 Come in, here we are, 21 convention, Melbourne, Florida, Australia, Australia. All right. Hey, so this next speech, this is really cool. I heard about this guy last year, or a bit over a year ago when I was talking to Sir James Marshall on the Euro tour, if you haven't heard about it, I'm sure you'll hear plenty about it. But I heard about him and from multiple people, from guys who've worked with him, from James himself, about how they've helped them with their mentality, what we call inter-gain, but beyond that, to personal growth and transitions and perspectives as a whole. It is, Mr. Shea Matthews, ladies and gentlemen. Here we go, the way of the Black Dragon, natural lifestyles. It's all you, buddy. Thank you. Gentlemen, welcome. I just want to start off by saying thank you for being here, because it really is a big thing to come out of your life to create something, to change, create time to change. And this is a great possibility. You've got this weekend here with all these amazing speakers, new insights, new possibilities. So really just pat yourself on the back for really taking the time out, because most people are out there playing the nine to five game right now and they don't know what's going on. So just give yourself some acknowledgement for that. I want to introduce myself, but first of all, I want to welcome you to the evolution. So before we begin, would you like to be more fulfilled and inspired in your life? Who here is interested in that? Who here is interested in getting out of your head and getting more in your body and making stuff actually happen in your life? Yep. That'd be nice, wouldn't it? So many of us are trapped in our heads for so many different reasons. Our culture is so encouraging us to stay in our heads on a regular basis. So to get out of that is a really big gift and that's what I'm going to try and talk to you guys about today is the principles of intergame that can help you get into your embodiment and really make things happen. And I want you guys to leave your baggage at the door. So what I mean by that is just open your mind, look up preconceptions, look up judgments and give your own mind and your own being the possibility of taking in some new information. Because we've gone a little bit of roller coaster, a bit of a rabbit hole and some of these ideas might be new, they may not be, but either way just take what you can and apply the best you can and then maybe it'll make sense later, maybe we'll get relevant pieces that we'll start to click in with other information as you're going out there. So just keep an open mind. This is me in my James Bond form. I'm a life coach and presenter obviously. I've been working in this field for the last five years. I love focusing and specializing on internal belief systems and looking at transformation, looking at sexuality and empowerment. So I've looked at a lot of different fields and a lot of different aspects of intergame, men's self-development, personal development, spirituality and I really love to bring the best pieces of all those puzzles together. I'll give you a little bit of background on that. I've done typical stuff, hypnosis, NLP, I'm a massage therapist, a body worker, done a lot of meditation, studied a lot of sexology, tantric as well as Western and you know I'm a big believer in holistic health and when I say holistic health I mean looking at the whole big picture, looking at yourself, looking at what really works and making sure you're integrating everything in yourself to be healthy. So it's not just about eating nice food, it's about having good thoughts, it's about being grounded in your body and it's about looking after your health in many different ways. So this is my journey. As a teenager I was a pretty lost kid in a country town, lived in country town New South Wales, wasn't very exciting, used to smoke a lot of weed, play a lot of video games, did the typical stuff that kids do in country towns. It was pretty frustrating and pretty depressing but I guess I had a fire in me that made me question what else is out there and I wanted to go and create something different for myself. So in 1999 I decided that I was going to go and look for some answers and do something different. So I went on a road trip, I went on this big mission up to Queensland at the time and had some big, deeper meaningful moments with myself and questioned the universe. I really put myself out there and asked like what is the point in my life? What's the meaning of my life? What do I really want to create? And it came back to me that I really wanted to bring healing and understanding to myself and to the world around me. So I started studying Chinese medicine, came back to Canberra and that's where I met Mr James Marshall and we still like get up at five in the morning go and do shower in on the hill together, used to go and do Chinese medicine all day and talk about all the details of acupuncture and that was you know a good time in terms of just experiencing a lot of internal change and looking at the holistic thing and you know I thought I was on a really good path. I moved forward with that, I was a massage therapist, I worked for a couple of years in a clinic just healing people but at the same time I always wanted something bigger that was like it was fine working with people's bodies and you know Chinese medicine is amazing but I thought there's got to be something more to this. It's got to be something more to changing people's lives. It's got to be something more to really getting into the core of who people are and I never stopped looking. I was always looking at new things you know I used to do a lot of meditation a lot of a part of sort of meditation as well as just keeping my mind open to anything and everything that I could find that was interesting so I got into NLP at that stage as well and I decided that I wanted to create you know a life as a coach. I wanted to do more life coaching and more transformational work and it was funny because it coincided with me I had a bit of a crash at that time as well I had chronic fatigue come over me so I had to deal with chronic fatigue in my life and that kind of pushed me out of doing physical work with people and it was good in a way because it allowed me to go in and look at what's going on with my thoughts what's going with my energy you know so that in a way that was my my journey my wounded healer journey if you will or my hero's journey which we'll talk about today that started to lead me on this path. So went we're deeply into this self introspection and self transformation and then as well as also started integrating that into my life in new ways as well and I started to take my sex life and my relationship life a lot more seriously and did a lot of healing on myself and then started to really look at you know becoming the best man that I could be and also bringing in really quality women in my life as well and I brought the two worlds together of looking at the into all the internal stuff that I looked at the meditation and you know the self development as well as the sexuality and and the relationship world and that's really been a big focus for me ever since it's been one of my special to specialties and something that I'm really in love with doing. So I joined the natural lifestyles in it was 2007 2008 and so I moved from camera came here to Jamie and since moved to Melbourne to pursue his music career and become a rock star and we came together and then I started to specialize with the natural lifestyles in the inner game department. So really helping guys get deep inside themselves and find the answers and find solutions that would really help them and that's really what I'm going to talk to you guys a bit about today because yeah since then I've made massive transformations in my life just keeps continuing to change as well as you know helping thousands of guys over the last five years through classes you know one on ones any opportunity that I can get to help people. I've traveled the world using this stuff. I've been overseas with Jamie I've done all kinds of amazing things with with doing the coaching work and I've attracted awesome people I've tracked awesome people into my life all the time just surrounded by amazing people and beautiful women wonderful relationships and opportunities and adventures that are just continually unfolding. So a really big piece of the puzzle for you guys to get here is the owning owning what I'm going to be calling inner game is