 Good morning. Hi. How are you? If you're just joining us, this is the last leg. Givendol kuatwa mbea shule. The last lap, we're just about to close or wrap up wa in the morning. But kabla tumalize to previously ehe, tulikwatu nongelia, story na kuchit, but also our conversation is marrying with the question on our social, which is nini nili kustolipum tembelia na alijitete aje. Now, before we get to the more passionate ones, unamwanyameni bamba aki woi, zige rama says, mimini li pata baby karia, kwenyumba. It gets better. Nika muliza aka nijibu eti, wu ana ingiapondani aki misu totoni na nalala. Wow. Baiji, baiji, baiji. Wei, wei, wei. Wei, wei, wei. Wei, okay, all right. Kwenyongeris says, we're just friends. Edgahansu mwanyaru says, come on cheating like nita kupigia. Like lunandanganya utampigia, but umpigia. All right. Kuna says akunamwanyi, very passionate. Let's start with her. Okay, let's finish with her rather. So we have Quinta Shea. Ametu liza. Atim, kidetsi o cheating. Okay. Nika matulia ndelia kuonget, kuonget, kuonget, sama panata niya ndelia kusema kitu. You ladies are truly justifying cheating. How on earth can we be dating for probably a year plus then kiku pata na mansumengine siyoku cheat. Cheating is cheating. Atangama tumedet for one month. Cheating is a choice. And obvious it is a series of events and it is wrong. Next time, kindly have me kwa yosho, I share my story. Wow. Hi, let me say ma cheating is cheating. Katagorikali, you ladies are truly justifying cheating. We're trying to take it apart. We're trying to define it. Mi kwanza si justify. Skiyama niya mimi. So we finish that part of the message. We're not justifying anything. We're just trying to figure out what's happening. What cheating really is. Haditu kafika red flags. And how to deal with it after. Natutafunga na yo. Sawa. Ii pati, how can we be dating for probably a year plus na niku pata na mansumengine siyoku cheat. Cheating is cheating. Atangama tumedet for one month. Ii pati niya message. Niku pata na mansumengine siyoku cheat. One month. Two years. Cheating is cheating. One week. Mimi nimi kwa mdiya. Mimi nimi kwa mdiya. Kama tumi agri. Kama tumi agri nimi na mimi na baby. To date. Na uki change mind. Sawa. Uki change. Sawa. Sawa. Umi change. Nia mbe. Hatwezi. Ii patuiz. Mimi nien devi. Nien devi ni katafuteku ingini. Wei wende maluma na unaeza fit. Mi wacha ni katafuteku ingini. Yes. Kwa waga literally na kuhu. Kwa waga kuhu di soko. Una shine na ngaara. Smart. Soko. How do you feel about this? Kama ni one week. One month. One year. Cheating is cheating. For you to me, cheating is not cheating. Unless. Unless. Because like. Surely. Ni wabi litu na muna juwana. In a relationship. Friends. To parents. So atakitu ki happen between the two. I feel like nowadays to me scare there are a lot of issues. Muna patakuna watu. Mibia tawa wana chumana. Like hele story mili scale. That guy and chumamtoi. And they had parted ways. Nuna. So those hawa kwata wana date. Nuna. But this guy was like. Juli nda na mtoto wango. Na badu na kupenda. It's like badu una na feel. Una cheat or such things. Nuna. But these two people. Kwa familia wali kwa wana Juli kana. Nuna. Kus maybe kuli kwa nila introduction. They have a kid. But you two you are dating. Wani dame. Wani chali. Ham juwani. Ha uji ui kwao. Uji haji ui kwenu. Nuna. So atakitu ki happen. Like kata kuchome. Like wani watu wana fanyana. In all that. Nani atajua. Kus akuna tamtoi. Ui kum introduce the guy. So ui patikana in a house. Ui kusha adungua and everything. We are dead. So according to me. People should not take this. Like dating seriously. Kus this guy can even be like cheating on you. Akuna someone else outside there. But anakwami niwewe tu. So you are unafakuku kwa. Even if you are deep in that relationship. Laki ni kwa. Kwa should I say. At least mentally. Kwa uko sharp. Uzi eki. Uzi eki. Uzi eki. Uzi kwa fuli in it. Eki kama ajak introduce kule. Uji juwani kana. Haji henda kwenu. Haji introduce. Juwa pali badu kwa 50-50 in life. Badu muko pali. Muko tu kwa ili. Nuna ili tu. Upe mapenzi mapenzi tu. But this guy don't know outside there. Kama kono mingine. That's why we are going home. Una patakuna kia tu pali anakwami niwewe. Mekazi nozia last night. Alichelewa. Akakamova. Unona. Ya. Sto mbo na bila na checka. They know that's