 Hey Tony Gaskins here If you're watching this replay That's why I'm welcoming you Nobody actually on here with me yet, but I gotta share it and y'all forgive me. I'm Yeah, I ain't got the world's most light in here Get some bite in here. I'm gonna share this here. Y'all give me a second Share this here video We won't be too long tonight. Just wanting to pop in Chat with the bless tribe and Answer some questions if there are any I'm at practice tonight. So I don't have too long because I plan to get My son and I plan to get our food Before he get out of practice. So I don't have to stop after practice And y'all forgive me for this here lighting in here Sometimes all these lights don't come on Okay, I've got it on a little different Hopefully we'll be all right Tasty man jump right on in here with a question. I am a router Okay Should I give my baby daddy a second chance if he comes back? If it's only a second chance, I believe in second chances now when you get into the third and fourth and all of that That's a little different It's also a little different when you have a baby with somebody Because nothing is ever gonna be perfect. So you got to take every case by the case But it depends on what all he did. So whenever you're dealing with something like that marriage children type situation then You need to be able to You need to have a session because it's never one size fits all on stuff like that Where's the moderator? with your cash out The moderators might not be in here yet or tonight just because I did this on a whim So I didn't announce this earlier So they might be tied up My cash out is my name and the reason why I like to share that when y'all ask me is because there's so many Scammers that you always see them in the comments They might put a x2 s is on the end of my name or two in in there. So If understand this is these are free chats So you don't have to send a blessing or anything like that to ask a question and I appreciate when y'all Bless me, but that's not something that's required But if you're gonna do it, it's just my name And I got a one s on the end of my name A lot of people think it's Gaskin Jasmine God bless you Thank you for joining. Let me see poetic God bless you joining the bless tribe We get enough people in the in the bless tribe We'll be able to Do us some bless tried retreats and stuff. We actually still got the retreat this year in Bali. I Still been thinking Bob. I'm a little nervous. I'm gonna tell y'all that now I should have picked your maker some on a why pick Bali trying to be fancy I'm regretting it now because after I've seen the little monkey go off on the lady there was a video and The little monkey went to swinging on the lady at the monkey parking Bali. I say, oh lord This is not what I'm set up for listen I Be the slur that monkey so far and then all of them come attack me I'd be the went over there Lord be with me because this I Not want to have planted other apes over there So I'm gonna and my wife should get mad at me like I'm a punk if I say I don't want to do something like that But I'm gonna show try to Lord willing. She could come and our sons don't have nothing too crazy going on cuz I'm a show try to talk talk myself out of and just see if she'll go to the monkey park with y'all cuz That is just not in my this is not how the Lord built me But I think the body is so lot but people have to counseling stuff cuz plans and stuff come up Marilyn God bless you now Odessa and welcome to the blessed tribe if you have a question put the hashtag queue in front of it and And So I could see I can't answer all questions. I don't know the answer I don't have an opinion on everything. So y'all understand that had a dream that my guy child's Mother popped up at his home while I was there A few days later his child's mother called him charging him up about going on a date. We've been talking almost seven months leave Charging him up Okay, boyfriend child's mother It might be a little deeper than just Leaving So that's something you gonna have to talk to him about to see if he is over her or still Dealing with her in that way. That's interesting. You had a dream about that but that's an in-house conversation right there and Reason why I'm kind of shifting y'all y'all remember there was some time back to where Anything you say I'm saying Lee Lee Lee stop putting up with it, but now As I'm growing and I'm seeing this here the state of our world If we just walk away off of the wind blowing hard or the first sign of adversity We'll Will be a world of singles and So we're gonna have to start working something out figuring something out cuz the way the world going it ain't looking good Marlin meets world. God bless you. Welcome to the blessed tribe now. I Want to be a life coach, but don't know where to start. I am 22 years old. Where do you recommend starting? Jasmine, um, I recommend starting with a personal session to talk through that Just to make sure you doing this for the right reason you got to make sure you want to be a right a life coach for the right reason because 22 you really haven't lived any life. You don't live life, but it's a whole lot more living to do so You have to identify, you know, who do you want to work with? Who do you want to help? You know, do you want to help 16 year olds and You know young teenage girls and have their mother hire you as like a mentor or Do you want to work with adults? You know young adults? So it's some self-discovery before you just jump out there I think a lot of times people look at it and it looked good It looked cool. It looked purposeful. It looked like all of that there, but You know some work got to be done Some work got to be done. You got to make sure that you know, you're in the right place Somebody just sent my blessing God bless you now God bless it rain to my phone Hey, God bless you say miss Chippy God bless you Make sure y'all put on hashtag Q in there Truth seeker God bless you God bless you. We definitely gonna be praying for you now Definitely gonna be praying for you Jasmine almost missed your question right now. Y'all remember to put that hashtag Q in front of your question Tony based on your experience coaching married couples. What are your thoughts on? Couples that were once married remarrying. I have not seen that many times maybe once or twice and One lady that I met she wrote a whole book about it marrying her ex and so in Some situations it really depends on the man a lot of times and it could be the woman but Meaning if one of the individuals is what y'all like to talk about all the time the narcissist If one of the individuals is one of those Then it doesn't work Because a lot of times people come back out of they want revenge. They want power They don't want anybody else to have you and it's not genuine. So it literally you have to know the person You got to know the person and you got to be able to take time So if you're gonna get back with somebody you were married to You can't just pick up where you left off. You got to start all over premarital counseling all of that got to start all over Oh Skimmed over it now that you are older and look back. What is something you wish you would have done in Your early 20s Well, I wrote my first book at 22 so I kind of got right to it in my 20s and I Think it's important to just have a natural process you hear you learning and You growing and so to be that young a lot of the people on here in their 30s 40s Some people in their 50s and 60s you here at 22 learning so you you on a good trajectory One of the things that I would say to everybody that's 25 and under is don't be so hard on yourself Don't put so much pressure on yourself spend less time Watching social media and being on social media and spend more time posting on social media if you want to build the brand So open your social media post a quote or post a reel or post a video and then close your social media and Stay off of social media Because which all young folks what y'all are doing is y'all comparing your life and you comparing your process and what you got to realize There's a lot of people today living off of a PPP check a lot of people today