 Okay. That's great. Father, we thank you, Lord, for your eternal word, Lord, for the wisdom that is packed in every single word, Lord, in the scriptures. Father, we acknowledge, Lord, that it is life-giving. We acknowledge, God, that it is, God, transforming, Lord, your word, completely changing, God, edifying us. So, Lord, we thank you for the wisdom. We thank you for the life-giving instructions. Lord, we thank you that your life is power. And as you have instructed, God, Lord, we thank you for these things that we need, Lord, to have in our lives, Master, that we would dwell with understanding, God, that we would know that there will be love and honor, and being tenderhearted, being courteous, not vengeful in any way, God. Father, God, we pray. I just pray especially for those who are married, and I just pray that this will be, Lord, found in our lives in each one of our hearts and lives, God, that this will be ours, Master, that even as we treasure your words, even as we love your word to Lord, Lord, take root in our hearts, Master. I pray that this will be our portion, and I just pray for those who are preparing for marriage that's ahead, and I pray, Father, God, that this will be something that will be, Lord, strongly built in, God, in the mind and in the heart. We just want to thank you. We give you all the praise and all the glory at this time. In Jesus' master's name, we pray. Amen, amen. Okay, let's get started. We, last class, we were looking at, you know, the whole aspect of communication, which is chapter six, right? Chapter six in our notes, communication and how communication being the building block of marriage being very important, and how you know, communication comes under attack, right? And when it breaks down, the marriage is not as strong as it should be. And a lot of problems creep in because of the breakdown of communication. We also saw what are the things that actually promote this breakdown and bring about this breakdown. And just a quick review of that, you know, what causes communication breakdown? Well, a major part of it is fear. Okay, fear that we will be judged, fear that we will be criticized, fear that what we say will be used against us in the future, will be made fun of, will be ridiculed. So fear and fear of being misunderstood if I say this, you know, it will not be understood the same way I say it. So again fear. And because of fear, maybe, maybe because of, you know, certain bad experiences, there is a suppression, right? There could be suppression of suppression, meaning, you know, you're not really being fully expressive, but you're putting, you know, it's suppressing all things, you know, putting a cap, putting a lid on emotions, putting a lid on what what our true feelings are. And, and basically, putting on another front, another face, whereas the true person or the true expression or the true feeling, it's all, you know, hidden deep within that doesn't come up front. So basically, just living, excuse me, living a dual life. So what is actually communicated, what is actually said, what is emotive is something else. And the true feelings are actually kept suppressed. So when that happens over a period of time, you know, the first thing that comes under even during that, you know, very rapidly, the first thing that comes that becomes a problem is the whole issue of closeness. One doesn't feel close to the person. One feels very detached, distanced. And so because it's always the true feelings are not expressed, right? It's, it's it's only, you know, it's just something that is artificial, something that's very superficial, right? So we see all these outcomes, all these negative outcomes, which come in the relationship because of communication, right? The other things could be, you know, causing the breakdown of communication could be just disinterest, not interested in the other person, not interested in what they have to say, being not attentive and and constantly being preoccupied or thinking about something else, maybe thinking about work. These are legitimate things, you know, maybe work, maybe there are challenges. But if it's going to be, if you're going to make it a habit to constantly being preoccupied and and not really being able to have a heart to heart communication, heart to heart talk, then that's going to affect the marriage, right? So so we looked at some of the remedies and and how our words have power. Therefore, we need to use our words to bless. And that is in line with what we read just now. You know, it says that do not return evil for evil or reviling for reviling, right? So, so bless, even if there is some negative thing that is said, bless the other bless your spouse. And, you know, that that will bring about change, right? That will bring about change in our own attitudes, attitude and our own temperament, our mood shifts as we bless the other person, the intensity of, you know, anger or anything that we had against the person just goes down and disappears, right? Even as we choose to bless the other person. Okay, so today, we're going to look at another important aspect, but a very practical aspect, which is managing the home. Okay, managing the home, managing the place where we stay. And well, not just the physical