 Next up we have psych not only as psych. Thank you. Gotcha. All right He is a returning speaker to the 21 convention. He was intended 2008 get back in 2009. You have a great speech And he actually just spoke in Stockholm at our first year European convention one of the few speakers to do both back-to-back He's one of the best coaches around and it's awesome to have him here. Thanks for coming man. Kick some butt Hey, thanks for having me man Yeah, I mean it's been a while right I got to do the Stockholm 21 convention where I talked about my VI system and you know what I teach for guys to get good This speech though. It's looking a little bit different. This is how to get good This is the stuff I had to implement myself From the get from the very start to now a lot of speakers here. We're talking about all kinds of great stuff talking about Ways to implement stuff in the field by the way, I actually want to say something it's so cool seeing a room full of all faces I know That's one cool thing about this convention that I don't think there's anyone here. I haven't actually personally worked with and talked to you know But um, I want to give you guys something on how to get good Cuz When I first started this I had to come up with a plan I had to come up with a system That would allow myself to implement all this stuff that's out there because there's a lot there's a lot of different things that you guys are going to be hearing about I'm learning about and It's going to clog your head a lot you know and You have to have a progression a steady type of progression. So I want to show you guys what that looks like now To do that. I want to show you guys where I came from This was me This was me for you. Thank you. Thank you. This was me four years ago. I Don't know how bad you guys think you are But if you weren't playing Magic Gathering every single weekend by yourself in your mom's basement You weren't as dorky as me If you cannot have an intelligent debate on who would win in a battle the Avengers or the X-Men You're not as dorky as me If you do not know all the names of Han Solo and Leia Solo's kids And Luke Skywalker's kids Ben Skywalker You're not as dorky as I am I Was you know, I still got a little bit of a boot of belly on me, but I used to be 35 pounds heavier I could not talk to anyone. I had two friends from high school. I Mean, it was bad when I got into this by no I mean some of you guys talk about coming into this as a natural I was not a natural. I Never done a code approach. I don't think The concept was just foreign to me The whole idea was just ridiculous. The only way I could talk to girls was if I met them basically online, right? So and I talk about this in my previous speech I did last year like a lot about, you know, my progression one night However, that did change the fact that I'm here shows that this kind of thing changed a lot of you guys have seen me in Field you've seen me do some stuff yourselves. You've seen me coaching you and you implementing some of this stuff By yourself. I had to go out time and time again to make that happen and afterwards Some some of this stuff has blown my mind Being a dating coach for the MTV show made Getting the best new POA award in 2008 or read this recently the best natural game Which blew my mind again because like I said, I was nothing. I was definitely not a natural, right? Which reinforces again that a natural is not something you're born with a natural is just a guy that's progressively figured this stuff out Any one of you can become a natural is there's not any crazy thing to it. It's just Going out there and getting this stuff More importantly of some other stuff I used to formally work with a see Adam Lyons and P. Way training those are my roots and now I'm with Psycho game. That's my own website. You can look me up there, right? But since I mean from this guy To this guy it was a crazy journey There's a crazy journey. I've had some of the best nights of my life and I've had some of the worst nights in my life I've done. I'm not one to Talk about sexual exploits, especially on camera. So I'm not gonna get into some of the crazy stuff. I've done Some of the amazing shit that even to this day, I just think like really like that just really happened But I will show I will share with you guys a bad moment in my life a bad time of learning this. I remember one point About a year into my progression. I was gaming this girl and I was doing everything right Everything this community told me to do. I was doing it correctly. I'm at the social proof I had guys giving me drinks. I have a friend of their friend. I got our way She was all into me. Everything was that like this was meant to have logistics were perfect She's coming back to my place. It was already set up. Everything was perfect. She was a nine Literally, she was a nine. She was gorgeous girl just my type, right? I'm thinking Dundee. Oh, this is game. I was on cloud nine, right? I take this girl and I take her to an Irish pub and an Irish pub. There's a there's some Band on stage and a leeching of the band looks at the girl and he's like hmm She points to himself. He points to her and he points down. She may turn to me. She goes. I think I know that guy Oh Amit so she runs off and she starts going to talk to him. I Loose her ten minutes. I do not see where they are I go outside to find this girl and then I see her and him walk in the way arm and arm Just ten minutes. I was giving her for the last two hours and very well mind you Right. I followed them because I want to see where this was going and he led her into his car I went in five minutes the car started rocking. I Was crushed I actually wrote up a whole post and I sent to every guru I could find because keep in mind I was still learning in his face I wasn't in structure just yet. I wrote it to every single guy I knew and the title of it was what's wrong with me that can't be fixed Because I did everything correctly. I remember at the end of that night I just sat on a bench trying to figure out what where I did wrong because I knew I did everything properly I did everything according to the book and when I realized that I realized and that just has to tell me There's something wrong with just me It's not you know if this works for the people then something's just inherently wrong with me and I just started crying I Was the big it was at that moment. I have never felt more hopeless in my life And on top of that it started raining So I want you to picture that me just sitting on a bench Balling getting rained on right after this just happened most guys here will talk about them the most crazy successes there the You know for some on with a nun or something. I don't know whatever Like the most crazy, you know stories, you know, you know, whatever, but it's important