 We had a death in the family the other day and I went to what to me was probably the second saddest funeral of my life And because it was a family funeral it put me in the canyon where my parents live and all of my siblings were there There were grandkids and nieces and nephews and my parents were there and it was a really happy time as far as us getting together and kind of catching up on each other's lives and I stayed way way way too late in the evening because I had a flight to catch the next morning And I was flying out about three and a half hours away, and I had to drive through dangerously through the canyon So as I was driving through the canyon, I had all of the the cards stacked against me as they say I Was an rental car So it wasn't my car not a car that I own and it was a car that I was unfamiliar with so that was a Cardest act against me if you will I was driving in an area that I was unfamiliar with and I didn't know the roads But I do know that they are really windy curvy mountainous roads Where if you're not paying really close attention, you can run right off the side of a cliff, right? The next thing that I had against me Was the weather these are snow-capped mountains and the roads were bad And as I started driving out of the canyon it started snowing and so I don't drive in snow I live in North Carolina where we very rarely ever have snow, okay? So what happened to me was instead of me being in my comfort zone saying hey Oh, yes, I totally got this a whole bunch of things were against me on this particular drive back to the airport One of the things against me that it's completely my fault But one of those things was I was going from Pacific standard time to mountain standard time And I forgot to factor that into my drive So as I'm driving I realize about halfway through the drive Oh, wait a second. I have an hour less than I thought I had to make this flight So I'm I really put myself behind the gun, right? Speaking of guns, I did not carry my my protection with me on this flight because I would have to check it And now I find myself on this windy curvy mountainous road in an area I don't know and I've got a three and a half hour drive and I don't have any personal protection with me And it wasn't I wasn't carrying my firearm with me So now I'm hoping I don't break down I'm hoping that there's no danger along the journey, right another thing that I had going against me for this particular Situation I had stayed up way too late the night before visiting with my family And now I was leaving and it was 1 30 in the morning and my flight was at 5 30 in the morning flying out of Boise, Idaho and so now I stayed up way too late and I'm really tired, right? And so I find myself saying wow I've I've made a really a bunch of really silly moves here and that I'm I'm now making this trek knowingly that I have all these dangerous elements Against me the last dangerous element for me Was the fact that there's this 50 mile gap from where my parents live to the nearest town where there's no cell phone service So if for any reason I do get in a bind or with the car breaks down or whatever I'm I'm hoping for the kindness of safe strangers to bail me out, right? So a whole bunch of things against me the reason I tell you the story is not to go like woo-hoo I arrived safely which I did because here I am but to share with you that as we look around our lives Sometimes there are things to us that we know are not the best environments for us, right? We're making decisions based on a wait a second all the cards are stacked against me right now and in our Situation of life where we have clutter and we have hoarding issues and we're dealing with families who have hoarding and clutter issues Whether they're our own or whether they're customers of ours Whether they're friends of ours that might be neighbors that might be relatives Who knows what but we find ourselves in situations where all the cards are stacked against us And if we are not on high alert and we are not super careful about every single move that we make things could go Disastrously wrong. Okay, and the reason I share this story with you is because as I was on this road trip And I was knowingly going on this road trip knowing I got to be really super careful on this one Okay, do not do not settle into your comfort zone comfort zone for me is like Oh, I'm driving along and I'm nice and warm and toasty in this car And I'm now falling asleep because I haven't really slept in two days. That's my comfort zone that comfort zone equals death in this situation I run right off the side of a cliff boom life is over, right? So I had really severe consequences for me So I found myself doing things outside my comfort zone that I never do for example, it's the middle of the dead winter I'm not great on icy roads But I pulled over to the side of the road several times And I got out of the car and I ran as fast around the car as I could a couple of times Just to kind of like wake me up again, and I'm like, whoa, that's cold. Yes Okay, I'm awake now I can go again for a little bit and I cranked the radio up I normally listen to podcasts, which is my comfort zone But a soothing voice of a podcast is gonna send me right over the edge of a cliff, right? So no podcasts I got to listen to like rock and roll music and you know dance in the car And I got to keep going and and I actually had some caffeine I don't usually have caffeine because caffeine I reserve for moments like this where I really need it, right? If I took it every day that puts me into adrenal fatigue and then when I really need it There's there's nothing to back that up So I try to reserve it for these moments where I make some stupid crazy move like I'm driving through a windy Canyon Road in the middle of the night and then I it actually works. It's effective for me So it's some caffeine. I'm running around the car in the winter time I'm rolling the windows down like every few minutes I've been rolling the windows down and it's just freezing cold and I had the silly coat on I mean, I don't live where it's cold. I didn't even have a real coat with me So heaven forbid I should break down and things should happen, right? All right The reason the reason that we're talking about this today is because as we look at life of clutter and Overwhelm and busy-ness in our homes There's a moment where I'm going to ask you to do something that we rarely ask people to do I'm going to ask you to please be willing to live outside your comfort zone Okay, we've been doing a series of clutter and clutter removal and it's easy to say Oh, let me just go ahead and get rid of some stuff But we've had to have a couple of really difficult conversations and this is one of those Okay, this is a difficult conversation because what we're talking today is not about clutter But it's about the mind-body connection of clutter and how the mind-body connection affects the clutter in your home So if we were to go back to the root and we were able to actually fix some of those mind-body connections Then all of a sudden the clutter starts taking care of itself Now I don't want to say the clutter is an easy fix Okay, because we hang on to things for a variety of different reasons and there's a lot of emotional attachment There's money attachment. There are family and relationships that have been built and ruined around stuff So the stuff in our lives is it can be all-consuming and when we get into a rut or we get into a comfort zone What happens is we tend to keep operating in that because it's uncomfortable to get out of that zone So what I want to share with you today Based on this particular Scenario last weekend was every decision I made was uncomfortable for me and I was on high alert Like you know what I have to I do not have a choice if I'm gonna make it safely to the airport And I'm gonna make that flight going home. I have to be willing to be outside my comfort zone Okay, so outside the comfort zone What does that look like and it looks different for every person because everybody's personal levels of comfort is different Okay, so we're gonna be talking about comfort zone and the mind-body connection But what does that look like as a house cleaner of 30 now 32 years? We just crossed the threshold for 