place, but also what happens when when two people are married and living in the say under the same roof, there are a whole lot of things that need to be taken care of, right? There are things that those to be paid. There are things to be done in the house outside of the house to keep the household running, right? And maybe we would have given it thought when we were single, but definitely, you know, when you're married, even before you get married, it's better to to think about these things and also get some skills, learn some skills, get some skills on how what can I do to, you know, effectively manage the home, right? Let me share the screen. Yeah, so we're talking about managing the home. Okay, now, when we look at probes 24, and if you could turn there, probes 24, and then versus three and four, okay, probes 24, verse three, through wisdom, a house is built. And by knowledge, it is established. By knowledge, the rooms are filled with all pressures and pleasant riches. Verse six, four by wise counsel, you will wage your own war. And in the multitude of counselors, there is safety. Okay, so let's just read it in the good news version. Homes are built on the foundation of wisdom and understanding. Just one second, okay. Homes are built on the foundation of wisdom and understanding. And where there is knowledge, the rooms are furnished with valuable, beautiful things. Above all, verse six, above all, you must make careful plans before you fight a battle. And the more good advice you get, the more likely you are to win. Okay, so what we're going to look at today is some, some practical information. It is something that is commonly available. But maybe we don't really think about it. And maybe we don't discuss it. You know, maybe one doesn't discuss with his spouse. These things, you know, maybe you think that, okay, it's, it's, it ought to be, you know, the other person needs to have that understanding. But it's like many other things, you know, we cannot assume this. We cannot assume that it will just happen. We cannot assume that well, the other person will understand perfectly. No, it is good to talk about it. It is good to discuss it. Right. So one of the first things that, you know, is to, is to see is to talk about is after marriage, you know, is the couple going to be the husband and wife? I, you know, as husband and wife, are you going to be staying independently? You know, that's something that you need to agree on independently meaning. Are you going to be starting off with your own, your own home, you know, in many cultures, in many places that happens where the, you know, you're not staying with your parents, but you're staying separately, independently, you're sitting up a household and, you know, running your house and so on. So the Bible also talks about Genesis 224. And this is the reason for which a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, united to his wife. So there is a leaving that happens. You know, there is a separation that happens. And there is a leaving or a joining that happens. Right. So, so this is, we see that in scripture, and we see that, well, in many cultures, you know, this is, this is a normal thing. But, and it, it is really helpful because you're staying separately, you're staying on your own, and all the decisions, you know, about your life, about certain choices, things that everything that you need to do and make is, you know, both of you are there to decide about it. And also, you can focus on, on building your marriage, you know, there could be conflicts, there could be things that need to be resolved, there could be decisions, day to day decisions that need to be made. And just the two husband and the wife are involved in making those choices, making those decisions. So it is good to do that, to strengthen the marriage, to build, to work through certain things that need to be done and to learn certain skills as well. Now, that may not always be the case. Right. Starting a household and living separately as husband and wife, that may not always be ideally that is what, you know, what is recommended for at least in the early years of marriage, that is what is recommended. But that may not be the case. For example, maybe you choose to live with your parents, you know, for whatever reason, maybe they are, maybe they are old and need to be taken care of. Maybe, you know, one of them is no more passed away. Maybe the father is not there or mother is not there and they are alone and they are getting on in age elderly and they need to be taken care of. Or there could be, you know, a situation where maybe they are unwell, maybe they are, you know, they have, they are sick, unwell, weak, and they, even the day to day things needed to be taken care of. So, well, they cannot stay on their own. So, well, the husband and wife decide to, you know, stay together. That could be the case. Or maybe there's another family member. Maybe it's not, maybe it's not just the father or the mother, but it could be a brother or a sister or someone who needs to stay for a, you know, for a, for a season. Maybe they're studying somewhere and they're, you know, in the city where you are and they, or maybe they're young and they need some help or, you know, it could