 And those of dating, what are those things that turn you off especially when it comes to dating, when you go on your first date, what are those things that make you feel like you know what, don't ask me such kind of things, what are those questions that you don't like being or you don't want to be asked and of course we've posted this particular issue on our Facebook page, so head over to our Facebook page that is at Y254 and don't forget, like the page before you do anything. Like that page, follow us on Facebook and then you scroll, you will find our question there to more than Nimasuali Gani, Hufaiku Lisa on the first date. Nimasuali Kama Gani, Hufaiku Lisa on the first date, this is just one conversation that you want to have on this particular morning. Remember we are coming to you live from the broadcasting house here in Nairobi Kenya, there is a streaming live through our website, that's at www.kabc.co.ke So engage with us, we value feedback, that's always easy why in the morning, tag me at Ram Maguko, my colleagues handle us as Stephanie Ayeta and of course this official station handle is at Y254 channel. Of course to help us in this particular conversation, I'm with a fantastic panel, a fantastic group of youth to my far right, I am with Enok Nyamogo Issoe who is a journalism student. I am with Kairusana Enok. I am with Fiti, I am with Gangari, Freshi Barida. Whatever that, you can do it. I am with Brian Kibet also a journalism student. Thank you. If you have any questions, give us an intro of who you are, what you do and something about yourself, there is a reason why we are here. Yeah, so I'm Brian Kibet aka Brapa, as the name goes in the street, everybody knows me as Brapa. So I'm Marapa. Brapa is a rapper? Yeah, Brapa is a rapper and Brapa also is a student as Brian Kibet, but in school I'm Brapa also. Yeah, I'm Marapa. To put him study moja, freestyle. You study moja? Yeah. All right, think about that as I come to you, Freshi Barida ni ni yo? Freshi Barida niku poa sana. Niku koshuwa? Niku koshuwa. This word ilikuja, see that you are Steve Simplebone. So the word came out in that state in ya na introduce someone. So it means like niku poa. Niku Fiti. Niku Freshi Barida. But I'm sorry, I'm one of the two of Freshi Barida. But I'm sorry, Brapa. To escape, Brapa, the rapper. Yeah, brainstorming dania kejawu. Dania pandemic, what you gonna do? Strategy kali kali, dania street mi, ni tabum. Doto ya koi yone kani clearly, where pigazum. Zoom, zoom, zoom. Gemi inna life, abidansin in the night. Different people, different life, different night. For your life, be a fighter. You can do it like a night, yeah. Do it right, do it right. Sini life, sini life, sini life, yeah. Sini life, sini life, yeah. Where is the rapper, the rapper. Now you know why I wanted him to introduce himself. Gentlemen, thank you so much for coming. Yes. You're doing what particularly in campus? I'm doing film and video programs production, directing option. Okay. Which school? Kenya Institute of Mass Communication. Shout out to Kai IMC. Nelikwa wuko. Niki pita kanda bara bara. Niki pita. Niki waka matatu nika yona nika. Niki pita. Nuiyo. Tell us a bit more about what you do. Okay. I'm a student of the University of Nairobi. And more than that, Sijakwambia, I'm the emcee of the University of Nairobi. The what? The emcee. A. The emcee. The emcee. The one hosting all the events at the University. Student events. Host me. Host me. I am an event. Okay. Host me. White fiefa. I am an event. Yes. You are an event or a guest? No. I am an event. Okay. Ndajari wuku fikire okio event. I am an event. I am an event. Me, me, my presence in itself is an event. Okay. Welcome to our live... See, see, in the broadcast. Yes, yes. Welcome to our live broadcast here at Y254. And our show begins... Right now. Right now. And we are talking about talent. We are growing talent in compass. So, I'm your host, Enok. Yes. The emcee. I'm with the great talent here in Sijakwambia. Let's start with... Let's go straight to the conversation of the day. Yeah. The do's and do's of dating. Lima soligani umtrafai kukuliza especially on the first date. Let me start with you, Brio. What kind of question do you feel like? Should I use your rapper name or Brio? Brapa is fine. Brapa. Yeah, Brapa is fine. Brapa. Sawa, sawa. Which name do I use? Enok. Enok, sawa. Brapa. Yeah. The soligani demaki kukuliza on the first date. It's a turn off. I can use it personally. Yes. Masoligani umtrafai kukuliza. Onakafiti. Monoko singo. Ay. This is... You need to say goodbye. Yeah. Onakafiti, Monoko singo. Yeah. It's just like now. You're not supposed to ask me that. No. Yes. No, it's not a compliment. It's not a compliment. It's a compliment. Nobody in reverse, yeah. How? You look good and they're wondering why you're single. Yeah. Because people