what they do. Wana juwa. Nenda wana na checka juwa. Wana juwa that's what they do. Especially kwa relationship. Kama muna date. That's what they do. And that's why people should not take it seriously. Luki pata na cheat. Juwa taile te muli kwa tu nae. Ali kwa nauntu. Ni le tu ulu kusha. Ume amua busy the person. But kwa ke haja amua. So even if you want to take your things better. Maybe ok. Kwa marriage lazima muwanzi dating. Ni sawa. But kama badu amja fika to that point of marriage. Uzi take home to serious. Kwa ze like aneza kumeswi basa. Use kwa umeka passionia. Kwa palenda ni ati aki cheat. Ni miski ame cheat. Une na kizuna ta kumudunga. Just relax. Une na kofisi aki. Une na kofisi aki. Ni miski ati aka na dey muwuko. That's part of life. Inna happen. And that's how men are. Ata kwa marriage by they. Ata kuchita to kwa kwa marriage. They cheat. Ukuna diwa toi apo. Ame toka menda kazi. Kwa menda me piti ya kwa side cheek pale. La person that you don't know. There are people munkwa kwa marriage. Anakwambia. I have another baby mama out there. That's not cheatin. Ana treku kwa parent. Ako na bibi muwingine. And a kid. So a treku kwa parent. Ameku wambia that's not cheatin. Akin ni kunahuyu, umenshiwa kwa nyumba. When a wife and a house wife. I love her kisha to kwa kwa illa ume na menda kwa muwingine. And that's why I say ok cheatin is cheatin. But cheatin is not cheatin. I put it that way. Umazaka kuniya miha kitun. Mejamb. I don't know I'm not a friend of yours But I'm not a cheat No, he's a cheat Does it have to be physical? Let's say the act of intimacy He's a cheat If he spends more time with someone He's a cheat I don't know I don't know I don't know I don't know I don't know He's a cheat He's a cheat I don't have a relationship I don't know I don't know So I'm a cheat By definition if you make a cheat You say you're a cheat We started comparing I don't know I were in doubt Because I didn't know I'm the only one Mimbatu, mimbatu, but niki lagutu wana juwa Niki juwa mkukumi, that's okay because u liniyako, iyo mari juki juwa, he has someone else Laki ni kama umengia, me kwa mbio kwa peki akwa and then later on you find out he has somebody that's what cheating is because he wasn't open up to you aku kwa mbiya, I have a family or I have a wife or I have, you know na So u yo menyame jamapu ati like hey, ati tuna date, I love you, I'm ati impate ati cheat Imagine muneza kwa ona date, she was who? I don't know, kuchana biyo let's say Okay, I'm trying maybe to explain to her she should not take it like seriously, woneza kwa ona date but maybe even this guy akwa na mtu mingi na uko inje na hajama umbiya, so later on ati find out that's ati pata na cheat nuna So mi kwa muneza say, when you are dating upate umtu weh, apwa pana kama ni kwa marriage nisa wajwa puminu kumshafa nya the introduction and everything but upa kwa dating that's just part of life ma lim na farm piti e and maybe ati oki meet, ali kwa na mwingi na so yu mwingi na pia na sema weh u li cheat na na boy wangu nuna because we lo lingya kwa life yu kijana aku kwa mbiya have another girl so peace we lingya kwa life yu kijana so you also cheated because the guy didn't tell you so guys are the ones who make things by their worst because they don't open up kwa na fa kutuwa mbiya kwa na fa kutuwa mbiya jupia u lingya kwa relationship u kujwa kwa na mwingi na so pia mwa yu kijana kushwa was tana ati pene kudanganya kushwa kudanganya not to apply the shoes we don't like it kushwa kukwe li akisama tu o ni meske u li kwa na skiza waini Wednesday the 21st of September nuna ati kwa ni kwa mbiya tukwe li when you are ati pene ni kwa na mwingi na ocha nani kipiche ya na kuru kuna mwingi na ati pene afadulu danganya bach misiz takaku danganya afadulu na mwukuli akini kwa ni kijuwa uhum uji nini nijuwa sta pita iroot juna ni na kanda ati anaku penda na unan penda nia tuki tuki dogo na tia tia wana pata na kila nia tuka mapocha you should open up li kuna fa tukuwa open ka na like how can you love 3 people at the same time is it even possible? me love my mother, my father, my sister yako yotu na kubali yotu na kubali bachi kikuja pa relationship matters ima mbo ya mapenzi don't think a guy can love 3 people at the same time nazi ma kuna ule moja so the rest and I will cheat sisi ladies ukise mati umengia kwa relationship