be various things. So, this could be the scenario, right? So, in, but one needs to be prepared. The man and the woman, the husband and the wife, they need to be mentally prepared for such things, right? Which means that even before the wedding, even before, as part of the marriage preparation, even before the wedding, before it comes to that, it's good if both of them talk about these things, right? And say, okay, this is, this is how it is. This is a scenario. So, what do you think? Right? We need to do this. We need to take care of, you know, my parents or my father or my mother or this and so both talk about it and come to an understanding. And if there is a problem in coming to an agreement, then it is better at least for some time till they come to an agreement that something, some other, you know, some other thing is worked out, right? So, there could be problems, a lot of complications which could arise because of this, right? For example, you know, if the parents are staying on and if they begin to, you know, interfere in the decisions made by the husband and the wife, right? So, now the thing is that it all starts from heart of sincerity, right? You know, as parents, maybe they are very sincere and they don't want the children to, you know, make some poor choices or wrong choices, but they are so interfering, right? With every decision, okay, maybe you guys need to do this, you need to buy this, you should not buy this, you should not be spending like this or, you know, on a day to day thing, maybe you guys should eat this and not eat that and all those things, right? Maybe even the time schedule, you know, you know, getting up early, going to bear on time or things like that, the schedule and let's say if, you know, over a period of time and then children are there on the scene, so also, you know, this is how it should, the children should be brought up. This is how, this is what they should eat, this is what they should not eat, this is what they should wear and, you know, things like that. So, if this constant interference, right, from our constant pressure, parental pressure, then that's going to definitely influence and affect the marriage. It goes without saying, it cannot be, unless there is an understanding between the husband and the wife and a very strong commitment and agreement saying, hey, if this happens, right, then this is how we are going to respond honorably. This is how we're going to respond and this is how we're going to, you know, deal with it because, you know, we can't help it, that we need to take care, they need to stay with us or maybe it could be a situation where, you know, with the husband and the wife for a season for some time, they do not, they're not doing well financially, okay. Maybe one of them has a job and they're in a city where there's a high cost of living and, you know, they cannot afford to stay on their own and maybe pay the rents and all that. So, they're staying with either of their parents and, you know, housing and all that is taken care for a season, right, till they get a little better financially that the situation changes and then they're able to do well. Okay, so the thing is this to, yeah, otherwise it could also be because of relocation, right, maybe the husband has to go to a different place or a wife has to go to a different city or a town because of the job or there's a job transfer and just need to go there and set up things, set up house and then, and then move the family. So, so the thing is that time period, you know, till that time everything gets sorted, they need to stay, let's say, with the extended family or the immediate family. So, this needs to be discussed, okay. So, this needs to be discussed, this needs to be, and I agreed upon so that things are smooth because it will put pressure on the marriage. Okay, so the next thing is when it comes to daily schedules, when it comes to weekly schedules. So, what do we mean by that, you know, in today's, in today's work, in today's scenario, both the man and the wife, you know, the husband and the wife, they are liquidy working professionals, you know, they're working 95 and probably even longer hours, you know, just not, just not eight hours but maybe 10 hours, 12 hours, right, and maybe it's early part of their career, earlier on in their career. So, they're putting in a lot of work and a lot of work, you know, hours professionally. So, the thing is that they need to plan their time together, you know, like we were saying, you know, communication, you know, or takes time, it takes trust, it involves transparency, right. So, they need to be intentional and make time for one another. So, as husband and wife, if they are, you know, if they do not do that, then it's going to negatively impact. However, if they, you know, despite their busy schedules and daily schedules and weekly schedules, despite their busyness, if they actually allot some time and they get intentional about, about their communication, spending time with each other, then things will change. Like, I remember mentioning, right, there was a scenario where situation where the husband was working night shifts and the wife was working day shifts and, you know, it was virtually impossible for them to