a really big part of the puzzle. So going out there and approaching women going out there and taking action is very important we're going to be talking about that today to some degree but more importantly is about getting your mindsets and your integrity and your alignment correct because when you're in alignment that's when things can really start to hit that flow state. So these days just quickly I see clients you know I run a number of trainings which we'll talk about at the end and yeah I just love to travel and learn and keep on doing this stuff this is my unfolding passion. So let's begin. So what is in a game in a game is about getting your mindsets correct but more than that it's about getting strategies down and starting to move on a path of creating skills inside your life that are going to get you things you want. It's about creating that alignment of internal to external and in my opinion there is no difference between the internal and the external they're all one you can define them in terms of internal and external so that you can work with them but in reality they're just one thing is one big feedback loop. So today I'm going to cover six powerful tips for inner game starting from life as the hero's journey the concept of the hero's journey who's familiar with the hero's journey. Yeah, few people. It's good. And talking about creativity. Why is creativity so important? Why is it important to recognize yourself as a creator? Talking about you are not you think you are because how we think about ourselves defines our realities. And believe it before you can see it. So starting to set up new patterns new possibilities new thoughts and new ways of moving into the world so that you can then attract and create the things you want with a lot more ease and effortlessness. We're going to talk about the seven keys of the creative process which is a very cool tool. So we'll go through seven key steps that you guys can take take home and I recommend you write those steps down and think about them because they're very powerful. And for me it was a big like to see the sequence of these steps. It really fills in a lot of gaps in the personal development and spirituality process. It brings those two worlds together. It's like a nice melding between Eckhart toll and Tony Robbins. And focus dictates reality, which is really where are you going to take this? What are you going to do with this? So the hero's journey is an archetypal story. So if you've ever seen Star Wars or if you've ever seen The Matrix or if you've ever seen any typical hero movie that goes from a character who is stuck in one particular state of mind and typically is kind of uncomfortable in his comfortableness. He wants to change. He wants to create something new. And he gets pushed out of that by either a disaster or he steps out of that willingly because he wants something bigger. He wants an adventure. And this is where the hero's journey begins. And the hero's journey is that process from being basically a dependent childish psychology to an actualized, effective adult in some aspect of your life. And the hero's journey can be like epic. Like some people have massive hero's journeys when it comes to, you know, they may have a big breakdown in their life and they have to rebuild their whole lives. Whereas sometimes we have little hero's journeys on a continual basis as well. It might be a hero's journey to do this week's goals or a hero's journey even just to go to the shops and buy some food. And sometimes the hero's journey is really easy. Sometimes they're challenging. And the important thing to get here is that the hero's journey is universal and we're all on it. And being aware of this hero's journey gives us this psychological backup to know what to expect and to almost be willingly eager to want to step on this journey and to live life as a hero's journey. Because if we don't know what's going on, and I see this, I get this with clients on a regular basis, you know, they're pulling their hair out like, am I crazy? Like, well, do I just think like this? And the truth is, is that most people, I think, as the family of humanity, we're all experiencing the same basic field of emotions. We're all experiencing the same basic environment of possibilities. We all basically want the same stuff. We want to feel good. We don't want to feel bad. We want to feel loved and accepted and appreciated. We don't want to feel rejected and neglected and judged. You know, so everybody's on some variation of a journey to navigate through that field. And there's some, there's some like universal processes that happen with this. And when you see that and you know that, then it just makes you so much stronger, because you start to define yourself as the hero on the journey. You start to define yourself as the man becoming the hero. And in our, in our lifestyles, in this, in our modern sort of society, the idea of the hero's journey has been kind of watered down and commercialized in a big way. So Hollywood movies reproduce it all the time, because it triggers stuff in our brains. Like we, when we see the hero's journey played out on movie screens, we feel really good, because it reminds us, yeah, I want to be a hero. I want to have that thing in my life. I want to be actualized as well. But the thing is, is that it's often really abstracted and really projected outside of ourselves. So we're only allowed to access the hero through a movie screen, you know, behind the glass, you know, behind, behind our TVs, whatever. It's always outside of ourselves. Whereas if you look at cultures of old, what they would often do, or what they did do, a very big part of their culture, was encouraging the people in their culture to step into the role of the hero. And that's why myths were so important and initiation rights were so important. And cultural celebrations were set up in such a way where people would go through mythological journeys and relate themselves directly to the characters. So they became the heroes, and then they own those energies inside themselves. And you guys are doing that by being here today, to some degree. You're stepping into the role of deciding to really own change, deciding to own transformation, and really get the steps integrated inside yourself so that you can become that hero on a daily basis. And it's a universal thing that you see over and over again, that extraordinary people in any field, doesn't matter what field, they're connected with something bigger than themselves. They're doing what they do because they love it. But the reason that they also love it is because it serves something bigger than them and they're serving something bigger than themselves. So it's a feedback with a positive energy that gets created from being on this journey of transformation and creating and being involved in something bigger than themselves. So when it comes to your journey as men and your journey as heroes, then you've got to start to think about what's the bigger picture that you're serving? What are you really creating? And what are you tapping into? And when you think about it in terms of evolving as a man and becoming something greater than you've ever been before, that's really a contribution to the whole pool of humanity. That's taking care of your own backyard. And that is something to be proud of. It's something to pat yourself on the back for and it's something to really show up for on a daily base and do as well. So as I said before, when we know the hero's journey is happening, then it gives us the preparation to be able to face the challenges. And it shows that we are always experiencing hero's journeys in different ways. It's a universal principle and you're going to see it popping up in your life more and more and more. And what I mean by that is you're going to face challenges. You're going to need to grow beyond those challenges. Then there's going to be a sense of fear about stepping beyond your comfort zone. Then there's going to be a desire to want to go back into your comfort zone. But you can't go back into your comfort zone because you already know there's a bigger world out there. So what are you going to do? Live uncomfortably in comfort or step up and make changes. And when you step out into that unknown world, then you're in a no-man's land for a little while. I don't know what to do, what new skills. I don't know. It can be really scary. You might need to create new allies, new friends, new possibilities. You have to find the