 Ladies and gentlemen Tony gasses here want to pop in Me and wife was doing our dates early today had all of dates. So it gave me a little time tonight cuz she wanted to get some stuff done so I was able to take it pop in for a quick live tonight and You know in light of everything going on. I figure you know, I know it's some people that need to take their mind off a thing sometimes and Have issues right there in their home. That's still in their joy still in their life In addition to what's going on all around us. So I figure you know, let me do my part and Help relieve some of the stress or worry or what have you? So I'm gonna be on here. Hopefully for an hour. I think my battery got a little life. So I'll be on here about an hour Try to put a hashtag cue in front of your question if you can and I'll be looking see if I can Catch the questions in here When a man says, I think I love you. Is he genuine probably not unless his actions say I love you Now if his actions say I love you and his mouth says, I think I love you then yes, he's genuine Because sometimes a man don't want to sometimes hard for a man to say I love you So, you know, you have to realize that but one thing that cannot be denied is what a man is doing So if you hear right now here in this Sharon say she on the front line now. Okay. Wow. God bless you now. You ain't got to be on here on the front line now Come on One thing that cannot be denied is when a man loves you So you really don't have to hear him say it now He will say it, but his actions will speak so loud. You won't even be dependent on What is mouth saying? How can you break a soul tie? in my head Together for 14 years and five kids, he's married and won't leave you alone. I just want to be free Well, he won't leave you alone because you won't let him leave you alone And so you get the dictate if he can reach you or not You get to dictate those things and so you have to take that stance to where you put a boundary between y'all five kids they probably old enough for for him to talk directly to them and the youngest That phone call with the youngest could be initiated or Moderated by the oldest so you got to put that boundary in there But 14 years together that that's a lifelong soul tie you most likely not gonna break it But you can weaken it I got played by a grown boy Any way I could have prevented it. I feel stupid keep learning keep learning and you won't feel stupid Dated off and on 15 years. He cheated all those years now said wants to get back together He changed I said it's over am I wrong? Nope. You're not wrong 15 years you you wasted 14 years of your life with him. So now it's time to move on for good Why does a man show interest and ask you on a date but barely calls before the date even happens? Um, he's showing other things interest not necessarily women most likely it's women, but it could be some other stuff and It sounds like he's juggling women Is it good when girlfriend lets boyfriend cousin watch her child? Good when the girlfriend lets boyfriend cut. No, it's not good Can you do a video on dating in your 30s? All of my videos are for dating in your 30s That's why that's why the ones that I did that say um dating for I think 25 and under And dating for 50 and over That's because my audience is in between that. So all my videos apply to dating in your 30s And I think some people didn't realize that Ruby god bless you. I know I always say this but thank you for all you do tony Your yes to jesus has helped so many god bless you and your family jesus name. Hey god bless you now God bless you. Let me see. Uh, janet. I see you right there. God bless you now Tony, how do you feel on cheating? Sierra bless you. Um Now me being on here doing these questions How you you take a wild guess how you think I feel on cheating Um, you you take a wild guess on that one now What does it mean when I said when a man says you're too independent? It's really a compliment. It's really a compliment and a man actually Loves an independent woman An independent woman is always going to be more attractive than old begging woman than old needing woman So he says that but that's really a compliment to you. You know, don't don't don't feel a type of way about that Sean jemisin god bless you now or jemisin god bless you Hey, tone. I've been trying to get this question in since yesterday How do I introduce your information to my niece who will be 16 soon? Thanks. You have helped me grow daily Well, you probably want to talk to your niece mama, you know, or your niece daddy about that first But I don't really think your niece need this, you know, you talk to her what you have to do Because you know, she young my message really for grown folks So what you have to do is take what you hear from me that maybe you didn't know And then put it in your own words She'll listen to you contrary to popular belief they listen You just got to say it enough time sometimes Asia god bless you. How can a man break a soul tie with a woman? He has a six month old with and dated for one year. He's moved out of toxicity and she Isn't taking it well Um, I'm not sure who you you asking this for you or you asking about your man Um, because that's a little Awkward there But to be honest with you that that man really Men don't really break soul ties now. He could break it But the same way that a woman would break it, you know the same Things you will do getting separation getting distance Moving on with his life learning and growing But a lot of top men don't typically break soul ties Actually, god bless you now. I just wanted to send a blessing to you and your family be safe and god bless I appreciate you on that Now y'all hold on. Let me see if I can I'm trying to go in order there I see shon there. Okay. God bless you now What does it mean? Okay, I saw that one What goes through a guy's mind when he's been blocked? Disrespect a man feel disrespected. You know, he feels um He's gonna get angry and if he get unblocked he may be coming back for revenge So you got to be careful when you block a man, you got to mean it You got to mean it Tony I asked a guy if he was bisexual and he danced around the question. What do you think about this? Um Just like what your intuition is telling you just like what your intuition is telling you a man not going to dance around that question He is not going to dance around that question. If it ain't no truth to it Now, let me see What is a man's energy who has been raised by? gay parent mom Well, you know jz said his mom Is gay. So that's an example right there that you could see And and I've seen