 What? What? What are you doing? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, I am. Oh. Yeah. I don't know. Bless me. Welcome back to Life Lessons in Film. Greetings. Greetings. And Sun Salutations and today we'll be making sense of life through little women. Little women. Little women. Brief synopsis. Yes. It covers five sisters, I believe, four or five sisters. And they are living with their mom. Their dad is off to war or something like that. They're just, you know, growing up together. And the main actors, I guess, or the main characters are Joe and Lori, I would say. God, I need to start again. It's so hard to explain what this movie is about. Yeah, keep going. It's all good. Okay, so basically we see them grow up. We see them experience life. Some of them get married and some of them are fighting for making some kind of life for themselves, independent life for themselves. Like Joe, Joe is mainly, is basically the main character, is the main character in the movie, really. She has this friend that she makes who is a guy, Lori, but he, she calls him Teddy, basically become fast friends and become really close. So basically, fast forward, Teddy wants to make it official with, yeah, with Joe. So I'm going to leave it there because he hasn't seen it. This is my initial reaction. I watched the movie on my own. No, first time. And so I'm trying as much as possible not to spoil it for him. Now, as I just finished it, you know, a few minutes ago, I guess, and yeah. And you're raw. I'm feeling kind of raw. I understand that. Oh my gosh. I would have ruined this movie for you, baby. Yeah, maybe this doesn't work. I don't know. Yeah, maybe this doesn't work. Watch your video. Maybe you should head out. I could head out. Yeah. You could take the... I'll cover it. Do it on your own. Yeah. What, before I go, what, what would you say? What term of venery would you give to a group of sisters? A coven? A bushel? I don't think so. A school of sisters. A school of sisters. I feel like a coven sounds more... witchy. Covenant of sisters. It still sounds witchy. Okay, baby, go. Let me, let me. You got this. Yeah. Okay. Well, I need to know that you can't hear me. I'll start watching it. Wait, are you ready? No. Let me know. Almost. Okay. You sure? Oh, no. I feel like the reason I feel raw or I felt raw with at the end of the movie is just because of the relationship between Joe and Lori. I felt that it was really beautiful. It developed really nicely and they had, they were growing up together, you know? And I felt that this experiencing, I don't know, youth and coming of age together, that can be, that's a special time, I think, for everybody and to go through it with someone who is a true friend and that means so much to you, which these two people mean to each other is something that not a lot of people have, especially in the way that Lori and Joe have. And I definitely know that I was hoping that they would end up together as much as she feels this kinship towards him does not feel like she's in love with him as he is with her. She says something like, you'll get tired of me and my scribbling all day while her writing. And so, of course, for her, it's really hard in these times that she's fighting for her life to try and make a name for herself as a writer. And she's so committed to that and she's so upset, you know, I remember that she talks about how she says something like, you know, all women are allowed to be is to fall in love. That's the thing that's something like that. That's the only thing that you can aspire to. And I felt really sad when she said that because I could understand where she was coming from. But at the same time, I felt sad for her because she was, all of these girls are very, very young and I think at that tender age, there's so much about the future that you don't necessarily understand. And I felt like sometimes when you are wanting a career for yourself, I thought that that was fantastic or part of that that's something that she wanted. But I also felt like her views of love and later she talks about how she wanted to be loved, right? I felt like maybe her view of love was a little bit distorted by her desire for independence, which I can kind of relate to. I know that growing up personally, I always just had this whole idea of having a career and that's my number one priority. In its most mainstream sense, I think liberal feminism doesn't do justice to the nuances of being a woman. And I think that sometimes it can make, it can give women this idea of what is possible and without actually looking at giving them an opportunity to look at life holistically. Later, Jo talks about how she decides. She feels like if Laurie had asked me now, I would say yes. But of course, at this point, he has asked her sister to marry him. And so it's too late. But that's an example of something that her ideals at the time that Laurie initially asked her couldn't foresee for her. So it made me really sad, you know, just knowing how, knowing now how difficult it is, I think, to find someone that you connect within that way because ultimately there's a point in your life after university and you're working where you realize how important companionship is. At the time, she's like, well, I don't really love him, but I want to be loved like that. And the mom was like, well, that's not the same, you know? And I totally understand that too. As much as I can reconcile with that, she is loved so deeply by this guy. But then she doesn't necessarily feel the same way. I totally understand that. And I think I'm reflecting on that. Truly, I know that I think it was a better choice that they didn't end up together. Especially if Laurie truly did feel, as he says, deeply for the sister later. I don't know about that. Maybe he was settling. I'm not sure, but he says that he thinks Joe was right when she rejected him. Maybe for me right now, it's just me romanticizing the relationship. I'm not really sure. But I definitely was so heartbroken when she wrote the