resources inside yourself to believe in yourself to create the changes. And then what happens is when you create those resources inside yourself, which we'll talk about today, then you start to attract people into your life that are reflective of that. You start to attract situations, circumstances, information, and things that resonate with your internal resources and your internal sense of heroism that's happening. Now this isn't to say that you won't face challenges. Challenges are going to show up. And the trippy thing is that you are asking for those challenges on some level because that's what we're all here for. If we don't face challenge, we don't grow. Just like a baby needs to fall over to learn how to walk. If you look after a baby and you make sure the baby never falls over, it never gets to learn important things like balance. It never gets to learn about how to deal with pain. It never gets to learn how to deal with how to actually live in the body properly. And it's the exact same thing in our lives. We live in this life where we've been mollycoddled by our society so much. And we live in so much fear of really going out there and being free that it's just becoming this stifled, stagnant way of being. So own your hero's journey and go beyond what you've been told you can be. And we'll talk about that today as well. Now this is all of us. All of us are on the hero's journey. And maybe it's a big universal thing. We're all experiencing it as one. But own your part of it. And the more you do it, I'm sure you've noticed. Every time you step up and you do something with passion in your life or you do something with certainty and you face challenges and you grow through it, you start shining light in the world around you. Other people will get encouraged and feel positive about it as well. Every time you have a breakthrough, it gives people certainty and empowerment to then make breakthroughs for themselves. So you start giving good energy to the world. You start encouraging things to move forwards and upwards rather than backwards and downwards, which is what happens when people think about their fears and their doubts. So the responsibility to create the change inside your life is your own. No one else can do what for you. So you're here on this weekend to learn information, you know, to see presenters to get good stuff, which is good. And we can give you cues and we can give you doorways and we can give you possibilities to move along new, what's the word, new directions, new possibilities. But at the end of the day, it's got to be you that owns it that says, yep, I want to make the changes for myself. I want to create these changes inside who I am and what I want to be because you're driving the bus. And that can be a really difficult thing to own sometimes. And that's got to do with that hero's journey I was just talking about because the childish part of ourselves doesn't want to drive the bus. It wants someone else to drive the bus. It doesn't want to be responsible. And our society loves to take the responsibility away from us. Because if we're not responsible for driving our bus, then someone else can just sort of direct their lives for us. And it happens a lot. So the more you take responsibility for driving your own bus, the more that you own your your ability to create the life you want, you conversely get to step out of the forces that are manipulating your life. Because there's this statement here, the degree that you reject or your unconscious of your empowerment is the degree to which you're going to be influenced by external forces. And if you look at self-actualized people, as in people that have a sense of empowerment and a sense of completion in certain areas of their lives, one of the defining factors is that they have a really powerful ability to own their own influence and change inside their own life. They're not living as victims of the world. They're living as creators inside the world. Which brings me to my next point. We are all creative beings that can change the world. So we are a really weird species. Human beings are a very strange thing. We're the only species on the planet that can conceptualize things and think of things and then manifest them into reality. Like you look at all this stuff around you now, everything that you see started in someone's mind as a concept. From concept, you know, came into thought, became planned, came through emotions, came through actions, was communicated, and through a process was manifested. No other species on the planet can do that. Not to the degree that we do it anyway. So that is an amazing skill, something very special to acknowledge inside yourself. And we take it for granted. And that's a shame because, you know, we're basically like God's manifest. So we can use this ability to shape ourselves as well. And that's even weirder. We can take our ability to create and change the world around us and start to turn it into ourselves to shape and shift who we are and what we want to be and how we want to live our lives. And this is fundamental to in a game, like the whole process of in a game because in a game is a really big field, a lot of different aspects to it. But if the fundamental rule that you take is that you are changing, you are creator and you get to change your reality and that you can learn how to do that through owning these different principles, then the world becomes a very open and free place. There's a lot of possibilities that you can explore. And we all collectively come together and create these experiences together. So right now, we're collectively coming together to create the experience of the 21 convention. You walk outside and people are collectively creating the experience of Melbourne City. There's people collectively creating experiences of all kinds of things in their lives all the time. So when we understand that, then we can start to see that we're taking part in a story, a big story that's going on. And a lot of that story is actually based on previous preconceived regurgitated ideas, like memes or just passed down philosophies and ideas that have come from ancestral culture. So lots of things that don't really serve us get carried in our lives all the time. We carry a lot of redundant thoughts and belief systems about old previous religious ideals. Moralisms that don't necessarily have to exist, shame and guilt about being a sexual man, for example, or fear of being empowered in ourselves. Because we wouldn't want to have our own power. That would be really scary. We might be hurting somebody or doing something wrong. Ideas about wealth creation and power as well. Like there's a lot of manipulation or not even manipulation. There's a lot of old ideas that no longer serve us that are manipulating us that we've picked up probably from becoming maybe ancestral lineages of working class that life needs to be hard, that it's not easy to make things happen. Or conversely, some people have issues with money because they come from wealthy ancestral backgrounds. And then they're worried about people taking their power away or worried about being judged for being too wealthy. So it's like we can't win with these things sometimes because these stories can really cripple us. And to the degree that we're unconscious of them, they're creating our lives. So these stories of who we think we are, just unconsciously keep creating our lives on a daily basis unless we bring awareness and consciousness into them. So I'll talk to you about that in a moment. So really, one of our greatest tasks in life is to look at what is no longer relevant and how can we update it with awareness? How can we choose different programs? How can we choose different different options, possibilities, directions and freedom in our lives? These are some examples. You know, romantic ideals. That's a big one I wanted to talk about. Like the idea of like this Disneyland fantasy of finding the perfect partner that someone's going to complete you that will make you happy. This thing outside yourself that is this this golden illusion of this perfect woman that is going to make your heart complete. Doesn't exist. And even if it did exist, if it could create it because we can create illusions and we can step into them for a short period of time, it's going to get taken away at some stage. And when it does, we have a big crash. Everything becomes hell. So if you see it as a romantic illusion, then you can see it for what it is and you can experience