 Hi, it's Bridget. Welcome to Sunday Morning Coffee with Bridget. I am waking up again this morning in Minnesota, my home state. Some of you who have watched me on Bridget inspired on Instagram or Bridget inspired on Facebook, you know that I've been traveling this week. I went to Texas, Houston mostly. I did spend a couple of nights in Galva, near Galveston in a gorgeous beach house. Yeah, I was there for the eclipse and the full moon, and I know that's insane. It was also pretty amazing the energy of the earth and we had a fight around the beach. Oh, and the water and the moonlight. Oh, it's just it was a lot of intensive infusion of clearing energy. And I'm still as is always with full moon energy, with the eclipse energy. I am definitely feeling that the aftershocks of that and it's what we'll see. We will see how things continue to push up to the surface as a result of initiating that kind of a clearing because that's basically what happens, you know, you initiate the clearing you invited in and it seems like oh, I'm good it's the phone is passed or the eclipse is passed or whatever astrological event is happening is passed and here I am. I'm like, oh, okay. I've heard pretty well. Well, guess what? It will push things up to the surface and you know what? That's absolutely okay with me right now. So I was thinking about when I came home yesterday and I came downstairs to my room and was putting some things away some card decks that I had brought in and journals and things in a book and I immediately noticed in the living room downstairs that the guinea pig cage was missing. Oh yes, we are one of those families that have had a guinea pig cage forever because there were two guinea pigs that we inherited from one of my oldest kids her friend and it was of course a sad sob story and in I think it was 2017 or 16 we got this guinea pig these two guinea pigs. Well, one of them um died about two years ago and the other one lived for like eight years, which I guess is a long time in guinea pig land and I noticed the cage was missing so I asked I said, hey What happened to the guinea pig? Oh, I said, oh my god, did the guinea pig die when I was gone and the answer was yes And I'm not gonna lie. I kind of felt a lot of relief I know this seems kind of silly like why Bridget? Why would you be so relieved when the guinea pig dies? Because it's been something that has had to have been tended to taken care of a responsibility a Duty an obligation long after my oldest kid moved out an inherited responsibility and we're gonna talk about that today as our topic for Sunday morning coffee that Relief of responsibility that sense of freedom that comes when something is taken off your plate and It just instantly feels lighter. I Can't explain it. It sounds like such a silly thing But it makes a tremendous impact because now it feels like things are being cleared away again little by little It's kind of how when if you have children when they get their driver's license And then eventually there's a car that they can drive and you don't have to drive them to work anymore Or you don't have to drive them to school anymore. It's like that when they can drive themselves Then the responsibility shifts from you to an independence to them so it's this this this Change process from responsibility into independence and There's this freedom that comes with the release of responsibility So I was curious about this I was like Is responsibility a mindset a mind frame? Is it something we inherit? And My gut response was yes, it is something we learn it is a learned belief system or pattern of behavior which There is to some degree responsibility in everyone's life everybody Regardless of how small it is or how great it feels And I thought okay, then is Is that the reason then why people get stuck or feel stuck in their lives? Because as you know, I am in the middle of a great change a massive transition in my life and it is a long and slow unfolding process and it takes time for that kind of thing to happen and And Regardless of how fast the changes itself there is like I said with the full moon stuff and the eclipse stuff There are these after effects. There are it takes a while for things to push up to the surface to be addressed and dealt with And especially when your change is affecting and impacting people around you, which it often does That can create new challenges so this energetic I think of Responsibility is part of what we could blame if we need to blame something or point the finger at something like a cause It would be this response responsibility causes stuckness Because of the mindset you see the belief system about responsibility So some of you know that I work with divine feminine and I do it in just really beautiful archetypal ways and In that archetypal work it is this this idea of responsibility is more about Self-autonomy or the power word that's used is sovereignty an independent way of claiming power and moving through the world and doing what needs to be done by being you independent of the circumstances situations or other duties and and responsibilities around you This doesn't mean you avoid or negate those things it means that the way that you move through the world You are centered in your sovereignty And that makes a huge difference Because the energetic