actually meet and spend time and talk to each other because one would be tired, the other would be ready to go to work, the other is coming back and, you know, this one's going to work. And so, it was very, very extremely difficult season for them. So, they had to, you know, manage that and come to a place saying that, maybe we need a change, you know, there's need, there needs to be a change in, you know, career and they realize that they need to be a change in, a change in the work, not in career, sorry, change in the work, environment, maybe look for another job, which allows a, you know, day kind of shift. So, they had to be done, okay, and they actually did that. So, things like that. So, sometimes it could even be, well, you know, it could be a scenario where, well, the husband is living elsewhere, different town, sometimes a different country and time just goes by, you know, months go by, years go by and they're just doing that basically to survive. There needs to be, there needs to be money sent to the house, kids education, well, the bills need to be paid, everyday livelihood, everything, you know, and for that sake, you know, some families literally sacrifice their marriage, you know. Now, that's a hard decision, you know, it's a hard decision, it's a difficult decision, it's a difficult choice, you know, and many homes do that. And, but the thing is, it comes at, it comes with a price, right, it comes with a price, because there are repercussions, okay, there are repercussions for the family, like the marriage, parenting, everything, you know, I've heard, like in my own family, you know, the people who did that and the children, you know, after they grew up, they, they felt very distanced, very disconnected from the father, the father was, and they just felt that the father was like a Santa Claus, you know, coming, you know, during vacation, giving them gifts, because he was feeling very guilty that he was away from the home, so he will bring some good stuff, but, but he was not there, you know, in the daily cause of life, right, so it had its repercussions. So the thing is, the family needs to, you know, needs to decide, these are, these are, there's no easy answers, so if it's for a season, you know, as a church and as a counseling ministry, what we normally recommend is, you know, three to six months, you know, if it's a relocation, if it is, you know, something that, that cannot be avoided, right, three to six months, and then we say work towards, and that, and that three to six months also work towards moving the family, so that the family can stay together and, and, and then basically do life together, okay. So it's a very important decision, and while the, the cultural thing, culturally it might be okay. I say, hey, that's, that's a done thing. Well, the father, you know, stays somewhere, and, and maybe the wife is somewhere, and working, making money to keep things going, it's, it's a done thing, culturally that's a norm, it's a done thing, it's okay. You know, everyone is doing that, while that, that could be the norm, but then, you know, as a, as a family, you know, as a husband and wife, you need to decide, you know, is that risk worth taking? Because there is a price to be paid. You know, there is the emotional distance that creeps in, there are other problems when the parenting that happen. So it is not, it is not a price that you need to pay for the sake of keeping things going. Okay. So, so that requires some thinking, some discussion, praying, asking for God's leading wisdom and intervention at times, saying, God, we need your favor. We cannot go on like this. We need a, we need your favor. And so that, you know, we can, as a family, we can stay together and, you know, and, and yeah, move on. Okay. So, well, so daily things, weekly things, schedules and everything, talk about it, okay, what are our work timings, how do we adjust this, how do we things, you know, that, and with that, to say that there are a lot of things which happen in the household, right? There's cooking to be done, people to be fed, there's cleaning, there's cleaning of the house, cleaning of clothes, laundry, bills to be paid, shopping, etc. So, so the thing is this, you know, in a busy world, in a busy working environment, whether it's ministry or that it's, you know, otherwise, where both husband and wife, they are busy, you know, that's one scenario, right, where both are working professionals, they are, they are morning till night, they are busy, they are working, and they come back. And well, it is in a traditional setting, you know, in a cultural thing, it could be that the wife takes care of the cooking and the things in the household, and now that cannot happen, like in this situation, where both are working, both are working professionals, both are spending time, equal time, or sometimes more than someone is spending more time than the other outside in the workplace. So, when they come back home, well, the man of the house cannot expect the lady of the house to take care of the household chores and everything. So, it's, it's a partnership, right, so both have to take on that load equally and say, okay, I'll do this and you do that, right, this comes, this is where your strengths are, so