golden moments with women and you can have amazing fantasies together. You can recognize that this is just a fantasy as well and that you can you can claim your empowerment and your completeness inside yourself. So you're not dependent on her outside yourself. You're not dependent on the relationship. You're not dependent on on needing a relationship and trying to fulfill this idealistic romantic ideal which has been passed down from our ancestry and projected onto us by media, et cetera. We've talked about, you know, the fear of wealth creation and social rules is another one as well. So we're going to see this. You guys to see this a lot. If you guys are out there wanting to evolve your lives and wanting to change and transform, particularly when it comes to developing social skills and approaching women, you come up against all the old rules around. So you can't talk to strangers. That's bad. Don't just you can't just go and say hello to somebody that might feel awkward and then they might feel offended or you might be disrupting their time. Yep. Where those ideas come from? It's all these old little robotic programs that we picked up along the way. So you've got to actively see them and choose to not live by them if they no longer serve you. So there's morphias for us. So now we're going to look at the self. What's going on with this self? So we've looked at the hero's journey. You guys are on a hero's journey. We've looked at your creative beings. You create your lives and you're responsible for that. And if you don't, you're basically going to be under the influence of old redundant thought forms and ways of being that are just around you and in you all the time anyway. And the last thing, sorry, the next thing I want to talk about is looking at what is yourself? You are not yourself. This is something I do a lot of contemplation on a regular basis. It's a very slippery thing and I really love to get my mind into the ideas of it and also then experience my mind not being involved with it as well, which we'll give you guys an experience of in a moment. Is that one way of looking at the concept of ourselves is that we are not a self. We have a self. Yeah, and this is thrown around a lot in the ideas of awareness and presence and things like that. And the truth is, you are not only your mind. We'll test that in a moment. There's something more elusive and powerful going on behind the mind. And it's a very, very powerful thing to be connected with. It taps us into intuition. It taps us into our hearts. It taps us into our embodiment. It taps us into the environment around us. And the mind is operating within us to serve us, but it is not the totality of our being as much as we live in it so much in our society. So we'll do a little exercise now. Just close your eyes for a moment and I want you guys to ask yourself a few questions and we'll just explore what is this concept of self? So begin with the question, what is myself? What evidence do I have of myself? Where does my self exist? And have a real look. Not just with your mind, like don't just go to the straight, the first mental answer that pops up. Like really look and feel what is myself, where is myself? And you may notice there's something, there's a bit of an expansion going on. You may notice that there's a search for something. Ideas can pop up to the mind and you can really ask them as well. You know, what is the next step? Like, is the self the mind? Is the self the body? Is it some combination of those things? Is it something else? Now ask the next question. The next question is, what is this concept of self that you're experiencing happening within? So what I mean by that is what is outside of your mind? What do you sense is beyond your mind? Another question you can ask is what is behind my mind? Who is the me that is behind my mind? Sounds a bit funny, doesn't it? Just being present with that. And you'll find that there is presence there, there's awareness, there's something subtle happening there in the background. But it's not thoughts. So it's another good question to ask yourself, who am I when I'm not thinking? What is there when I'm not thinking? Then you'll find presence, awareness, something elusive. Something there, it definitely has an awareness. And keep that with you, you open your eyes, but keep that with you and keep awareness around that part of yourself. Because that thing, that expanded awareness state, is surrounding your mind, your thoughts, your emotions, everything that you think you are. And the interesting thing is is that we walk around in our mind, like our minds are very amazing things. Like as soon as we focus on something and we define ourselves by that thing, we instantly become that, it becomes our reality. So as soon as we define ourselves as a personality, as a name, or as a goal, or as a title, or as a bunch of material stuff, or as a relationship, bang, it instantly starts to become exactly what we think we are. And one of the hardest things to deal with in life is that everything in the world changes, constantly. There is nothing that's permanent. So the moment that we start to define ourselves by something, it becomes really frustrating when it changes. It becomes really frustrating when it keeps transforming. So how can we deal with that? What do you do to deal with that? Now my solution, or it's not my solution, the solution that has been presented to humanity for thousands of years by wise people is send to yourself in presence and awareness, because that does not change. Send to yourself in presence and awareness and then you can observe change and you can become more capable of creating change from a place of centered calmness and balance. And the deeper you go into that presence, we just touched it for a few moments. The deeper you go into that presence and awareness, the more addictive it becomes. And the more addictive it becomes, the deeper you go into it. And the deeper you go into it, the more everything that you create from yourself is coming from a mysterious, beautiful and very present place. And guidance starts to show up, embodiment starts to show up. Intuition, presence, very powerful things will start to happen in your life. And it's effortless. This is a really nice gift to give yourself these days, so many reasons. Because we are in these lives trying to struggle to get things all the time, trying to sort all these things, trying to spin all these plates, trying to be all these things to ourselves. And when you sit in presence, you learn to find the core of what you really are. And you learn to really sit in that place and it starts to nourish and heal the parts of you that have forgotten that. And also what happens is you just get stronger, physically stronger, mentally stronger, energetically stronger. And your capacity and ability to be able to make things happen in your life is so much more easy. And also the things that no longer serve you will automatically start to fall away when you send to yourself in that presence. Because that presence has intelligence. So we explore a little bit more as we go. So this is one of the most astounding things to really get on a deep level. Because we are transformational beings. There is nothing permanent inside you except for your presence. When you align your awareness with your heart and with your actions and with your mind, all these parts of yourself working together as one, it's like that's when you're on fire. It's when you make things happen. And it's got to start from presence and awareness in my opinion. Once you get that piece, everything else can flow. Because if you're not present, you're not aware. How can you really make anything happen? So getting present is key, rule number one. So who here is interested in taking this presence into intending your life a lot more deeper? You would like to have the ability to be a Jedi. Yeah, this is the entry level of this stuff. This is really owning your presence and awareness to create what you want. So this leads me to my next point. You've got to believe it before you see it. So if you look at life's a hero's journey, you're a creator, you are not what you think you are. You're this amazing presence that's doing its thing. The next thing is how do you then orchestrate and create? How do you build new patterns in your life on the inside so that you can go out and create things on the outside? How do you create the world you want to live in so that you will see that reflected back to you? So to