living off of a EIDL check a lot of people living off of Unemployment check a lot of people are scamming a lot of people are doing all kind of fraud And that's how they live in and so you can't get caught up on social media Comparing and what you got to do instead is just focus on you focus on your grind focus on your work Stop looking left stop looking right and just lock in and I wish I would have you know just locked in sooner and new EIDL that's the economic Something disaster loan from the SBA They've been trying to call me Somebody's got a load in my day y'all talk about He love God bless you. I say well I say well look here Brandy God bless I talked to a guy for a while Then they pull away and say they are not ready for a relationship. Could it be something? I'm doing wrong It's happened a few times. Well, Brandy It could be something you're doing wrong. Yes, it could But at the same time it also could be just he going back to his ex It's not a lot of genuinely 100% it's a lot but not all that Common of a man who is 100% single That's not as common as a man who has a little something from his past going on So it's just like these questions I answered earlier somebody asking about going back to the ex-husband Somebody asking about when they baby daddy come back. So most often a man has something With a ex or that he trying to get over He has a little something and just having a man that's fully completely 100% No strings attached nowhere. That's that's a much more rare So sometimes it has nothing to do with you because he just going back to that soul tie and So you got to be mindful of that. I'm looking for the question. So y'all got to forgive me guy a cool God bless you now See what be love God bless you now for that blessing God six years older than me told me He liked me went on a date Went on a date one and he insisted to visit him shouted at me once on the phone and Told him not to do that again to meet next day. He never called again Yeah, a situation like that. That's when you go on about your business When when it's red flags that early first date go on about your business go on about your business Yes, thank you. I started a spiritual Instagram page and want to grow my YouTube You have inspired me to not only start my YouTube, but know my work as a woman. God bless you on the right path Keep going left a relationship because of cheating He came back and went for coaching sessions I could not trust had to block him. He called my mom to get back together three months later You did the right thing when you leave over cheating and then you still can't you still can't trust then You did the right thing Do you offer mentorship to help others get started with life coaching? I feel I want to be a spiritual coach for a woman to develop their faith and trust in God. I Have a life coaching training on Tony gasses academy.com. You should see that on the screen I got a training on there that trains you about the business and the branding of coaching and Then I do do one-on-one sessions right now. I don't mentor in the sense of I just I mentor some guys, but I don't mentor a mentor But it's a paid. It's a business transaction If I say that right, I don't mentor women Because to me mentor their the sense of it is it's unpaid So I have certain young men that have approached me and they doing something in their life and things like that But I do do one-on-one sessions in certain seasons This is one of those seasons because we're in the first quarter. So it's important for a lot of people to get their year started off, right? So Just email in to support at Tony gasses.com. I Don't know how many sessions open this month or next Thinking of starting a YouTube channel about being a corporate Imp, I'm guessing that mean employee and self-employed Coach living abstinently Care-taking for a mother staying social and improving myself would that be interesting? Anything will be interesting anything will be interesting, but it's not easy. So just understand that You know, this algorithm is tricky. You never know what YouTube is doing so but anything is interesting because We love reality. We love real what are the signs mom is in love With her son Well, every mom in love with a son as a Mariela So that's just something you gonna have to Deal with that all of them in love with a son That's just how that go crystal God bless you Welcome now some moms are overbearing and they overstep their boundaries And so when a man put his mama before you in the sense of she's not disabled She's not needy and he got to go to her and check with her about everything he does in his life and things He does in his household And all of those type of things That's when it get out of the way I don't ask my mama for no opinions about my household as a grown man I don't ask my mama and she knows she always tell me she remind me. She said boy, you should take that scripture about The husband cleave into his wife and forsaken his mother and father real serious And I say, you know, I just have to focus on my wife and my family like this. This this my responsibility You know everything outside of that could come second, but it's my responsibility But some men do have an unhealthy relationship with their mama And but that's this, you know, it's blatant. It's not like a spelled-out sign because it's gonna be different. So You got to trust your intuition. Is there any advice you would give to someone just starting their YouTube channel y'all serious about that now Be consistent. That's one thing. I'll say be consistent the way any network works is You are a partner of that network So if you're not posting every day or every other day, then the algorithm does not Get to know your channel. It doesn't get to know Your page because you're not a partner. You just kind of casual So you got to look at it like a relationship if somebody called you once a week y'all aren't partners Y'all aren't in a relationship, but if somebody calling you every day now Y'all in a relationship you go y'all in a friendship or partnership. You're gonna support them They're gonna support you so it's us who make the network a network And so without us the network is nothing So if you give the network your time and your energy and your presence then it's gonna make sure that you are Rewarded for that because they know they can't eat without us Okay, they got cut off the Breanne Finish the rest of that. They're Breanne Crystal you forgot your hashtag cue, but I've seen it been dating a guy It's like I get on here on my phone want to go crazy I've been dating a guy for months His actions show that he is interested we go on dates talk every day, etc. He keeps his word But how long is too long to date someone before you should move on you shouldn't move on unless you got a reason to move on and In this day and age you need about six months. Yeah, I used to say three months But just with the induction of so many more dating apps and so many more things out there um crystal God bless you now God bless you and For that blessing that you're sitting on now So you need about six months unless you see something that's worth leaving before then hey, Tony Are you doing another album? I literally listen to the first one for the whole summer to the point I know all the words look at you tomorrow and for those y'all didn't know I got a spoken word album called Greatness On iTunes where I'm just on there talking reading reading some poems I wrote really and uh, yeah, I'm thinking about it. I just met a poet She's been following me for a while, but we thinking about collaborating and doing like some little back-and-forth type things But in the lane what you're talking about I do need to get back in there I've been planning and meaning to get back in there, but I just got to feel it in my spirit Sorry, my message just got cut off SMH but he came back after three months spoke to my mom to get back after cheating we were good until we got It got cut off again Are you going to continue the series you produce I used to wait for them to drop every wins I do want to I do want to but right now we're in a recession so being in that recession It's you know, a