32 years for me in the cleaning business But 32 years in the cleaning business is a professional house cleaner going inside people's homes We can look around people's homes and I can tell you how that person is feeling Based on their home and you say how is that possible? Well, it's possible because our Environment the home that we live in the space that we occupy is a reflection of what's going on inside of us And it's a very interesting Phenomenon when you stop to realize what and how that looks all right So this is the mind-body connection that we're talking about today and I want to share with share this with you as a really important element of It runs off me and it sticks on you now. This is this is not This is not a joke But what this is is this is what's happening inside me what's happening in my mind my body my Activities every day is going to be reflected in my home So it runs off me and it sticks on you have you ever had a really mad mood? And you come in contact with someone and all of a sudden they start mirroring your behavior and you're like well Wait a second. I'm the one that's mad. Why are you acting mad at me? It runs off me and it sticks on you Okay, so it runs off me in the house and it sticks on you in the house in this picture What we're looking at is we're looking at a person here in the middle of a room And this room is really cluttered and as this person sits around in the cluttered room It's not so much that the room is cluttered as much as it is that the person who's inside the room has Experienced, I don't know busy-ness They've overwhelmed at work They're tired when they get home at the end of the day And so they just kind of chunk things wherever they go And so if you look at what is going on inside a person's head It will be very very close to what's going on in the room around to them And this is not this is not new. I'm not making this up This is my own observations over 32 years working with thousands of families And so when you go into a home and somebody's on top of the world and everything is going well They seem to have enough energy that they can clean up that they can tidy up that they can hire Somebody to come in and and help them with the maintenance of their home When people are down and they're not feeling good and they're feeling lethargic and sick and they've got ailments It's reflected in their home. You've got towels hanging everywhere You've got clothes that are kind of strewn about you have books and papers and magazines that they were reading that They just didn't have the energy to put away. And so it's Interesting, but you can go so far so far check this out Even as to go to a person's house plants and you look at the person's house plants and what do you see? The house plants are a reflection of the person who lives in the home So my question to you is do you have indoor house plants? And if you do I'm going to ask you this question if I go look at your house plants right now Is it going to tell me how you're doing and this is kind of cool because as a house cleaner I could go inside people's homes and I could see that their plants were drooping They hadn't been watered in a while and I can tell really quickly my homeowner that I'm at their house right now They're a little bit stressed out They're probably under rested and they probably really need some TLC in this home right now Because if the plant is a reflection of their owner This plant really needs a boost right now as does the homeowner and 10 times out of 10 That sounds really arrogant, but 10 times out of 10 We would be spot on the money spot on the money with how the homeowner was feeling looking at their plants Looking at their home looking at their environment Okay, so in today's challenge when I ask you to please live outside your comfort zone I'm going to ask you to go take a look around the rooms of your house with new eyes I want you to take a look and say wait a second. This is the space that I'm occupying How does this reflect on me right now? Do I feel like this right now because it's really hard to feel fantastic and feel fit and Energetic and on top of the world in a really sloppy house with stuff strewn about and maybe that there's old food That's been left out. Maybe there are odd smells that are coming either from the bathroom or the kitchen or the garbage disposal or somewhere When you feel fantastic, we tend to follow that through in other areas of our lives We make our commitments. We have great friendships We have we have things that work out for us and as a result of that We do little things unconsciously that support that. Oh, yes. I'm on top of the world behavior We wipe up after ourselves We put the dishes in the dishwasher. We empty the dishwasher and put them away We rotate the laundry we do these things that are just like second nature because that's the new norm Right, but if we've let our norm kind of slide a little bit and it can be triggered by anything This is the important thing to realize it doesn't mean if you live in a sloppy house That has stuff coming apart at the seams. It doesn't mean that you're broken. It doesn't mean that you're sick It doesn't mean that you have a mental illness what it means is something got out of control And that became the new norm, right? Maybe that wasn't always your norm people haven't always lived this way There are people that had perfectly Immaculately clean homes and there was one incident in their life that triggered something and then their house kind of fell into disarray And because it was in disarray and they felt bad for a period of time That became the new norm that became the comfort zone and so without challenging that comfort zone Wait a second. I gotta be on high alert right now, right? My life depends on me being on high alert right now. And so what does high alert look like? What are you doing right now that you can change slightly and live slightly outside your comfort zone until you recreate that new norm? I don't want to come into any of your homes and See that you have droopy plants and see that your homes are in disarray Because something happened and that's your comfort zone and you got stuck I don't want you to get stuck in your comfort zone if that's it. I want you to get out of the comfort zone I want you to go. Hey, you know what? I matter. I matter if you followed us the last couple weeks on the hoarding world channel What you have discovered is that we've had some really tough conversations. We've had a conversation about trusting ourself What does that look like? Do I trust myself enough to make some really tough decisions and to be vulnerable and to challenge the friendships that I'm in and To challenge the beliefs that I've I've been using as crutches to kind of get me from point A to point B Do I do I really am I trapped in a comfort zone or am I am I okay to get out? And the good news is this we're in an era right now I'm giving you total permission to get out of the comfort zone because I want you I want you I want you. This is me Angela Brown. I want you to have a safe place to live Everybody deserves a safe place to live and everybody deserves a clean place to live And it totally renovates your ideas and your belief system once you get into that hub where you're like, oh, yes Yes, I'm I'm in a safe space and I love coming home instead of saying I can't wait to get away from home because I don't like it here What happens if you were like, yes, I get to come home and get a hang out on my house because I love being there What a fun place to be but that's not gonna start. Here's the catch. It's not gonna start with removing clutter It's gonna start first with the mind-body connection. Okay, so once we fix this part Then the stuff around us is gonna start fixing itself So every day people contact me and they're like, I'm so overwhelmed. Where do I start? Okay, I don't want you to be overwhelmed. Okay What I want us to do is remove the overwhelm until you have all the energy and you feel fantastic and you're like Oh sure. No problem. I got this. I can do this, right? This is not this is not hard stuff to pick up a towel and to hang it up That is not hard stuff to put some clothing in the hamper or to run a load of laundry That is not hard stuff. Okay, and so when you