 With that the next one was I noticed there's a couple that happened when you kind of quit the drinking a big one for me I was talking about this today when we had seminar on bootcamp was um The end game so we started at the very beginning there at the approach shit some of the very end game stuff It's just so important to be decisive like you just have to be fully decisive here, right? And I think It's a challenge because if you're thinking okay, you're in there you see the girl And you're like maybe I could pull this one I could do this But I've never done it before like everyone has their their first cold approach one night stand or something like that, right? And it's a fucking big deal But if you really think about it and you're in there and this is your goal like whatever whatever your goals are my goals I've been traveling around so it's usually like this has to happen tonight or it's not gonna happen That's just kind of the game I play so that's my goal. I'm like, okay How can I make this happen tonight? I got to do this and if you really think about it that girl that I'm gonna get with how me Like one night stands as she had with some like random stranger dude, I don't know three four or something like that So she doesn't know what the hell to do, right? She doesn't know what she's doing there and you're like, I don't know what I'm doing She's like, I don't know what I'm doing right and also just kind of fades into sadness or something there Because he just don't do anything and you don't really know what to do So you really just have to have that fucking decisiveness, right and funny enough What do I notice with all of a sudden again? We're in February here What do I notice with me being sober again? All of a sudden I got this girl I remember we were in Buenos Aires because we just kind of did South America tour and so I'm in there And I got this girl and I'm like, is she hot enough? Is she not hot enough? Is she hot enough and all of a sudden because I was like indecisive I ended up not pulling her basically and then I thought to myself. I'm like, damn What type of girls are you pulling when you're drunk? Like probably should kind of step up a little bit there, right? So for that for the hotter girls stuff I'm definitely gonna one of the focuses for me learning from that Was like make sure to hit up the hot sets and we'll talk about in a second how to get better at that but also the other thing with it is Looking at the end of the night there and what I was suggesting to some of the guys today I was like go with the binary system. It's like one zero when it's like I would hook up with her zero It's like I wouldn't and then once you're like, okay one make the decision and just roll with it Be like here we go. We're doing this shit because at the end of the night there, it's like, whoa This is a big deal. There's a lot of risk here. She needs to have that trust She needs to kind of submit there and be like, okay This guy knows what he's doing here and the only way you're gonna do that is you're like, hey, this is what we're doing Let's fucking go. Let's do this shit, right? So really amp in and up and own in it. So that was another thing I kind of learned Some other things that were really cool is I feel that each year of me being an instructor. I Said like a you kind of the first year. I had some good skills. I called it the year of sevens So it's me getting with like a lot of sevens kind of get a lot of reference points there Then you have the year of eights and it always says that I say the year of AIDS Everyone thinks I say that shit. No, not AIDS the year of eights and then kind of recently It's been like solid nines just like nines nines him that shit up really nicely So it's like, how did I get that more regularly? Would anyone want to hear about that get with some nines? Maybe someone in here. I was like, no, I like my sevens Stick with that shit. Not that I'm even superficial about anything But the goal is obviously you need the girls you need to keep moving forwards. How do you get with the hotter girls, right? For me with the big thing I noticed especially being full sober I'm doing this shit going through the process is that it's like a stepping stone thing at the beginning of the night So first off I have to just get in the flow and flow for the seminar guys in seminars today I'm just doing all the shit we talked about today. It seems right So it's like just get in the flow at the beginning there kind of rock that a bit and get in a good happy space I feel that me once I'm in my I call it like my happy chi It's pretty easy from that headspace to be like cool. I'm in here I'm rocking that let's like let's start approaching I'm feeling social But then what happens is is you're in there with the girl and all of a sudden you see the hotter girl And you're like, oh No, I'm just gonna stay with this and what I call it. It's like state preservation So in that moment, you're kind of happy to be with the girl and you see the hotter one You're like, oh, I don't want to like risk. I'm in a happy place here I don't want to risk kind of going over there and like pushing this one away and going for what I want And that it also reminds me back of at the the beginning of kind of my development Where I'm just like a nice dude, right? I'm nice So I think one of the problems a lot of guys have when you're starting off is All of a sudden you get some girls number and then the rest of the night You feel like she's looking at you and you don't want to like talk to any of the girls Who's who here has ever had that happen, right? Everyone has that I think what it is is like You remember the time where you got a number from some girl and then you started like making out with some dude And you're like, no We had a connection Was love right so you so you feel bad, right? So it's good. It's like sympathy or empathy I don't know whatever so you don't want to do that to the girl But at some point it would always say it's like you want to you got to become the hot girl You got to become the prize there, right and take what you want So this year has been a lot about being selfish to a bit, right? So for me it was like I'm in there with this girl And what I said what I actually had to prove to myself Was that I could like I could cut this off nice and clean because what would happen then is like I'm out Okay, so I'm out sober in the club Staring at all these fucking crazy alpha Argentinian dudes that are bumping into me left and right I'm like, okay, and I see this girl. I'm like, you know what I said to myself I'm gonna go for