of responsibility in the divine feminine in the archetypal world is much more of a devotion in service to in Service for and with not because of this duty obligation pressure of the ego mind or Societal norms, but rather by choice of the sovereign person who is centered in her awareness of her knowing of what matters to her and Those relationships around her that could be seen or perceived as responsibilities to tend to In fact she the divine feminine receives this knowing that There is an opportunity for a beautiful devotion and service to those Relationships thus fulfilling what we would consider in the mind's eye or in our mental System of thinking our structure of thinking that is a responsibility. I am responsible Okay, so that's one sort of perspective about this The other is the responsibility piece is like the but I have to I Should I have to I should the I have to is I should where do those come from that? I have to do my homework before I go to bed or The I have to clean the kitchen After I make a meal or the I have to go to church Or I have to go to school who at some point in our lives we we have these I Have to I shoulds that come in and I have to my shoulds give us a perspective of How what we are doing or the way that we are approaching something or someone a relationship or a task It could be either is to say that There is an underlying resistance not even resistance, but an underlying desire to not do that There is a friction. That's right. That's a good word a friction between the task and or the relationship person and us and our core value in our heart our core value in our heart not our belief in our mind based upon the thoughts and the Passing down of other people's values our families or social structures our lifestyles etc. But Within ourselves in our hearts in our value system There is friction between that action or potential action that thought of action that per that that Comes in and the friction between that and your value of what you really would rather do instead Now it's not just about a system of I want to do this or I want to do that I'm only going to do what serves me. That's not what I'm saying at all This is about perception and understanding the nature in which you are going about your own life Is it from a set of obligations or responsibilities that feel heavy the energetic of responsibility feels really heavy And we have been trained to Utilize that almost like a shame tool or a guilt tool or a power trip from somebody that doesn't even exist anymore from that Grandmother or that parent etc. In your daily life And now here you are with the opportunity to be a sovereign queen sitting on your throne of center That's what we say in the archetypal world if you're more interested in it By the way, you're interested in that divine feminine archetypal work check out priestess presence on Facebook or priestess presence calm you can dig deeper into that again. That's priestess presence calm and Now here we are at this moment where for me it was the guinea pigs gone okay That is one less layer of responsibility that now is in my field Which lightens up then the evolution of the change and the transformation that I'm going through and it seems so little right? Like it's a peripheral thing. It's a guinea pig But the cage and location the cage is downstairs where my room is And it's in my living room space, which I want to which I have chairs for and Now it was sitting on this old dresser that I'd like to paint and use in my room and Bring some these beautiful big burnt orange chairs that I got from a friend of mine into the living room to create just a cozy sitting space for myself and I'm like creating space for me So when the guinea pig is not here anymore There's not a barrier or an obstacle in my physical form and then it caused me this morning as soon as I woke up the first day back in Minnesota They woke up had to put some chapstick on because my lips woke up dry this morning Come on. What is with the dry weather? And I have a humidifier just blaring next to me. Oh my gosh. I Missed the humidity of Texas. Oh my skin just loves warmer weather Let me just say hello, Florida. I miss you too, Florida. Yes, I do. Although. I don't miss the weather delays, which is what happened yesterday again if you if you watch Bridget inspired on Instagram or Bridget inspired on Facebook you get to see all these photos and the beach reels that I made and the funny I watched a movie yesterday on the airplane coming back because we had like an hour delay sitting on the tarmac for a couple of different random reasons which was kind of funny, but also just like, yeah, okay figures and I watched Sex in the City the original movie, you know Carrie Bradshaw and the one where she and big were getting married and then he wasn't going to show up and there was this Whole miscommunication and so for six months They didn't talk and she was devastated and this whole thing like wouldn't get out of bed and all that And then the end they end up getting married at just a small little wedding and all that Because it turns out he really loved her. He just wasn't able to Do the whole big thing or he was just he had a lot of relationships. It's a whole thing. Anyway, so I'm sidetracked This is what it's like to just hang with me. Okay off on a tangent, but my