a guy has cheated on you you don't know maybe atuking ya li kwa na mwingine so pia uli affect life ya mwingine pia so that's how it happens so it's like to say to say kwa dating kwa roho you say kwa dating kwa roho, exactly weh, sa aya ma lisa nini ya kimi say cheating is a choice and obvious it's a series of events and it is wrong na tuli kwa tu tu metu kapa tuka sama the exact same thing I even gave an example of how a gentleman was advising me siju aliyona maybe in the near future maybe pia mi natukap cheat, I don't know but I don't know but I don't know whoops to lend a bash whoops ati was drunk guy atas kwa na jijua whoops lasima there was something there was something from back then nasini beshti tu ya ake beshti, apu sasa misi zide tumse mo nye nimi kwa mbia ukuli it's evident kuli enda yo bash you did whatever you did then mimi nimi kukonfront nimi kwa mbia ikuhivi na hivi na nimi mbia mani liyo na mani lijuwa akuna weni minita dating tu hataki kwa accept mistik nia ako like take your own responsibility lasima uonap useme e lihappen kai lihappen lihappen kwa niki mbizaivi nini kitu tisha break alafu nike kwa mbia beshti ango alafu to kakumforti ango alafu whoops nini kwa weni hatu kwa fight niki yandana mistana ango minfa jivi whoops nafila ati na ihoops whoops atas to kwa fedo moja apu kwa herretu na kwa mbia nak sigiri kwa kchokambali nani maha kumafi kwa kutu kia nani kumafi nani kwa kutu kia kutu kia kumafi nani kumafi kwa kutu nani kumafi kwa kutu kia kwa kutukia kwa ya lady? kwa ya now na tuka ok but that's a very valid question because they have friends who are gentle ok so ok so lazima pia alam na gen na kwa rafiki ya kia mulizu hei na hei mehapemi na zanyadvaisaji probably besti wakeni dem besti besti na ako na mtumu mtumu rice ikulili ni nani mtumu ni nani get so you see and then but what's happens na tuta ujani zibu wei ngini amu nishosa mehendakuchu kwa mutu wei baby mama na lafu apatemi ngini ah misi yungi yata atemi mehendakuchu kwa mutu wei kwa kwa baby mama lafu kido dobo woops oh i get it i get it what are are is hoops ino neka na li kumenda pa ino neka na li kumenda uka funguwa doze zingini una jale kutu ni kikuita ex ni kumanisha we are done badoi nezakua we are not done done kuna ule ex taki storyzaki kabi sa adis drip al yenda wapi na kuna ule ex mingini maybe still muna ungea na temi wawili unendi a temi mtutu kwa baby mama unese henda kumenda zika fufuka na kwa zali kwa meviodresini na ni kwa gali zika fufuka kumanisha still waneza rodiana wo baki wape so in the event that you find out you have been cheated on or you feeling like you have cheating thoughts una fuku dina tohanzu na me patam uta me pchit na kwa na disrespectful na stuki amutumu dina na kujana kwa mbea kini na hendela kwa nyumbaya kushu hi Zoro uta mkasi rikiya for the next 3 months umutu kane ama uta movon 2.50 amali nini how do you deal with that mkachi ni mwangi nili fanya hiwi and I'm ready to nimi accept nimi nili fanya makosa makosa ni yungu na trust mi again let's build up that trust again atakama utu tanzu from scratch let's do it ni buildi e ni onyeshe umechange onyeshe like ni me tokapale ni me anzatena ni buildi e trust maybe it will depend it will depend on the kind of guy kuna watumta sit down umtok and maybe he'll change for the better kuna wuli amutu tarudi upo the mistake will repeat itself again and again if he's at it wuli wakurudia wuli nipata haji wuli nipata haji wuli nipata haji wuli nipata haji wuli nipata haji now what do you do wuli umtumanya narudi the mistake once, twice, twice that person never change that's when you just settle yourself up and say just move on okay the people make mistakes kuna iya maramoja you forgive each other you talk and maybe life continues kuna wuli umtua maramoja bili tatu ine and you are like after two evo ni me kupata ya kwanza ya pili kwa wakatu na ni ambi eleo nini na kufo give so that guy will live and take advantage of you wuli umtuk nipata we just move on she can't do anything so that's why you just settle yourself up we just move on though it's heartbreaking maybe we'll come and say this is the person but just move on because he'll never change atumta fika ile pointata ya marriage this guy will just be like that so tashilef ya kuna stress too pu na you see if it is father liu move on nandu tafti ma li