 You know a good go-to question to ask someone who's asking for your help in an area is to ask them Do you want empathy right now, or do you want strategy right now? They probably would like both but my point is My tendency will be to lean towards strategy and solution and fixing something if you share the problem with me I am moving towards a solution and answer But if you're sharing something with me or someone because you really wanted a listening ear I'm looking for empathy at that time. We're ready to look yet for a solution then there could be a huge disconnect in those conversations and Some relational damage and fallout can happen So maybe a good question to ask someone who is asking for your help right now is to ask Okay, do you want empathy right now or strategy and then at least you know which page you're both supposed to be on over helps. Yes