point is this energy of Responsibility duty obligation does keep us stuck it does But it's us It is you and I that's doing that is our perception of that relationship our perception of That life situation that is what's keeping us stuck and we use responsibility as an excuse to stay stuck to stay stuck and Then we use the responsibility to To excuse our vices To excuse our addictions to excuse our poor behavior to excuse our lack of considerate Action or response to other people's needs we use it as a An out. Oh, I have to do this. Oh, I have to do that. We use it as an out When really it's not never an out. It's a temporary reprieve. It's a temporary reprieve It's like catching your breath and then having to go right back into the water and it's rough seas So if you can in any way open up your heart To the value of what the responsibility Represents to you and feel into it at the level of your value What you value what you value what you value what matters to you what matters to you what matters to you because that's going to Make all the difference in your energy and in your energetic field if you can lighten the load of responsibility and and and step in to those experiences circumstances situations or people with a Understanding of service or devotion Then it's going to make all the difference in the way you move through the world And it won't be a heavy duty or responsibility It will be a choice because even though it is a duty or responsibility. It is a choice You don't have to clean the kitchen before you go to bed Trust me those pots and pans will be there in the morning. That's what happens here. That's going to happen It's just a matter of when you manage or take care of it. It doesn't it's not like The world is going to fall apart or end But we make up these stories in our head that's exactly what's going to happen if I don't do it who will Stop doing it and find out And if the answer is nobody Then you know Then you know then you can make choices based upon the minimum That needs to occur or happen in order to maintain a level of flow in your life of energy So you're not just focused on doing some menial things some Just basic thing all the time and using that basic thing to avoid doing the deeper more meaningful work in your life It could be emotional work. It could be healing work You might better better spend that time journaling And allowing yourself to be aware of your own inner feelings To do some EFT or tapping to do some gentle yoga stretches To listen to a great song and journal while you're listening to that great song Things that can really support and promote your energy of wellness to encourage you to Explore more deeper what matters to you in your life So that you can create and co-create with God the creator source universe the life that you Truly are in most alignment with and you won't know when you are weighed down by responsibility But it's not responsibilities are not things that people put on you. They are projections or illusions. They're holograms. They are not actually Set in stone carved in stone, and I know some of you are yelling at me probably thinking well, but I have kids I do do I have four of them You want to go down with that you want to throw me throw down with that with me. Let's do it It is our job and our responsibility as mature adults the parent role To empower our children to be independent even though that is hard on us at times because there's a level of unknown because you know They're gonna fuck things up, and they always do and that's what we did And that's what we still continue to do new splash hasn't at all You fuck things up all the time and you have friends and family that you can talk through things with So when you release your kids into the energetic of an independent or sovereign nature Yeah, they're gonna screw up But you're training them for the world and they have to have life experiences Especially when they're under you're a safe umbrella and you're close to them and you live near them And you can help them out that is exactly the time for them to trial and air life And when you feel so responsible for them or are trying to constantly protect them It creates so much pressure for you. I'm speaking from experience. This is a message for me, too I have done this with my older children for sure and probably my youngest right now. Yeah and It doesn't help me or them it drives them nuts They feel stuck because of my sense of responsibility and I feel stuck because of my sense of responsibility Now whose issue is that really then you tell me all about how you're so responsible and have to be present for other people You just tell me all about that right now It's the way in which You operate from the value of what matters to you not the expectation of some old-ass story That was implanted from your grandparents to your parents to you. It's not about that show up and be present values sovereignty and service and A beautiful way so that the people that you're loving are free So that you who are you are loving you right so you are free and That is the magic So this is Bridget. Thanks so much for listening to Sunday morning coffee with Bridget I hope I've inspired your spirit today fills you with hope and encourage you to live your life It's your life after all and you get to live it just live it