retract something into your life starts with conceptualizing it and feeling worthy of it because we only ever have things in our lives that we have value on. And that can be both good and bad. If you have a value on being depressed, you'll do it. If you have a value on being happy, you'll do it. So the question is, what are you conceptualizing on a regular basis? What are you thinking about? What are you investing your thoughts into? And what are you investing your feelings into? Because if you look at thoughts and you look at feelings, they're like the masculine and the feminine of our experience. Thoughts are the masculine, feelings are the feminine. When they come together, they have a baby and that's our experience. Yeah. So we want to learn to adjust and work with them together as one. We want to make them lovers. We want to turn them into a beautiful couple because when they're not working together, the head tries to kill the heart. And the heart tries to overwhelm the head. And if you're not aligned, you'll experience overwhelming feelings and you can't sort them out with your head as much as you try because it's all just an emotional roller coaster. Or you'll be so stuck in your head that everything's just dry and cut and very logical and you can't feel anything anymore. Maybe you'll be like spinning from one end of the spectrum to the other. And finding that balance point is really key. So we'll look at that, we'll look at how we can bring those two things together. So if you want to create abundance, if you want to create love, if you want to create freedom in your life, then where is that inside you? Where does that live inside you? If you don't have it in you, then how can you have it outside of you? And as much as you try, and I say this so many times over and over again with clients and things that we work with, is like so much of the work that I do and that we do is to give guys new patterns and new energies and new concepts and new possibilities so then they can create it in their lives. And there is action steps for sure, but it's really about owning the energy and owning the possibility inside themselves first. And it's probably one of the most fundamental things. If you can define something for yourself and commit to it and say, yep, this is me, this is who I am, this is what I commit to 100%, that's when magic starts to happen. So let's look at how we can do that. So when we're creating our realities with our thoughts and with our feelings, it can be really difficult to see outside of them sometimes. We get lost in our thoughts and our feelings. And it's really easy to think that our world is everybody's world. It's really easy to think that my thoughts are completely justified so therefore everybody must be thinking the same thing. This is our war start. People getting really self-righteous and committed to their thoughts and feelings, the illusions of what they think they are and then getting lost in the negativity of that, getting lost in the dark side of that and not being aware of seeing it as a bubble and seeing how is that bubble really serving them and others? How is that bubble working as a creative manifestation of their presence? So we gotta learn to see outside of our bubbles and have a bit of compassion for ourselves and for others. And that's where that presence thing comes in again. It's been a big, huge thing for me and I've seen it over again. You see it all over the place is that when people get present, they start to have more compassion. They start to realize is like, oh shit, my story is really very similar to everybody else's story. And the things that I love and desire and really want, are really similar to everybody else's things that they desire and love and want. And if we're all basically one presence behind our eyes, then maybe we should start working together. Or maybe if I give some good energy to somebody else, I'm actually giving good energy back to myself. Because in giving good energy to somebody else to live their story and live their dreams, we automatically start to get good energy back for ourselves. We start to give ourselves permission to create our own dreams more as well. So this becomes a feedback of giving yourself permission by believing it before you see it. And if you think of things that you've done in your past that you've created, I'll guarantee you if it's something that you've dedicatedly done, like a skill that you've developed or an experience that you've actively gone out to create, you've had to think of it first. You've had to go through this process. You had to go through the thought, the feeling, the integration, and then the action. And this is universal, universal process. You see it the world over. You can add all kinds of extra baggage to it. You could put spiritual stuff around it. You could put personal development stuff around it. You could put artistic stuff around it. It's the same process. Yep, so it doesn't matter which way you look at it. The basic thing you're looking at here is our ability to create and transmute energy from concept into manifest reality through this process. So let's look at that. So first things first, knowing your outcome. So knowing your outcome is important because it directs our focus and our attention. It starts to direct what we're doing. It starts to align our thoughts and our feelings. So what is it that you wanna give yourself? What do you wanna create? And my recommendation is when you wanna create stuff, make sure it's something that really gives you bliss. Make sure it's something that actually makes you happy on your heart level. Not just something that you're gonna get validation for. Or not something that is gonna give you some short-term gratification. Because even if you put all this energy and effort into creating it, then at the end of the day, it's not really gonna be that fulfilling. So define worthy outcomes. Define something that's really big and juicy for yourself. Something that you'd really like to commit to creating. So do that now. Just want everybody to go through this process. Just think about something that you'd like to create. Maybe just for this weekend. What's something you'd like to create as an outcome for this weekend? Who would you like to be when you leave this weekend? In the next few days in front of you. And the next question, which I think is a very powerful one when creating, is who does it serve? When you see yourself having that outcome, who else benefits from having that outcome? And how is that a gift to the world? Don't really think about that for a moment. Who's gonna benefit? Family, friends, girls, people on the street, workmates, who else? Anyone else? Because when we tap into a bigger vision of how we serve others, we get energy from that. We feel a really strong sense of empowerment to move forward. And this is a huge thing that I see in the whole pickup world, is a lot of guys are going out trying to get all the time. They're trying to get, like, I just, if I can just get numbers, if I can just get kisses, if I can just get sex, if I can just get a girlfriend, I'll be good. I'll be happy. I'll have validated myself. And this doesn't work. Why doesn't it work? Doesn't work because it's based on getting. It's based on lack, based on fear of not having. If you flip it the other way, and you start to think in terms of what awesome things can I bring into these girls' life? How can I be a romantic adventurer? How can I give her great experiences? How can I create amazing moments together? How can we share seduction together? How can we share energy? What amazing moments can we create together? What amazing moments can I create for somebody else in their day? Very different energy. Very different energy. And so I see it, like a lot of guys have a lot of freakouts about going out there and approaching people and really making these skills real when they're doing the personal development through the seduction industry stuff. And I think the reason they have so much trouble is because it's not ecologically viable to be wanting to take from people around them. And they intuitively get that. They feel this sense of guilt and fear around it. So if they flip it to be a positive thing and how they're giving the world, then all of a sudden it's like, oh, okay, they're a good guy. They're not a bad guy. They're a good guy. They're bringing good things to the world. And there's nothing to be guilty about for that. Even if someone rejects you or even if somebody isn't