 hi she was seven okay so i got a video request to talk about victim mentality and attracting toxic people in your life why do some people constantly attract toxic people into their lives problem people abusive people negative people people that aren't good for you okay the reason why people attract these type of people in their life is because that's what they are i'm sorry to tell you but like attracts like you're not going to attract prince charming if you're a nightmare yourself okay um so what you attract is a reflection of what you are so you're gonna need to look within for that one you're gonna need to step back and take a look in the mirror take a look at the inside of yourself and ask yourself why am i attracting this type of person why if you're an attract if you're attracting a person who is toxic or negative it's because that's what you're attracting if you're attracting someone who's abusive that means you're a victim okay because you accept abuse you like abuse you're you're vibrating abuse me abuse me and so you're sending that out into the atmosphere and so you're gonna attract an abuser you're going to attract someone who who can detect that you're easy to control easy to manipulate easy to hurt and who will take it okay there are some people that will not even let you talk to them a certain way so they're not going to fall victim to toxic people they're there because they respect themselves too much to let one sentence go by and not check that person okay so if you notice a lot of stronger women intimidate men or they intimidate people because they know that they can't mess over them so they just move past them and go for someone else you know if if someone comes up to you and says hey come over here do you know and already commanding you and they don't even know who you are that's that's a red flag you know a lot of people will say some women have attitudes but that's protection you know a lot of women need to have attitudes because some men are toxic and it's it's a protection you know if someone calls you out of your name or you know asks you to do something that you're not comfortable with you're if you're if you love yourself first of all you need to love yourself and you won't attract toxic people because they're not attracted to people that love themselves so if you love yourself too much you're not even going to be bothered with those type of people you're gonna be like get away i don't think so do you know who i am do you know who you're talking to i'm not on your level okay get by you know you're gonna seem snobbish and stuck up to them because you're not on their level anymore and because you have morals about who you talk to you have standards now you don't have a lot of standards you don't have a lot of morals you don't have a lot of self-esteem or a lot of love for yourself you're gonna accept anything that's given to you or present it to you okay so it starts within if you want to stop attracting toxic people get yourself right you know make yourself approachable for people that are decent okay make yourself approachable for someone who wants a wife uh someone who wants a partner a companion you know don't make yourself uh seem like a victim don't keep making excuses of why your life is not this and don't tell your back sad story to everybody because that just gives them ammo to exploit you even further okay don't tell people your weaknesses right off the back because they're going to use it against you you always leave the mystery about yourself you don't tell everybody the whole story you get their information first and then you decide if they're good for you or not okay um education you know most educated people are not going to be toxic because they're going to be too busy either learning or trying to bring themselves up you know people that have careers people that have financial stability they're not going to be concerned about you know controlling you because they have so much other things that they they need to tend to so you need to find someone who's a winner okay you can't you cannot keep attracting losers if you want to get out of that cycle you need to become a winner so you can attract a winner a winner is not attracted to a loser unless they're there to exploit them okay so you want you want to intimidate people you don't want to be intimidated by people okay a lot of people used to tell me oh you're so intimidating to come up to and that and that well that means it takes a real man to approach me right so you're not going to get the lowest of the low you're going to get somebody with high self-esteem enough in their pockets and you know someone who is attracted to you for your strength not your weakness okay so yes um and a lot of women don't even know what they want okay so go to sleep sorry so a lot of men a lot of women don't even know what they want like they want they can't tell you if you ask someone if you ask someone what do you want to man what do you want a relationship how do you see yourself in the next five years they're not going to be able to answer you if they are too busy attracting toxic people because they don't have a plan if you don't have a plan you'll accept anything that walks in the door if you have a plan and a checklist it doesn't even have to be a checklist but if you have a plan and that person doesn't fit into it you're not gonna gonna waste your time with them okay so get get up get a plan know what you want bypass the stuff that doesn't fit into it and move forward and accomplish the things that you want relationship why don't just settle for anything that walks in your life no if if if women stop doing that they would be much further along um i know you're gonna say well what about love i love him and we were soul mates and no this is your life now past lives this life do you want to remain a victim in your in your current life because chances are if you're a victim in this life you are a victim in your last life you have to break the cycle you know um and the only way to do it is to love yourself and to stop taking everybody's crap say no say no be a bitch that's the only way to do it many respect bitches and that's just the truth i just i can't say it any other way you know they'll they'll they will respect you and and you will never be a victim again if you take your power back you know you have to understand people pray on victims so love yourself create some standards make a plan if that person doesn't fit into the plan get rid of them with quickness you know just because someone stumbles into your life doesn't mean they're meant to be there sometimes they're just meant to be a lesson for you to grow stronger and move on to the next um phase of your life you know uh don't listen to people's bs if if someone is trying to convince you of something and make you believe something that's the first sign of brainwashing so if someone comes up to you and tries to convince you of something and change your belief about something and do this and do that get away from them because if they like you for you and they love you for you they want you just the way you are if you go to them asking for knowledge and they bestow upon you some knowledge that's helpful to you think great but if they come in with this overbearing i control you you're this you're that you know listen to me i'm the almighty this isn't it and they're controlling and they're abusive and they create a victim out of you you only can be mad at yourself because you let them treat you like that you gotta you gotta be a bitch to make it in this world yes you do and that's the truth and i don't care if you believe it it's true yes okay it's true bitches give respect bye