say I don't know where to start What we're what we're dealing with is we've let everything get out of control like that guy in the very beginning I showed you that's just in a house full of stuff It is overwhelming because that's what's going on in here, right? So we want to get what's going on in here first and we want to fix that Now there are a couple of things and I want you to feel like this This is what I want you to feel like it runs off me and it sticks on you What I'm hoping in this moment is I'm hoping that when it runs off me and it sticks on you that this is how You feel and I have to stop for just a second here Because I have a whole bunch of you guys that have just showed up and I want to say hi I'm super excited that all of you are here J203 says good morning Also, what can you recommend for removing water spots in the ceiling? I I'm gonna answer that and I'll actually make you a whole YouTube video on that because that's that's awesome And that's gonna also come into play if you ever try to sell your home Judy says do you have tips on removing hard water deposits from granite? You know what this is awesome. I'm gonna make I'll make you a video on that as well I'm hoping that Rita is on this call with me and Rita Let's make notes so that we can get these questions answered and I'll show you my secret solutions Please right because I do want to answer all of these but today I want to hang on about my body connection thing Angela says hi Angela. I'm glad I'm here as a housekeeper. I clean houses every day. Yes, and thank you so much Thank you to all of our house cleaners who are joining us today on this call This is not typically a show we do on this channel And I'm super excited that we are because there are a lot of professional house cleaners that we work with on a day to day Basis that are inside people's homes dealing with these exact same issues Okay, so whether it's you whether you're helping a customer whether you're helping a family member This is super important. Joan says I'm glad you're safe. Yes. Thank you so much. I'm glad I'm safe, too I was praying a lot. I was running around the car a lot I was drinking lemon water that my sister sent me so that I would stay awake and it was really sour And so it was it was helpful to stay awake. I Yeah, it was a tough drive out of the canyon and thank goodness. I made it Angela also says I clean houses every day vacuum dusting, but I have so much clutter in my home and Then goes on to say that she's still frustrated and thank you so much for your kind words We are we are going to answer that today With this mind-body connection thing and I love this we've got Alan here. Hi Alan. How you doing? Good to see you again Richard says hi Angela. Would you say this correlates to the eastern studies from Feng Chua Feng Chua? Yes, I would and I don't want to put a name on it saying it's it's it's woo-woo There are different beliefs and different philosophies But what this comes down to is three things three things that I cannot deny that I've been able to prove day after day after day For the last 32 years. Okay, so this is my own empirical wisdom. This is my own experience I want to I want to say we've got a whole bunch of people that have said hi I want to say hi to all of you. Thank you so much for joining me today When I look at the mind-body connection one of the things that I cannot I cannot deny and this is this is proof in the Pudding there are three things we cannot outsource and it doesn't matter how much money you have it doesn't matter how rich you are It doesn't matter how many hours in the week you think you have we all only have a hundred and sixty eight hours in the week Okay, so it doesn't matter how rich or how poor you are there are three things you cannot outsource and that is physical Exercise that is the food that you eat and that is the sleep that you get at night Okay, when I talk about getting out of your comfort zone what I'm talking about are these three things specifically The reason I bring it up is because Movement encourages movement and so if you are in a rut and if you're like I just don't have the energy I'm just so tired. I just I always feel lethargic my first Suggestion to you based on experience based on proof day after day after day after day is to get out and exercise You know like I don't have the energy to exercise That's exactly why you should do it because what happens is like our lymphatic system doesn't have a pump It's not like the heart where it pumps itself. There's no pump Okay, so you have to get out and you actually have to have movement in order for your lymphatic system Which helps your immune system work properly? You got to get out and kickstart it and so what does that look like and it's movement You got it You got to move and so I'm going to recommend that you get up every single day Even if you don't want to even if it's cold outside even if it's hot outside I don't I don't care what the weather is bundle up or put You know a little tankini on like this and get out and get going get going whether you walk or whether you're Running, but you've got to get some circulation going through your body and what happens is maybe for four or five days You're gonna go like whoa This is kind of tough and I'm out of my comfort zone and then after four or five days your body's gonna start waking you up Naturally, you're not even gonna need an alarm your body's gonna go. Hey, it's time for you to get out and move, right? Movement encourages movement So if you do not have movement in your life and you're not feeling very good get out and move Lots of people say well, I can't move. There are certain things I can't do what can you do and one of my Encouragements is can you get like a little mini trampling even if it's too cold and you can't get out It's icy where you live. Can you get a little mini trampling with one of those support bars? Can you put that in front of the TV and can you bounce? Because if you can bounce how long can you bounce can bounce for a few minutes in front of the TV that's movement That's gonna get your lymphatic system going again, right? And that's gonna jump start your body and your blood and the oxygen going through your brain Not only that but check this out. It's also and I'm talking about the the mini trampoline It's also great for your core, which is everything from here all the way down to about your knees Okay, it's gonna help your butt. It's gonna help your thighs. It's gonna help your quads. It's gonna help your stomach It's gonna help all of your body and all of your organs and it's very inexpensive to do that So even if you don't have a pair of running shoes and you're not willing to go outside You can bounce there are things you can do but energy comes from energy Okay, and it doesn't matter like I said how much you pay you can pay for personal trainer You can buy a gym membership, but unless you actually do the work You're not gonna benefit from it and no one can do it for you No one can go work out for you and you get the benefits doesn't work that way Okay, so you have to do it yourself. You have to be willing to do it yourself So if you're gonna go walking even if it's cold outside Bundle up and walk like you are late for an appointment I'm not kidding like wander along and just kind of you know take a little morning stroll I'm talking about you get out there and you power walk give it everything you've got and it doesn't cost anything It's absolutely free and if you're having a hard time find a friend. Okay in my neighborhood I don't do a lot of social activities because I'm really busy But in my neighborhood there was somebody that wanted to be my friend and she said I will meet you at 7 o'clock on a Saturday morning and we can go walk around the neighborhood And I thought oh my goodness this woman wants to be my friend badly enough that she'll get up at 7 o'clock in the morning Put on a hat and a coat and we'll go walking in the neighborhood totally I will do that right it's great exercise for me It's great socialization and it's great therapy right you get to spin ideas off other people So when we talk about the mind-to-body connection Maybe what you need is a good friend that can kind of like you know answer questions and hang out with