lot of people struggling to pay their bills So when I created that you know, I did that out of my pocket and that was out of excess So we're not in that situation right now. So when you independent like myself, you know, that that cost me about $20,000. So when you think about it, it's like $20,000 for anybody. That's a lot of money and they don't really make any money because it's on YouTube. So for whatever reason YouTube does not really show scripted and produce stuff love like they do this non scripted stuff, so Just have to wait on the timing in the season now if one of y'all want to executive produce it then I Produce it if y'all want to executive produce it meaning put up the money for it I'll produce it get the actors and get all that and which add on here and get the message out there But just me right now my own pocket Ain't I ain't able to do it. I'm Robin Peter to pay Paul right now Y'all got to forgive me Hi Tony, why do so many men expect women to take the lead these days? Where are the masculine men who still know how to treat women? You know, it's a trickle-down effect and that's a really really big question and it's a lot of factors that go into it but I'll be honest with you one of the largest factors is single mothers and Women moms marrying their son and It's a lot of moms that marry their son and that's because of dads walking out of the relationship or dads Disrespecting and dogging out the mama. So it's a trickle-down effect. So when the man is lost and the man is broken And the man is immature and the man doesn't grow now this right here sermon So we're gonna stay right here for a little bit. It might be the end. She might have just closed out the Q&A When the man does not grow Then he does not know how to lead He does not know how to be a man for his woman and his child so the man gets the woman pregnant and then he disappears and then when that man disappears now This woman is left broken and hurting and she lost and a lot of women then make their children their everything and they subconsciously almost create a Romantic relationship with their child without intercourse involved but Love making is in the mind and so now a lot of young men who are raised in a fatherless home Their mom makes him her king and She just wants a man because she wanted love from his father and his father did not give her that love and He didn't give her that love because he was lost hurting broken Confused trauma-ridden all of his excuses and so he does that then it's the kick the cat syndrome the man Loses mind go off on the woman woman lose her go off on the son son lose his go kick the cat But it just looks a little different on this other side of it So I see so many moms who are living through Their son and not realizing that that son got to grow up and be a husband one day But because she doesn't have a man to give her energy to and because a woman was not created to be alone She was literally created to be to help me to a man when she cannot help a man Then she starts helping a boy and that boy is her son and in helping her son She now a lot of moms Cripple their sons because and that's why I have to even being in the home I have to talk to my wife and I have to tell her like listen don't do everything for them Let them teach them how to do it and let them do it. So me being a man I see it totally different and that's the problem with single-parent home Sometimes is not having that other side. You don't really know so when I go up when I go up to My son and he say dad can you open this ketchup? I said son Let me show you how to do this here and I show him how to open it And then I get the next pack and I say all right now you do it now He know how to open the ketchup pack that can you tell my shoes show him how to tie the shoes Okay, now you try now. He learned how to tie a shoe Whereas with with moms a lot of times Make the breakfast make the lunch make the dinner wash the clothes clean the room Wash the face wash the body, you know do every little thing The boy irresponsible the boy not doing this the boy not doing that and I tell my wife all the time like listen if he get up and he don't do what he's supposed to do and he forget his book and You took him to school 40 minutes Don't go back and get that book let them learn from natural consequence, but as a mom she gonna go get it me We all I said a something to get off. I got to go I got to go unlock the office got so a man coming by the office So if you trying to go home, let's go. So I got up. I get up. I'm going to the car He's standing there and he just standing there looking around. I look back He just standing there looking around like he had no sense of urgency. He wasn't paying attention So I left him. He called me daddy you gone. I'm like, yeah, I'm going so I tell you I believe it You like oh, I thought you gonna get my chair. I'm like you 15 years old What made you think I'm finna carry your chair like you got that kind of sense of entitlement You think I'm finna ease your arm broke like what's wrong with you boy? I said, I'm gone You got to stay at the game now with you with your mama because he was tired when we had ran a 5k that morning And we went to Tayden game and see that's what I mean like them life lessons That's what men got to learn. So today what we have is a lot of adult men who were caught up growing up They were caught up by a mama and then sometimes it's the flip side sometimes But I really don't see the flip side as much But they was caught up by a mama and they they mama made love to their mind And they was used to being baby then catered to so then they want a woman to come in and basically be a mom That he can sleep with So he and so the mom this strong single mother. She has strong Independent woman so this strong independent woman. She's leading. She's doing everything. She's driving him everywhere She cooking she clean and she doing all that she's leading So that's why a lot of these men they want the woman to come in their life and lead in the sense of They want the woman to shoot her shot. And so men like oh if you like me then come and tell me You too need to stop worshiping the devil Because it's the only number that the thing gets stuck on and y'all think that's fun out there Y'all need to stop playing with Lord because y'all know good and well That's the only number that y'all try to have that thing stuck on it when it get on the devil number Stop playing with my dinner in that darn pal after sitting out there. They're gonna hit the pause on the count Come on now There were that time foolery and So now I literally hear men say hey It's okay for a woman to shoot her shot if you like a man Let him know and that right there is not that's not the way to go because a woman is The one who the man proposes to so if you want a man to If the man is the one supposed to propose then a woman should not be shooting her shot a Woman should not be coming in Paying for the date a woman should not be telling the man that she likes him and that she want to sleep with him if she wants him to be Leading in love meaning showing love showing that sacrificial love Being a provider paying the bills doing all those things and so this is why we have this Backwardness in society today is just because of the breakdown in the home But see my mind said about it is different Because I had my father in the home. So I saw a leader. I saw our provider. So for me my wife doesn't work and I wouldn't want her to work unless she want to work and although she doesn't work I still Get her anything and I'm always thinking about how can I provide for her? So I was in the airport today coming home. I popped in the Mac. I went into the Mac store and I said hey I want to get my wife some new brushes and It just my mind thinking like that the last time I went through the airport last week of the week before I think it was last week. I Went into the sunglass store and I bought us some saline sunglasses And so anytime passing through the airport, I'd get up for nothing guilt because I'm looking okay. What can I do on? Sunday, I was like a baby going log into this account over here and transfer $1,500 to your