you do this, and then, you know, you take care of the cooking, I'll take care of the cleaning, or you take care of this, I'll take care of that. So, there needs to be a plan, there needs to be understanding. So, well, the family might say, or the culturally might say, what is this, the man is cooking the house, you know, how's that even power, why should, why should the man do that? You know, maybe there are just some jokes at family gatherings, oh, he does all the cooking, and he's, you know, she's the boss of the house and all that because of the, you know, responsibilities they shoulder at the home, but not a problem, you know, because it's, it is this situation, where both are working professionally and spending time at the workplace, and they need to equally carry the load, even otherwise, you know, even otherwise, to be a partnership, to be a team, to take care of things in the home, when there are children, there are additional responsibilities, caring for children, maybe there are, you know, caring for some, some other members of the family, all those things, right? So, working together as a team, and making sure that the responsibilities are carried out, if there is an understanding, you know, then things are smooth. Otherwise, there are constant fights, you know, why, you know, why are you not doing this? Like, for example, in our home, you know, I, I'm very bad at cooking, or you know, my cooking skills are very negligible. So it, what I can clean, right, I can, I can wash, I can clean. So very early on, said, okay, this is how it is, you know, you do the cooking, I'll do the cleaning. I can take care of that. Also, my energy levels are, you know, they are okay, you know, especially, you know, when it's cooking, and then you do the thing, and some stuff needs to be put out, you know, or put out, and before the meal, and stuff needs to be put back, certain things that need to be, you know, put away after the meal. And I'm fine. I'm okay with that, right? I'm okay with putting away stuff after the meal, my energy levels are fine. I can, I can, I'm okay with that. So we just came to a, you know, early on, an understanding very early on in life, saying, okay, I'm fine, I can put away, I have the strength, I can, I can wash, I can clean, I can do that. But, you know, kitchen is very unfamiliar territory for me. Otherwise, cooking is unfamiliar territory. So it's best that you handle it. So, so that's working perfectly for us for some, maybe it's something, someone, something else, right? Like I have a relative who's a chef. So he's, he's very good. You know, he's cooking and everything. And, and the wife doesn't cook, but she does all the other things, organizing stuff. And so, you know, when it comes to cooking, he's a, he's a man. And he's very good at it. Everybody enjoys the cooking. Everybody enjoys the meal. So it's very creative and makes things interesting. Wow, works. Right. So things like that. So it might go against the tradition or popular culture, but it's fine. You know, you know that it's a team, you know, that it's teamwork. Okay. Okay. Another thing that we can oops, okay. Okay, when it comes to, you know, especially when it comes to, you know, the times we live in, there are a lot of things, you know, I remember, there was a time when we didn't have, you know, there was growing up, we didn't have a television. And then the television came in. And, and virtually conversation around the dinner table during mealtime just came to zero. Okay, when, where we used to, I'm talking about my school days growing up and where we used to talk about, okay, what happened during the day and how's everyone's day? All that came to nothing because we were just so glued on to the screen and then just eating, we don't even care what we're eating, we just, you know, so it became like that. And then so, so when we got married, we decided that we won't have a, you know, a TV at home, right? And then definitely, we will not have, you know, anything on during a mealtime. So at our home, the rule is no phones at the table, you know, and no, of course, we don't know programs, but we do have, you know, a television screen, but no cable, but we do have internet broadband. So we pick and choose what we want to watch and we watch. So very rarely, like if there is maybe there's a, you know, a tennis match or a cricket match or something like that happening. And then, and then we have a meal around that. But otherwise, we'd like to talk, you know, during a, during a mealtime, just catch up with each other and what, how the day was because dinner's the only meal we have together, because otherwise, you know, breakfast, we just brushing and, you know, college and work and everything. So, so the family also needs to have some kind of agreement or understanding about screen time, right? Whether it's phone, whether it's television, whether it's social media, have some kind of a thing saying that, okay, you know, because sometimes, especially during this pandemic and everything, the lines blur, right? You're working from home and still there could be people working from home. So there is no work time and the home time. People finish work. There are some late night calls to be made. So everything