other guys. It really doesn't affect the man like that it now If the man was if the mom was there like that and then Had three sisters or something like that. I've seen guys It affected guy in that way, but on average Men do they do their own thing anyways? So that's that's it's different then because the mom she's not Him she they don't got the same body parts. So that influence is going to be a little different I let two guy friends view your about men dating video and they were heated afterwards one friend said why didn't Tony do this video Before he got married Hey that when a when a guy get heated by one of my videos, that's what let you know It's the truth Like grandma say only hit the old holla hit the old holla Tish God bless you. Now. Thank you for your video today I had to stop the video a few times and meditate on it because I felt like you were speaking directly to me I felt it in my spirit. I am worthy. God bless you and your family. Hey, you are worthy and I was talking directly to you So i'm glad you got that one Meeting long distance for the first time He comes here or we meet in the middle. I'm on the west coast. He's on the east thinking of meeting in texas um He needs to come to you, you know Because he's the man. So he needs to be courty You know, he needs to come to you and then he needs to get a hotel And then when you go see him you meet him in the lobby Then y'all go to the areas that's that's open that you could sit out in your social distance space but You also need to be thinking about that because now he could be bringing the 19 to you And coughing in your face. So you really want to think about what you want to do and if that's really what you want to do Gina god bless you now What do you think of a man who posts half naked pictures? Of his wife for other men to see could he possibly truly love her? Uh, no, he does not love her right now. He is not capable of love He's been hurt so bad and hurting so bad so lost and confused He is not capable of love Because man never going to show men are so territorial That if a man has any feelings for his woman, he's not going to be showing her off like bait Deonti god bless you now is a man insecure possessive territorial And unequally yoked because he doesn't agree with his partner Having male friends They talk and know everything about each other and tell each other they love each other No, you're not insecure possessive territory and all those things Now you may be unequally yoked because if you are with a woman who feels it's okay to have a male confidant that she Telling it all her business to and saying I love you to him You may be unequally yoked. That's that's not your woman and to be honest with you She she do she does love him and he loves her And that energy is just bad energy. She she can't be all she need to be In a relationship and vice versa a man shouldn't be doing that either you cannot be married and in a healthy relationship and having Confidence of the opposite sex outside of your spouse It's just humans not built for that And so that that'll be a that's a disaster waiting to happen If both people in a relationship didn't have standards and didn't heal from past experiences which lead to breaking up Is there a chance it may work out in the future if both people do the work Anything is possible anything is possible But the likelihood of two people two broken people doing the work and getting back together Is is almost slim to none. That's almost slim to none. I never really see that happen in my You know Work of being a relationship coach. That's that's almost slim to none because once you deal with a person and You learn how to speak a language with that person That's the language that you speak with them. So, you know, it's gonna be one Child you speak google gaga with it's gonna be one child you have full conversation with Just with any person some people you're gonna play with them a lot Some people you're gonna be real deep with them when when you with somebody and you learn how to speak a certain language with them Whenever things get heated or intense you typically go back to that language that you speak with them Um, acacia god bless you now, how long is a reasonable time for premarital counseling? To be honest with you you kind of want to do about 12 sessions Um, just because it takes some time to get all the lessons and get all the knowledge in there and and Something like that is it's okay. Once a month You know to just stay fresh Tonya joining god bless you now. Thank you so much for your godscent wisdom and clear pov. Hey bless you Bless you I see caramel kiss is working hard in the in the chat She's trying to keep the chat clear for me. So y'all just put questions in there for for now With the hashtag cue in front of it child's father seldomly called to talk to son but always agrees with Girlfriend tells me son needs to call him more um, you got a grown boy You didn't have a baby from a grown boy and you got to realize that and you got to let him be who he's gonna be And you have to be that barrier You know for your son Is it a red flag that a man is 38 years old and has been single for the last five to six years? Not necessarily You know not necessarily because he could be in a space of healing. He could be in a space of growth It's a red flag if his life is still a mess Like if he's still all over the place if he insecure if he's looking lost like upside down gps Then that's a red flag But if he looked healthy and whole And focused and driven and all of those things then it's not a red flag Some people take that time to themselves to heal and grow She's golden god bless you now. God says I am not ready for a relationship And I only flirted with you to let you know. I am not gay should this mean Could this mean he is um No, that that don't mean that You know, you can't assume just because a man don't want you That he liked men, you know, so that that don't mean that at all It to be honest with you Most men today are not ready for a relationship And they flirting with you just for that very reason because if that flirting can turn into you know him Being friends with benefits then That's what he's gonna do What advice would you give to someone who is embarking on the coaching journey as a coach? um Join my mentor dot life Make sure you join my mentor dot like that'll be an additional way But you to get get yourself marketed out there a course to do that you got to Take the life coach certification get certified. You don't have to take my courses other courses out there Mine probably is the least expensive The price goes