account Just you know to do whatever you need to do like we're just if you want to buy you something And I'm thinking like that because as a provider man because I had a father in the home who provided it sets me in the mindset of Catering to my woman not catering in the sense of just like spoiling but letting her rest in her femininity and Trying to get her to be more feminine in the sense of like relax chill like, you know calm down Like let let me let me do what I could do Let me utilize the gifts that God gave me but today we got men who They thinking they're not thinking about those things because They watch their mother provide they watch their mother lead the household They're watch they mother stand strong So they won't they why to work a finger to the bone. They won't they wife to be Doing like what they mama did but not realizing is that they mama did that in a lot of cases because the dad was not there Or because of the dynamic between their mother and their father or stepfather and not realizing that had they mama had a choice and Could she just focus 100% on the kids and not have to work She might have would have chose to do that unless she just love work And even then she still would have you know made a choice And so we got to understand when when you look in the history, that's when you start to realize what's going on Hi, what's the best way to break a soul tie with a male best friend of 10 plus Friendship don't want to hurt his feelings, but just choosing me Brittany set these videos, you know, just kind of go to the playlist and All you doing to break a soul tie is just getting new knowledge that new knowledge will start to produce healing Because they say knowledge is power, but really it's applied knowledge. That's power And so when you get this knowledge, you're replacing something that you do not know something that you thought you knew And when you get something new it starts to build new confidence and it starts to give you the strength to go forward And we ain't got too much longer. I got to go get dinner for my son here in a little bit. I Told him I was gonna get us some dinner By the time he get out of practice, so we don't have to go out to practice and get late We're hour and a half away from home It's just it's the things that a Parent does for those y'all who you don't have kids yet Listen It's a sacrifice A guy started following me on IG both of our accounts are private. So we had to accept each other I'm interested in him, but I feel that if he were interested in me He would have DM me thoughts even he might be just buying this time. He might just be watching He might not want to look like a creep and So, you know, just take your time and he got to do that He got to go and add all the women that he liked a little profile picture of Just to see 29 single never had a boyfriend dated 67 men in life never led to a relationship I'm a virgin never really discuss it. I Do think I'm proud I'm the problem sometime everyone says I'm sensitive how to fix you gonna need coaching We ain't gonna be able to fix your health system 29 version never been in a relationship. We're gonna be able to fix your health system So you're gonna need to go and get on my mentor dot life and do you about four to 12 sessions and really just dig deep and talk through that and You might not be the problem. It might just be that Your stance in this society just is not a popular one And so, you know, don't don't don't beat yourself up on it, but learn Get that other Outside perspective, I have a huge decision. I'm facing. I'm dealing with this guy I think it's truly my kingdom spouse and he does too. We both suffer from extreme trauma And we're now making Jesus our foundation Hey, you doing the right thing now in other words, am I shooting my shot by messaging him first? Yes, you shooting your shot by messing him first So don't message the man instead Just like one of his posts because that's just like a message just like one of his posts You can even watch his story But don't don't message them now because when you message him and it's certain type of men that want you to message them now It's certain type of men that want you to message him But don't do that yet Don't do that just because it sends a wrong message And if you message if you ever message a man, let it be like a question About the business he in About a post he made don't let it be like hi. Hi. How are you or? Hi, are you single? Don't do that. No matter what society saying And most men will not tell you the truth, but what it says is You just get a man up a hand. He knows then that you like him But what you don't know is if he likes you So what you do and when when a woman shoot her shot? She relinquishes her power Because when you put a man in that driver seat to know that you like him He now knows that he can extract from you. He now knows that he can get something from you Now he knows that because you're interested that's half the battle now He knows that he can talk to you because you're interested and he could give you this hairbrain scheme Idea and get an investment from you now He knows that he can talk to you give you some quality time and he can sleep with you Because you have told him you have shown him that you're into him That's why a woman should always let a man make the first move because Women have the most to lose Because when a woman made the first move and I'm gonna break this down because this old raggedy society is so many women talking about It's okay to shoot your shot and I'm trying to tell you you look like a gazelle walking up to a lion That is do not do that do not do that do not let this raggedy society If you want a man to holler at you get your body right then You'll be better off being superficial and going and getting to the place to where you feel comfortable In your body the well man jumping out at you before you going to shoot your shot And a lot of times the women I see saying that a lot of time when I look at them It's they tired of waiting on a man to come shoot. They shot, but it's like listen. You're not ready yet That's why he not shooting his shot because you're not working on you You looking like who shot John and forgot to kill him. He's not finna come and shoot no shot But when you go and shoot your shot now, he know oh, I don't want him Because I seen her over there and a holler at her for a reason because I don't want her But now that she doesn't shot her shot I'm finna gonna get a loan off of her now that she doesn't shot her shot He finna gonna get some sloppy topic off for you now that you didn't shot your shot He finna gonna get a free meal off of you because now you showing him you a strong independent Bodacious courageous woman. So now he know you also the type of woman that feel like going Dutch on a date So now he finna get to eat good for how the price now He also know that he finna take you on this little cheaper cheap date And because you trying to prove that you don't need no man That you finna take him on an expensive date this high grown boys think and this why I try to Try to help women, but anytime trying to help women It's always a group of women who know it all and then gonna tell me how man think don't tell me How what what is manly and what's this and that I'm like I'm trying to get you to gain now Never ever and in a woman who say this you tell her come see me You tell her come talk to me about why a woman should never shoot her shot blatantly Watching his story is not shooting a shot. That's just getting position You just in position so he could see you liking his post. That's not shooting your shot Walking up to a man and ask him if he's single that's shooting your shot DMing a man and asking him is he single that's shooting your shot Being positioned that's not shooting your shot and you got to stop doing that because Men read into that and a woman has the most to lose the reason why I say a woman has the most to lose Because the woman is the receiver So when you shoot your shot when a woman shoot her shot at a man now He know he got he 50% Halfway to sleeping with her Now you receive this man into your body. Now you got a soul