for you guys to hear the other side of it I want you guys to hear the time where I didn't get the girl where it was not The most beautiful thing ever right? Because you're gonna go through that but you know what it's all worth it Because I've had those moments. It was crazy, you know similar things to that where it was just like this surreal and To me the juice is worth the squeeze and that's a huge question You're gonna have to ask yourselves when you're going through this because it's going to get frustrating It's gonna be challenging. It's gonna be tough but going day after day trying to implement this stuff, right? But I want to help you make that as small a time as possible. I want to help you with that learning process The problem though is you have bad odds 97% of guys would never truly become good at this. I actually saw Fuji, you know Say something someone said 95% of guys so maybe me and him can meet our eyes and just say 96 But point is this is a really? Well-known thing in this community 97% of guys will never truly become good at this what that means is that this lucky bastard right here is gonna Become amazing and screw the rest of you Only him no one else he's like Hey, only him all of you are going to fail. That's what that means as much as you think you're like Oh, well, you know, we're all improving you're gonna all improve I don't think anyone comes into this and doesn't get some kind of improvement out of it might be small It might be big, but there's gonna be some improvement, but only 97% of guys Truly feel like yeah, I just got this handled. This is awesome So you have to come into this realizing it is bad odds. It's worse than trying to bankrupt Vegas However, there is that 3% Right, there is there are guys who do do this. It might not be the best odds, but there are those guys out there So this whole talk what I want to do for you guys is show you how you can become part of that 3% I'm gonna teach you the stuff that I had to implement from day one These are things I did from the very first month of Getting into this when I didn't really know game I was just figuring all out, but I remember doing these things and I want you to start implementing them yourself So how to beat the odds in my experience there were five key things that put me into 3% The first one anyone even talk about anyone worth a damn will mention this and let you guys know this is important And that's practice But there's a lot of stuff people don't mention with practice. I'm going to get into Number two is the basics keeping them sharp and never letting those go faulty ever Number three is purpose Understanding the purpose of why we do the things we're doing Other than just reading stuff and going okay. Well, it's something told me to do it Number four is the leading Leading the set to where we need to take it progressing it always and number five is finding that mentor finding someone or To help guide you and show you the way If you have these five things and you really focus on them I almost promise you you will be enough 3% because a lot of people might get three might get four But if you implement all five, that's all I really had from day one. That's all I was focused on So let's go into each one of these Practicing these are some quotes. I found that I really like and that resonate with a lot of the problems I'm seeing in this community When you are not practicing remember someone somewhere is practicing and when you meet him he will win That band guy knew his game. He knew let me practice my guitar every day and girls will want to get with me Right. All I got it. All I he knew his game is just let me point to a girl Come to me whatever it is instantly escalate, right? He practiced man He probably practice that guitar to be the shit and be that awesome, you know, band guy all the time anything he won You are out practicing right now. Yeah, they don't hear not practicing Cool, but I want you to look around Actually, I want you guys to look around because all the rest of these guys are practicing also Are they practicing more than you? If you met one of these other guys in a club and you're both going for the same girl who would win Now obviously the community would want to you know be there for each other But there's other guys out there. There's naturals out there that are practicing right now Well, you're in this room. They're out there talking to girls Any moment you're not practicing you're not getting better at this then someone else is and when you find a girl You're dream girl the girl that might become the mother of your children Do not let it happen where you lose that hurt to some other guy But you want to because even if you put in that one extra hour a field work in that's all it takes Because you know that one extra little thing that will get her to go to him and not you If that's not enough motivation for you to be out there doing this stuff, I don't know what is It's not necessarily the amount of time you spend that practice that counts. It's what you put into the practice What that means is I see I will see these guys they'll go into the field, right? And they'll just think as long as I'm in a club. I'm practicing right now I'm getting field time in field experience. No, you're not you're just in a club practice means being in a set talking to a girl That's what that means. In fact, I want every I'm gonna give you all a challenge right now I Get I'm gonna guess that a lot of you guys might think you practice a lot, right? And you probably say maybe you'll say I go out four hours a night. I practice four hours each night Maybe that's a lot to you. Maybe that's little to you. Whatever. I don't know. Let's say you've got practice four hours each night I'm gonna do a challenge. I want you to go out and I want you to stop watch All right, and every time you go into a set click your little stop watch Every time you're done talking to the girl click it again and You do not stop of that night until that clock watch at four hours. I Guarantee you're gonna realize man. It's a lot more practice than I used to be doing It's gonna be a lot more You want four hours of practice? That's what that means you get your stop watch and you spend four hours in set Any in-between time does not count hunting around is not practice Practice without improvement is meaningless another huge common mistake. I keep seeing a lot of guys. I know a lot of guys who are approach machines They will run more sets than I will though. They'll be non-stop practicing, but there's no improvement It's they're just doing the same stuff over and over and over and in the wise words of Albert Einstein Those who do the same thing over and over expecting different results. That's the definition of insanity So when I practice, I'm always looking at what I did right