you and help You work through issues and you can do that while you're walking You don't have to stop and take extra time you can do it while you're walking right so this is a really great Opportunity to get out of your comfort zone. All right, and I mention this because like I said It's absolutely free But you're gonna have to be willing to do the hard stuff if you're willing to do the hard stuff Guess what you do benefit from it You do get the benefits of the extra oxygen the endorphins feeling fantastic and now you go home And then what you slip back into the way you live. No you come home, and you're like man I feel fantastic. I should do something while I'm feeling fantastic And that's where I say the clutter starts to take care of itself You're like I could totally do a load of laundry right now I could totally do a load of dishes and it might not be much But it's something because you were willing to kick yourself out of your comfort zone, right? All right, how far can you stretch that stuff? Maybe you're like me and you like to challenge yourself But if there's no challenge like what am I doing this for? So for me it's like how far can I stretch my stride and I start running the faster you run the longer that stride goes You know that and so I've got about a six foot gap every time my foot hits the pavement It's like six feet later and then you say how many times can I get from here to that telephone pole in how many steps? Every day try to get there in one less step And that's you're stretching your stride a little bit farther and what that means is you're going a little bit faster as you Run, right? It's a trick. I tricked you to make you go faster, but it's a little game that you play with yourself So even if this is not your comfort zone and today you're just walking the day may come where you're like, you know what? I feel kind of good today. I think I'm gonna try to run from here to that telephone pole. You know what? Nobody's stopping you Give it everything you got right and so then the next thing you're gonna go I I could go to two telephone poles great See if you can run from one telephone pole to the next then walk from one to the next and then run from one to The next see how far you can go and how many little tiny mini runs you can fit inside a regular Little walker a job because what happens is the faster you go and the more aerobic Stuff that you have going through you that's gonna start processing even quicker the endorphins come faster It processes, you know fat in your body is jump starts your metabolism. It helps build your immune system There are so many health benefits and they're all free if you got a good pair of running shoes get out and go There's nobody stopping you and again you are the only person that benefits from that Alright, the next one How long can you bounce in front of the TV? We talked about this I have a mini trampoline inside my house and the cool part about it is I've got one inside my office And I have one inside my my TV room where we do watch TV at night And the reason I bring this up is because I can sit in front of the TV like anyone else It's fun to just eat food and stuff in front of the TV But if my goal to myself is I got to jump for 30 minutes before I sit down What I know about myself is this I'm gonna get a really good little workout where my blood's gonna get going and All right, I can do this and I'm gonna feel it the next day that Exercise is gonna help me sleep better at night and then the next day I'm gonna have a better day because my body is already Operational and so instead of waking up feeling like oh, I just feel like I just got hit by a truck. I'm so Exhausted I'm gonna wake up like wow. Hey, I'm ready to start the day, right is a house cleaner I need my energy That's one of the highest Values that I bring to the table as a house cleaner because I have to clean every single day And that's a lot of movement and a lot of momentum and when we said energy Encourages energy or movement encourages movement I'm counting on that in order to get through the day if I start my day And I'm exhausted and then I go clean all day and then I come home And I'm super exhausted because you are at the end of the day You're whipped if I come home at the end of the day and I just crash Then you know good for me. I got some rest, but then the next day I'm starting again from a deficit so somewhere along the day and I've done this every year as long as I've been in the cleaning business I got to work out at least somewhere during the day either first thing in the morning or after my My schedule is done for the day in order that I can get through the following day Okay, because our energy builds on top day by day and the stronger you get and the stronger your muscles are The the more energy you have okay, so how long are you bouncing again? It's not very expensive to buy one of these little mini trampolines And I've left links in the notes below so that you guys can get one if you don't have one I have two in my house There are times I've had four and then employees cart the monster like I need more of those I'm like they go with you. I have two or I have three Um, but but before several times during the day even if I'm working out of my house Or it's the weekend If I'm going from one room to the other I will jump on that just for a few minutes It doesn't have to be long It can be as little as 30 seconds to keep your heart rate going and and keep you going And that can replace a whole cup of coffee Check this out instead of the coffee which stresses your adrenal glands and it gives you less power over You know getting your energy back This is a natural boost and so if nothing else man, I'm a little tired I think I'll just jump for a few minutes and you're right back to where you were Okay, so it's completely natural no side effects. All right with that um There are things that we can do this one is one of my favorites It is in front of the microwave and I know many people heat up their food If you are waiting in front of the microwave and you have to I don't know wait for two or three minutes. What are you doing in front of the microwave? Instead of just standing there and the reason I say that is because if you'll stretch your arms out And you do like these little arm circles You can do a series of arm circles while you're waiting for your food to cook Also, if you will keep like stretch bands and you'll keep them right in front of the microwave You can just do some arm stretches right now, which is great therapy for your shoulders Okay, lots of house cleaners have shoulder aches because they do lots of arm movement with the vacuum And they're moving their hands like in circular motions or back and forth motions while they're cleaning And so their arms will take a beating and they're like man I got like cramps in my shoulders the neck the shoulders You can work all that out with stretch bands. Okay, and you can hold one end and you can stretch with one hand The reason I bring this up is because if you'll keep the stretch bands close to the tv And close to the microwave and if you'll keep a set inside your car I've got links in the show notes to those as well Any free time that you have you can be stretching those you can do overhead stretches You can do stretches in front of you you can hold part of it and stretch where it will then Work your whole arm lots of stretches with just a stretch band Now I'll share a secret with you if you ever have like a shoulder replacement And you go through physical therapy the first thing they're going to do they're going to give you stretch bands So you can avoid the the shoulder replacement and all that stuff by keeping your shoulders strong to begin with Yay All right, um, we've got lots of people here with comments of space cadet says Uh, your idea of decluttering our lives mind-body connection is wonderful But angela does that mean I finally have to shave and take that long overdue monthly shower If that's out of your comfort zone, I'm going to say yes because you deserve a shower deserve a shower every day And so if if that's new for you. Yes, do it for yourself for nothing else Colleen says I just found your video. You're speaking to me today kind of scary, but I think I need you You