are taken. No. They are not. Yeah, sometimes they can be, but they are good people and they don't want to be taken. So ugepe na demaki kukuliza? Yes, really. To vibe. If the vibe is there, we just vibe. We just vibe. Until she gets to know why I'm single or if I'm not single. Okay. Enok. Ah. I dislike facts. When you, when you make a date, then you are straight forward. Like facts. Enok, how many brothers do you have? Open the door. Many of us have to cover your like. Enok, wuna fanya ni. Facts are boring. Actually, they are boring. Hey. Ah. What? Amupati. I thought those are things people should know. You know. You have, when you are in a date, there's that environment of newness. Like, maybe there was someone, maybe you are ex. Yeah. So on your first date, there's something in yalikuambia. But now to me, I have to create a new environment for you to like my first impressions. So I have to come up with newness because yalikuambia is a place where facts are boring. So, when you are in a date, you have to cover your like when you are in a date. Yeah, you have to cover your like but that is a common thing. Me, me. I would expect that a date would be, a first date. Yeah. One question that should come up of course, when you are in a date I would ask what do you do? That's fine. Is that a bad question? No, it's not. Okay. To support my point nivi, remember before I take you for a date to me go to Kiyongiaa previous. Ingao? Actually. Iniditia Kwanzaa? Iniditia Kwanzaa. Yes. My first kabila ni kupelike date obvious to akumiku bali for me to convince you. Na iliku bali to me go to Kiyongiaa previous you know me umejwaki dogo angalao about me you know I am a student at the University of Nairobi. So for me to take you on that date si taku je sosa ni has a repetition the same thing ni li kiku ni li has the conversation with do ni has a tena wakati with you lively like to kunawewa e kwa simun li lisha kuliza what is your name like Inavai kuwa different. Yeah, like I need a new environment that lady ni kipelike date so to fiki apu doanze kuniliza your full names Shiliti getting to know more about each other and do you all imambia mi me ni emcee Enoch Yeah. Si anata kuja si nasigine is o zigine sen zibaki Enoch nani nani nani wawapi wawapi Asa sa manzoni uredu lisha imambia mi emcee na University of Nairobi So wakati muna meet maybe muna zakuja na new thing nuna za what I surely know about emcee ni hivi na hivi nao like kama mi mi ni demsa sasana kuambia nao ni kikuliza kitu kama how do you feel like kuna feeling gi aje wakati muna emcee uko mma demsu wana kukufianga kibitu kama eo no such maybe inaka different and now we are creating a conversation nona What do you think I think for me if it was me cause mostly if I meet a girl today I will introduce myself as brapa because that's the name most people will know me by and if we happen to go on a date she would want to know more like what's my real name is brapa a real name and I would be comfortable telling her brapa is my artistic name but my Will you tell her your full name as it appears on your ID Definitely I'll have to say that to her so that she gets to know me I'll have to tell her I'll have to tell her and I'll tell her is it bad to ask what are your full names it is not bad but the first approach I approached you kwa simu labda I'm a kind of a guy that usually the first approach me was everything about me my name is Enok Nyamongo Isoe that's me so when we are at the first date now I'm coming up with the other videos of me when we are texting I'll tell her my name is Enok and I'll tell her my name is M.C. in Nairobi University and I'll tell her I'm interested more than being Enok there's something new something else I'll tell her that and as a kupenda maybe I'll talk to her brapa do you have any questions that you feel that you feel people ask that you feel that you're going to fight kuliza yes sometimes questions like how many children do you want to have how many kids do you want to have it's not good now on a first date those are not questions to ask and then questions like where do you see this relationship going it's a first date we don't know even a direction there is no direction of any relationship on a first date and kuliza and what are we no that's not what are we comes up when you've been a relationship for quite some time you know you've been in a relationship for quite some time so what are we you've been talking you've been like doing a lot of dates and stuff so what are we comes up we don't know the direction she doesn't know about the direction of this relationship you know so that question comes up but on the first date this is a first date we just went out we've been talking for like 2-3 days and I'm like should we go on a date she accepts and then we go for a date you know what about the normal dates do