tie Now you got a spiritually transmitted disease Now you don't slept with everybody. He don't ever slept with Now you also could have a sexually transmitted disease. Now you also could be praying All this stuff could now you could be hooked now all this stuff could happen all off a woman shooting her shot and What I'm trying to tell y'all this what I need women to understand if a man won't you you going to know Listen to me. If a man won't you you are going to know I don't have No iron in the fire. I ain't got no reason to be trying to tell women how to protect yourself Because if I was out here playing the game, I'll be telling you to shoot your shot So the women who might want me what shoot they shot? I'm telling you a woman shooting her shot. That is disgusting That is nasty It make a real man. We throw up in our mouth in real man. I ever talked to All of us say it is nasty. It's disgusting because we're not blind If a man want you he see you We as men we see 360 degrees You know why because we shoot us we kill a week we snipers we we go in the war We ain't we working for the Navy for them for the Marines for the army like we out here a man ain't missing nothing. He see you he don't want you He do not want you That's why I'm trying that's why I try to tell you you never have to shoot your shot Oh, well, I know well coach such as such shot her shot Coach such as such shot her shot and not they've been married for 20 years. Okay God bless her to uh 50 cent got shot nine times and live Sometimes things go it's it's exceptions to the rule But at the same time too what I try to tell people is Okay, that could work one out of a thousand times But that's not gonna work the other nine hundred and ninety nine times. So You might as well go play the lotto You might as well go play the lotto You might as well go down to Paul's casino in Las Vegas And take out your 401k if you think that a woman shooting her shot at a man Is gonna work. I'm telling you listen to what I'm telling you now Do not shoot your shot at no man and what aren't the last thing our society needs The last thing our society needs is women shooting a shot. We men already weak enough today Men already lazy enough today Men already sorry enough today The last thing a woman need to do is make it easier for a man by going up to him and shooting her shot That's the last thing a woman need to do Listen rest in your feminine You you put yourself together however you want to put yourself together You stretch your stuff you be out you be outside And he is going to see you If a man does not approach you It is because he is taken He does not want you Or he does not have the confidence yet to court a woman point blank period Point blank period Ain't no if and about somebody and a lot of times women say oh, I shot my shot at her husband And i'ma tell you When I see you woman say she shot her shot at her husband 50 percent of the time I could tell the man like men And it's like ma'am You're not a man You can't even see your husband It's feminine He happy you shot your shot because he was he needed a cover up And now you his cover up Congratulations That you got a download brother listen I'ma tell you less than one percent of the time When a woman shoot her shot is that relationship Authentic and supposed to be less than one percent of the time Listen to what I'm telling you now And I'll be trying to I'll be trying to get y'all to game But a lot of time you don't want to hear me And then and then you want to lump me in with these single men Faking like they give me the game I'm married Ain't nothing I could do with you. I ain't got no reason a lot to you Tony can I have the three tenders meal? for the sauce Your signature sauce. What is it called the sun sauce? Yes awesome. Would you drink with that? We have a lemonade Yeah, what my name? Yep What else do you say and then can I have another one of those? Yep with The sweet red chili All right, and to drink with that You do a lemonade and sweet tea Lemonade and sweet tea. All right, and that'll be all All right, that's gonna be $18 and 17 cents if a first one. No, I'm gonna enjoy it. Thank you Hey, y'all got to forgive me for ordering a little bit of that That good in front of y'all You got to feed my son though and see that's why I try to tell y'all sometimes y'all vegans you can't do all this Yes Because sometimes you got to be a you know on the road as an athlete dad Sometimes you got to eat well close to you So listen to me See, this is the thing what i'm trying to tell you is society Society gonna have us doing all kind of tarn pullery. Okay, society will have you out here looking like Who shot johnny forgot to kill him Society had you looking a mess But when i'm trying to tell y'all especially and when i'm talking to men i'm talking as a brother When i'm talking to women i'm talking as a brother. I'm trying to tell you As a brother in christ It not even if you in prophet muhammad. I'm still your brother in christ You know even if you must know But i'm trying to give you the game to save you Because okay, I understand sister earlene I understand sister earlene shot her shot at her man And they've been married 30 years at your church. Okay. God bless you Yes, uh-oh Can you make sure to top on that one? Okay, thank you All right, thank you very much So listen to me That's why you see sister earlene Got brother john and that chokehold He can't do nothing He can't He can't walk standing up straight. Why because she went over there And went up to him a playboy you got your old lady Um, no What you want to be my old lady Yeah Thank you very much. All right you too What you want to be my old lady? Yeah, I want to be your old lady. Okay. So that's why sister earlene Got that man and they've been married 30 years Because he wanted him a man And couldn't find no man in the bible belt because that's not allowed So he got sister earlene But he at home on that phone watching tom dick and harry on that phone And then he gonna join the choir Because he know that choir director Swing a little something So him and the choir director on the choir tour All chummy chummy And sister earlene don't even know her man like me and and that's why that's why I try to tell y'all when I tell you about a man When I tell you about a man I don't play all the games When I tell you about a man you could take that to the bank The the craziest thing to me. I was on I was on the podcast the other day talking about me I'm talking about men And women in the comments Uh, that's not how men think Uh, he's speaking from his own personal experience It's like It's only two types of men grown boys and grown men. That's it It's like you ain't got to be a rocket scientist And the men the men who be in the comments. Oh, that's just one man You know why they say that because they know That women crazy enough to believe that they know it's women already Who believe that so they just add to it because they know I ain't telling no lie. But when I meet that same man in person He said boy, you be telling the truth on that line boy. Why ain't never seen you tell no lie I ain't never met a man that said Tony you be online lying never Because I know the game When I'm giving you the game You'll be better off listening and if you confuse then talk to me one on one And tell me your whole situation and I'm gonna tell you exactly what's going on I done had women get off the phone with me mad Get off the phone with me mad And call me back a year later And say Tony everything you told me was right I just had a client yesterday Who was talking to me and what she was telling me about her man sounded very convincing I say listen I don't think it's that I think it's this she wrote me today and say Tony you was right It was exactly what you said listen If I don't know I'ma say I don't know If I don't know I'ma say I don't know But the reason why I speak in exact Is because only say what I know I don't talk about what I don't know And when I say what I know that mean I done seen thousands of scenarios to Confirm what I know Thousands of scenarios I ain't gonna give you no hypothetical I'm not gonna make nothing up So that's what