 Why do I rush getting into relationships? Hi, this is Helena Hart from commitmentconnection.com and today I wanted to answer a great question I received and that is why do I always rush getting into relationships? I can personally relate to this myself when I was single and most people can't at some point in their lives relate to jumping into a relationship too quickly Only to find out that the person wasn't who they thought they were or you know problems happen down the line in the Relationship and had they waited a little longer to get to know the person Maybe they wouldn't have jumped in and decided to even be in a relationship with them in the first place So while every situation and relationship is different I found that there's typically two reasons why people tend to jump into Relationships too quickly the first reason is this sense of urgency. That's a really important word I would write that one down Urgency is like one of the top problems I see in people that prevents them from really getting the love and relationship they want Urgency causes you to say things to yourself like if I don't get into a relationship right now Maybe time is running out for me or if I don't get into a relationship with this person Maybe there won't be someone else better for me So I better just jump right in and hope it all works out. Maybe some of you can relate to that I know I definitely can so In order to start turning this around you want to start telling yourself some different things like I have all The time in the world even if you don't feel that way just starting to tell yourself that will sort of shift your Vibe and help the sense of urgency to start to dissipate a little bit So I have all the time in the world Everything is always working out for me Things are unfolding exactly the way they're supposed to those statements will start to help with a sense of urgency Because what happens is when you start a relationship because you're feeling urgent on some level You're coming from a place of lack or from a place of you know Maybe I don't deserve better. Maybe this is all that's out there and typically Relationships don't work out when you're starting them from that place. You want to be starting your relationship from a sense of Abundance and wholeness of who you are that will Foster much more success within the relationship typically so urgency is the first reason why people want to jump into Relationships too quickly the second reason is just simply because they get caught up in feelings of attraction Or maybe the chemistry they feel with someone or you have a lot in common. You really enjoy being with them and you sort of Put meaning on that and you just jump into a relationship right away Only to find out maybe a few months later that you know The person wasn't exactly who they said they were or who you were hoping they were and had you waited a little bit and Got to know them better. Maybe this wouldn't be someone you would choose to be in a relationship with so it's a great thing when you feel Attracted to someone or excited about a new potential relationship partner. Those are just the best feelings But what happens is, you know, men can be wonderful Men and women actually can just be amazing the first three to four months in because you have the dopamine the serotonin All those amazing brain chemicals that you just get flooded with When you are with a new person who you're feeling attracted to and excited about and once that all goes away You may feel a man start to pull away a little bit or back off So you don't really know what a guy is gonna do until about three or four months in typically After you reach that point if he's still coming towards you if he's still following through and everything's feeling good then Fantastic, but anytime before that if you jump into a relationship too quickly you run the risk of just placing all that attention on the chemistry and the attraction without really getting to know who the person is and Deciding from that place whether or not they'd be a good relationship partner for you You know with the right man for you. He will absolutely Wait for you if you say, you know, it feels so good getting to know you and I really want to take my time and make sure We are a good match before jumping into a relationship Something like that the right man for you will just love that and keep coming towards you It will actually make you more attracted to him on a deep level because he will feel like he can't just get you So easily not that it's a game or a strategy But when it comes to who your next relationship partner is going to be that's a pretty big decision So it's something you want to really take your time in getting to know someone before jumping in like that So to recap the first reason why people jump into relationships too quickly is a sense of urgency So to turn that around you really want to lean back and start telling yourself that you have all the time in the world Even if it doesn't feel that way right now You just want to shift your vibe in that direction as much as possible And the second reason is when you get caught up in the attraction and the chemistry you feel with someone it can cause you to want to just jump in and lock things down right away and When you do that too quickly problems can start to surface later. I'm sure you can relate to that I know I definitely can so for that the best way to turn that around is Really taking your time when you're dating someone even if you're spending a lot of time with them Maybe not getting exclusive with them right off the bat or really just letting them know it feels so great being with you And I'm looking forward to being in a relationship with you It would just you know I feel more comfortable Taking my time and getting to know you to really make sure we're on the same page And if he's the right man for you, he will absolutely Absolutely love that and respect that and it will actually you know make him Stay operating in the relationship and he'll keep coming towards you and want to lock you down You know very important and it has to be authentic all of my tools and tips, you know They all hinge on authenticity any sort of game or strategy You're trying to employ will backfire on you because you can't keep it going forever So this has to be authentic So I hope this was helpful for you and you know, don't beat yourself up for jumping into Relationships too quickly in the past. We've all been there and it's just a learning experience and just think of every moment And every new potential relationship is a fresh start Sort of starting off on the right foot so you can hopefully Start to experience things in a new way that will actually work out for you and give you much more success in your Love life, so I hope this was helpful for you and thanks for sending in your question I hope to talk with you all again soon If you enjoyed this video click the button to subscribe on the right side of the video And if you're ready to discover the secrets to having the relationship You've always dreamed of click on the button to go to our website commitment connection calm