what I did wrong. What can I take away from this? What can I experiment exchange next time? I remember one time? No, I can't remember I'm saying this on camera. Um, I Remember one time just for the hell of it. I approached a girl like this I don't know why I just wanted to experiment something. It came into my head me and my boy elevate We're just like let's do that one time. Let's see what happens Didn't work But the point is I now know that for a fact I experimented it and the funny thing is Nine times out of ten if you do something like that ten times nine times out of ten It won't work. It'll be just ridiculous and you'll be of course, but that one time out of ten That one time out of ten, you'll do something you think this is never gonna work. It's ridiculous So like how would this ever mean anything and then it will and you'll just your mind will blow I'm not doing it for those nine times out of ten. I'm doing it for the one time out of ten I'm trying to find I'm trying to I'm always experimenting I'm always playing around with stuff if you keep doing the same thing over and over if you are of your openers the same thing every Single time and you still feel you have a problem opening change it Change it up trying new stuff. It's okay All right Practice practice practice until you eventually get numb on rejections. There is massively good intergame stuff out there For example, I'll lend a Owen. I have a good friend of mine. Some of the stuff he does isn't is insanely good However, I will say this the number one thing I found for my own game the main thing Was basically going out and just doing it changing my actions. You want to change your belief change your actions It's two things you change your thoughts and you change your actions right Because if you're the guy that's approaching girls No matter what then you can't look at yourself as a guy that doesn't approach girls because you do it And all of a sudden it's gonna click and you're gonna think yeah, you know what I am that guy hell Right before I ever made out with a girl in a club I had a lot of intergames and securities about making out with a girl in a club Why because I wasn't that guy so what I had to do I had to do something incongruent I had to make out with a girl in a club and to shatter my belief and After I did it I started doing a few times I realized yeah, I am the guy that can make out with a girl in a club. That's not that big of a deal I'm the guy that can take a girl home the same night I meet her this I do but before that happens. You're not that guy It's pointless thinking to yourself. I have abundance mentality, right? I'm trying to fool yourself thinking that no You want a bunch mentality get abundance and then the mentality will come That's when you're gonna get the abundance mentality or any of this stuff But this point is if you want to get over that anxiety that approach into any of that stuff just do it to its numb I remember one time There's a girl in front of me and this is when I was really starting to Try to get over like be a natural or some stuff and I went up to the girl and My legs literally went like this. I Thought there's something like done in cartoon or something. I mean this is real But my legs started just shaking like crazy, right now like that anything I say was just gibberish Like I like did it maybe Maybe I was just Right because I didn't know what I was doing but I did it anyways. I went for it anyways Because here's the thing It takes courage to do some of this. I'm gonna get actually I'm gonna get more to that a little bit later All right next one. The only way a kid is going to practice is if it's not of its total fun for him And it was for me This is a huge one. This is a game if you're not having fun. You're not playing the game Practice doesn't mean going and working. You're not punching in your car or whatever have fun with it. Enjoy it You're practicing one of the things that men have loved since the dawn of time. You're flirting with girls Don't lose sight of that Like it's not a job. It's not supposed to be this big stressful thing in your lives We're having fun with women. We're playing around with them And it is a lot of fun when you take it from the right angle But if you're taking up as these personal offenses and all this stuff, it's it's gonna hurt and then you're gonna beat yourself up I just got interviewed recently and one of the questions was Say, you know, how do you feel when you get rejected and I told him I'm well, I'm actually I actually never got rejected And he goes wait. Oh, this I want to hear what you never got. Oh, he's a big shock. I'm like, well, let me explain See, I never got rejected. The only thing that ever got rejected was my game Psych himself myself never got rejected. She doesn't know me All she knows was my approach. All she knows was the words. I said the body language I did or whatever it is I can go up to a girl right now and just be really like timid and you know me can say some stupid thing and I'll get rejected Right. Is that second rejected or is that the approach? I just did So I never took it as a personal offense. It's a game It's supposed to just be fun. I'm just playing around with it So I want you guys to adopt that same kind of mentality I Finally you can hire someone to practice for you I know a lot of guys who will just throw a lot of money at this problem and think okay, I'll be done. I Just you know put money at this and I'm okay, then I'm good, right? That's not what it's that's not going to do it for you What I'm here for or what any of these coaches here for is to guide you to show you what it's going to take What's going to get you good? Is it take what the teachings that we give you and then you practice them and you implement them? But just pain in fact if some guy if I felt a guy was just pay me and thought you know what? Let me just do this not putting a working but as if I just pay psych I'll get a really crazy game and I'll be good. I don't want your money Don't take my boot camps Because I Truly care about you know this stuff. I truly wanted to see guys get good Because of where I came from because I know the struggles that take place with it And if I see a guy coming from that angle where it's like, I don't want to do the work Well, guess what I did the work So if you're just gonna be lazy about it, I don't want to I don't want to deal with you then So don't throw money at the problem, but at the same time Know there is help you still help out there and it's okay to do it But it's going to be ultimately up to you each and every time it's up to you All right karate master. All right, so now I want to show you guys a little story Once upon a time There was this old karate master right and everyone sought out his teachings and a student went up to the karate