I'm trying to tell you right now The devil is busy and what the devil trying to do He trying to get men and women to take a stupid pill Men losing their mind And women losing their mind and women out here It's a lot of women today Being turned over to a reprobate mind Right after the men being turned over to a reprobate mind And you pay attention to it That you literally I could say something that made most sense Then snow In an article I could say something that made most sense then snow in an article And you gonna see hundreds of people arguing with me Oregon by the truth Don't sit there and debate now Don't have no database Don't have no experience outside of their friend group And we'll sit there and argue They will argue just for the sake of arguing When I'm in the trenches all day long I'm doing this all day long I'm studying relationships all day long And somebody who done had one or two relationships And got two friends three friends And a couple co-workers will argue me down Oh I don't agree with that I'm like listen If I'm telling you this I ain't pulling this out my behind I got thousands of case studies Thousands of case studies. I still got an email y'all know my email inbox at tonigaster.com I got over 2000 Unread case studies in that email still left after going through them every single day Listen My database of love and relationships and what I'm telling you And what working don't work. It's no different than a scientist Doing studies in the field But what you have to realize is I'm doing studies in the field based on hundreds of thousands Of people that's reaching out to me There's not a lot of scientists that got the data of hundreds of thousands of people They might have a test group of a hundred people And they take a theory and turn it into law And disseminate it across the whole world and we believe it like it's the bible And they literally studied a hundred people I'm hearing from thousands of people And then I'm extracting what works and what don't work and I'm bringing you the majority I ain't bringing you to minority. I'm bringing you the majority And then here you go Griselda Well, a lady in my church uh shot her shot And slept with her husband on the first night And she actually swallowed his kids And they've been married 57 years So what are you talking about? I'd be like, oh my god. I say, oh, I say, you know what? I'm about to give up. I'm about to say, you know what? Okay Okay, go right ahead Go right ahead shoot your shot Shoot your shot at tanya Then he then he called himself anthony But in that bathroom he'd be tanya. Don't shoot your shot. Go right ahead and then and then When you wake up itching Don't say I didn't tell you Don't say I ain't trying to warn you when you wake up itching And i'm trying to tell y'all Stop thinking that sex is casual Stop getting on your back Later stop shooting your shot Men Stop playing with god daughter Because i'm trying to tell you there's a price to pay There's a price to pay You cannot go out here playing with your life You've got to take this thing serious You have got to take this thing serious because it's getting real out here It's getting real out here So I want you to understand this now Y'all got to forget my couldn't take no question And shout out the caramel kiss of god bless you Couldn't take no question. I was driving that look at her I don't really got that food Now I want y'all to understand too just watching this I'm on here doing this live And I was driving and when it got me and my son son to eat he get he don't get out of practice 20 more minutes I ain't know that drive through is gonna be that fast. I would have waited a little bit So I like eat my food hot. He'll eat food freezing cold. I said boy you got like you out the trenches boy He ain't had a rough day in your life. I don't know how you eat your food cold. Well, I can't do that And so listen to me I could but This what fathers do as well Because this practice an hour and a half from where we live And that's why I had to invest in this mobile office So that I could work like this because I'm on the internet and I'm on the laptop So a lot of time people are trying to get that bragging I'll give them just bragging No, I'm just sharing my life That's all I'm doing if you take that as bragging that mean you insecure And deon senator stole my quote don't let my confidence offend your insecurity I had to go back to google and seen all the tweets that I was tweeting in that same little thing And deon follow me I say now we saying the same thing And so listen, this what this what I want y'all to understand The enemy know if men and women are against each other it could literally end the human race But that spirit is working overtime in the black community. It's so sad now y'all now listen YouTube need to on my um Thumbnail they need to have this quote up right here What Andrea put up there? And forgive me if it's if it's pronounced the other way But this right here This right here I might condense it And raise some money For billboards all throughout Atlanta L.A. Chicago St. Louis in apless and put this on a billboard Because this right here This right here is an entire sermon and every pastor That's watching this Your next sermon need to be about this If you a black pastor Your next sermon need to be about the division in the body Because what the adversary knows is that if he can divide he can conquer But see this is the thing We got so many fake christians And so many fake believers So many people saying the name of god but living the opposite of how god tell us to live That it is becoming dangerous Because people are saying the name of god and drawing in people Who respond to that name But then they're living and teaching and representing A message that is contrary to the word of god. So then they are confusing the people And they're leading people astray And this is what we have to stop doing I would rather a person Never Say the name of god Than to say the name of god and then not represent god in the way that god needs and deserves to be represented We will be better off not saying the name But we living We're living in a society Where everybody Is playing so many people with a platform playing with the lord And so what's what's happening? Is we don't have enough people talking about the real deal And this right here This what i want to tell you Is so many people Who have a podcast Who do not have principles Is so many people who have a voice Who do not have A belief system Who do not have real standards Real morals and real values And these people are the loudest And it and it's and what i'm about to rebuke right now what i'm about to rebuke right now in the name of jesus I am rebuking the spirit Of fear Out of every believer And i'm rebuking the spirit of complacency out of every believer I'm rebuking the spirit of hiding out of every believer When i tell you i cannot tell you how many times i have got on the phone with a client And heard somebody say heard a client say it just happened again today Heard a client and i say the same thing That's why i'm rebuking it out of me too, but those y'all that seen the podcast i was just on what did i say on there? I say i don't like promoting myself I write books and i don't promote it When i see somebody Who can't even spell Write a book and do a world tour Do a world tour Don't know the difference between there and there And we'll do a world tour And i'm just sitting there like lord Please lord give me just a little bit of that confidence To get out here and promote myself and what lord telling me Is son you're gonna serve or you're gonna die You you're gonna die your purpose gonna be given away If you ain't gonna speak up so Y'all might mesh around and see me when i get my office set up y'all might mesh around and see me too much Because the voices of the adversary are too loud right now They too loud way too loud making way too much noise And so what i'm seeing It's so many men With backwards messages And i'm gonna tell you what's the sad thing about it the sad thing about it is men that we think are leaders I see a lot of men that I thought was a leader In the likes Of