 Mental toughness for me is you see only good in everything even if something catastrophic happens you only see the good because there is good in all bad events there is some good if tomorrow a doctor tells you you're gonna die in cancer in six months well you got to tell yourself I'm gonna live at another level in these six months because I know these days are numbered so every day for me is gonna be like a year every second is gonna be like hours for me because I'm gonna appreciate it that much there's got to be something positive in whatever happens one of my favorite new authors that I'm reading into now is Marcus Aurelius and he wrote his journals you know during the war with the Germanic tribes he was writing in his journal and this was just his own personal journal wasn't a book and he was in the situation where he was leading the softer generation of Romans the Romans they haven't gone through war they're just living through the spoils of their fathers who went to war and dominated the world so they weren't ready to go to war and fight these barbarians etc and they were more corrupt and wanted to live the good life etc and he's writing this journal and he's considered one of the great great five emperors he was one of the the best leaders Rome ever had and he was basically saying that he's saying you have to find the good in every single bad situation and this is a guy who is on the brink of being destroyed by the Germans he eventually defeated the Germanic tribes but it was almost lights out for Rome at that time and he was he reading this journal of his and his thoughts and he's like your thoughts are what you soak your mind in the dye you soak your mind in and how you see the world all depends on your thoughts because somebody who sees the positive and everything you can't beat him you have to kill him to beat him because no matter how low you put him down if there's still a spark he still believes you can climb to the top whereas somebody sees the negative and they start to convince themselves they're lost they're easy to beat they're ready beat themselves I really love that description and and that's something that my partners Ron Mike and I talk a lot about is you know when you're in business you learn very quickly that you're operating without a safety net right so it can all go away not only tomorrow could go away today right I could walk off this set only to find out that some catastrophic things happen and now we're out of business I mean and that really forces you to analyze what do I have in my life to fall back on and you talk a lot about what fighters that have nothing to fall back on right I think you quoted Don Shula you know and having a three tier system of God family and football that's correct and and in business I find it the same if you if you don't have something to fall back on you're gonna be in real trouble and the thing that we have of the collectively always focused on is what you just said which is the guy that has a spark of hope no matter how low you take him he believes in his heart that he can rise back up and it's interesting because I've never put that together as being a mental toughness but it's it's a pretty core component certainly I think it's it's an incredibly important core component because once you're depressed inside it becomes a downward spiral of negativity you can never let yourself have negative emotions for a prolonged period of time and actually it's a great thing that Marcus really also says I says whenever you you lose you're off balance emotionally see how fast you can bring yourself back to being positive and make it a game he says you know like just see how fast because for him things bad things were happening every day you know literally every day he was betrayed by his best friend his wife left him you know all these but he'd bring him back himself back to being centered and you know and he's this is key because a person like that will be successful down the line in the long run they're just the worst person to face if that's your enemy he's never no matter what you throw at him he will never go away he'll never quit he in his mind it's gonna work out in the end somehow some way and I look around me all the time and I see people who are down and out and then came back to make it they were down and out they came back to make it like you see that in corporations you see that in individuals see that in fighters you see that in actors you see that all across the board so winners see a bad situation as temporary winners see a bad situation as temporary that's it no matter how down and out you are it's temporary