interested, it doesn't matter. All you did was give good energy. And in giving good energy, you still get to experience the good energy. So you win. Worst case scenario is you give some good energy out to the world. Best case scenario is you give good energy out to the world. Somebody else takes it and then feeds good energy back to you and you start this reciprocal relationship of positive good energy. So how does it serve others? How can you gear your outcomes and your creations and the things that you want to do to serve others? So you're giving good energy out to the world. What's the gift? The next one is connect with the feelings of having it now. This is where it gets a little bit funky. So just close your eyes and think about that outcome that you originally thought of. Close your eyes and just go in and feel what it's like to be standing in yourself as if you had it now. Looking out of your eyes, having it, seeing, hearing, feeling as if you were there right now. And as you step into it, notice that when you visualize and you go into it, you start to experience emotional patterns inside your body. You start to experience energetic changes. And this is key because we have to become the person that's deserving of the thing we want before we can have it. So this is how we do it. Step into the thing you want. Feel the energy. See what you see here, what you hear, feel what you feel. Notice where do the feelings in your body move? Where are they located? Are they expansive or are they contractive? Are they heavy or are they light? What color are they if you give them the color? What kinds of thoughts do you have when you're in that energy? What kinds of feelings do you give yourself permission to feel when you're in that energy? And by owning that, staying in that state now, I want you guys to just keep holding on to that. We'll move on to the next step because this is where it gets important to really have this energy. So you know what it's gonna be like. Feels good. Something you committed to. You know it's gonna serve others and it's something that's for the benefit of yourself on a higher level. When you're connected with that, then we move on to the next one which is what are the fears and distractions that might try and take you out? So keep feeling that energy and start to think about what are some of the things that would normally take you out? So fears, procrastination, doubt, judgment or even what are some of the positives that might take you out? Maybe getting arrogant or distracted or forgetting about other important things in your life and getting imbalanced and keep holding that original state energy that we were just cultivating a moment ago and just feel those distractions trying to come in but just like, just getting bounced off because you'll find that when you're in resonance with the thing that you really want that the distractions and the fears, they can't really get to you and in a way they become your trainers. So when the distractions and the fears show up it's like, cool, that thing's reminding me to be in my state. That thing's reminding me, what do I want again? Who am I serving? How does that feel on my body? That's right, I'm committed to that. I'm committed to being a better man. I'm committed to creating an awesome business. I'm committed to creating a free life for myself. I'm committed to being a good lover. I'm committed to being a good friend or whatever it is that you choose to be. And that's when you start to build integrity and strength and all kinds of very powerful in the game things. And you can practice that. Like when I do work with people, what we can do is like you can have people whisper in their ears all the evil shit that they like to think to themselves and they just hold that state and they just be in it and then it just helps them kind of cycle that energy through their bodies. You can have them whisper in the other ear all the good stuff they like to delude themselves about as well. And the point to that is learning to live in balance between those two extreme forces. Because everything's duality. Life is duality. You're always gonna have challenges and you're always gonna have victories and you don't want either of them to get to knock you off. And that's once again where presence comes in because presence is just neutral. It's balanced. That doesn't mean you're a vegetable. It means you can adjust as those energies come and go. So a little bit too much heaviness comes in. Okay, you just move that darkness out a little bit. A little bit too much excitement and mania comes in just move that out and balance it out. So then you can just be constantly directing your life from moment to moment. Moving towards your goals. Next one is where are you at now? So what's the gap? Where are you at right now compared to where you wanna be with your outcome? Does it feel achievable? Does it feel easier? Because there's a thing called creative tension. So when we set ourselves an outcome and we wanna create an outcome and we're in the present moment, there's a vacuum that stands between us and where we wanna be. And if that tension is manageable, it's healthy, then we'll be able to close it. We'll be able to move through it. And that's why it's important to set small digestible goals that are easy and inspiring for us. Because then we create the tension, we close the tension. We create the tension, we close the tension. If we create goals that are too big or that are too overwhelming for some reason, then the tension is so great that we can't make the quantum leap to make it happen. So we'll just unconsciously sabotage it. And then we start to feel guilty about our ability to create goals when we start to doubt that we're creative, we start to doubt that we're potentially powerful in being able to do what we wanna do in our lives and it becomes a negative feedback loop. So know where you're at and make sure that the tension between where you're at now and where you wanna be is manageable. And that leads us to the next one. And this just intuitively arises. The next step is, what's your next immediate steps? What can you do? What can you do right now? And typically the best thing to do is stay in state. Keep that state flowing. Keep that energy going. And also then asking, what's my next action? What do I need to do? Do I need to talk to somebody? Do I need to make a phone call? Do I need to go for a walk and do something? Do I need to take an action to create something? Write an idea down? Or do I just need to stay present and keep holding that energy? Because when we hold the patterns of energy inside ourselves, it starts to reflect very powerful changes inside of us. It starts to consolidate. And then as a result, because we give ourselves permission with that energy inside of us, then we can go out and create the things in our lives. We can't create anything in the outside world that we don't already have the pattern for inside of ourselves. If we don't have a pattern for wealth, then how can we create wealth? If we don't have a pattern for attraction, how can we create attraction? If you don't have a pattern for charisma, how can you be charismatic? And I'm sure you guys have noticed. Have you ever noticed that if you've really found something that you really loved and you've done it for a continual basis, like you've thought about it and felt it and it was something that maybe it was like fitness or maybe it was business stuff, or maybe it was some passion of some kind. And very quickly, probably within a few weeks, people started to really see you as that person or relate to you as if you were that person. Even though you might still be an amateur, but people were like, wow, you're such a fit dude. Even they're like, well, I've only been to the gym like a couple of dozen times, but, you know, but the energy and the state and the pattern of who you are and what you're doing starts to become ingrained in who you are. And the world sees it and recognizes it. And this goes for negative stuff as well. This is why it's really important to recognize this in terms of negatives because you can be running negative shit in your mind. I'm not enough. I'm not enough to have, you know, I'm feeling those doubts and fears. And then that's the same energies. People see that and pick that up and the world's gonna reflect that back to you as well. So you gotta own what you're creating and build the patterns on a continual basis for asking these questions. So after you've done that, the