letter and said to tell him, you know, I definitely want to get married, basically. And it was too late that I think that's probably why I was so sad because they had that strong relationship. And then she was strong for her sister, Amy, because she could tell. She was like, no, I hope it's okay. I guess it's also that progression of that relationship between Amy and Joe. So I felt really sad for her because she was so busy taking care of everybody that I felt like she forgot to take care of herself and her needs. So I think that's really the thing that I'm most sad about. And I wasn't really happy with the ending, I got to be honest, because I know that it seemed like everybody was quite content with how things were with things, with their lives. But I really just wasn't happy with with the ending. I still feel quite tender about Lori and Joe not ending up together. Yeah, I'm feeling super raw. And I might even go and cry is how invested I was in Joe and Lori's relationship. Yeah, baby, I'm done. Okay, always on the move. What's the name of the movie? Little Women is the darling. There's a woman walking down the street. Little Women, they got something to eat. Little Women. So, for instance, yeah, I like the part where near the end, Joe, I think the oldest sister is talking with their mother. And she's in a crisis because she is frustrated with the times they're in where women, you know, marrying really is just like if you want to have money to live, you have to get married and you don't really have many rights and you're kind of forced into it. But she wants to be a writer, has aspirations to do other things that are just not really easy to do. But at the same time, by pursuing those things, I mean, she has to give it makes it a lot harder, for instance, to get into a relationship. And so she at one point says, like, I want to be independent, but I'm also so lonely. Yeah, which is much later, because when she was younger, she didn't want to be in a relationship whatsoever. She wanted, she didn't want to be bogged down by love, then she later realizes that, you know what, love isn't the worst, the worst thing. You get to a certain point and you're just like, I don't feel like going to singles bingo anymore. Exactly. You know, do they have singles bingo? I imagine they do. Do they? They should. They should. And it's not even just women that struggle with that, it's just people in general. It's like most people want both a certain level of independence and some kind of stuff they're doing in their own relationship. You get lonely out there. And also, I found what's interesting about the story is that you got the four sisters, and there's a lot of stuff when it comes to, for instance, there's always going to be someone you know that's better off than you in anything, wealth, whatever. In that case, they focus a lot on land and ownership of things. And then there's always going to be someone that has less. There's the one family that has a lot less, and then they go and give their Christmas food to them. And then there's other families they know that have going to afford nicer dresses and all this kind of stuff. And also, of the kids, they all grow up in the same house and they're all super close for the most part. When you see them bantering, they're super playful and so comfortable and relaxed with each other. They put on plays, clubs, and dance and sing with each other all the time. But then at the same time, they're also very different. And I think it's to this movie, right, where one of the characters, I forget, which says at one point, oh yeah, I think it's like Emma Watson says to maybe Joe. She's like, just because what I need or what I want in my life isn't the same as yours, it doesn't mean it's invalid or yeah, basically what she says. And that's the thing that's with people is that you can think these people all grew up so similar. And yet, their lives turn out completely differently and they're all actually quite different. Yeah. Yeah. And I find that not really a point there. It's just interesting and true. And inevitably, of course, there's jealousy among the envy among the siblings. Amy feels like Joe gets everything. So she burns the book. Yeah. Which I thought was very... Maybe that's why you didn't want Timothy to get with Amy, because I don't, I don't know about you, but I never fully got over or never fully forgave Amy. I never forgave Amy. Joe's book. I think it's also just very complicated. That's the issue I have with Amy. I feel like overall, she's really just not a good sister nor a good friend. I wouldn't want this girl as my sister or my friend, honestly. I would be like, she would be that girl. If she were my sister, I would be sleeping with a knife. Like maybe, because just in case this girl comes in the middle of the night, you never know, I just got to be prepared. And I had an issue. I had an issue here because I found that in this home, Joe, obviously, Joe took over the role of the dad because the dad is out there, you know, doing his thing with the war. And she's doing things like cutting her hair to make money for the sick sister. And writing and selling her stuff for like pennies to support the family. And so everybody's just looking, they have the, they just give her this responsibility and they are just all of them settled into the fact that Joe is just basically substitute dad. You know what I mean? Yeah. And they expect her to have this level of maturity over their sisters. And with that maturity that they see and are really very happy to enjoy and definitely not being reciprocal in the sense of kind of trying to see if they could also alleviate some of the load off of her. They, on top of that, they expect her with like menial things or like the home, home thing, right, relational stuff in the home. They expect her to be the one who be above, you have to be above it, rise above this. Yeah, she burnt your book, rise above it. You know what I mean? She's just kind of like, maybe she's just upset. I don't even