up on monday So today and tomorrow your last day to take the life coach certification at the current price For those of y'all who are interested it's on tonigashonsacademy.com Coach chris God bless you now besties husband told her he's in love With someone else She wants to stay but it's petty about the other woman To him talks down on her looks past choices. I told her that's a turnoff to be That's a turnoff to her husband and may push him to her correct um If the husband told her That he's in love with someone else then that means he's already gone It ain't nothing she could do that's gonna push him to her. He already going to her So the fact that she's staying trying to compete She's wasting her time. She's playing she's playing herself. He's leaving. It's just a matter of time He's just getting his ducks in a row. But yeah, he leaving now He definitely leaving and if he don't leave he definitely gonna be cheating Going forward a man will never tell a woman that he's in love with another woman Until he completely done with that woman Kim marino God bless you now talking to a guy during the 19 we only met one time Talks about sleeping together and then stops when I don't reciprocate now. He's pulling back He's 45 never married but had a long-term eight-year relationship thoughts He's not looking for a relationship He's looking for a friend with benefits and he sees that you're not with that Being a friend with benefits. So he's pulling back so he could go and find somebody else He's not looking for a relationship especially after being in relationship for eight years And then come in to the next woman and just want to talk about nasty stuff. He's not looking for love Have a male friend for two years now and I have told him How I feel but he says he is not ready for a relationship and neither am I He says I need to work on myself love Myself love, etc. I help him With my car money laundry Terry in this situation you playing yourself like a deck of cards You playing the fool you playing the fool He does not like you at all. He has no feelings for you whatsoever And he's using you for everything you could do for him And when he bumps into the woman that looks like she could be his wife He's going to drop you like a bad habit and you may literally never hear from him again So you are playing yourself and you need to love yourself He's actually telling you the truth saying you need to work on yourself because what he's saying is You look like boo boo the fool And you don't know your worth. You don't know yourself and you don't love yourself And to be honest with you that's not attractive to a man When a man tells you that he don't want you he don't want to be with you and yet you're loaning him your car You're doing his laundry. You're giving him money That's honestly You you're gonna have to work on that and by working on that mean you're gonna have to let him go Let me see now. I'm looking for some good questions. Some of y'all asking three stream of conscious questions That really don't have an answer to Day to three months both in our fifties He asked to sleep together. I said i'm not ready He didn't like the answer and I broke it off fast forward four months. He calls to say he can wait Game or can I give him another chance? Well, I mean, it's like how many options do you have? You know, if you got if you got me and wrapped around the block didn't know But if you don't have any other options and he's saying he could wait He could have had a come to jesus moment. He could have realized that. Whoa, this is a real woman If I want to find somebody I could grow old with right into the sunset This might be the one because all the other women I don't want to try and try to get them in the bed They don't jump in the bed. So let me go back to this classy woman that stood her ground Now here's the key You still got a stick to what you said that you want to live Don't let the man come back and then now you go to feeling sorry Now he go to whan on you now he go to get into you and then you get in the bed with him Because now you just played yourself. So now he's like oh the first time you weren't serious the first time you weren't legit You just were saying that you're abstinent because you wanted some brownie points and you wanted to look classy But you're not actually classy So you got to make sure that if you do deal with them and entertain them that you don't do anything with him in that department And if he has to work for you it could work out Baby daddy got caught cheating moved in with her about six months ago Six since since then I have worked on self moved to another state Seem as him and his mom is throwing her in my face lately about how good He's doing They just hurt and you can't let that hurt you they just hurt and you cannot let that hurt you You got to keep doing what you're doing because if you weren't doing good if you didn't look like you were shining Then they wouldn't be Throwing him and her in your face Let me see now Godfriend dated a woman who'd been married twice before him During their relationship. She tried to change him and later dumped him He thinks she cheated and is now trying to talk face to face waste Now y'all got to ask questions for y'all You see what I'm saying you and the blessed tribe So your friend your friend don't even Want your answer because the friend didn't ask the question And if your friend want to ask the question then your friend could join the blessed tribe Okay, so y'all ask questions by yourself because this is a waste of my breath to be giving you an answer That your friend ain't even asked and your friend don't even want So y'all understand that now my time more precious to be asking for somebody to answer the question for somebody who ain't even here All right If he has a female friend he won't introduce you to because you said something bad about her What is that about they used to be roommates, but now we live together and have a child Um It's about what you think it's about Him and her got a little something going on It's a little love there a little chemistry there He's protecting her. She's essentially like his side woman, but in the guise of a friend And like I tell you, you know Men really don't have women friends Not heterosexual men Not down low men Men who like men they have women friends, but Heterosexual men who are in a relationship don't have women friends So if a man got a woman that he called a friend and he heterosexual and he in a relationship Him and that woman got something going on and I make sure even with my clients a lot of times I don't have women