time it should be a lot better with the mic so let's see how it goes but yeah narcissists they are crazy and they might not be completely insane they know what they're doing they understand the effects that their behaviour is having on you they know that what they're doing is wrong it's abusive it's harmful they know all of that but they are on a spectrum towards psychosis at times it may seem like they're not existing in reality a lot of the things they say a lot of the things they do really are crazy it's the kind of things you might expect from a person who should be in a mental hospital a person who should be restrained in a straight jacket and locked away in a padded room really a lot of the things they do are not socially acceptable they do not meet the standard of a socially acceptable person they do things that go outside of social norms things that would not be approved of by the general public but in their minds they think it's normal they think it's okay and of course crazy reckless things are going to seem normal to someone who is practically insane someone who is out of touch with reality because what you have to understand with these people is that they don't want anything to do with reality they want no parts of it they'd rather create this false narrative this alternative worlds this delusional reality and then they expect everyone else to go along with it but of course if they're confronted by an authority figure whether it's the police a doctor whoever it may be then they quickly snap back to reality then then they know how to act normal then they know exactly what they're doing wrong they know what they need to stop doing but when they're around you they're acting in a fool because they assume there's no consequences for their actions when they're in an environment where they don't have to have any accountability and they think there's no consequences they're allowed to run wild they're allowed to do whatever they want to do they can entertain their delusions they can live in their fantasy world because that's really where they like to be they don't like reality they don't like the real world it's boring for them and they want to be seen as something special too they want to be seen as something that's different from what is usual they want to be shocking impressive and opposing so they create this world and they pull unsuspected people into it they try to pull you into it so that you can validate the illusions of their false self so you can support it because it's like a movie it needs an audience otherwise what's the point there's no good if a movie is playing and no one's even watching it they're not going to play their parts that's the starring role in their movie if you're not going to sit around and watch it so they have to find a way to get your attention they have to find a way to pull you into it and initially they may try to love bomb you they may give you some fantasy and when you start to realize that you run out that's when they start making threats they start making false accusations they'll say horrible things about you to other people they'll start a sphere campaign they will try to sabotage your success they'll try to isolate you they'll do all of these things because you've realized that something's wrong or you've lost interest in them because you know they're full of shit you know they're fake and they don't like how that feels they want to be the almighty the all-powerful they want to be the most intelligent the most beautiful and if you're not going to make them feel like that someone else will is how they're thinking because what our role comes down to is can you make me feel special can you make me feel attractive and if you can't do that you're no use to me that's really what it is so yeah you have to be crazy just like them and they will track you crazy if you want to be around a narcissist you cannot exist in reality it's just not possible because anytime that you do that they're going to try and pull you out of it with denial projection blame shifting and gaslighting and they're just going to break you down they're going to do all of these things to make you less than who you actually are to where you can't think clearly you don't know what's up and what's down you've just lost touch with reality yourself and many of us when we come out of these relationships the world can be a scary and confusing place because everyone else has been living in the real world all of this time well we have learned all of these distorted meanings and interpretations from the narcissist which have no basis in reality they have no basis in the real world well that's a problem but then you go out into the real world and you start to realize it was a lot of bullshit all of these things they said about you aren't true and how they try to portray themselves some themselves was a false display they gave you a false impression and it's important to realize that because otherwise it's difficult for you to interact with normal people people who have not been brainwashed by the narcissist to believe in all of these lies and delusions but the first step in all of this is really to identify what you're actually dealing with because many of us taking them so seriously whatever they say whatever they do we take it as though it's true and real but it isn't real they will impose their will on you they will impose their false narrative but you have to recognize that you have to not let it define you you have to not let it become a part of you you have to stop validating the illusion and supporting this false character that they've created to manipulate you it doesn't matter what they say or do just don't take it seriously you have to look at them like they are some sick mentally ill patient and when you do that it will all make sense many of you have been gaslighted by the narcissist on many occasions and you sit back and think to yourself I can't make sense of any of this why are they doing this to me why are they saying this why would they do that you're thinking in your heads you're trying to put the pieces together you're trying to make sense of it and you're looking at them like a rational normal human being because that's what they look like they look like just like anyone else but they're not and that's the thing if you look at them like they are crazy they are insane then a lot of the things they say and do are going to start to make a lot more sense the problem is when we look at them like they're normal people that's when it really affects us and nothing makes any sense you need to just stop right now and picture the narcissist in your head picture this image of the narcissist okay they are restrained in a straight jacket in a headed room whatever they've done I don't care if they whatever it is imagine that situation taking place in a mental hospital in headed room and then it's going to start to make a lot more sense then things will start to add up you will be able to put the pieces together because for an insane person it makes a lot of sense you might not be that surprised if you went to a mental hospital you might expect to see that because it's normal to not live in the real world they've created