last one is check in. Check in, where are you at with it? You know, you don't have to do that every single moment, but you know, you wanna check in on a regular basis. Where are you at with your goal? What's the next step? You know, do you need to make some adjustments? What's the feedback you're getting? Do you're making successful steps forward? Does something need to be adjusted? Do you need to look at your mindset? Do you need to look at a strategy? Do you need to look at skill building? You know, where can you do that? Can you find a mentor? Can you find information? Can you do something that can help you increase your capacity to make that goal real? And it works. That's why I'm teaching you guys this stuff. You know, so if you follow those seven steps which we go through again. So know your outcome. Who does your creation serve? How does it feel to have it? What are the thoughts, the feelings and the energies? What are the positives and negatives? What's the duality you're gonna have to deal with when you make that goal a reality? When you go towards and move it and start to create it, when you go towards creating it in your life. Where are you at now? And what's your next immediate step? And finally, accommodate feedback and change and being aware of what's the next thing you need to do? How can you be evolving? How can you be growing and making sure you're staying on track? So it's fundamental stuff. This is really important fundamental intergame stuff to get, right? Get present. Start to create. Which brings me to creative imagination. So the next thing is like imagination, such a powerful gift. Imagination is the key thing that we use every single day of our lives to predict and create the next steps for our lives. I mean, whether it's like thinking of what we're gonna have for lunch today or visualizing how you're gonna get home or it's thinking about your ideal partner or how you're gonna live in a mansion someday or whatever it is that you have, we can create little things and big things that we do with our imaginations all the time. And we use it to explore our desires. We use our imaginations to explore possible futures. We use our imaginations to explore maybe things we wanna own or different things. We can try it on before, we can try before we buy. It's a really powerful thing. The imagination can be a funny thing though because it has two sides to it. The imagination has the dark side as well. If we feed our imaginations fears and doubts, images of how we could get rejected or how we could get blown out or fail at the thing we wanna do, then we start basically cursing ourselves. We start taking our energy away from ourselves with our imagination. We're using our very creative abilities to become victims of our realities. And the same thing in terms of obviously if we're feeding images of what we wanna be, what's the next step, how we wanna create our lives. And this is training, I mean, this is where you gotta learn how to control your mind. This presence is really good too. You learn to meditate, watch your mind, not believe in your mind's bullshit anymore. And encourage your mind to kind of create the kinds of directions and things that you really wanna have in your life. And it doesn't matter whether we're coming from the positives or the negatives in our imaginations, that's gonna tone our realities. Our reality's gonna be a direct reflection of that. And it's about choosing what do we wanna experience? Which do you wanna believe in? And in my opinion, it's fucking stupid to feed your mind bad things. If you've got a quantum supercomputer that's manifesting your reality all the time, why would you put bad programming into it? Why would you tell it, I'm stupid, I'm not attractive, I'm not good enough, women don't like me, I can't have my dreams, I don't deserve wealth, I don't like my body. You know, those kinds of thoughts. So if you notice yourself doing that stuff, stop it. Don't give it energy. Don't get into conflict about those thoughts, just don't give them energy. Just see it as like a whiny friend you're like, not interested, I don't wanna talk about that conversation. Thanks for the input, but I'm gonna redirect, we're gonna create something different now. You're gonna invite things into yourself, into the part of you that creates your self-fulfilling prophecies, then invite blessings, invite understanding, invite growth, invite meaningfulness. Why don't start to tell yourself stories of becoming an exponentially powerful being? And that's what, if you look at esoteric sciences, if you look at what meditational people really do, they start to create these feedback loops in their being of becoming ever more evolved and higher level beings. And that's why they're so bloody happy, because they're just complete in themselves, and they just keep feeding that completeness back into themselves, and they can just get deeper and deeper into that powerful state. So why would you need anything outside yourself when you're like that? Everything's a bonus from there. Then you can go out and you can have what you want in the world, and also be complete. And I think you can be out of the world and be in the world, it's a tough path that you can be that. And I think it's a really good balance to start to create inside yourself, have the capacity to be able to invite these things inside yourself, and to see the mind as a mechanism, see the imagination and the character of who you are, your ego, your identity, who you think you are, how you're living in the world, as basically just a character, something you're creating, because it's changing all the time. You're not the same person you were when you were five years old. You're not the same person you were 10 years old. Different values, different goals, different body, different mind, different everything. You're probably not even the same person you were half an hour ago. Subtle changes, always happening. So you start to realize that, and it's like the thoughts you had yesterday become the reality today. Thoughts you have today, and I would say thoughts and feelings you have today, become the reality of tomorrow. So be kind to yourself. Stop being shit to yourself. Do your own best friend. Nudge yourself towards passion, happiness, integrity. So juice yourself first. So juice yourself into your own free, open possibilities and potentials. Pay ultimate respect to yourself, because you are like an amazing creative being. An amazing creative being. You take it for granted. And it's one of those things of acknowledgement. When you acknowledge your creative potential, when you acknowledge your power, not from a selfish place or from the egotistical place, you just acknowledge the truth of what you are, the truth of what you are gets stronger. The truth of who you're being becomes more real. The presence becomes more evident. So let go of images and fantasies. Let go of identities and expectations and things that aren't in harmony with the highest expectations of yourself, with your highest heart, with your highest way of being, your highest potentials and goals. Then create and cultivate ideas and possibilities that are gonna take you towards what you really wanna create. Get in alignment. Get your head and your heart and actions and your presence in alignment. Which brings me to focus dictates reality. At the end of the day, this is all about where you're putting your mind. How are you choosing to use your mind? How are you choosing to focus your emotions? How are you choosing to focus your thoughts? So if you think about it, think of something shit that happened in your life in the past. Something that you were unhappy about. Maybe, you know, who knows? Just something that was negative and harsh. And just take a moment to step into that. See what you saw, hear what you heard, feel what you felt as if you were there now. Take on the emotions of being in that experience. You're really holding that inside yourself. How do you feel about yourself when you're in that state? How do you feel about your future? Does your future look bright or dim? What kinds of possibilities do you think you'd be available to being outgoing and creating new possibilities and making things happen? Probably not. So let's flip it. Take a deep breath. Let go of all that crap. All right, now when you think about something really positive that happened in your life, the time when you had some really good acknowledgement, a success, or maybe a moment with a lover, or something