clients who say Tony, but you my friend And I stop them and I correct myself. I'm not your friend. I'm your life coach I don't have women friends. The only woman that's my friend is my wife That's the only woman. That's my friend. So and I'm 100 straight 100 straight men do not have women friends If that woman over there, she a love interest and y'all don't like to believe that But you ain't got to believe me because I know what I'm talking about and the grown boys They're gonna deny it but they deny it because they know I'm telling the truth And if they deny it it probably because they also like men's so the woman might actually be a friend It seems we are communicating and agreeing only to find out he was only agreeing to please me This has happened more than once is their hope for our communication to become better That's not a bad thing, you know, because to be honest with you, no two humans Really are gonna agree on everything So sometimes you got to agree to disagree and what that means is just not arguing and it's like, okay You can have that and so that's actually smart of him instead of arguing about stuff that does not matter So don't think that communication means that A person has to express every Disagreense they have and they have to tell you everything that they don't agree with because y'all will be arguing all day long So understand that there um New guy in my life. I'm attracted to him new guy in my life. I'm attracted to him Mentally not physically We discussed and he's willing To work on physical by taking care of his health Will this hinder the dating process am I being vain? um, well the bad part about that is when you don't When somebody is not who you want them to be You can't expect a human to change for you So if he doesn't want to if he's not that size or he's not that person Because he doesn't want to be that person He could change and then y'all get married have a child and then you five years down the line he go right back to the Unfit person that he was because that's truly him. You know, that's on the inside of him so You being You're not being vain, but you're unequally yo So if you want somebody that takes care of their body a certain way then wait on that person Because you don't want somebody to try to change their body for you When that just may be how their body sits it may be they could eat anything they could be eating Vegan and still be putting on weight. Just you never know New day to see god bless you now Boyfriend is locked up been reading make it work together answering the questions and he wrote in depth letters about the chapters He says he's starting to understand and it feels different and better. Can it be? male Now like you heard people say take everything with a grain of salt When a man behind bars, you got to take everything with a grain of salt You might have to cut the grain of salt in half Okay Because when you back there he got all the time in the world to be right and do right And if he's stimulating your mind making love to your mind That'll let him feel more comfortable about you waiting on him and you being faithful Now when he get back out here with this real world with the booty in his face And all this temptation in his face then you're gonna find out but you won't know until he back out here in the free world right now He is the cage bird singing. So you gotta Don't knock them, you know, don't doubt them. Don't don't say to him what i'm saying to you But don't get your hopes up. Don't get all too excited. Don't drop your guard Just keep working out the y'all read make it work. Then you're going on to uh Then you go on to a woman's influence And you just keep working now, but don't don't don't get too Don't don't don't get law to sleep now All right, Tony. Have you seen where? Guy and a woman are friends for years, but they never dated years go by and the two end up marrying settled No, I don't really see that not on a You know not For me to bring into my work as the rule, you know as a part of the rule There's exceptions to some rules. So of course that happens, but not enough to Catch my eye, you know, it don't really Happen enough to catch my eye and typically when it does happen. Yes, it is settling Because it's like, hey, we done been friends all this time. You ain't found nobody ain't found nobody We know each other. We might as well make this thing work um And what does it mean when a guy says you must miss me because you're irritating today After a minor disagreement and says call me if you want to should I um That really don't mean nothing any It really don't mean nothing Do you have to submit the certificate in order to set up the profile on my mentor? Uh, yes, so you should be able to at the end of the life coaching certification course You could download a certificate and um, then you upload that certificate when you create your profile And if you take somebody else's they should also email you a certificate And remember the price go up monday night. Let me see I dated a guy for almost Six years and he never was ready for marriage. He said that he was a christian And we did not sleep together Why did he not tell me he didn't want to marry me? well He was using you as his hold me down And so that's why I try to help y'all understand that as humans humans by nature Look out for themselves Now you got other type of humans that they care for others and how others feel and what others think And they they are like that but on average humans will be selfish And so he didn't want to be alone And so you being with you were better than being alone But see the thing about it is is you didn't know the rules Of engagement So you gave him four years too many Now that you hear when you move forward, you're not going to be with a man longer than two years Unless marriage on the menu if he hasn't gotten engaged to you within them two years You're gonna move on with your life and so You don't understand that right there Let's see Tony this guy from my home country keeps inboxing me. He's friends with some older cousins I don't want to be rude, but don't want someone possibly wanting citizenship. Should I still speak to him? um No, don't speak to him Because if if you can't look at him and and be attracted to him enough to talk to him And you don't get no feeling like hey, this could be something then don't force it Just ignore you too busy. You got too many people in inbox. You don't even see his messages um God bless you on my mentor for a week Transparent with bio written blog posts post regularly on social media any suggestion to book clients Where it's going