a toxic masculinity post And then i've seen a man today Talking about Toxic masculinity was made by a gay white man as if it don't exist Toxic masculinity exists And the man who's sitting there talking Scrub me as feminine I'm like well But i'm like so what are we talking about So it's what i'm seeing is so many butt hurt men That they butt hurt so bad they talking out they behind To get a little relief And then i'm seeing so many lost women Who are Trauma blinded That is running off at the mouth Butt hurt men And trauma blinded women running off at the mouth on podcasts Giving us a blueprint for destruction And the message goes the same way The message goes the same way The men is telling the women To compromise their self-respect Their standards and a righteous mind And the women are telling the women the same thing So now Women are worshiping What they call A alpha male But do not know what an alpha male is Or what they call a Sigma male But do not know what no sigma male is And what they are describing Is a grown boy It's a guy named Andrew tape That is a hurt boy In a man's body And there are so but he's loud And there are so many men Who have bowed down To him there are women Who are because of a woman being a nurturer There are women who empathize with him And feel like he makes sense And think he telling the truth But see this is what I could see though and this is what a lot of people don't understand When I look at somebody What I know is that The world treats us how it sees us So the world has constructs And when you fit outside when you don't fit in that construct You are ostracized You alienated And it makes a person It makes a person go to the villain inside out of anger Because they've been overlooked And they've been mistreated So I could tell Okay, if a man not 40 and he'd have lost all of his hair That's going to affect a lot of men If a man's ears Sit too far off side of their head See I got pointy ears And and my wife made me make fun of me. I look like a doleman pincher You know a satellite dish or elf But it don't bother me It don't bother me. I'm losing my health I get a half fiber sprayed on. I don't let it bother me to where it affect the way I act But I'm seeing so many men Who were overlooked By women They were seen as They ears People was calling them dumbo Calling them satellite dish Telling them to change the the cable station with their ears Telling them to get the signal for the classroom tv Telling them to fly away People were picking on their head People picked or they was raised in poverty people picking on their shoes What is those The nike dirts, I thought we wearing nike airs you wearing nike dirts They getting picked on what is those those ain't jordan's those portans They just all kind they make it up all kind of stuff in the in the kid the boy run home crying And my heart go out to him And I used to be friendly boys I used to be friend them because I go to this school. It's like man. Y'all finna make this man come in here with that No, hey, come on over here playboy. Hey, sit down at my table, man. Sit down at my table, man. Hey, what's going on? Which are you doing? Hey, I used to have to tell my home what man stop man leave this man alone This man ain't got nothing and you come to school every day and punch this man in the eye for what? What is you doing, man? This man finna come in here and take all of us out So the men who survived that and they did not go to their school And do that They got a podcast today And it's and it's it's some of the most damaging stuff you ever gonna hear If you're thinking of it with an analytical mind If you're really processing what you're listening to It's dangerous I'm telling you it's dangerous this stuff is dangerous because Women will believe what they told So when it comes to speaking life to a woman you could speak life Over a woman or you could speak death over a woman and most women gonna believe what they told life or death It's in the power of the tongue And so if a woman go and she's feeling alienated she's feeling overlooked And then she go and listen to this man who he's been alienated. He's been overlooked Now she can hear him She could hear him because they speak in the same language So now she empathizes with this man And she started to say oh, he's making sense Oh, he's making sense. And then when she agrees with him And she make a video Now All of the overlooking that she has suffered in her life She's now being seen By men who were alienated and ostracized and overlooked Now she's being seen and now she feels a sense of purpose So she starts to carry the message Of the red pill men Of the alpha male strategy men of the mitt towel men this woman Is empathizing with these men who Could not get a girlfriend Could not get a girl to go with him to the middle school dance Who could not get The star cheerleader in high school Who got overlooked overlooked overlooked and then he started a business and became successful and now So many women want him because he can provide a lifestyle and he's upset about that Because just like I said on that podcast you got to go to the person You got to ask yourself would this person have liked my personality In the eighth grade In the tenth grade when I was at my purest form truly me If I was nerdy if I was did lane corny if I was weird if I was cool if I wasn't mean if I was nice What this person have liked my personality in his purest form? And a lot of times the answer is no So today what we have Is we have the voiceless Those who were voiceless Now have a voice But most are speaking from hurt They're speaking from hurt and they're speaking from pain And so that's why these men are popping up And see The thing about it is When a man come to a certain age He learn He learned aesthetics So he learns how to dress He learns how to present masculine He learns how to present stoic He learns how to present confident But when he was in middle school and high school he was insecure He was hurting He was lost He was too tall Or he was too skinny Or he was too big He was too poor He stuttered too much He smelled Or he couldn't dress He had something that was Off Something that made him Be ostracized or get picked on But then Where his long legs were not in style In the sixth grade In the seventh grade At 25 Them long legs paying off 96 foot 62 64 66 Nine every woman want them Now the man who was the man Who was 5'10 in high school and never grew past 5'10 Now That man being overlooked because he 5'10 And nine Daddy long legs Grasshopper Stilts Who used to get picked on nahi him Nahi him But he even forgot How y'all treated him in middle school He even forgot how y'all had all the jokes in middle school So now as a 25 year old 30 year old 35 year old he won't revenge So now he get that microphone in his face And knife and a dog some women out Knife and a tail you get on your bike Knife and a tail you pay for half of this meal knife and a tail you pay for the meal sometimes knife and a tail you You ain't worth nothing. You ain't got no value. You don't bring none to the table What can you bring to the table other than sex? What can you do that I can't buy nahi finna give you a piece of his mind because he done grew into itself Now he know That he could hide behind a beard Now he know he could hide behind fake masculinity Now he know he could hide behind that height. Now he know he could hide behind them locks Now he know he could hide behind something So now he got all the eye in the chest And so the women who was picked on Who had bad acne in middle school? Who was red headed? And was treated like a red head step child Who had freckles who were too skinny or too big or too tall or too short? Now a lot of those women who was hurt They start to hear this man because they could hear his pain They're not paying attention to the damaging how damaging the message is but they could hear his pain They know that this a scared boy in a man's body They know that he's projecting They know that he's hurting. They know that he's lost. They know he got a lot of childhood trauma. They know it because pain No pain So now they start to empathize with the man So now