master and said master I want you to teach me how to do tornado kicks to break a board with my head to counter any attack The master says first, I'll teach you to punch The student goes, I don't care about that. No, no, no, see I want to you know, jump up buildings like Jackie Chan I want to Tear a man's heart out. He's the only two fingers. I want to use my dick as a nunchuck Okay The master says well first, I'll teach you to punch The man gets angry and read in the face and he goes, I already know how to punch the master says, yeah Okay, show me The student punches the master as hard as he can the master doesn't move he doesn't flinch Then a master quick as a snake punches a guy sends him flying five feet back He walks over to him looks down and says first, I'll teach you to punch What this tells me is it all comes down to the basics Yes, it's sexy to try to be talking about, you know, how to get a threesome how to do invent new lays You know how to you know get how to systematically game Megan Fox Working on it But um, what it comes down to really is the basics because without these everything falls apart It will so what are the basics? There's a lot of them actually but I there's four key ones that I you know Always watch out for one is body language Another one is just opening and transitioning just getting the conversation going so that you can run a game Getting just basic interest I'm not I don't mean you didn't have to be super crazy attraction just getting interested in talking to you Just getting like I want to be part of this conversation. This is cool. You know, just that basic interest You have to know how to do that consistently Getting numbers briefly on the whole getting numbers thing. How many guys feel they have a problem with phone games or get flaked on You know problems getting day two set up. Yeah I'm a lot people come to me with this problem of you know phone game or whatnot And what I find it comes down to is not so much the phone game is the problem It's how they get the numbers because usually what these guys will do is they'll come up to a girl and I'd be like oh Yes, I got a traction there. Let me get your number put that in there, right and walk away now. I got a number victory But there was no plan for it, why'd you get the number? What was your reason? Anytime I get a number. I have a damn good reason for getting it. That's the point of the number Otherwise, she's gonna know that yeah, you just wanted my number now is it if I get a number It's because I already set up the day to the number is an afterthought That's one thing that's already gonna drastically improve your flake ratio If you set up the day to when you meet her set up a time set up a place and then get the number just as an afterthought Just to confirm it you want to really check out how solid and sick your game is Set up the day to when you meet her and don't even get a number and see if she comes That would be solid game very solid But so the whole point of the number is literally I mean so technically it's not even needed But that's what it's mainly used for and staying instead after numbers a lot of different ways I do of how to get the number correctly By the I'm gonna go back track to Biden language I want to do a quick drill with you guys because I know it's been a long convention I know I'm the last one up here best for last Okay Yeah, but I'm another been a long convention when I start want to you know get the juices flowing So everyone stand up for quick I Want everyone to get as alpha as possible. I want everyone to get the most alpha body language You can you know string in a head all this guy, okay string in a head, you know You know chest out You know shorter now and keep it structured rich really alpha, right? I want you to get deep breath and Just gets comfortable now in that posture That's it. That's your go-to when you get in the alpha positioning and you just get as comfortable as you can That's good body language You can you can break it down to a billion complex rules But if you just know that what the alpha positioning is and getting comfortable, you're good now Let's try to see it down for a second everyone sit down Now close your eyes and when sit down and close your eyes and again Get super alpha spread yourself. You know really kick up space come to man Don't grow up each other. It's I don't know what that is It's for women All right, close your eyes and then again just gets comfortable now as possible Just totally relax. You seem all right. I open your eyes I've been looking around you're gonna see a lot of relaxed chill confident guys That's all thing Every all my teaching try to keep as simple as possible. I'm not trying to make you the thousand, you know Sykes 100 rules to body language That's it. All right opening and transitioning Another I bet a lot of guys here know how to open right? Maybe you do some approach anxiety But everyone thinks like yeah, I know how to open. I'm pretty good at I got that handled right bullshit And you want to I ride bullshit because every one I teach and when I talk to you I will always spot something wrong Maybe they're going a little too direct. Maybe it's too much personal space. You'll spot it, too You know, you see a lot of in the eyes actually the eyes of into the soul I'm gonna look at someone eyes when they approach me I don't know if there's something going on their head to be malicious about it if they're genuine or not if they're Cold and calculating. I don't know within five minutes. I'll size someone up and know exactly what's going through their head and Especially to the opening stage you want to come off solid because let's look at opening for a second With opening it's one of those controversial topics Because on one hand is one of the most important things by any other. It's one of the least important things, right? It's the most important because you have to do it and How you open is gonna whether it's gonna hook and give you time to run this set proper and transition to run this Properly or it's just gonna flop on the other hand. It's not really that important because hell I could just fart on a girl now to open her Right like it doesn't I mean anything will really open But there is a major importance from this and the major importance is that if I asked all the girls I knew this one question and I heard you guys ask any girls, you know the same question Within the first 20 seconds of meeting a girl Do you know if I'm sorry within the first 30 seconds of meeting a guy Do you know if you want to sleep with him or not? Not saying you will sleep with him because you might mess it up later on But do you know if you would want to sleep with him? Every time they say yes like the vast majority That means when 30 seconds a girl has already decided it. Yeah, you know