you have questions that what of kuliza on the normal dates I think you've dated for a long time you've dated for long you know there's a lot of I don't have any questions I don't know when it's you've gone in depth because by that time she knows much about me I know more about her okay to me to kishenda more than one dates I love if there's a question sit at a kun yulize for example we've been the first date me kukati wuka in your box now we are now one month in dating still you're asking me about my ex okay do you let a nini sasa see your face bona yulize about my ex let's see anata kujwa so mulecha na jena eke okay iswa luwa na kunga atre atre the y the first date they ask so mulecha na jena exwaka no problem because maybe anata kujwa reason doa aki yari boku gauge adjue me enok nim tu gani anafanya nga nini konini wali a chana na exwake whereby probability na kwa nga you always put yourself not in mistake you a kwa chana with your ex so already me on the first date nisha konbi about my ex we did this and this tuka chana then we are now a month in dating baduna ni yulize do you still talk to your ex does your ex na kufuata ama gai niliwa na kolia ex why should you ask me about that already na tulisha amalize yo story the first date okay aofa ikun yulize I think on that issue of ex I think it's not a question or something to talk about whether it's a first date or not whether it's the first date or not it's not something to talk about because probably if you left each other there was nothing proud of that breakup or something you would want to talk about or say anything to your new lady sometimes the things that made you leave the other lady or the things that made her leave could be the things that these other lady doesn't want so if you get to talk about them then you are sending yourself into a situation where you will not have so many dates ahead of you and you are trying to learn a new person okay on the first date would you like somebody to ask you a question that is political for example kuna muna mulza pivi Facebook ama sama uni lupur willis na sama na sama ati swaliati wemenu wa azimiyo awu UDA you swaliataki date one I think I am with him to me actually when the conversation like to make up until the conversation wana come in Naisha maybe you can come up with a question and answer session whereby now muna zaku dig out kidugo wana jwa okay you know na easy if it is ina sound like kuna zingina ina sound weird political there was a lady yesterday who was talking to nika muliza about the same topic akanya mbiya ati yei yei akinda the first date wana chanana uyo boya na tokanga hana interest not that yei yei wana kitumbaya zi the problem is the lady usually found herself asking the guy difficult questions like wuki ulizu wa itinani ndo chairman ama secretary wa azimiyo nmemi oku pelika date no such things such things I like that lady personally I like that anataka kujiwa actually anaju wa nile anataka like anataka kujiwa kama wana jwa kitu kama eo aone kama wana wana lakini so inu kupimwa inu kupimwa lakini yei yei anafi like anataka tuku jwa ako so open wide like anaju wa itinani anaju isi vitu anaju wa anaju wa anaju wa so anaku ulizu ndo aone kama wana jwa she is trying to strike a conversation yeah conversation wakati maybe sometimes other than bad so I'm trying to say like ununa such kind of ladies when yome kuja direk lekama yome ulizu about the political parties nani ni nami isi umzuru kwa yo in other way so utapata the conversation ends up araka and that interest yone kumeki yo environment kuafan in Asia so to me I don't prefer you know I was thinking that some people on the first dates go for questions to gauge whether somebody is clever or not so they will ask you questions like so um for example konaiki tu ilikuana trend ilikuani ni hi yo password ah? password asipa tana password konaiki ni ilikuana fani kasi you which country I love there was a meme going around that ask your girlfriend if they know what's happening in Ukraine Ukraine and Russia Ukraine and Russia yeah yeah Ukraine and Russia so there is so um on the first dates iwi patakama the Ukraine is going on retWE so it is a first date you will ask so what do you think about the issue of Ukraine and Russia and then you go blank HAHAHA such questions actually is in a cutoff conversation Cho bo I always think We always say it's not a good idea to go to jail. It's the first day of the day that we don't need to buy a box. Yes sir. You have to go to jail for the rest of your life. Yeah you were not conversant with current affairs. Yes. But you have to find another way to cover up. But what if you don't know about any current affairs? You don't watch TV or something or you don't even use your phone? Because go online and research about the issues. What will you do? How will you come out of that? Kwa