remember what they say to her. But even the lack of chastising Amy was such a huge concern for me. The mom is like, no, she'll forgive you. Yeah, it's kind of like no one really supported Joe. They just kind of were like, well, you'll be able to handle it, Joe. Yeah, but there's no, there seems to be no, you know, discussing the fact that Amy, what you did was incredibly messed up. Do you know what I mean? Even if you're jealous, even if you're upset, it is such a selfish thing to do. It is like venomous. It's not one of those things where you're like, well, I'm going to eat your ice cream because you didn't let me go out. You know what I mean? This is that stuff of, I am going to take you to jail. Like if that was copyrighted, that girl could go to jail. Do you know what I mean? That's an example. I'm very upset. I'm very upset with her. And I'm upset with the family for having Joe be the bigger man all the time. You know what I mean? I cannot stand that all the time. And even when this girl decides she's going to take- A bigger little woman in this case. Yeah, the hurts that people inflict on you, they stick. And there's a history with Amy and Joe of hurt on Joe's end. Do you know what I mean? That Amy just really, truly never works to, I don't know, to alleviate. Do you know what I mean? Off of Joe's heart. I have an issue with the mom too. Why do you have an issue with Marmy? Because I know you have an issue with Marmy too because- Yeah, but we talked about it. I have an issue. You have an issue too. And oh, Marmy's the mother, right? Yeah. Trying to think. Marmy, we talked about the dog. Christmas. Christmas sweetie. Oh, yes, right, that's right. Uh, yeah, where she decided to give, uh, make, uh, shame her cure, her little women. Shame. Guilt trips. She didn't shame. Well, she was kind of like, come on, we've got more than these. Oh, I think it was bad, that's true. You know, you're right. So they're all like, yeah, I feel bad. She did shame, she totally shamed. Yeah, so then she guilt trips her little women into giving all these delicious looking, uh, foods that they had prepared for Christmas to this other poorer family, even though they weren't particularly well off at the beginning of it. And then apparently, yeah, uh, I forget this, but the one daughter, the youngest, I think, got some fever. From the, from the, yeah. Now, why do we have an issue with this? Because people are going to be out there like, oh, you don't care about your future. Yeah, well, for me, it's like, it's, it's, it's a tricky thing because you could look at it as an active charity and a lesson that you want to pass on to your kids. That's like, you know, it feels, not only does it feel good, but it's the right thing to do to give to others, especially those that have less than you, right? Yeah. Downside to that is, first of all, you could give all this amazing food to this family that will never happen again because they aren't actually in a position to normally get that kind of food. So now you've kind of raised their standard bracket. You've titillated their brackets and all these other foods that now they can never reach that bracket again. So that's kind of torturous. And, uh, and it's also, it's kind of like what people do with cherries sometimes. Like I did a good deed once to these people. Now the situation is going to go back to how it was. Yeah, I'll do it next year Christmas. Yeah, you know. So it doesn't really fix anything that you could say. One active kindness is still better than no acts of kindness. But. And the question is, the issue I had personally was, okay, active kindness is great, but to whom? Why active kindness to other people versus active kindness to your children? You guys are not in a great position, first of all. You have one daughter slaving away and cutting her hair to help you buy food in the house. Yeah. And their dad is out there fighting wars. And everybody's just on edge about, is that never come back? Never come back. This is literally the thing that is looming over their heads all the time, right? All of these things are, are hovering issues that they deal with. Like the one of the sisters who Emma Watson, I don't remember her. Is it her Emma Watson? I don't even think she goes to the dance and she doesn't have a dress and these, and then, you know, and she's feeling, I'm just checking her name and she's super embarrassed, right? And then they even change, give her a different name, Meg. They give her a different name. Daisy, they call her, you know, because Meg is just too common, isn't it? Oh, is that why? Yeah. Like, well, well, I don't know, but that's, that's kind of one of those things where people just kind of are very dismissive of you. It is really, you know, even if, even if no one says it, but it is quite. I did take it as like, that person in particular was giving the nickname just as a way to knock her down. And you're right. It probably is because maybe she senses like you don't belong here, so I'm just going to change your name because I don't care about you, you know. Giving in and of itself is a good thing. However, don't go out there being a philanthropist if you are on the struggle bus. Do you know what I mean? If your kids are on the struggle bus, it is so unkind. Everybody has certain comfort levels. You know that your problems, as like, if you're in the middle class, your problems are different from a rich person's problems. Rich people have problems too. You know what I mean? Like, don't have a problem with things like, if I, if I donate here, I'm not going to be able to buy my jet and my, the community of, yeah, right? Like the community that I'm surrounded by, every single person has a jet. What does that mean? If I don't have a jet, you're booted. You're ostracized immediately. That is a genuine problem. Someone can think, oh, well, that's like, this knobby. People cares, right? Find different neighborhood. But a lot of people want to find a neighborhood that they fit in and are accepted by the rest of the