 Alright, let's get started. Me and you have it a little bit of a conversation. So, I made the video discussing why I haven't been talking about Trisha Paytas on my channel. I did that, got your feedback, and I said I wouldn't make any more videos until I saw and consumed your feedback. Now, a majority of the feedback was like, yeah Chris, you're doing commentary now, like just make videos, right? There was some other comments in there, stuff like, you know, things about consent and everything, which I disagree with. Like, if I reached out to the President of the United States and he never got back to me, can I not comment on the President of the United States? So, when it comes to commentary, I disagree with that, but there was an overwhelming good response. Now, at the end of the day, this might still come back to bite me in the ass, but I live in Las Vegas and I am a betting man. I am hoping that this whole James Charles situation and seeing how everything got blown out of proportion, I'm hoping that it calms people down in the future if things are to come up, alright? But anyways, I wanted to chime in and just get this out of the way. So, let's get started and let me give you my opinion on this situation between Trisha Paytas and Nika Kato Avocado. What is up, everybody? This is Chris from The Rewired Soul, where we talk about the problem, but focus on the solution. And if you're new to my channel, what I like to do is take a look at the YouTube community, some of the drama that's going on, and take this mess and turn it into a message because there's always some lessons to be learned. So, if you're into that stuff, make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell. Alright, so, some of the comments I got, a lot of you wanted to hear, by opinion, my thoughts on this situation. Alright? So, there's a few things. Alright, I'm not going to go like, it is objectively true that what Trisha Paytas did was screwed up. So, first, let's start out by she refuses to apologize. Alright? She's refusing to apologize and I get that. I get that. Like, when you're standing firm and you're like, I didn't do anything wrong. So, I'm not going to apologize for that. At the end of the day, the reality is, she did a crappy thing to Nick. Now, I made an apology to different communities, to different YouTubers, and one of the people I apologized to was Trisha Paytas. Alright? And something I teach people about making amends or apologies is, it doesn't matter what you think you did, what matters is, did it affect the other person? So, while I still believe to this day that I was commenting on things that were public knowledge, at the end of the day, it did hurt Trisha Paytas's feelings, which is why I apologized. So, to see her standing firm in this idea that she didn't do anything wrong, so she refuses to apologize, I think is a little bit ridiculous. And that's just my opinion. Like, I don't think everything is owed an apology. Like, some of you out there, you apologize too much. But, if you hurt somebody in some way, just apologize. Just do it. Like, get rid of the ego and just do it. No matter how right you think you are, apologize for your part. Because, at the end of the day, it is wrong to ghost people, okay? Like, here's the thing. Back in my dating days, right? Like, back in the dating days, I would ghost women. And it was messed up with me. It was messed up, alright? This was before I got into the whole, like, 12 step thing and making amends and everything like that. But I've gone back and made amends to women I ghosted back in the day, like when I was going through my recovery process, because it was messed up, right? Like, a lot of it is because, like, if a guy's ever ghosted you, if a girl's ever ghosted you, a lot of it is because people don't like confrontation, at least in my case. I just didn't like confrontation. I'm like, well, maybe if I just tiptoe out of here, right? But it's messed up. It is messed up. And I think, I think it's a ridiculous justification to say that, well, everybody does it. Well, everybody does, like, what? Like, when in the history of mankind has that ever been a valid reason to do something screwed up, right? Because that's Trisha Payness' logic behind there's nothing wrong with ghosting somebody because everybody does it. And her justification is, well, people have done that to me, too. And I will say it all day, or day, all right? Be the change that you want to see in the world, okay? Like, this whole tick for tat thing, oh, somebody screwed me over, so now I have the right to screw somebody else over, right? And I, for an I, makes the whole world blind, right? Like, think about that for a second, like, like, for example, for example, I have met, I've met people who, who, like, one time they, like, gave a homeless person, like, a sandwich instead of money, and then, like, the homeless person was like, oh, screw you, right? And they're like, oh, fine, I'm not gonna, I'm not gonna ever give a homeless person anything ever