what I probably would sleep with this guy I don't buy you guys, but I want to be in that 30% I want to be the guy that gets a yes If I get a yes all that means is I just need to not fuck it up If I just don't screw that up, I'm gonna get the girl If I'm if I get a no now I got an uphill battle. I got to change that all around right So it is important in that guys. So I want you to do is I want to do another drill with you guys I want everyone to partner up Find your buddy system Quickly everyone and stand up stand up and find a buddy. I'm gonna do a quick 30 seconds. I just want you opening each other Before you open each other use whatever open you have But I want the other guy that could ticker to look and see what he likes about it or what he doesn't like about it Find the faults. Maybe he's getting too close to you. Maybe you don't believe it You know, maybe makes you feel uncomfortable for some reason. Maybe something wrong with his body language I want you guys to do what I do for work every time and see if you can spot any Faults with their opening. All right, so go All right guys switch switch Now the other ones are critique her. All right. All right. Can I get everybody seated now? Everybody? Okay, everybody seated everybody seated so How many people here? Open flawlessly not any single problem. I'll shut up. He's a bit of Wow, so I have a room full of pick-up bars and guys have been doing this one of the most basic things ever Those basic thing ever opening. There's still some stuff you could work on There's still something you can get away from it Right, that's why you have to keep these kind of things sharp because when you think like yeah, I can open anything Well, guess what? I want to be net. I want to be get a yes. I want to be that I want to make that 30 second rule I'm actually gonna make this a new community thing 30 second rule get a yes in the new 30 second rule That's what you're looking for every time. I'm also going to introduce to you guys a New type of opening system that I came up with actually didn't come up I mean a lot of people doing it, but I've collectively put them together into a new structure because all my thinger is What works not just a how-to So the new kind of opener. I like is something called I call it task opener and This is something I've been doing for the longest time and anyone who win with me I showed this to you and they're just like oh, they love it, right? So we but this is my first time actually introducing it to the community or especially on film and whatnot And a cool thing is you'll never be able to get caught on the either It's not gonna be like the new opinion opener. So that's not part is great as well a task opener is a socially acceptable way Perfectly socially acceptable thing Way to open that gets a girl to do any kind of task for you for example one of my greatest openers when I made my default is Having a camera Right. It's probably the best tool pick up by the way. You should always have a camera anytime you're out I just go up to any group you show me the bitchiest meanest most hard to approach girl in that club or anywhere Anywhere I'll just go. Hey, you take a picture me my friends real quick or just me Right, or just or just me. It's me With my way, it's my friends. It's me. Just me Either Either either way, I've never had that feel to open anything They always and now they're doing something for me. I'm in compliance right off the bat They're taking my picture. I can make fun of them if it's a goofy picture I can tool them a little bit like no no take it again. We move back and move back a little bit Right. It gives me time in that sets. I can transition very easily by showing our other picture on my camera Amazing another one another incredibly easy one is hey, can I buy my cigarette off you? Yeah, anyone who smokes knows the amazingness of that opener for the non smokers out there I came up with another one. Hey, can I bum a piece of gum off you? right if I'm at a bar and I'm trying you know, I could turn to a girl next to me and say hey Can you send that feminine charm to get the bartender's attention for me? Make it a game see who can get the bar the attention of the bartender first if I'm at the beach I mean it goes on if I'm at the beach I can say hey, do you mind watching my stuff for me giving a task to do and I can go in the water come back Oh, so I was my stuff. You didn't take anything. Did you now I can transition from there It's great because it gets investment from the girl right off the bat Immediately and it sets all the right kinds of frames for you guys So I urge you guys to come up with your own. I want to see all different types of new task openers out there I'm gonna leave you guys to figure out other ways of going about it All right now in this community I found a lot of funny things a lot of confusion actually and it's confusing if it wasn't confusing You guys wouldn't be here right now If it was totally made sense of everything was crystal clear You guys would have learned this read something out there and then implemented it and be done, right? But how many people here have heard conflicting ideas or theories on something at just that this convention alone Exactly it's confusing. I don't mean to add to that confusion I don't want to but everyone's gonna have no different styles But that's it's a problem in this community But it's also the beauty of it as well because you find stuff that works best for you guys, right? But here's just some confusing things I've seen about this stuff Be authentic But model someone else model someone better than you Be indifferent and make her chase but be persistent and plough through resistance Understand the game follows patterns, but know the game is always different High value guys are sexual from the start. Yeah, but high value guys make the girl work for their interest Be outcome independent yet always push for the close Assume attraction yet always watch for indicators of interest or disinterest and my personal favorite Be unreactive to everything she does and calibrate to every single thing she does right This is a very confusing play. I mean a guy coming into this. You can see how he can be like what the hell What does that mean? You know what? So how do we battle through this because when I first got into it? I was just really confused. I didn't know where to go Because it's confusion. I've seen funny things by a lot of the guys in this community For example, I've seen a guy go into a club loud-ass club and tried to opinion opener Where he'll go something like hey, excuse me. Let me get your opinion on something I got to my friends. She's go what? Like it doesn't work But that's what he knew to do that was his opener I've seen a girl compliment a guy and he go and he'll turn to her friend go. Oh