to take longer than uh A week, you know, you have the clients going to come on there. They want to see They see you in the back pages. They know you just join So it'll take time to build that trust, you know to be there They may pop back in look at you two or three times in the rules of marketing A person has to see an ad three times before they buy So a client may come and visit your profile three times before you buy So, you know with the amount of coaches on there, you can't really expect to be booked in a week It could take up to six months, you know, but at the end of the day You're still supposed to be marketing yourself outside of my mentor. Don't just depend solely on my mentor. So get your link Your profile link and post it on your facebook Post it on your instagram bio post it on your twitter post it on your link then because you may have people in your network That don't even know you're a coach and then those people will come and book you and They didn't know you were a coach, but now they see they got a place. They can go and read your blogs They can read your bio. They can see your calendar and they could book you right there So don't just depend on the you know the drive-ups A list of god bless you now. Hi, Tony going through a divorce and the loss of my mom all within A few months. I'm a believer in Jesus and have never felt this storm like this any wisdom you can share For someone who can't see light at the end of the tunnel um I don't know if it's affordable, but we got a coach on my mentor She's on the homepage named Amy and I believe she lost her mom her husband And maybe her dad too or grandfather all in the same time period And she wrote a best-selling book called 13 things mentally strong people don't do And she's on the homepage of my mentor named Amy Um, I booked her to do a session with her to talk about mindset. I got my session with her on monday actually Now y'all ain't y'all ain't know that now I booked coaches on my mentor to do me a session Okay, coach be the coach. So I'm gonna be working with Amy, but you know, she's $500 an hour But she also she has a book Oh, that's the other one. I got her book 13 things mentally strong parents don't do but I would say get go through something like that and read the Stories of people who've gone through something similar to you and get that knowledge and sit with it You know and then start to turn the pain into purpose to understand that every step that you're taking It's somebody else that's crawling You know as you start in the walk and you you got to wear with all to be here tonight You got the strength to get up and be here tonight Guess what you stronger than somebody that's laid out in a bed and don't want to do nothing Who going through what you're going through so also start to be a light, you know Post the quotes and the thoughts that come to you As you're strengthening and ministering to yourself because you're going to be Inspiring and pulling other people along and through your pain You start to find purpose and when other people start to say hey I saw what you were going through and when you shared that and when you said what you said to yourself I was on I was On the verge of giving up and it inspired me You know, so keep feeling your mind keep being around positive people and hearing positive things Toni says so many men are dishonest about their status What are the signs that a man is already in a relationship? You know today the guys they getting good So it's going to be hard to tell but the one way you're going to be able to know Is by his consistency and how much time of his that you get If you if you're not getting if a man calling you every other day Then you know he got somebody else If he is available, he's going to call you every day and sometimes that still don't tell the whole story So especially if y'all in the same city what it's going to look like is he calls you every day And he sees you every week. So y'all going on a date every week and he calling you every day That's what it's going to To look and feel like you want you won't be confused about it Hello, how do I move from a calm and quiet separation to speaking about divorce? Divorce talk been separated for nearly a year Um, you know, it just takes a conversation, you know in a time of peace you prepare for war So it's peaceful now. It's calm now. So this is actually the time that you bring it up You know, you just shoot a text and say hey, I need to talk to you And and just make a move, you know a lot of times as women y'all can't be afraid to talk to a man A man is not a big bad wolf. You know a man is not god You know, you can't be afraid to just speak your mind to a man. You're not yelling You're not cursing. You're not screaming. You're not doing any of that But you can't be afraid to you know, say what you feel and what you think Dean of god bless you now x broke up with me He posted in facebook clean your old clothes To make room for the future. Don't be afraid Clean your old clothes and make room for the future Don't be afraid also post pics wearing new clothing and posting Getting out of my comfort zone. Why is he acting this way? The more important question dina is why are you watching your ex? So you watching your ex and you wasting your time and you taking up your day trying to understand What he's going through When nobody really knows that but him and god So what you need to do is unfriend him on facebook or block him on facebook So you could break the soul time move on You cannot move forward with your life if you still looking backwards. That's your ex and he left you So if he left you that means he doesn't want to be with you So if he don't want to be with you, that's the ultimate form of disrespect So you doing yourself a huge disservice by watching somebody that don't want to be with you And wondering what is he doing? Because he's he's sounding like he don't make no sense to me to be honest with you He's sounding a couple fries shorter a happy meal to me Shawana god bless you now bless you. All right now. Shawana you your phone glitching now. I see you up there two time Does it matter who says I love you first? Shawana, yes, it does matter Um, the man should always say I love you first and the reason being is the man is the one who has to court you The man is the one who has to get on one knee So as a woman if you tell a man that you love him first, but you don't know that he loves you Then you say yourself up for failure because now you didn't gave you didn't gave yourself up You didn't gave away your strength So a man has to being that he's going