blur. So you just continue to work, continue to work. And, you know, it interferes with the time with the family. So there needs to be some set time. Yeah, there are emergencies. There are some specialized, you know, things that happen. And that comes with the understanding saying, okay, there is a call. You need to take, there is a meeting. And it could be outside of work hours. And but, you know, it is with the understanding that, you know, we'll do this and that you take on only that so much so that it doesn't interfere with what's happening with the family. You know, if there's a family occasion and something needs to be, you know, celebration or, you know, something else, then of course you defer that, defer the work thing, or work call, or, you know, defer checking the social media, you know, or checking the phone, answering phone calls, you know, sometimes at the, at the, at a mealtime, the call comes and then, you know, it could be just not a very important call. It could be taken later, or it would be answered later. But then you need to have that understanding. Okay. And talk about that, right? Because it's very important. Because if that understanding is not there, then these become a constant irritation, constant source of frustration even for other family members. So they would say like, okay, you know, the father was always doing that, the wife was always doing that. Why can't they take the call later? So it becomes a point of contention, right? So that is also something that needs to be clarified. Okay. Before we go further, okay, let's look at family recreation also. The other thing is also to plan for time together. Okay. Like we said, plan for time together to intentionally talk to one another, plan for recreation. Now, what happens is some, in, in, in most, I would say ministry homes, right? If it's a pastor home or, you know, somebody who's in ministry. Now, there's recreation taking time off to spend time with one another or a vacation. Sometimes it's considered as a taboo in the sense that it's you know, you should be ministering. You should be taking care of people. It's, you know, almost feel guilty for doing that, right? Taking time off and spending time with the family or some fun time with the family. It's almost, it's like, it's like considered a taboo, whereas it is not. God is the one who instituted family. God is the one who designed family and for the family to thrive and function well, well, you need to spend time, right? So there's nothing wrong. There's nothing, you know, unbiblical about spending time with family, taking time off to just spend time, have a fun time together, travel somewhere, if it's possible, or maybe just, you know, go somewhere where you, which you can, you know, some place where you can afford and spend time together. Absolutely nothing wrong, right? So family recreation, maybe family vacation. Okay, so, well, each family does things differently for, and for each individual, you know, there are different things that really work. You know, some people like to maybe eat out for them. That's fun and a certain kind of food that's fun. I mean, that they like, there are certain things that they like doing. Some people want to go maybe just window shopping, you know, go to a mall. Maybe they want to visit others, right? That makes them happy. They enjoy doing it. And for some people, it's like, I don't want to go out at all. I just want to stay at home, maybe do some gardening and do the, you know, for some people, it's like that. So whatever works, you know, for the family, for the family member. And, well, there could be a case where, you know, one person is very, you know, outdoor. They just enjoy time outdoors but the other person is basically, they just want to be indoors. So then you have a, you have a problem there. You have a challenge there, right? So, so there's needs to be given take saying, okay, let's, let's spend some time outdoors. Let's do this. And maybe the other person who's not a very outdoors person can actually learn something. Enjoy it as well. And well, the other times you could be indoors, you could think of things. So there is, there is some amount of sacrifices, some amount of given take and that, right? Knowing fully well that the other person enjoys it and you want to be able to provide, you know, facilitate that enjoyment, facilitate that time together. So, so that is, that is really good. So it could be shopping, it could be going to a park, it could be some outdoor activities. And what are some things that new things that you want to look at, you know, new activities that you want to explore together, you know, do, do this together. I remember once we, it was very, very, very early on in Bangalore and when our daughter was, I think she was probably, I don't know, eight, eight years, nine years old and maybe younger. Then we went to this mall and then there was this house of horror, you know, you, all these scary things inside and then we all said, hey, let's go, let's, we've never been to one. So we said, let's go, let's go. And then we went and, oh, wow, it was, it was, for me, it was funny because these things keep popping and then, but then both of them, my wife and daughter were terrified. They were like, my