women taking give a platform To broken men with a damaging message inadvertently Is the nurturing The nurturing nature of a woman She want to nurse this man to health She want to nurse him the confidence. She want to nurse him the strength She want to nurse him the peace and happiness. She want to nurse him So because she want to nurse him she taken Listen to his message Retweet his message share his message stitch his message. Oh, he got a point He has a point. What exactly value do we have as women? Because what exactly do we do that can't be that can't be paid for we cook We clean We have sex but he can get a prostitute for a sex. He can get a maid for cooking. He can get a I mean he get a maid for cleaning. He can get a chef for cooking Um, ma'am You can have a whole baby Ma'am you carry a whole baby Ma'am you push a whole baby or you get your whole stomach slipped from side to side for the baby to be taken out Ma'am your breasts feed the baby Ma'am you go through postpartum Ma'am when you having the baby is the closest of a human come to death and still live Ma'am you bleed for five to seven days a month and don't die Ma'am what do you mean That I could pay for everything a woman can do No, I cannot Ma'am this man who is telling you that you owe him sex because he took you to capital grill cannot afford a surrogate Ma'am that costs hundreds of thousands of dollars ma'am he don't he don't have that kind of money ma'am So yes, you bring something and even if you can't have kids ma'am God Natured you to be a nurturer He can't buy that Because because a nanny ain't gonna care about his child That come out that that he had to go get done in a petri dish because he didn't want no woman So now these broken and hurting men Have women questioning their worth and questioning their value And then the women will go out And oftentimes what what the adversary going to use now sometime he going to use the woman next door But what i'm seeing today is the devil using a lot of beautiful women that sound like a box of rocks The devil using a lot of beautiful women that sound like a box of rocks He using a lot of debonair men That sound like a box of rocks And the reason why he using these people is because the adversary know that we are insecure and we look up the people who we think look better than us Or dress better than us or got more money than us And now they trying to say that this man Getting framed That the man andrew taking frame for his message That message ain't powerful That message ain't powerful that message ain't earth shattering you think a whole government finna conspire over a internet talking head No, you got to be in criminal activity, but these people to waste their resources These people wasting a lot of resources But it's so many minions Who have been turned over to their pain Turned over to their insecurity That they will sit and vouch For somebody that they don't even know Who is being accused of heinous crimes But they'll empathize Because it's all from a trauma club It's all from a trauma club And when these folks hear me talking They know i'm talking They know i'm talking Because every spirit of the adversary Recognize a spirit from god When the spirit of the adversary hear spirit from god talking It recognizes And it know it ain't lying Pain no pain because i done had pain But i done been renewed and i done been redeemed And when you renewed and you redeemed Then you able to make a difference Not your message change Your message change And that's what i'm trying to get these people to understand stop operating from your pain Stop wallowing in your trauma Stop wallowing in your pain stop wallowing in your mess Stop doing that And start healing and start speaking from a place of healing Because we need you to be healed We need you to be whole We need you to see the light We need you to stop promoting messages of division We need you to stop promoting messages of fornication Of adultery Of polygamy Of polygyny And we need you to promote a message Where a man and woman comes together And loves each other And if they could reproduce they reproduce and if they can't they adopt and they raise the next generation of productive citizens With morals and values and standards. That's what we need We do not need Division and pain and trauma sitting on couches with a mic in your face arguing back and forth between the sexes about what a woman need to do for a man and what a man need to do for a woman And only seeing one side and always talking about oh that go bow way Instead of understanding about how can we meet in the middle? How can we create a win win not a lose win? But a win win not a win lose but a win win It take healing It take wholeness It takes something different To get to this place The where we can speak on And do what need to be done So listen Get this in your spirit now Get this in your spirit And when we get this in our spirit The world gonna change Because it's time that we start living right Doing right Pursuing more pursuing better We got to stop arguing And We got to hold each other accountable But in a win win situation Go go go look at any message That's for one gender And when you go in the comments, you're gonna hear a bunch Of people talking about Oh This go both ways Oh talk to the other gender No Sit and hear Who this hill for Because I guarantee you It's another message For the other gender Sitting here Who this is for And stop pointing the blame Stop worrying about what the other gender getting And get what's for you Hear what you need to heal And make the changes you need to make Point blank period When we do that stuff start to change but we can't do that We want to sit and point the blame And we want to what we need to start doing as humans Is we need to start seeing the value We need to start seeing the value god bless you Satori a god bless you Your mom and them god creep a till We need to start seeing the value in the in the other gender Instead of just looking at our value and thinking about what we bring to the table We need to start looking and seeing so what I try to do as a man I try to see what a woman go through What a woman go through and what a woman ought to do is see what a man go through And instead of us just preaching for ourselves We need to find a way to meet in the middle But without putting ourselves down So what we have is we have a lot of men with a podcast putting women down And setting the situation up for them to win And then we have women with a podcast Putting men down and setting the situation up for them to win Or we have men That's putting men down And lifting up women but for the men to lose When you go through my videos you're going to see that I call it both ways Now one thing you're gonna notice now because it's a lot of women on my channel Is that when the message for the woman A lot of women can't handle it A lot of women get in their feelings And them very women love And be all clapping when the message is telling the man To grow up But when the message go to telling the woman to grow up Boy look here It'd be so men and women mad with that. No, we need to look in the mirror It got to go both ways Hey, but practice should be about old So god bless y'all. Let me go and get in the hip food before I got to dry god bless you If you're not in on the growth group and caramel God bless y'all show appreciation Make sure y'all go to tonogassonacademy.com And you'll see a growth club We're gonna have monthly coaching sessions on all different kind of topics So it ain't gonna just be one topic It's gonna be all kind of topics bonus sessions a session every month. Um, she'll god bless you But then all kind of topics You'll see it right there's the first course called a growth club And this is for a group of like-minded people that's coming together That's building with each other building encouraging inspiring each other teaching each other helping each other And so we'll be a group that's We only strong together But that's where the real is going to be at So a god bless you And we're gonna talk soon the son got on in here. So we about to get on out of here God bless y'all So I got you pulled up here