an alternate reality which is separate from the world that we live in and as long as you believe in their world and you exist in it things can be okay because you're validating the illusion the false self they're not going to get so angry at you but as soon as you start to entertain reality then they don't like that then they start arguing they act out even more because they're trying to pull you back into their world and they do that by playing this role they are the star of their movie and you're meant to be the audience so yeah they are crazy not completely insane as I said but they are definitely on the spectrum to psychosis that's why you get the word salad a lot of things they say and do don't make any sense to normal people and even the gas lighting sometimes is you know we think they always know what they're doing some of them sometimes actually don't know what they're doing sometimes they do but sometimes they don't sometimes the behavior doesn't even make any sense to them there's no rhyme or reason they have no reason for it they're impulsive they're acted on impulse and that's why they can often seem so rational if you can be the most sensible logical person in the world I mean let's take me for example I'm not saying I am the most logical person in the world but you know I talk on YouTube every day I've had millions of people watching my videos millions of people understand where I'm coming from what I'm saying it makes sense to everyone almost everyone who watches them so it would be like me having a conversation with a narcissist and then speaking to me and I I don't understand it I can't make sense of it for that to be the case it's like we're living in different worlds but that's just how it is with narcissists I mean many of you you are very intelligent and logical people I read the comments every day there's a lot of good information in there I would say even I've learned some new things from my own comments from other people so yeah I mean that's how you should know that something is wrong but what we tend to do is we blame ourselves we think there's something wrong with us that's how you know what you're dealing with narcissists never do that they never look themselves or think maybe they got it wrong we are always the ones that do that we are always the ones questioning ourselves and they're always the ones making us question ourselves it's always the same situation but we have to stop doing that and we can stop doing that by realizing what we are actually dealing with you're not dealing with a normal person you're dealing with someone who is pretty much crazy insane I'll actually tell you everything you need to know whatever they're saying whatever they're doing just imagine I'm staying or doing that in a mental hospital in a padded room and it's going to make a lot more sense to you that I'm just enjoying my new ride here it's a great car very fast it's the same car as the last one but this is the forward door the other one was the coupe and this one has a sunroof as well which I really like the color is pretty cool it's matte gray and yellow I've actually got Nala at the back as well I don't know where she is because she's right behind me I don't know if she's going to come out now to say hello she's just relaxing at the back it was raining all day but now it's nice to see a bit of sunshine but I can't open the sunroof now because driving pretty fast on the road doing it to get too noisy but yeah it's pretty tough with narcissists but I'm back now yeah you can't have a normal conversation with a narcissist they always take things out of context they apply different meanings to what you've said and the things that they say always have double meanings different ways of interpreting them which is intended and they can't even go five seconds without saying something to hurt you or saying something to make you overthink and overanalyze something so yeah you can't even sit down and have a normal conversation with them and then we wonder why the relationship went went to shit we wonder why when you couldn't even talk to them because if you did talk to them then they twist everything you say they're just when you're having a conversation they're just thinking about what can I say to get under his skin what can I say that's gonna mim up so that I can get supply I can feel better about myself that's really what they're doing you ever talk to a narcissist and it just seems like their mind is somewhere else like you're talking to them and they're talking to you but it's like they're not really there because they're thinking of things that they can say to hurt you to wind you up that's what they do every day it dominates their life all they do is just think of ways to upset people to make them angry to make them upset just so they can feel better about themselves they're like the punishers they're like the judge jury and the executioner all they want to do is torture people make people miserable so how can you have a normal conversation with someone like that you can't all you can do is avoid them but if it provides you with any relief of course they're not gonna have a normal conversation with anyone nothing for longer than five minutes they're lucky because they always have to say something stupid to hurt you I don't think they can go five minutes without saying something dumb or having to impress people by being grandiose and that just irritates people as well I mean there's nothing wrong if you want to share your accomplishments and success that's fine and normal healthy people will congratulate you they will praise you for that they will encourage you but when it goes on and on and on and every damn conversation is just about you and how great you are at some point people will just want you to shut up because that's exactly how these narcissists are but if you have a conversation with them they always turn it back on them it's all about them and how great they are and how you're not as good as they are and if you don't like it then they'll say you're jealous or you don't want them to be happy but anyone it doesn't matter how calm cool and collected you are at some point you're just going to get fed up of hearing it and that doesn't mean you're jealous or you're envious you're just irritated by hearing the same thing again and again it's like if someone played the same song a hundred times in a row you would get sick of it even if you liked it the first time they played it so yeah you could be comforted by this fact that the narcissist if they've discarded you they're not going to move on and have a normal healthy experience with anyone it doesn't matter who they are i'm sure you remember they couldn't just sit down and have a normal conversation with you they couldn't have a normal relationship with you remember what happened anytime you tried to sit down and talk to them anytime you tried to make them happy anytime you gave them a hug you tried to kiss them what do they do they always have to pull away or push you away they always have to say something hurtful do something hurtful they will always sabotage anything normal if something is normal and functional they have to do something about it they have