wife was telling the daughter, you know, my daughter like, close your eyes, don't open your eyes. So both of them throughout that time, it is a short time, you know, it's a short walk entrance to exit somewhere. They kept their eyes closed and I'm, I'm, I'm walking around and they had their eyes closed and both of them are holding onto my hand and they are, they're quite heavy and I, you know, because they had their eyes closed, they didn't know where they were going and I had to literally drag them and, you know, my daughter was also trying to close her ears because, you know, some scary noises and, oh, and then we decided, okay, that's not, once we came out, we're never, ever doing that again, you know. So, you know, things like that, you, you explore and you see that, okay, this doesn't work. Let's not do it again. And, but, but that's a memorable moment. I, we still talk about it, we laugh about it after all those years, maybe, I don't know, maybe 10 years back, or maybe even, you know, more, but we still laugh about that. It was memorable, but not really enjoyable. So, yeah, so, you know, you, the thing is to plan. Now, some, some of us have not been very good at this, you know, planning ahead and saying, okay, on these dates, or in, on, in this month, right, when, when, well, the schools close or, you know, you can, it's a, it's a lean month when you can take time of work, whatever, right. So, planning that and saying, okay, these three days, or these four days, or maybe if possible, this one week, you know, we will take off, take time off and spend time together as a family, maybe visit, go someplace, you know, to plan that in advance, okay. So, what I've noticed is that if you don't plan, it doesn't happen, right. If you don't plan and set aside that time, well, even if we plan, you know, sometimes there could be contingencies, you know, there could be certain things that come up because of which we are not able to, you know, do that, but at least you plan ahead and you set aside some time and if not for those contingencies, you would have gone ahead and, you know, with that plan and you would have had a vacation or some time together. So, it's good to, you know, think ahead, look at the calendar, maybe a year ahead, maybe for, you know, 2023, maybe now is a good time to look at it and say, okay, set aside that time, right, as a family for a vacation, for some time together, plan ahead. Otherwise, well, certain things happen at very short notice. There's maybe a, you know, a day off or, you know, something like that and you can take a day off and do things, but if it's extended time, right, it needs planning because you cannot, if you're working in ministry, you know, you cannot just take time off randomly. It needs to be planned because there are certain responsibilities, certain things that you are meant to do and if you're not there, you need to make some arrangement for that to be done because things have to continue, right? If you're not there, then who can do that? So, all those kind of things you have to, so that needs time. That requires some adjustment at work or ministry. So, plan ahead, okay, and be intentional about that. So, these also, these times also help bond together, help the family to bond together, help the members of the family, the husband and wife to bond together. Well, it's not, it's at these times there could be some conflicts as well, okay, there could be some misunderstandings also, you know, there could be certain difficult topics that come up also that need to be addressed. So, we will look at that, you know, we will look at conflict resolution, but the thing is, you know, to actually plan ahead for these times, plan ahead for these moments, right? Okay, so, any questions, let's pause for a bit. Any questions? I know it was kind of a practical thing that we looked at, not much of chapter and verse, right? So, any, any practical, anything, anything that you might want to share also, like what worked for you in your family, in your marriage, like some things like, you know, what we decided, right, that I will clean and I'll wash and put away things, something like that, what works for you, what worked for you, or any questions, or maybe in different cultures, maybe there are certain other things that you want to, maybe there are certain other challenges, maybe you could, you know, ask those questions also, anything at all, right? Doing dishes is certainly helpful, yes. Yeah, doing dishes at a time when, you know, the spouse's energy level is low and this, it certainly, you know, helps. Another thing is laundry, and if you have a washing machine, you know, putting clothes into the washing machine is definitely, I mean, the easiest thing to do. The other thing is to, you know, take it and if it doesn't have a drying function, you know, take it out, put it in the clothes line, drying it, yeah, those kinds of things, you know, these are, I mean, these are simple everyday things, but seem very magnified and like, you know, when two people are living together, right, husband and wife, yeah. Anything else? Okay, we'll take a break and then we'll come back and if there are any questions, we can address them, right? We'll take a break right now. Thank you.