to be the one to get on the knee Being that he's the one that has to court you always want to let him say I love you first But when he says I love you first, you don't just say I love you in return You let him say I love you then you let him show that he loves you Then when he says it if he continues to say it and you say wow, thank you so much that you know That really means a lot to me. He may ask do you love me? but If you feel it and you honestly love him because of him showing you love then that's one thing to say You know I think I do I do love you But I don't really say it like that because for me It's about showing more so than telling and you just leave it right there. You know, you just leave it right there and see what he does Let me see now How long to wait for a boyfriend to get back on his feet financially? to consider marriage um You shouldn't wait on a boyfriend to get on his feet financially Because to be honest with you unless a man until he becomes a multi multi millionaire You never really on your feet So it's like think about this the stock market went down at 1.40 So that means if a man had a hundred thousand dollars He went down to 60 thousand now. Yeah, it came back a little bit but Probably not for him if when it dropped he panicked and he sold So then he lost 40 thousand dollars And so I say that to say any given day a rich person could be broke Any given day just depends on how bad things get And that same man could have lost his job due to the situation we in and had to cash out You see what I mean? So a man is never really going to be truly In the sense of the word financially stable For him to feel comfortable about marriage If you don't feel comfortable about marriage when you broke Or you just making you working hard and you ambitious you're not going to feel comfortable about marriage when you get money Like money not going to say oh, yes I want to get married so I can risk being in the 50 percent to losing 50 percent of my financial stability No man is saying that so if he don't want to be with you and marry you when he doesn't have much to lose He's not going to feel like being with you when he has everything to lose So understand that when that comes from man, that's really an excuse It's really an excuse Y'all let me scroll up a little bit because I All right, Tony dates x for a month now says he's back with x Doesn't want us to be intimate but wants us to be friends If I need to chat or help with my projects, he's there for me thoughts Let him go He's trying to add you to the roster just in case things with him and his ex don't go right He wants you to be there So he wants you to wait in the wings so if things don't go right he could come back to you So essentially he's a man that is afraid to be alone He hates to be alone and he want to be able to go from woman to woman And he wants you to be right there in the wings and need him and call him and keep it in touch So that when him and his ex argue, which he know they're going to do they're going to argue They're going to fight they're going to fall out. He want to be able to come to you He don't want you to be free and have moved on with your life And now he doesn't have anybody Ace in the hole basically so When a man asks you to wait on him or or hey, you could reach out to me Hey, we could be friends, but he's moving on with his life with another woman You got to wash your hands of him and you got to move on with your life So understand that done Both cheated ready to separate got own apartment hubby mad didn't think I'd leave Says we didn't try to make it work says i'm not humble Not sorry don't care about his feelings can't communicate Is this ego? It could be the truth You know, it could very well be the truth. It's not just that his ego both of y'all cheated so Both of y'all ought to be mad at each other And y'all don't have enough love and so maybe he equates you cheating with You not being humble and not being sorry and not caring about his feelings And not being able to communicate which all of those things are true for a cheater So it's true for him as well as it's true for you because both of y'all cheated Shakita Harris god bless you now lord point and unlike now. I see Shakita facing him a whole lot Lord need to bless you Bless you. Do you have to be in a relationship? Do you do you have to be a relationship coach? To get in with my mentor or can you be a coach of a different? niche uh carolin They let me know you ain't been to the site yet. Is it? So go on my mentor right and then click on hire a coach And then you'll see a thing that says filter when you click on that filter You'll see one of the filters says subject when you click that subject you will see 100 different coaching areas of different coaches we got on there. So it's it's all kind of subjects on there and so You know, everything is not allowed on there because we coaches Princess diamond. God bless you now. God bless. I appreciate that Date of the man a y'all got about 15 minutes left about 15 minutes Shout out to my moderators. I thank y'all for keeping the chat clear y'all could rest Y'all could take the night off. We made it I got a lot of questions in the night. We got 15 minutes left Date of the man for four years. He'd get angry and move out. We broke up for three years. We got back together Date it got married. Then he got mad again and moved out over nothing What is his problem? um, legend he really doesn't have a problem because He has a woman that he can leave Anytime he wants and he could run in and out of your life And he can do what he wants to do with you. He can use you drag you along So he really don't have a problem. He has the life He got the life the problem is your problem because you Tolerating it you sitting there. So see that's we we asked the wrong questions And the same would be if it was vice versa if you were running in and out of his life And he's standing there and he keep taking you back It ain't your problem is his problem So the problem is is that you're not setting standards and that you Have a soul tie and you're not breaking the soul tie And you standing still so that he can come and go as he pleases So really the problem now rests with you So you've got to realize that and say look, what am I doing? If a person can run in and out your life, that means you're standing still And anytime you've been anytime you with somebody for years and y'all break up let it go Because you had years to get it right when you can't get it right over three four years. That means y'all done So y'all kept coming together out of a soul