know, I'm speaking to all of us. We all need this including me, right? So thank you so much for joining us. We're all in this together I wish I could say there's this isolated group of people that are dealing with clutter and hoarding and stuff It's now everybody. It's everybody scary rooms storage units Um garages addicts Closets everybody's got some little place where they just chunk stuff. It could be drawers. It could be dressers. It could be Who knows what but there it's all of us now. There's nobody that's special. That's like, oh, it's just me I have clutter issues. Everybody does, you know, so yeah, we're all dealing with this together um, eileen How you doing good to see you. We've got richard here came came here for cleaning advice. I'm going to leave with a powerful spiritual advice Thank you so much. This is a this is not so much spiritual I mean it can be but it is it is as much about our lives and and respecting ourselves And the reason I bring this up is because I just said a minute ago how you deserve to live in a clean house You deserve to have a healthy body And you deserve to live a life that you were meant to live And you can't live it if you've fallen into the comfort zone or you've fallen into a rut Okay, you can't live that life if you don't have the energy to live it And so that's the series of conversations. We've been having building up to today And today is that really tough conversation like, you know what? You're responsible. It's you. I'm looking at you You're the one that's responsible. Yeah, and it's it's everybody realizing for themselves Taking responsibility on their own that this is my life. I deserve I deserve a healthy life I deserve to get a good night's sleep I deserve to exercise and lots of people go. I don't have time to exercise. I've got family. I've got kids You know what that's exactly why you should take time to exercise You deserve it. This is your life and we only get one round And so if this is the round that we're getting let's make the most of it Right, let's make the most of the life that we live so that we can hold our heads proud and we can go Oh, yeah, yeah, this is this is my life and I'm giving it every single thing I've got Sleep sleep reboots the body and the brain now I know I'm preaching to the choir when I talk about sleep There are so many people that would love to just sleep and sleep and sleep And then they toss and turn and why? Because they're business owners. No, I'm just kidding But as business owners, if you're like me, you probably wake up halfway through the night and you're thinking about employees And you're thinking about oh no, I've got payroll coming up and you're thinking about Difficult customers that you're working with Sometimes people are just flustered with kids. They're flustered with teenagers. They might be angry or are Disconnected from their spouse. They're all these things that keep us awake Night night just kind of bottles up and it just kind of makes us stressful Right, and then you try to go have a productive day and feel on top of the world It doesn't happen It doesn't happen sleep is one of those things you cannot outsource you got to have a really good night sleep so much So much that the iphone now has a sleep alarm on it If you go to the health section of your iphone It will say tell me when you want to go to bed at night How many hours of sleep do you want to get and it will start winding down And it will start zoning out your phone and it won't show you the ads and all this stuff at night time It's going to start closing down and as you start to go online late at night It's going to remind you, you know, it's past your bedtime You need to go to bed now And it will start shutting down your apps because you're going to bed now And it's not going to wake you up until you get up in the morning, right? So I mean everybody knows that sleep is really important Now i'm not making this up because everything that we're going to do tomorrow Is dependent on the sleep we got last night and the night before it actually works in like 48 hour cycles So the sleep we got two nights ago actually is going to affect me today And the sleep that I get last night is also going to affect me today So how well did you sleep at night and how many hours are you giving yourself? The reason I say that is because there are little tiny things that we do during the day that affect our sleep patterns And I want to make sure that you know what they are so that then you have choices, right? And I'm going to ask you again Are you willing will you follow me on this journey? Will you live outside your comfort zone because you're going to have to do a couple of things that are going to change One of them is can you get sunlight every single day? And you don't think that applies to sleep it does we need at least 30 minutes of sunlight a day So if you have the chance to open your windows and open your blinds Let some sunlight in so that you get the the vitamin k or whatever it is that your body needs Please get that okay. Make sure that you're getting some sunlight because that will affect the serotonin levels and the melatonin All that stuff so that when you go to sleep at night you sleep soundly It's part of the brain processing properly is by getting sunlight So if you don't have enough sunlight in your day get out and get some And so even if you're like me and you go running when it's pitch dark outside Make sure that at least you have the windows open during the day that you get some sunlight Even if it's driving from job to job But make sure you get some sunlight as part of your daily every day activity because it does affect your sleep at night All right, so the next one Is nicotine and caffeine and I know for a lot of people this is a great big staple in their diet Either they're smoking or they're drinking lots of coffee or things like that Excuse me But the the nicotine and the caffeine are going to give you a false sense of that activity and an action Okay And so what happens is that does really put stress levels on your body to the point where we had uh We had somebody in our in our network that was doing five five five red bulls a day Just to try to get through the the day and just stay awake And then there was another woman that was doing 20 22 cups of coffee Okay, so now the adrenals are just maxed out and they're not performing at all And then you're so tired and there's there's nothing to get you back up again Okay, so if you go off the caffeine and you go off the nicotine What that's going to do is force your body to start reproducing that on its own But if you're falsely producing it your body's not going to it's not going to try to produce that because it's going to say My body already has enough of that right and it's not going to produce that on its own So try to get off of that as much as possible and we do it by cutting in half So if you smoke two today smoke one tomorrow and smoke a half of one and then don't smoke at all If you drink three cups of coffee drink one and a half and then drink just break it down in half half Half and a half until you're completely off. That's the way that we wean ourselves off of that But then go off of that and save the caffeine for moments where like you're driving dangerously through a canyon road or something Right, then it actually works and you're like, whoa, wait a second. What was that? Right, it was more than your body was producing because you it's not your norm Right, so avoid caffeine and nicotine if at all possible because your body is going to start producing then natural energy And that's what we want to get to is get away from artificial energies and get into natural energies I cannot expect you to clean your house and I cannot expect you to declutter And I cannot expect you to clean up a hoarding situation if you don't have enough energy to do the job Okay, it's it's going to be really tough if every time you walk into a room. You're like I just can't I'm so exhausted And if that's how you're feeling Then we have to address that at a mind body Level, right? That's what's happening here and falls off me and it sticks on you Right, if it's stuck all over your house, we got to fix that. Okay outside our comfort zone. All right I love this. This is just