community. Yeah. Like it's, it's your community. You understand it. You know how it's going to be too difficult to start from scratch, all of these things. My point is with, with this, it felt really harsh for the, for the girls. They were also clearly very sad. Do you know what I mean? They wanted this. They were excited to have a Christmas. Just like, man, the year has been rough. And they were excited to just have like, this beautiful dinner, right? Anyway, I just had an issue here because it was the mom who was doing this, who was making the kids give up their, their Christmas. I felt like the mom was very, just not very a present mom. In the way of seeing how much her kids just didn't, even the little things. Like she, what they needed. Do you know what I mean? I felt like there were just so many sacrifices that the entire family was making all the time. And she's always gone. She's always out there helping people all the time. They referenced that. And I'm like, you have kids at home who are struggling. It is good to give. It really is. But what is that quote that you, you told me about that was, that was absolutely fantastic. Do you remember that quote that you gave me, where like, it describes something about a teat or something? You never step in the same river twice? No, baby. That's a good quote. If there isn't milk coming up, you're not going to go full in with milk. Yeah, if you're, if you don't have an overabundance of, of lactation, then you can't be just giving it, giving it to other random people. Yeah. Yeah, you know. Yeah. Like if you have a kid, imagine this, your mom, you just gave birth. Like some moms, they have a thing where they, they keep lactating. Yeah. So then they bottle it and then they do sell it to people or they do it. Fine, if you really have more than enough, it just keeps happening even when your kid's full. Okay fine, bottle it and do something with it. Yeah. But if you don't, if you're not creating an overabundance, then keep it for your kid. Keep it for your kid. Yeah. Don't let your kid ration your milk as a mom, you know, to be altruistic. So that's the issue I have. Yeah. And what's her name? Yeah, Merrill Street. Well, I remember I was a little more put off by her first, but you shared your perspective and so I was won over by her actually having more charm than I was giving her credit for and being a decent, more decent person. Yeah. Yeah. Yes. Yeah. I don't know, in terms of like overall, I don't. What issues did you initially have with her? Yeah, I thought she was kind of like rude and grumpy, realizing that she's more just, she's realistic, she's pragmatic, she's honest. Yeah. Oh, she did a great job, of course. Yeah, Merrill Street, I love you so much. So I actually really liked and March. I thought she was a good person. You thought that he was, he thought that he was not a good person and I feel like maybe a lot of people might think that. And there were just little things that revealed that to me, things like when Laurie goes and gives her a hug, she has like this tiny little cute smile, like, oh, she says, oh, get him on me. But then she's kind of, you know, charmed. And so that's things like that, little things like that. Well, to reveal, okay, she's quite endeared to Laurie, isn't it? So that's some life and joy to her. Yeah. Later, when she's passed, she leaves the house to Joel, the person that everybody thought and March didn't like, right? Joel even says that. She's like, oh, I thought she hated me. I can't believe it, right? And this lady is real. She's the person I want in my corner. She tells it like it is. She's looking at the world, hard facts. Yeah. She's looking at the hard reality. She'd be the one that was like, Amy, you're being a bish with that whole burning book stuff. Yeah. Not cool. Yeah. You did hang out in the cellar for a couple months. Yeah. I think she also alludes to being quite happy with the situation at March, right? Like with her situation at present where she's not married anymore. She married Rich, the guy's dead now and like all is good. She's quite happy to be single. So in my mind, I felt like I found Aunt March to be quite similar to Joe, which in the end made sense to me why she left Joe this money because she likes, she enjoys the same independence that Joe aspires to. She respects Joe's sure to kick and butt and take. Yeah. Exactly. And I feel like she's also a very, she's a very strategic lady, very smart because she was looking at all of these people. She's like, okay, Amy is pretty. She's not very smart. She needs to go to France and get married to the Rich guy because Joe was the one who wanted to go to France and thought that Aunt March would take her, only to find that oh, she's actually taking Amy. Then Aunt March passes and leaves her the home. She's super surprised. But Aunt March was like, I know that the only people, the only person who's going to make this worth anything, this house that I'm leaving, is Joe. Why? Because Joe has been taking care of this entire family, right? And she indeed does. She has a school and she actually, and things, you know what I mean? Yeah. So I like that March. And I don't want people who are like soft and coddling me. Oh, the world is nice and fluffy. The world is not nice and fluffy. Life is hard. Thank you. Yeah. It's spiky. There are so many beautiful things about the world and what you do can make it so wonderful and make every day, make you look forward to every day. But you have to work like crazy for it. Yeah. You know what I mean? There's swamp bog in between the spikes. Yeah. And gooey, gooey layers that you can walk. Squish, squish, squish, nice and mushy. Well, I just want to guide a good map through the swamp and Aunt March has that map. Yeah. All right, that's about it. That's it. But what do you guys think? Yeah. Like no women. Comment down below. Yeah, let us know. And share your thoughts and our thoughts. Sure, that's it. Yeah. And yeah, what do you think? But until next time, right? That's a wrap. Peace.