my god. She always like this. I hope so I've see alright I've seen a girl try to get sexual with a guy and he go hazy now We need to be wind and dying first easy or the hand it ends up to merchandise You're punishing negative. You're punishing Good behavior by doing that. It's what she just learned to do. Don't touch. I don't like that then Out of another group. I saw I know a guy who ran everything perfect, right? He got this girl in down for the same same I like it was Everything was done. He took a taxi with the girl back to her place. It was all set in stone Right. She was they come up to my room, but he knew somewhere in the community said don't supplicate Right, so when you come down to pay for the taxi goes your goodness, right? And she's like excuse me. He's like I'm paying for the taxi Guess what he didn't get the girl that night. He didn't get up to a room She paid the taxis like later and she walked on left them Why because somewhere out there and said don't supplicate because he thought oh, I'm alpha. I Don't pay for taxis. You also don't get laid apparently at that point Right, so you have to know How to use these things properly so the way to do that is understanding the purpose the purpose of what we're trying to do The purpose of everything is basically the mentality of the why versus the how Most guys come into this and they're trying they want to know how to do things How do I do this? How do I do that every question I get? From now everyone is always how do I do how this how that how that right? Once just once I want that guy to come up to me and go. Why do you think this works or? Why is this? You know, I know this works, but why why do you think that works? I've seen it work. I'm just curious why That's the guy who's looking for the purpose behind something That's a guy who's trying to really figure it out not from face value alone But because he wants to implement it in other areas if you know what works You will come up with a billion how-to's on your own I talked about getting you know best natural game and whatnot. I started from a place of a ten-hour I talked about this last year, but I came from a place of a ten-hour routine stack From going from that to best natural game. I had to figure out why instead of how all the time That was the switch The other one is X guru versus Y guru this guy says that oh, but this guy says that ah But but you see it says this guy says it almost comes like a religious debate Right, it's like a bunch of rabbi sitting at a table trying to figure out what the real text is trying to explain and Misinterpret and try to interpret the words of the gurus, right? You have a brain. You're intelligent guys. You can figure this out yourself You can see what we're you want to you want to you want to theorize and see what works and what doesn't try it Just go out and try it experiment Right. Yeah, if you sign you see a guru or some guy out there is teaching this stuff And he seems right for you by all means you know go with that But at least pick one system one type of thing and give that give that a legitimate legitimate chance I'm all about mixed pickup arts and can use it best of everything But you need a solid way you need a solid foundation first and then when that's your style That's your way then you can take what you want from other areas that fits that style that fits that way that is you a Quote from the boot. I want to give is question all that I teach you But there's myself or there is anyone else on the stage question it again your intelligent men I've talked to every single one of the guys in this room another one of the cool things about the 21 convention That I got it. I got to meet every single one of you. I can take you on field I got a laugh with you guys, you know Every single one of you are intelligent guys and Normal too for them for the most part. No, they're all you're all normal for them Well, you guys are like normal intelligent guys and okay when I got into this four years ago, and that was not the case Community was weird back then like really weird But you'll have hand your shoulders you are thinking about this you can figure this stuff out We can help you. I want you I can take off massive learning time But ultimately you have to question it and you have to see if that makes sense for me. Does that resonate? Everything a pickup has a purpose you have to know this tool what these tools are used for if I did a boot camp I showed you guys everything I know I can just put my brain in you, right? What you're going to see is a toolbox. Maybe there's a hammer a screwdriver a wrench whatever, right? But if I'm going to nail a nail to the wall, I'm not going to use a wrench I'm going to use a hammer And the way of understanding which tool to use is understand cause and effect. What does this do? And what effect does it have and if you understand the purpose of it and the cause effect relationship behind what you're doing Then you're going to start getting better Otherwise you're just doing things blindly Figure out what these tools are used for So I'm going to ask you guys a question. What's the purpose of pickup itself? Is it attraction I put these are the three answers they usually get Attraction well if you think it's attraction, that's only a small piece of the puzzle There's a lot of more stuff to it than just getting a little attracted to you for pickup, right? Is it sex? Well with sex you're going about this really the hard way Because it is massively easier and cheaper just go get prostitutes Right it is this is a really hard thing to you know a very expensive habit man And if you think oh, yeah, but I want continuous sex, right? Well, guess what you take the gaunt dates You got to do all kinds of stuff, you know for this girl and paying for stuff like it adds up Ultimately if you want to just get sex I go to just go to a prostitute man. It really is that much easier relationships It's great thing not for me for now at this point in my life. I'm not saw what I'm looking for right now I'm down the road. I'm I definitely see myself taking part of that, but Ideally that's just one type of goal It's a noble one. It's a great one to have But some guys don't want that some guys want to just go out and have fun some guys want to enjoy just doing their own thing right now my Mental energy my effort my investment is in this it's in helping you guys develop my business Travelling that kind of stuff. I don't want to have to think about you know cementing a solid relationship with someone Eventually, yeah, but I have other goals for this right now So you took the units to figure out what your goal is so then what is that? What is the purpose of pickup? It's leading. It's leading into whatever goal that is But before we're talking about these are just simple goals You can