so much fun Uh, we got a nap if you're gonna nap and I'm a big fan of naps and my naps are not as long as I wish they were My naps are somewhere between 15 and 20 minutes at most if I do get a nap But avoid taking a nap within six hours of going to bed at night Because if you're within that six hour window chances are you're probably Not going to go to bed on time. You're probably going to stay up and you're going to be wide awake At like two or three o'clock in the morning Because your body then kind of like reset itself, right? And it does the nap and the sleeping it resets your body and brain now I'm in a business where right now we're doing lots of youtube videos We're creating lots of content and courses and stuff like that. My brain is on high Mind I call it mind meld where I need a lot of brain power every day And there are days it'll be like three four o'clock in the afternoon And I've given my brain everything I have for the day There's nothing left and I'm like man. I need a nap It might not be a long nap. It might be 15 minutes or so But it kind of resets everything and I'm ready to go again for another eight hours So make sure that you're not sleeping within a six hour window of your bedtime Don't be trying to take a nap at you know six seven eight o'clock at night That's that's not going to help you in any way. All right. The next thing that I want to Bring to our attention is the food that we eat This is not something that you can pay someone else to do you can pay for food to be delivered to your house You can pay for a chef to come to your house You can drive through the drive-thru and you can buy food that you yourself didn't have to cook But when we talk about food I want to talk about how not eating a great big meal Within three hours of your bedtime is again. It's going to affect you personally. Okay So this is really all about you and how how are you managing these little moments in your life So that you're maximizing your sleep on a regular basis and the food that we eat Please do not eat a great big meal with all kinds of spicy stuff right before you go to bed at night Because that is going to keep you up all night, right? And I don't want I don't want that to happen to you So we have to start thinking in terms of wait a second. I have a big meal coming up Let's eat that at three o'clock four o'clock in the afternoon and maybe have a light snack before bed Not eating the big meals, right the big meals will keep you up during the night I also want to avoid big workouts before bedtime. Do you remember how we talked about the uh energy encourages energy? I did this one night. Um, I I got really I got going on the little mini tram And it was kind of late and I was like, oh, I haven't got it in yet I'm gonna hurry and you know and I started jumping and I felt really great. So I'm like, hey, I'll go a little bit further And then I felt really great. Okay. I'll go a little bit further And then lo and behold it came time to go to bed and I was wide awake. I mean, I was like I was ready to go Okay, don't do that because then you're not going to get a good night's sleep, right? So it's a management of the food that you eat When you eat the food the kinds of food that you eat The exercise that you get during the day the sunlight that you get during the day really already Some of you were like, hey, I'm out of my comfort zone already, right? I know that if I'm not doing this series of little tiny things I can get out of whack really quick as well speaking of getting out of whack. I gotta say hi to you guys I've got so many people here that have jumped jumped in to say hi Space cadet says my plants are perfectly healthy, but I'm motivated to restart that late life removal process We do become comfortable with our environment. It's a bit. It's a bit hard like throwing her out in a way Yeah, you know what it's uh It it's something to think about and so even if you've been really keen on having a certain lifestyle We do have to stop and realize that we have a choice with every day and uh A low key low key says hey good afternoon. I just tuned in. I needed to see this. Thank you You know what? Thank you for tuning in today. I'm really glad that you guys are here We've got so many folks here. Uh, sylvanas 63 says thank you kindly and Angela Giorgio says hi How do I say this mochi girl says I sell vintage things on ebay and I have so much stuff and piles around my house So overwhelming It can be it can be and you're not alone lots and lots of people are going through this jinn jay says hi And I love all the little happy eyes. Thank you so much. That's awesome Schwarz or mawn I'm sure all these names are super important and they mean something I'm dealing with hoarding Would it be wise to hire a professional cleaner to help me? Um, not yet Not yet Again, I want us to get out of our comfort zone because before you hire a cleaner And the reason I say this is if we just hire a cleaner to come in But we haven't actually changed the behavior habits of us getting out of our comfort zone What's going to happen is they'll clean our house and because the mind-body connection hasn't changed We go right back to the way that it was and within a matter of a couple of weeks We'll be right back where we were and we will spend a whole bunch of money and we won't have any new systems in place Right, so if we fix this part first like I said the other stuff starts fixing itself And there will things that right now are overwhelming that then will become like second nature and we'll be like Oh, yes, but of course, right? That's that's second nature to me So when I talk about the things that you cannot outsource one of the things that I want to bring up is premium fuel and I say premium fuel because as a house cleaner I've been inside people's homes all day every day And if I work out first and then I go clean houses for six or seven or eight hours a day And then in the evening, I'm expected to still, you know perform for my own family Which is ever fixing dinner or cleaning my own house or getting tomorrow's cleaning supplies ready or any of those things I have to be my best version of myself And so I remember reading one time Someone said you can't expect a million dollar body if you're eating off the dollar menu And I was like, whoa, wait a second and I was I was going through the drive-thru And I was eating the quickest fastest stuff that I could find because I hadn't prepared my food And then I said wait a second. What would it look like? And this goes back to getting out of your comfort zone What would it look like if you did take responsibility for the food that you ate? Again, I can pay somebody to to send meals to me But I can't pay for the digestion and and experiencing the nutritional value unless I actually eat it So while the drive-thru may have some healthy choices If I don't order those healthy choices and I just order the fun stuff and I say fun stuff If I this is a highly processed meal if you look at this This is just a box of cereal and if I look at that there's not anything really healthy there It's just chemicals, right? Are you just eating chemicals or are you eating real food? And if you're ordering from the dollar menu and this is your breakfast lunch and or dinner What kind of nutritional value are you actually getting from that? And I don't I don't want to nitpick and I don't want to I don't want to point any fingers But as a house cleaner one of the the biggest fears that I had Was because I was in a hurry because I'm racing from house to house because I'm burning so much fuel For years. I thought well, I can eat whatever I want and it won't affect me But the reality is if I have a really expensive car and I put water in the gas tank what happens Well, it putters to a stop And so if you are putting icky fuel inside your body and your body is your biggest best machine That thinks it's better than any ai tool you've ever seen it can think and reason it has emotions It can help people it can you know pivot and make maneuvers to to do other things How on earth do you think that's going to respond if you're giving it icky fuel? And so for me, this is me personally after being in the industry for so many years Where my energy my physical energy my mind body connection was so