hotter girls So I know I could go in there and maybe talk to her but it's gonna last for a pretty long time And I don't want to be mean and cut it off. So I don't want to talk to her I'm like, oh, but there's a really hot Argentinian girl But because I don't have any social momentum. I don't approach her either and then I'm just like What do I do and I'm drinking water? This is boring. At least I get drunk if I wasn't doing something, right? So in this moment, it's like so how can we work on both here what I had to actually do is I had to actually like I'm in there with I had to prove to myself with the at like average girl whatever you want to say it is and be willing to cut it off and be like, hey This is a lot of fun, but I need to be with my friends or like it's boys night Or like I'm going to dance for a little bit bathroom her a little bit and like prove to myself I'm comfortable doing that. So then when the night comes by and I'm like, okay, cool Let's warm up for a little bit. I'm like, okay warm up warm up warm up. Oh, there's a hottie. Cool. It's nice Me and you I'll talk to you later. Boom hit up the hot shit, right and go for that. Actually, this is funny This is out of the This is out of the product But what it is is like so basically the game plan is as you're going out you're hitting it hard You hit it hard You try to like push into your pretend leaning your potential push to the extreme try to get like the super hot girl hit that shit up, but Then rolls around the 2 a.m. Time or so at least around here. It seems 1 32 a.m. And then what we we call it is the the wounded gazelle time with the wounded gazelle is like you're like, okay, you say to yourself did I push it as hard as I could all night long Yes, I did. All right, cool Let's just let's find some love love for the night wherever it can be found and you don't beat yourself up And you're just like, yeah, whatever. Let's go. Let's do this because it's like you did push yourself, right? So then it's not like if you're trying to work on like the hotter girl type stuff You don't need to just like go sexless for six months or something because you're pushing for that So remember the wounded gazelle time if you take anything away from the speech Wounded gazelles. Yeah, America Cool. So that was February and March for me What was really cool is by me really it was like this fucking churning process of like working on this process getting this Good state getting this good state and the other thing was I was talking to Anthony's like dude You put on some fucking mass there and for me January on to like Currently it's been about a year that I've been in the gym pretty consistently And so the other thing was like I want to quit drinking beer because it's like I can't get the six pack They say the six pack is the ultimate LMR buster, right? Let's get the six pack He's no Del Mar is I don't know no one let no one gets a shit you guys are fun Come on. You got a laugh a little bit more here, right? So I'm trying to get the six pack doing all that cut cut all the booze cut all that shit out, right? But actually for me the weirdest part so I figured what I do here is kind of since this is like man convention It's not just pick up shit kind of go through a bunch of shit that I learned this year And for me one of the fitness ones with the weirdest thing is like, you know, you think you're like, okay I'm eternally on the road. So I'm on the road 300 days a year. Like I said, I was out of the US for six months this year I Haven't paid rent for three years But I kind of bop around between New York and Chicago and then like I said all over the place But so I'm it's easy to say, okay This guy is on the road for me I'm just lazy and that's why I don't hit the gym because it's hard to find the gym in your city Whenever you go out and actually do all that shit pay the 30 bucks because it's usually super expensive to go for one day or something like that But actually the main reason that I didn't go to the gym was because I would be afraid I'd be in some city like Talon a stony or some shit like that and I walked into the gym And I don't know which is the men's locker room and like which is the women because it's in some weird Estonian shit And I'm like so I'm like whoop. There's a bunch of hot fucking Estonian girls Okay, cool and do that So I was actually the reason why I didn't go to the gym was more like a social pressure a version, right? So for me always being like the pickup coach. I'm like what is this you need to box this out But that's also crazy that like my health was affected by the fact that I was like introverted or something and this is again This is this year. So it's like even though I'm out I have a lot of situational confidence in the club and doing all that shit You constantly can be leaning into your edge there So I think it's something to look at for you guys as well Like what are the areas of your life for me like stuff that used to be a challenge was things like asking directions Or something like that going into like a store and being like, hey, do you know where the the grilled is or something like that? I'm like, oh, just figure it out. I'm a man. I'll figure it out But actually no, it's like I was more afraid of just asking them and then be like we don't speak English Get the fuck out of here. Is that really ever gonna happen? No, but because of that 1% or 5% chance of it happening I just wouldn't do it, right? So that's kind of fucked up there, right? So that's kind of my health little side kick there but what happened was really cool is coming out of that March April all of a sudden I came back to America and Everything kind of culminated I went to Vegas and just had the fucking run of glory for like I went to Vegas and went back home for a bit in Like Chicago where my family lives and then I went back to Vegas again Like the first one was like six girls and eight nights or some shit and then doing even more the next time around and just like crazy fucking mayhem I'm like, holy shit. It's May. It's my birthday. So I'm like, I turned 30 best year of my life turning 30 Holy shit. All these girls is fucking nuts. I'm like, yeah, but What happened was when I was in Buenos Aires, I'm like so Buenos Aires for me was vacation. So I'm like, I'm going there I'm not gonna work at all. I'm just gonna eat steak every day We ate steak every fucking day and then we went out to the club every damn night fucking lifted weights It's like the man's dream or some shit, right? But I came home and I was like, oh shit. I didn't realize the exchange rate very well there