you did that we really felt like you were in your power. And same thing, see what you saw, hear what you heard, feel what you felt as if you were there right now. Feel that energy start to swell through your body. Feel it spinning, going stronger, brighter, clearer, more and more grounded, more and more present right here right now, as if you were 100% running that energy. And then from that place, how does your future look? A bit brighter, a bit more possible, a bit more free, a bit happier. How do you feel about yourself and your potentials? Who you are and what you could do. Big difference, eh? Big difference between those two states and that was just 30 seconds of checking out a slightly different energy. So you think about focused dictates reality and there's so many things vying for our attention in our world all the time. Things trying to push and pull us and take our energies in different directions. Because focus does dictate reality. So if someone can get a little bit of your focus, then you're creating the reality that they want to create. Instead of that, ask what reality do you wanna create? What kind of world do you wanna live in? What kind of people do you wanna surround yourself with? What kind of experiences do you wanna have in your life? What kind of legacies do you wanna leave? You know, if you are gonna have kids or for the kids in the future, what kind of world do you wanna create for them? Because we're all playing a part of that game. That's a really big piece of the puzzle to own. So what the thinker thinks, the prover proves. The information, the input that we put into here, the feelings that we create, we'll prove it to ourselves. We'll prove it to ourselves, it becomes our reality. So I'll leave you on that note. The thinker thinks, the prover proves. You're really holding that inside yourself and feeling the truth of that and test it out. Start thinking and feeling good feelings and seeing what can happen. See what happens when you believe you can attract random money out of thin air. See what happens when you believe you're a charismatic, sexy man and women could wanna bring you into their lives. See what happens when you visualize yourself as being free and being able to do what you really want. What the thinker thinks, the prover proves. So with that, I'll thank you gentlemen for your attention and I won't put too many questions in the next few minutes. If there's anything I wanna ask. Jay, did you wanna talk about kind of how people can contact you and that sort of stuff too? Yep, okay, we'll do that. So I do a number of things. I obviously do inter-game coaching, which is one-on-one stuff. I work with the Natural Lifestyles. We have an amazing lifestyle overhaul class called the Masterclass Revolution which is six weeks of just transforming every aspect of your life. We do that in Melbourne here. It's about 50% inter-game, 50% out-of-game. So you get a whole range of really cool skills and things. You can check that out at masterclassrevolution.com. All the information on that website is there. Also, I have another training that I do called the Way of the Black Dragon, which is a secret ninja training that happens underground in our missile base. But it's a men's lifestyle transformation weekend or double weekend and we go through learning how to have the masculine psychology of the warrior, how to be a powerful lover. So learning tantric techniques and how to be an amazing lover as well as how to open yourself to very powerful levels of intuition, feeling, and expression. Now, also learn about the king, you know, how to create the lifestyle that you really want, your bigger plan, your contribution, and building a kingdom for yourself. And then we train being a magician, thinking outside the box, learning to wield the force. Cool, questions? Great speech, man, again, resonates a lot. Cheers, brother. A lot of the things you talk about has been, a lot of the thoughts have been having the last couple of months. It's good to see that I think I'm on the right path for seeing how I stand in mature and I feel like you guys are down the journey. So part of what you're saying, man, was like when you're striving for like abundance, also abundance, first cultivate, like condition the mindsets and the behaviors, start resonating at the frequency of abundance. Moving forward, you'll attract the opportunities and the people who'll move you into it. So there's that Tony Robbins concept of doing like morning rituals to resonate, to engage your state and resonate at a high frequency daily. So you resonate towards abundance. So what was your take on that, man? Was that something you did earlier in your journey? Yeah, I do morning rituals. I think morning rituals are great. I think you've got to accommodate them to your lifestyle and what suits you. Yeah, it's a matter of taste. Like the Tony Robbins stuff, I think has a lot of great content in it. It just depends on your personality style. Some people love the rah-rah sort of personal development thing, which is good. Yeah, I tend to like to do internal meditational stuff and also physical movement with things like qigong and I have my own form of dragon yoga stuff that I do, which is like an energetic practice. But yeah, that's stuff that I've developed over time. So find what works for you and just keep looking and looking at different exciting stuff until you find something that really resonates. Thanks a lot, man. You're welcome. Yeah, thanks, Shay. That was a really good talk. Yeah, my question is in regards to being your creator and you have an idea and you get this burst of energy that this is something you want to bring to your life. And I guess everyone knows what that feeling is like. When you have an idea and say, yes, I really want this, I want to work towards it. But my question is more that I sometimes get overwhelmed with having too many things that I want to do. Like I could have flashes of inspiration about what I can do career-wise and what I can do personal development-wise, what I can do, like I've got two kids as well. What can I do for them? Oh, I could take them this fantastic holiday and I get these buzzes of energy and I need to step into action. But I just feel I get overwhelmed. And I think this question also is really good for this weekend because I know I'm going to experience that over the next few days and have all these amazing ideas. What do you do when you just get overwhelmed with all these different goals that you want to achieve? All the cool stuff in the world to do. Yeah, it's like choice paralysis, right? We have a lot of choice paralysis in our world because we're so abundantly overwhelmed by awesome possibilities. I think a good way to look at that is work out what really makes you happy. What is it that gives you the most energy when you do it? What is it that makes you feel most complete and whole in yourself when you do it? And start to create priority of time for those things to come into your life. Ideally we'd like to be everything to everybody and be your masters of the universe but we can only do certain things at a certain time. Another thing that I like to do as well is start to get strategic with what you're doing. So if you want to learn a new skill, for example, just map it out, map out why you want to learn that skill, what the components of that skill are and then just dedicate some time to it because it's more effective. If you do three hours of a skill for a month, for example, then that's going to be way better than doing half an hour of that skill for one day for the next 10 years because you'll put so much more energy into it and consolidate it, you'll get a much more effective result out of it. So a lot of it with the time management or I wouldn't even say time management because it's a bit of a not really useful word but more in terms of being effective with your creations and your energies and things like that, I think it's really important to just focus on one thing at a time and be present with that thing and get the energy from that thing and make sure you're focusing on the things that are going to give you the happiness, the things that are going to give you the fulfillment. And if you're not sure what those things are, then that's where to start first. What is it that gives you fulfillment? What's valuable to you? Where do you really get your juice from when you do those things? Does that make sense? Yeah, cool. Guys, let's give it up for Shay Matthews. Awesome speech. Awesome.