to take it down until it becomes dysfunctional until it becomes abnormal i mean if you just look back at your entire relationship with them all it was was you just fighting for normality that's all it was the entire time you were fighting to make things normal and what were they doing they were fighting to just make things crazy they were causing drama and chaos all the time and they'll always be that way they're always going to do that it's not going to change they don't feel comfortable when things are normal because then they don't feel normal because they're not normal for them to feel comfortable they have to cause drama and chaos they have to hurt you they will move on and try to make things appear normal with someone else in another situation because they know that as a good person as a loving kind and caring person you just wanted a normal relationship so yeah they all follow the same script they all go off of the off of the same playbook so they will discard you triangulate you and try to get you to believe that they have something normal without you the problem is how is that normal if they've triangulated you in that but then what they try and do is act like it's you the other one that's not normal and then they just expect you to ignore everything they said and did while you were together and people say it's always find a way to justify their actions but yeah there's really no way of getting through to them you can't get them to see sense because for them to see sense that would require accountability they would have to hold themselves accountable for their actions and then they may have to face the consequences of those actions they would have to get better they may have to grow and that's why they never do grow no matter how old they get they still act like two-year-old children they never seem to grow past that because that would require accountability but how can you grow when you're not even existing in reality when you're always in some kind of fantasy some delusion to make yourself feel better to distract you from your actual life and how can someone like that be happy crazy fantasy where you're someone else this other character that's what they do in it their false character that they created to manipulate you then they get rid of you and they may get rid of that character too and then create a new character with someone else so you'll start to see that they just become a completely different person they might dye their hair pink or blue they might get a lot of tattoos or unusual piercings they might start hanging around with different people that you've never seen before they might take a completely different interest things that you've never seen them do before because they've become a completely different person they can change characters at any moment because you never saw the real them anyway you never knew who they actually were even they don't know who they are that's why they just go from character to character but actually they are running from themselves that's the reason why they discard you because after you've been with them for a certain amount of time you start to get to know the real them you start to get to know who they actually are their faults and flaws their imperfections and they don't like how that feels it brings up shame because you're reflecting it back to them from what you're seeing from them and that's why after a certain amount of time it's usually after a few months but sometimes it can be a couple of years it depends how much they reveal to you in that short amount of time but after some time they will just get rid of you it may seem like they're running from you but they're actually running from themselves and then they'll run off with a new person who doesn't know anything about them so that they can feel better about themselves so that they can feel like they're not wrong because this new person they're not going to know anything about them when they see them they're going to think they're magnificent they're charming and charismatic they're attractive they're going to be overwhelmed they're going to give the narcissist compliments and praise they're going to tell them they're amazing they're intelligent they're handsome they're beautiful because they don't really know who they're dealing with but the narcissist loves that the narcissist doesn't want to know anyone who already knows them if you know who the narcissist is they want nothing to do with you they want to get rid of you you're no good to them after that you're a lost cause there's nothing a narcissist loves more than people who know nothing about them people who don't know what they're like but it's just a fantasy it's not real happiness because the real thing comes from people knowing who you actually are and you knowing who they are and you trying to work things out despite your flaws despite your mistakes but that's something they'll never experience because they're always running from themselves but yeah to go back onto the topic really I think I went off a bit there but yeah narcissists are crazy well that's how you have to see them when you start to see them that way the things they do will start to make more sense and everything you've experienced with them just remember how you couldn't have a normal conversation with them you couldn't experience true intimacy whenever you try to show an interest in them and who they actually are or you try to be affectionate they want nothing to do with that it's only sex because they use that to get supply they use it to lock you down and secure you but other than that there was nothing you didn't get anything else and yeah I mean you think it's because there's something wrong with you because you know you know what to expect in a normal relationship and they're not accepting any fault so you take it upon yourself but you have to recognize that really it's them they're crazy they're insane and it's not your job to change that I mean I'm sure you've already tried and you've noticed that the more you try and make them normal and sane the worse they get the more they push you away the more you try to make things normal the worse they go and then they eventually discarded you and found someone else because you were trying to make things normal and then they act like they have something normal going on with someone else but you should already know that's not normal what's normal about someone one day just suddenly packing up and leaving like you never existed and then finding someone else and acting like they're living their best life what's normal about that that doesn't happen in the real world but try try explaining that to a narcissist they're never gonna understand just like you don't understand them to understand crazy you have to be crazy but yeah I don't want to get too deep into it I think that's enough for this topic and I have done other videos on this as well so type it in in the search box and I'm sure they'll come up but yeah thank you all for joining me I've enjoyed this just driving and talking to you giving you this information helping you please give the video a thumbs up if you enjoyed it and I'll talk to you in another one very soon have a great day