have the purpose of pick up itself is understanding how to lead properly to get to wherever you want to go to What I find is leading is the main difference between an intermediate guy and Okay, is the is the main difference between an intermediate guy and an advanced guy Beginners their promise they can't open right They can't open they can't approach whatever then you get Intermediate guys with the two problems, you know, they can't actually escalate or more important They can't lead it they just don't know where to take it and The thing with leading is it doesn't matter what your style is you can run anything any method any style any way of going about it I guarantee with that style. You're gonna have to lead you're going It's your job as it's your job as a man to make that happen That's what we're learning. All of this what we're learning is how to go from point A to point B It's how we can lead that progression. I mean a lot of great speakers will be talking about on that importance that Needed to be the dominant one. It's as I love a book called The ways to appear a man it talks about how it's a man's job to be dominant. It's the woman's being Submissive not saying this from a negative perspective saying all women should be submitting to us and they're there for us That's not was about you're saying on an internal level They want you guys to take control. They want you to be the dominant one They want you to make it happen for them. I once had I had a girlfriend and The best thing I ever did for her was when she had a birthday. I said honey, that's what I have your whole day planned up I know everything you like and everything you don't like I have a surprise for you Your whole birthday is gonna be a big surprise and I'm gonna take you through that journey her eyes So that she cried it was exactly what she wanted Right. I could have done the pussy thing. It just been like so what do you want to do? I'll just do whatever you want But no, I led that and I gave her an incredible day that she did you thank me for right same thing with a pickup They want you to take control. They're they're rooting for you without knowing how to lead it causes a two-hour set that goes to nowhere That's a very intermediate problem when you have these sets you're just running them and talking to them and you're realizing This is just being polite at this point. We're just having basic conversation. This isn't going anywhere Yeah, I can try to rationalize my head as I'm making comfort, but you know, it's not You know, it's you're just wasting your time at this point because you don't know where you're going So how do we stop that know where you're going from the first month? I had that mindset always. I remember we come up with it. The idea of mini goals If our ultimate goal in a pickup is have sex or relationship then the mini goals is every possible goal that leads there Now a beginner will have many goals that go into this kind of structure Open attract number close date sex, right? Those are my mini goals I've been a lot of you guys saw a pick up in that kind of terminology of I have to open I have to somehow attract this girl. Maybe I'll get a number close take her out for date or something Then sex will happen, right? That's how if I pick apart when most guys come to me students. That's their mini goals The advanced guys have many mini goals and way more than that you can even put on a PowerPoint slide I got you go 200 mini goals. Let's look at it. Let's look at the idea of advanced guys mini goals Pre-open open transition establish Kino for friendly obstacles learn the logistics find commonalities number close mini isolate Popper buying temperature total isolate now leave it around build some sexual attention kiss close Bounce out of the club or go for a date then sex This guy the advanced guy is always going to know where to take it. So let's say I just Got her number, right? Once I'm getting a girl's number guess what's going through my head? Someone what's gonna happen next on there? What though? I already know what's gonna happen next if I got a number We're mini isolate. That's what's going through my head. I got a number. What's next? Oh, okay mini isolate So now my game is how can a mini isolator? I want to think about how I can get her to have sex I'm not worried about kiss-closing. I'm not worried about anything The only thing I'm thinking about is how can I mini isolate her because I know they'll take me one Step closer to my ultimate goal. The rest doesn't matter. It's just that mini goal that matters So what I want you guys to do is take a piece of paper and on the top of it write mini goal mini goals And not now some point at home later You're going to write out as many mini goals as you possibly can And every single month I want you to add to that list something Maybe it's two things maybe three things whatever it is add to it because the more mini goals you have The smoother your pickup is going to become At last thing having a mentor That was the final piece of the puzzle for me My mentor you met already and you know great guy solid game afc adam That was two years ago When that happened that was the final blast piece that I needed I just need someone who can help show me the way someone could take you me because a mentor can do two things for you that You can get from nowhere else And they'll give advice specifically for you that's not generalized Everything people say up on the stage every ebook you read every product you see even anything you do in this community um is generalized I have to doing this talk for even right now. I'm giving a talk for everyone Yeah I like to believe it's a good one. I like to believe everyone can take part of this However, if I was someone specific mentor, I can give them advice specifically for them I would know exactly what your promise and what you can do to now fix it and start helping yourself That's only a mentor can do that for you. The second thing is he can show you how it's done instead of just telling you It's one thing to read about it's one thing to hear it I'll tell you guys, but I'm a visual learner I remember I could my huge second point was I couldn't make out with a girl in a club I want to learn how to do that one day I went with a guy named volatile And I saw him make out with a girl right in front of me and then it clicked I go he did it I just saw it If he can do it, I can do it It wasn't just something on a piece of paper anymore. I saw it in front of me and then guess what that night I got my first makeup Because I saw an action and only a mentor can help do that for you So one of the kind of mentors that you can find well, you can find a specific guru Uh, you can do boot camps where you will get personalized instruction Uh layers are really great. I found that to be