k comunicawa Ya, ya, ya. Let me go to Facebook and read a few of your comments. Remember tumuza palikunye Facebook pali. Tumuza ni, tumuza ni, ni mazwa li kama gani ufaiku liza on the first date. So, let me start with, okay, let me go from the most recent one. Alright, let's just go around with it. I'm seeing a young saint and I said, but the only question I can allow is my likes and dislikes. Anything beyond that is a no. Exactly. Exactly. So, mazwa li kama, do you have someone? What I had said earlier. Ya, like, um, you know, you cannot, you cannot, someone cannot ask you if you are with someone on the first date. And we are here, you are dating already. We are here, we are here. Do you have someone? We are here, I'm here with you. After treating that lady vizuri mempelika Kempinski, vizuri kabisa, you ordered vitumzuri. Then, after the conversation, me siya kula, wakatisa sa now you are throwing out words, vibes, na nakuja kwambiveti, you surely do that. Umeku kifanya iwoko astya na wengine. Exactly. You sorry in birth? Sana. Una nio na je, like, nimi kwa ni kileta kila mtu. You know, it sounds weird. Okay, it's a turn off to some people. Ya, ya. Okay. Ya, it's a turn off, for me also it's a turn off. Mimi, mimi I would find a way to twist it and make it romantic. I would say, yes, I might have done this to other people, but this is special to you because I love you. It depends now, it depends, if you like the lady, sometimes, if you like the lady, there is a way, you will be creative enough to twist every bad vibe that tries to come your way, you know. Laki ni, remember this, it is the same, mi ni kikulete ya fooda apa. The same food na kulete ya ghitheri. Nimi kulete ya ghitheri, leo kesho, okay ni machine ni kilete ya all the guests hapa ghitheri, ghitheri. Ni lete prezo, ni pati ghitheri, ni mwambie, I have been, ni mwa lete. Nimi kwa ni kilete ya guests wana kula ghitheri, but you are so special. You have to be creative kido go. There is nothing special about it, sir. Ya, that's what I am trying to say now. You have to be creative, no na. Ukwe creative nu, uyo dem, I feel like, okay, there is that difference here. Mimi na hama dem wengimi. Nimi kwa ni kikuleta kepinski. Nimi leta wengini kepinski. Efo tini wapi, efo tiku wapi. Efo tiku wapi. Sasa unafau ni pileke nofok bana. No na. No ni uo na yo difference. Nimi na sama hiha, nimi kuleta ma deo. Apa na wajakuban, leki ni wewe, nimi kuku pileke. Okay, nimi wapeleka kepinski we, nimi kuleta apa nofok. Roja Skadya na sama, ati ufo kwa sumoza, na sama, what do you do for a living yet I used oxygen? Ataki suali, ati what do you do for a living? Anatimi oxygen. Okay, but now I think... Now you get bad, this is a get. Yeah? Yeah, mimi me pata. It's like, now that lady and I, Lisa, the first date, anaku Lisa unafanya kazi gani, kazi gani wukonayo. Now to the guy, and I feel like for me to be here, I have to do something. So, ofa ikumu Lisa. Oh. Yeah. But in other words, I think, I think you should know what someone does. Sika makrimi no? Yeah, because it depends. Now with him, I don't know if he's not, why he's not comfortable being asked the same question, but come to think of it, like, wouldn't you want the person you are with to know what you're doing? You wake up every morning like you're going to work, and what are you doing? I do unify need. Isabela bela nasama, ati usiyu Lisa, usiyanzi kuliza story ama ex. Exactly. You're the one that's getting trained. Feliz kere nasama ati, ati, ati, ati, ati, ati, ati ukosingo, kweni, kweni ngekwa na muntutena ni kuja date ya kuja. Ngekulia ita apakuli? Uyakwa na, apakuli. Iyan okimana zama atiwe ni kabilagayno. By the way, that's, that's a nice question. Simbaya. You think it's a nice question? Ebu tukulia kwa. Ebu tukulia kwa. It's come to realistic, no na. Nime ku later date, alafu, unexpect nisi kujiwe. Ok, kunaile nge tu mekot, nime sema alia, tukiwa tunongia kwa simu. Lakin ni now, we are one on one. We are now, lazima tu jiwani. Tuna jiwa nasasa. Would you be comfortable if someone asks you your tribe? Yes, in fact I'll be proud. On the first date. On the first date. I'll be the first person even ku sema my tribe. On the first date. You'll be comfortable with that? No, on the first day, no. No. Utaachua. Utaachua mele na kijiwe ni mkama. Amam kisi. So utatana. Na, nani nimbaya. I want us to bring this conversation to a close at that point. Gentlemen, asane sana. Asante. And of course I'll be inviting you again and again. We'll be having this conversation. A big thanks to... Brapa. Brapa. Enok, the emcee. Yes, I am. And of course a big thanks to everyone that ensured this show was a success. Of course keep talking to us, do's and do's about dating. We want to take a short break and be back in a bit, sample a bit more about your feedback. Keep it wide in the morning.