at risk every single day What I had to do for myself and I did this as a survival tool for myself I switched to and this is my lunch for the day. I switched to eight ounce containers And I love these eight ounce containers. These are green grapes. This has a screw on lid So I can put all kinds of things in here and screw on the lid And then what happens is it doesn't leak if it's if it's a liquid I can take it with me in a lunch box I prefer to have whole foods because this doesn't need to be refrigerated I can put this inside the cup holder of my car then i'm driving from house to house I get a little bit hungry instead of going through a drive through like hey, I got healthy snacks right here This is real energy right here. This is not from the dollar menu and it doesn't cost a lot I can get a great big bag of grapes for a dollar or two just the same as I could get something off the dollar menu But the the grapes will last me all week for snacks And so this is a great in-between house snack I've left links in the show notes to these as well with the uh the little containers I swear by these containers because what happens is I can get a great big crop pot And I can put things like yams in there or I can put chicken in there And I can make little tiny meals like this that then go in the freezer And then when I do get home and I'm throwing something in the microwave for my dinner What I'm throwing in there is actual whole foods I'm not eating highly processed foods that have sugar and additives and all these things in there That are going to like bog my system down and my system is going to have to fight for survival Right. I want to eat something that just processes and is like hey. Thank you very much, right Here's my my late lunch snack and this is just an apple And what I've done is I've taken this on apple slicer and I love this apple slicer because it has like a little Thing on the back that pops the apple out So I can use the apple the whole apple fits inside this little container and I leave the core in here Until it's time to eat And I just pull the core out like that see my apple is right there in the middle And that way it keeps my apple from turning brown So I can carry my apples with me during the day so I can keep an apple which is again natural energy I can carry my grapes with me which is natural energy and I can have these these don't need to be refrigerated They can go in a lunchbox, but they don't you know, they can also go in a cleaning caddy If I need to eat a little something while I'm on the go so If you will prepare your food and take it with you Then you're not tempted like well, I haven't eaten anything. I'm so hungry I have to go through and eat something off the dollar menu You're not forced to do that because you took a couple extra minutes at the top of every day Now I'll share this with you. I work out of my house and you say angela. That's so weird Why do you have food in your house? It should be in my fridge, right? Well, here's the thing every morning when I get up I fix breakfast lunch and dinner for everybody in my house And they all go in their own individual lunchboxes and I bring mine to my office with me Now even though I'm inside the house Instead of running to the refrigerator and keep hoping that new treats have appeared and I'll have fixed anything So I'll just eat whatever what I'm doing is I'm forcing myself I'm saying these these this is my food for the day, right? I too have food I deserve to have food as well and because I've planned it and it's in front of me It's not out of sight out of mind. I'm not letting myself get into a deficit where I'm now so hungry That I can't eat healthy foods I'm at a point where I'm like, hey, I'm hungry and I have food right here waiting for me Like hey, how cool is that right? And it's it's because I deserve that you deserve that You deserve to take care of yourself Just like you take care of everyone else. We talked about this last week We call it mom syndrome where we take care of Everyone else and we put ourselves very last and I'm asking you to get out of your comfort zone and reverse that I'm asking you to take care of yourself first Guess why because if you take care of yourself first and your energy is great and you feel fantastic and you've had plenty of sleep I know imagine you're healthy. You're vivacious. You have energy How much better can you take care of everyone else from your kids to your spouse to your Your elder parents to your clients. It's amazing Okay, you you can do so much more by taking care of yourself first And so it's not selfish and it's not arrogant to say, hey, you know, I'm gonna like bring myself some lunch It's not you deserve that just like you deserve a clean home And so before we just start cleaning our home, I'm asking you to clean your body Get rid of all the gunk that's in your body and I'll share a secret with you because many people are like I don't know anything at all about nutrition. I don't know where to start So my suggestion is this I just showed you the processed foods and I showed you the dollar menu items What do these two things have in common? Check it out. They're gold colored foods What? Gold colored foods. It's true. I'm asking you to avoid gold colored foods Just for a couple days. You don't have to go all crazy and everything But just avoid gold colored foods and trade them out with foods that are green And when I say foods that are green, these are foods These are whole foods with nutrients in them and the gold colored foods for the most part Don't have nutrients in them, but the green colored foods do how cool is that right? It's like a magic trick So when you have a choice and the choice is to always eat the healthiest of the foods available to you So if you go into I don't know any meal and you see foods that are gold and foods that are green Choose the foods that are green right your body will thank you. All right. So what kind of foods avocados? Yes avocados are green and they're super healthy for you. What happens if you eat avocados every day? Right your body will thank you and what happens if you eat? This is a honeydew melon So there are lots of fruits and vegetables that you can eat that are also green But I want you to start thinking in terms of green What are the green foods that we can be adding to our diet that can replace some of those gold colored foods? That's nothing but processed chemicals Apples you can eat apples. They're super healthy for us. They've got lots of energy. They process quickly It's they're they're fun to eat. They taste great You know what? I mean, this is innocent good healthy raw energy And the more you eat the better your body will thank you Grapes I eat grapes almost every single day. It's like one of the coolest snacks ever. It tastes good. It's easy once I wash them off I don't have any garbage. There's no garbage left behind. There are no seeds I I choose the seedless grapes. There's nothing to spit out. There's nothing to throw away. There are no wrappers It's just like that. Uh, easy to eat, right? And then for dinner, I was talking about the crock pot You can throw things like squash in the crock pot and cook it and it tastes absolutely delicious with no salt You don't need any seasoning. You don't need any of that stuff. It's just really good healthy food that tastes great Right, this is spinach. You can make a spinach salad and you can add all kinds of really fun stuff to it My point is that if you're eating healthy foods You're going to benefit from the healthy foods But again out of your comfort zone because if you don't take care of your diet And I say diet your health plan your eating plan You're not going to benefit from all of the energy you could be getting and there are a lot of foods that bring energy to us So if you're out and you're doing movement every day and you're exercising and you're doing the anaerobic stuff And you're getting the blood circulating through your body and then you're eating things that bring you natural energy You're going to feel fantastic and then when you go to sleep at night, you're going to sleep so soundly When you wake up in the morning, you're going to bounce out of bed like toast and you're going to go. Oh my goodness Don't I feel fantastic All