tie. That's why y'all were together for years broke up Winter separate way came back some more years got married then he leaves again for nothing That's because y'all were done the first time y'all broke up after being together for years Now that's a lesson for everybody if you get this thing You know three four years and it don't work out keep going about your life Do men prefer a woman with a lot of friends or a woman who is low-key but busy? Uh the latter You know Men understand it's nothing wrong with having a lot of friends But if a woman is focused on her her business her grind And she chill and she buy her business that represents more maturity It represents more self-love. It represents more independence So a lot of times when we need too many friends, that's because we don't like being alone That's because we made it ain't just about being out going and bubbly It's just because we feel lonely It's because we screaming for attention for love for somebody to be there And when you have people that can't never do anything by themselves Always got to have a bunch of friends always got to be loaded up with with all these friends That's not a good sign the person who can step out by they sell The person who can be about their business mind a business be low-key that represents strength It represents independence and represents confidence And that's always going to be attractive to a man because the more friends we have the more open we are You know the more open we are to outside opinions and them opinions could be wrong And so when we have a small circle and we focus about business That's when we become more attractive Andrea God bless you now. I'm just saying thank you to Q&A keeps me grounded. I'm glad it does Some of these questions don't make no sense to me, but I'll be trying to answer them anyways Never knowing that somebody getting something out of the answer, but I appreciate you and that's why I tell folks Everything in for everybody But when it's for the person that needs it it make all the sense in the world So I just answer them even if it don't make much sense to me because I know somebody on the other end might you know hear it Um, Alyssa God bless you now God bless you your family and your ministry I've been soaking up your wisdom these past couple of weeks from your videos God knew what he was doing when he called the gaskins a God bless you I appreciate that blessing you sent there now He saw me talking to my God brother and later text and asked me if If I was a popular person What was he trying to imply? Um If he was trying to imply Do you get around if if that's one way or he could be genuinely Curious if you're a popular person If you got you one of them online boutiques and a lot of instagram followers and people just know you But on the other side of it if he's seen petty then he asking you Do you get around? How do you kind of let someone know it ain't going to happen? I don't want to be mean or rude But some guys don't take the hint If a guy don't take the hint that that means that he doesn't want you to kindly let him know He wants you to rudely and meanly let him know So if a man can't respect your kind know then he need to get your rude Know so that he know that you about business And he and you ain't the one to be played with Don't you know tiptoe round a man don't walk on the eggshells round a man. This a grown man His mama customized his daddy customized his coach customized his teacher customized He didn't been there so Never ask or ask yourself. How do I say this to a man? Without hurting his feelings you just say it Long as you're not yelling screaming cursing when you're saying something you know Unless you got to yell and scream and curse because he's trying you physically or he's going too far sometimes you might have to do that But don't worry about how he tastes it. That's on him Maria god bless you knock out bless you tone. I really appreciate everything you do I got saved this year. Thank you for reintroducing me to christ. Your work is not in vain Hey god bless you now. I'm glad you came near the cross Let's see bless you. You are truly a blessing Tony. Thank you for all you do. Hey bless you Bless you. Joy. I see you in there bless you I had an ex who was very critical about my bedroom skills. I don't have much experience He always expressed how bad it was yet. He always came back. What is that about? It just means that you was a hole to him And it looked like I keep seeing your picture up there like you got a lot of questions like you might need a session But it just means he's using you as a hole Because the hole is the hole, you know, it worked the same feel the same And it also means that he does not respect you It also means that he does not love you Because when a man will come out of his mouth and tell you that That means he wants to hurt you. He wants to debase you. He wants to make you feel insecure He's trying to break you down and he's just using you as a hole. So One thing I want you all to focus on is stop asking Just what does it mean about him and also ask? What does it mean about me? Ask yourself. What did this say about me to be dealing with somebody and putting up with somebody who's talking down to me Breaking me down and keep using me. What does that say about me? And then tap into self love and self respect and start to move forward Wow Some blessings big blessing came in. Wow. God bless y'all not Natasha. God bless you. Thanks, Tony For all you do. I just received a copy of a woman's influence and missus, right Can't wait to soak up now. Hey, you got two of my books And send my blessing bless you now bless you. Michelle wiles. I see you now Michelle wiles Bless your lord bless her bless her pour out in a life lord Now I'm only on his six more minutes. I might need to get a six minute these last two that came in here not my thoughts All Michelle God bless you now No amount of money or words to let you know how much of a blessing you have been to me through your messages Too much to write but I pray God continues to use you and to have a beautiful Wife Allowing you to share your encouraging messages to us slash me along with your funny jokes and truth God bless you Michelle Hey, I show thank y'all now Natasha Y'all came in right at the buzzer beater and sent me a blessing And that's your old touch my heart now a Bless you and the new members I see the green up there Let me see Jill Okay, I see Jill mariah I missed some of y'all Okay, and Natasha just join or rejoin feel like I've seen Natasha named before All right. Now I got five more minutes. I'm gonna answer