again, like, what? What? You know what I mean? Like, it's kind of like that logic. Just because one person did something to you, or multiple people did something to you, doesn't give you a right to treat other people in a certain way. Like, at a certain point, we have to look at it and say, oh, how does it feel when people do that to me? Oh, yeah, that feels kind of crappy. Maybe I shouldn't do it to the next person. You see what I mean? I'm like, those of you who have been following me for my channel, right? For a while, like, this isn't just about Trisha Payness. Like, one of the reasons I really wanted to make this video is for all of you out there. For all of you, because all of you, me included, we've all done this same thing. We've all done our pride and our ego get in the way of apologizing to somebody. Now, my advice for Nikikado Avocado in this situation with Trisha Payness is it sucks, but it's what Trisha said, like, let it go, dude. Let it go. Like, you said your piece, it's done and over with. I don't know, Nik. Never met the guy. So he might just be making videos because he's a YouTuber. He pointed out in his last video that he doesn't monetize or anything like that. But at the end of the day, he's got to let it go because if I sit around expecting people to apologize to me, like, my life gets miserable, right? Like, I hate to say it. I hate to say it, but Trisha Payness was right. Now, that doesn't give her an excuse to be a dick. You know what I mean? But at the end of the day, he needs to let it go. And let's play out this scenario. Let's say tomorrow morning, Trisha Payness wakes up and she's like, oh my God, you know what? I was wrong. I was completely wrong in this situation. I'm going to make a public apology to Nikocado Avocado. Like, how well do you think that would be received? How well do you think that would be received? She would get blasted. Like, she has gone way too far down that road to do that at this point. And even if you look at Nikocado's situation, like, and how he would receive it, he probably wouldn't even believe it. But when it comes to apologies at all, it takes time. Like, people have to prove it. You know what I mean? Like, no apology is worth a damn until you see how people change and what they do. Hell, I'll use myself as an example. For the last two months since I've come back to YouTube, I have steered away from speculating on a person's mental health. That was one of the main criticisms that I got. I haven't done it. If I talk about somebody's mental health, it's a fictional character. You know what I mean? Like, that's just what I've done. And there are certain things that I still agree and disagree with. You know what I mean? But I am working really hard at it because here's the thing too. To thine own self be true. And I have a video that I'm going to be making about James Charles tomorrow, but you are always going to have people who say that you haven't changed. I have been sober. I have been sober for coming up on seven years. Did you know? Did you know that there are still people who knew me before I got sober who says I haven't changed? Like, think about that for a second. They say I haven't changed at all. Like, one major change is that I haven't snorted any opioids lately. You know what I'm saying? But at the end of the day, this whole situation is a mess. And I just want to talk about it because, again, like, if you're watching all this stuff go down and you're not taking a step back at the end of it and asking yourself, like, how many times do you refuse to apologize? How many times do you refuse to take a look at how people are treating you and using that as a justification to treat other people? When you're looking at the avocado situation, how long do you hold on to resentment for, right? Expecting something from the other person. Because something I was taught a long, long time ago is that it's a lot easier for me to work on me than it is to try to fix the rest of the world. The more we place expectations on other people and hope for them to change, the longer that you and I sit in misery. You see what I mean? So this whole situation is a hot mess, but you picking sides, you trying to cancel Trisha, you taking the side of nicocado avocado. That does absolutely nothing for your life unless you're taking a step back and asking yourself how can you relate to the individuals involved in this situation. And that's the goal of my channel to help you start thinking about that. But anyways, that's all I got for this video. If you liked this video, please give it a thumbs up. If you're new, make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell. And a huge, huge thank you to everybody supporting the channel over on Patreon. You're all amazing. And if you would like to become a patron, get your name on these beautiful credits right here. Get some perks and benefits like our monthly Q&A, free copies of my books. Click or tap right there. Alright. Thanks again so, so much for watching. I'll see you next time.