right now. Let's go back to where What's on me runs off and it sticks on you Okay, if what I'm feeling is I feel fantastic. I feel on top of the world. I've got all this energy What's going to happen to the the world around you? Are you going to forget to feed your plants? Are they going to be droopy and sound-looking? No, you're going to walk by and go Whoa, you need some water and you're going to recognize you're going to be aware You're going to be on top of the world and you're going to recognize that there are people around you that need a hug People that need a conversation People that need a little bit of something extra that you can provide Right and the reason I'm bringing this up is because lots of people that are involved in hoarding situations Are so overwhelmed and so consumed they've forgotten the purpose of life And they're so consumed with me and my little environment That they can't get outside and where they really need to be is outside helping other people They need to be doing things that have purpose and meaning They need to have hobbies that are fun that are fulfilling that make their life sing They need to have relationships with people that are intriguing and interesting people learning new things and sharing new ideas But because they're so bogged down with how they feel In the environment that's around them sometimes they can't even get out of that little comfort zone Okay, and so we've had some really tough conversations, but in this conversation. I want to ask you Is your life worth it and the answer is yes, absolutely That's why you're here, right? We all have a purpose in life What is your purpose and do you owe it to yourself to kind of get out of your comfort zone? It's like me driving dangerously through the windy mountainous roads trying to get back to the airport My goal was to get to the airport so I could fly home But in order to do that I had to go against every single thing in my comfort zone because all the cards were stacked against me And many of them self-inflicted. Okay, I'm the one that stayed up way too late past my bedtime I'm the one that stayed longer in town than I should have I'm the one that did all the things Okay, I'm responsible for all of it, but most of us are as well Most of us have stacked the deck against us. We're the ones that ran out and bought all the stuff We went to the yard sales and the garage sales and all we're the ones that bought all the stuff We stacked the cards against ourselves And now the moment has come Where our lives may depend on it, right? And so I'm asking you get out of your comfort zone and you do whatever it takes Whether you've got to get out and run around the car and you got to shake yourself up and sing Loud music and dance and do all these things just to stay awake You got to do whatever you got to do and if that means you get up earlier Then you're comfortable with in the morning get up earlier throw on a pair of jogging shoes and get out the door Yeah, if it's cold put on a beanie hat and a coat and walk like you are in a hurry Like you are going someplace in a hurry, right get your body jump started again You owe it to yourself and you owe it to all the people that know and love you your family your kids Your friends you owe it to everybody life was meant to be lived not to be survived Are you surviving? Are you just kind of like going through the motions every day and you don't know why that's not life That's not living Living is about getting up and doing the things dangerously. I'm going to go for a big run today I'm gonna run from telephone pole to telephone pole. I got this I'm going to do this and then you get home and you do a load of dishes and you do a load of laundry I mean live dangerously You even clean the bathroom if you feel like it, you know, and if you don't that's fine But work on this part first Because if you work on this part first the mind-body connection The other stuff will start to fall into place And I don't want you to beat yourself up and I don't want you to feel bad and lousy and shameful and all those things We've decided already in the last few episodes that we did that that's kind of like old old stuff That's like yesterday's news right feeling ashamed and not inviting people over and living in a life of clutter and woe is me That's all like yesterday's stuff. We're so over that. We're not doing that anymore. We're gonna say what can I do? Well, I I can eat a salad tonight. I can do that Well, if that's all you have in front of you, you know what do that tonight Go from gold to green you can do that right now. You just learned a new trick It's like a magic trick. No gold only eat green. Yay. It'll make you feel a whole lot better All right, I have to stop here today. I respect your time You guys we're at the end of our time together and I have so many people that have said hi I do want to leave you with one thing before we leave and I I want to say hi here I don't know if I've got any questions here. I got lots of cleaning questions Have you tried next door? That would be free. Don't know what that's about What's next door next door is an app where it's a neighborhood app where you can jump on the neighborhood App and you could actually ask for someone any neighbors here that want to go walking with me in the morning They want to hold me accountable. It's a great way to do that There are many good exercise channels on youtube. Yes, that's also true Thank you guys for adding in the comments in here. I'm going to come back and answer these after this is over I do want to leave you with one thing and if you have not listened to this yet I created this for you guys and it was back the day before Christmas And this is a tape that you listen to when you go to sleep at night It's called the new normal and if you haven't listened to it already It will kind of play in the background of your of your night while you're sleeping turn it on low Audible enough so that you can hear the words, but it's a series of affirmations And it walks you through every single one of these steps. They're like 15 different areas of wellness If you do nothing else if you do nothing that we talked about today and you do nothing else But you listen to this every single night when you go to sleep I myself have been listening to every night since it came out, which was the night before Christmas And it's it's phenomenal and I say phenomenal because I've watched other people in my house Also listening to it starting to make some really serious changes in their lives very easy effortlessly and naturally And so what it does is it starts changing the way that we talk to ourselves We start thinking in terms of oh, yes, that's a possibility for me And then what happens is your unconscious mind starts to find scenarios in which this is true Where you go in you're offered lots of different kinds of food and you choose the healthiest of the choices Where you leave a room and you tidy up after you leave there are lots of little things there And you can listen to while you're conscious and awake But you can also listen to every night as you sleep it's set for eight hours It will just play over and over and over again on a loop And the cool part about it is is what it does is it replaces the negative tapes We've been listening to to say hey wait a second. I deserve something better. This is for me So listen to it. I've left links in the show notes for you guys. It's 100 free. There are no side effects There's nothing to do or buy just turn it on low listen to it as you go to sleep at night All right, that's it for today. Thank you so much for your time And I I'm going to continue this conversation again this time next week over on the hoarding world channel So come join us if you haven't already This was a special thing we we added in our house cleaning group today because we have lots of house cleaners working through these issues The rest of the stuff we're doing is over on the hoarding world channel. So come visit us there and again Thank you for your time today I I love having you guys here and like I said, I'll come back and I'll answer all your questions When I get the chance here later this evening So until then have a great week and I want you to feel great. Keep me posted because I'm here and