awesome. You know, you'll find advanced guys in the layers who look out for you On naturals, they might not be able to explain what the hell they're doing But you'll sure see a lot of cool stuff And in more my best one women I learned more from women at this point than from anywhere else Hell even simple stuff like literally just uh, I was just in sweden for the 21 convention there in stock home I met a girl and she showed me this thing. Um, can I have someone to come up a stage real quick? Yeah She showed me just this funny Little trick thing I do and I like it now. She goes white man Black man Batman Nice I just like that. Thank you I just it's simple little things. You know what you guys read few reports or lay reports, right? The problem with that is it comes from the guy's perspective You know where I get my lay reports from women So our guy thinks guess what? Yeah, man, you know, I neg this girl and that's it man. She wanted to sleep with me after that I took that same girl and she goes had nothing to do with that Actually, you know, I just like the fact that we both like the Beatles That was really cool. And I have to when I heard that I wanted to sleep with him Well, guess what? I'm okay. I got that now. I'm going with what the girl just said in that case I'd rather hear her stuff because she knows what made her think I want to get with this guy She knows what happened. We can only guess So I learned so much having women around as my mentors and having those women around me my everyday life How many people here have five female friends? Close ones that they can go out anytime and just hang out with Some of the hands would all right good That is something that massively useful You guys can have if you don't I would suggest stop pick up entirely and go out and get those five female friends Go approach girls now just prefer them Until you got five solid female friends So with all of this I can help and I want to help if You choose it be it's always an honor to have anyone who comes to me I have two websites out there right now The first is psych of game It's my own personal blog. There's a lot of There's there's a lot of great information on there My own you know From motivational posts like transformation to how to sexually Escalate everything and I try to update as much as possible I just watch cool videos and whatnot. I put up there And you can find out about any kind of services. I do boot camps personal coaching all on that website The other website I have is girl attract calm and what that is Is another website where I do monthly videos on all the how-to stuff From a video on how to approach to day game to what to do if you invite a girl over to movie night And you're sitting here and she's right here and you have this space of doom in between you Right and I take questions all the time from the most broad stuff to the very specific thing right and I upload these videos It's free for everyone That's my cool thing with you guys, right? It's free. You can go on there. You can see the videos There's a VIP membership that I do have For the guys at this convention because you know dreams the man Anyone who types in 21 when they sign up a register first month free all the videos on there. You got to see yourself If you like it cool, if not, I hate you If not, it's fine So wrapping up Success is never final and failure never fatal. It's courage that counts Where do you think these wise words came from? Any idea What if I'm not from psych I keep it. I keep these words on me at all times in my wallet They come From a fortune cookie I saw Wise words of a fortune cookie But when I saw my mind blew because these words resonated me more than almost anything I ever saw and this is like getting the most Destroyed piece of paper I've ever have but I've kept this around me for the last like two years or so basically because I'll break this down success is never final I'm always going to be a student As much as you guys I'm one of you as much as I'm yeah, I might be the guy standing on the platform I might be the guy on stage right now mic'd up, but I'm still in this community myself I'm still you know find my path. I'm still always trying to improve It's a never-ending process. You find me any guy who says I have all the answers. I've it all figured out I'll show you a guy to stay away from It's never final And if you feel at any point, you know what lately there's been an actual upsurge of guys come up to me saying oh man, I got to figure it out Oh, yeah, I know this stuff. Yeah. Oh, I'm already at that level. I'm really good, man That's a horrible mindset to have That's a horrible mindset because you're stopping any progress from happening success is never final And if you're coming from that mindset, you're stagnating And it's just an ego defense mechanism. That's just very see-through as well Failure is never fatal. How many people here know someone or yourself or someone else who's got him blown out of his set? All right. Now, how many people here know of a guy who got blown out of his set and died because of it? Not surprising with libido Point is it's never fatal you will survive you will live to tell the tale Right if you fail Then you then you learn something and you can move on you can do it again And that which doesn't kill us makes us stronger And finally it's courage that counts It's courage to go out day and after day after day to be the guy that sits on that bench Crying in the rain and knowing even then that I'd be going out the next day to implement this all over again To rework that grind No matter what that's with the courage of stepping out and saying there's my dream girl I'm going to go talk to her and it doesn't mean not feeling fear It doesn't mean being just like oh, I'm super courage and super brave and whatnot. No, that's not it Courage is feeling the fear and doing it anyways People say oh, I'm scared right now. I know you're scared. You know what? I I'll admit this right now I will still get approach anxiety sometimes when I see a girl. I want Difference is it doesn't stop me I feel it as well. I know the feeling I've showed you where I came from That little That little fat kid playing managed to gather him back in the day, right? That he was scared shitless But he did it And if he can do it that means you can do it too It just takes courage. It means just putting yourself in that line of fire knowing you will survive. It's not fatal I'm actually really happy that I get to be the last one to wrap up this convention Because if nothing else if you remember nothing else from this entire experience Whether my speech or the whole thing understand that If you just have courage if you just go out there And you just feel that fear and do it anyways You will see that progression. You will be that three percent Thank you guys