kuna peace kuna dilagenezo emotions kukute unendam tandao na tumotivate how do you deal with those emotions because we don't have a lot of emotional intelligence e i what na foka zi ine iq but e i we don't get about it ni me probabili find someone to talk to if umsha unge na umtua ko probabili me resolve pamaoja muka sema this is the way forward probabili mistui e donno kama mneza si kukansili therapy pamaoja mone if things will change zi roadi ma li zili kuwa amata for better ni mneza sema find someone to talk to um sorry someone who's going through some heartbreaking feelings na badu na either unamka unendashu ule unamka unendashu ule ama unamka unendahasu ule but kuna kukaka heavy heart na kwa effect usha e piti at break what did you do how did you get out of it jo ni kwa munda everything ends after you're feeling it i will say it's better kuwa open up yourself na jo kuna wala wana patanga a miha to break you at that moment at that moment mahasira una fikiri wende ni duke umtu or you take anything unamuna pata mingine ama post social media miha ribu maneno miha ndika gari utapata kuna ule ama ata inbox kwa ni niya kwa arata rudisha ni niya kwa kwa heart moa kwa mbe kwa ni ule kwa lasi genuin talk to that person kama ili kwa part of marriage talk to your parents kwa mwa ule kwa mgefiku mga there to talk to friends hanu nga lalua to kwa kwa mbe ama piti aee miha nga kwa nata ii kwa kwa tasi kitu nga mbo nga kwa lalikusima kwa ngei kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa karaka develop usuna kwa kwa kwa bangu kwa kwa kwa nulizanga ule umtu saangabi umtu saangabi tu kwa nyeshe Kwa very fast ma pema Uke mtu So zingine pia Ibet pia unafuangali Genu in friends Jukunu ala wana minyoteanga Nga nau lizo uta niya shidae nulini Bwane Awa fanyaki Nishi rezi kupali kufa Atu lufa niwa jikunu Usika yuuko, toka Ato fsi yongi Tu hende ni kupeli kubbebe vitu wende Uza amita fikiisha vitu Ibu na tabe bazaki Ibu, ato niki Sabuana jo probablita nimi kumna fungiyana Jichu kumna fanyana Nga nau upo shunete Yes Weh? Alright Ok, kima lizo uta kusemani ni Kuna uta kusalimi amitu The last time kido go ni saha usalamu Wana ili kwa makosa kubwa sana If you just wanna summarize Uhu Nga nama is Suicide awareness man Wnezao ngelea like 2 sentences do Yuki to, when courage do Someone who's probably having Suicide or thought right now Uhu, all I'll say Be positive in life Kila mtu ana piti ya Kuna mtu apiti is something in life Life is difficult especially now Ima mba korona ilikam and all that So una pato kuna pressure mingi Life is pressure in us a lot Fokastuna life And always pray Kwa kwa God first everything else moves swiftly Ya So I'm Diana Shish Kila mtu ani folopali IG And Diana underscore Shish underscore Then niko YouTube Diana Shish And I love you all I love you So Nani mneza kusalimi amitu So salimi amitu So salimi amitu Primi aga nia dii Primi aga nia dana bahatina Awa lausana So mneza sema Vile toa mese ma There's positivity Like atu kiyoneza thoughts Mbifind someone to talk to Nata na sema gata mimi Ata kukuena shidagani They'll always be light somewhere Just keep pushing Like Tafutatu kitu Leku skubali Iku skumetsemi adimu isho Tafutam sewangena Tafutakitu yakufanya Jaributu kipizu thoughts Out of your mind Haya Salamu Na salimi watu atuwa groupia Diana Tumapenda Yes Diana Bahati Tumapenda Sana My dad, my mom Watutu atuwa kuhum Salimi mbougia mta Umoja wan Nwa salimi anini wote Wote kwa nani wote Now Lombotov Na tenda Sana So mimi ni kukafunga Please please please love yourself Love love love yourself The same way you want Nona sometimes wotu na kusia And this is coming from a personal place Mesa kusia kuhu expectum Tumoja anipatia love That can be given by five different people Wemama wotu na nipenda Bishliang wotu na nipenda But if you give one particular person that pressure Disappointment kaza Zitaku slap slap So just first love yourself nani It's going to be okay It is still suicide awareness month So if you're having feelings And things like that Please reach out Sick medko advise Kamu mongen na mbogi mbogi bado Nika mwa kupati Journal journal journal Or find someone professional So it's going to be okay Witu view isha Nisa wu atwa tifon facebook Kwa tifon facebook Kwa tifon facebook Kwa tifon facebook Kwa tifon facebook Kwa tifon facebook Kwa tifon facebook