some of the Got a few more questions never dated a wealthy guy before Whereas a lot of designer clothing Into finance any precautions worried about the love of money Hey, that's a good thing to be worried about now But you got to now to know if he's into the love of money you got to look at what he does and see if it's you know Equivalent to what he spends So now if he makes a whole lot of money that means him buying designer stuff He can afford that no different than somebody who makes a little bit of money And buying walmart clothes So if the same if it's the same percentage of his income then it's no different than somebody wearing walmart clothes But making a lot less money So that's what you got to look at now if he say I work in customer service I make ten dollars an hour But you always see him in gucci and louis and you know that he bring it home You know five hundred dollars every two weeks six hundred dollars every two weeks And he and he got on six hundred dollar t-shirt from gucci now, you know Some is up the other thing about men who enter all the money and designer and they single It's sometimes that attract a lot of ladies and sometimes guys who did not get their money with a woman Don't know how to handle that attention So that's the other parts you've got to worry about Been engaged three times, but never married. Is that a red flag for a man? Well, they don't have to be really expressed to a man You can just say well i've been through a relationship You don't have to say you've been engaged because a guy may not ask that specific question Have you ever been engaged? He said have you been married? No, I've never been married Because unless you've been married nothing else counting engagement don't don't count Engagement really does not mean anything. It just means like hey, I'm I'm thinking about marrying you. So here's a ring But you don't get any benefits for engagement. So really that's just a glorified dating It's a glorified relationship. So that's not anything to You know put on your resume and say well, I've been engaged three times because now if you say that That is gonna Raise some concern because the person gonna be like so all three times it was his fault all three times Uh-huh. Yeah, uh-huh. And with all these videos that's out here today that's going against women He went yeah, uh-huh three times. It was all it was all they fault So now so you bringing up stuff that really don't even matter that you didn't have to bring up So I would just you know leave that right where it is Um veggie girl. I'm glad I answer your question now before you get to ask them Hey, I sure appreciate y'all now you got to keep Let me let me um I ain't gonna answer no more questions real quick. I'm gonna talk to y'all about this because One thing I'm seeing now the theme of the night is y'all land down you land down your self respect Your self love your land down, um Tila god bless you now you confirm so much for me with all you say and do a Bless you now bless you. Let me talk to y'all about this because I noticed the theme of the night is women standing still You standing still what you gotta remember is that love is the Greatest gift to mankind Love is the strongest force in the world So when it comes to love you will never have to debate and worry about love Like you will never have to wonder if it's love if you got to wonder if it's love It's not love if you got to Fight and toil and go back and forth and y'all break up the makeup three four five six seven years That's not love See what you have to understand is that love is pure All relationships are not pure but love is pure So if you're operating from love and the person you're dealing with is operating from love Then the relationship is going to be happy But it takes two people that want to be in a healthy relationship For the two of you to operate from love Like i'm be honest with you I operate from love That's how I could be on here tonight and been married 13 years and me and my wife We crazy about each other every single day we looking to go on a date every single day We looking to spend time together reason why is because we both want to have a happy healthy whole relationship And we're operating from love and we're looking to be a blessing to one another So like I bless my wife and we spend quality time every day. That's something that money can't buy But then with our earnings that we earn she'll take and I bought her some stuff this week It came in little purse little shirt and then yesterday she bought me a nice watch You know, so she it's like I'm trying to love her. She's trying to love me And it's almost like what a healthy relationship will feel like it'll feel like a love competition It'll feel like let's see who can love the other person the most But it's a love competition, but you're not keeping score You're not keeping score with all what y'all going through You ain't doing them by wasting your life away So if you've got to be giving a person three years of your life And you ain't married you wasting your time once he hit that Last day on that third year you ain't married. I got to go. I got to go So y'all understand this stop standing still stop wasting your time stop wondering and worrying about love And just how love Hey, I got to go. I'm only doing um an hour tonight. God bless y'all I'm gonna try to do a lot of tomorrow night. It's the last day of the month If we'll finish out this tough month lot going on in our world We'll finish out this tough month. Hopefully if I can make it now Lord. Well, if I can I'll post it at least 15 minutes before and typically if I'm gonna go live it's gonna be between 7 30 p.m And 9 p.m Will be the start time. So if you check, you know 7 15 and you don't see nothing about 7 30 Then you might check, you know 8 7 45 in between there between 7 30 and 9 if I'm gonna go live I'm typically that's when I'm gonna go and I'm gonna post it if I do something outside of that It's just gonna be a surprise and it might be me and three people on here But thank god bless y'all to the moderators I thank y'all so much to everybody that sent me a blessing and everybody in here in the chat in the That means you a member to bless try So I really appreciate y'all appreciate y'all equally And for those of you who made that extra sacrifice and and you went above and beyond a I appreciate you And y'all remember now monday the life coach certification. It does this next Increase so you got the day in the mar to go to Tony gasses academy dot com And get that life coach certification at that rate. God bless you. We'll talk soon