 I hope that's sound working let me see Ladies and gentlemen a lot Because I thought that I didn't realize what time it was but I got a movie date today with my family Going to see old Space Jam and some of y'all know I've been working with the NBA as a speaker and a life coach since 2010 So I got a few guys that I'm cool with that's in the Space Jam movie And that's my little humble brag, but I got to go see Space Jam and so I forgot But before we go to the Space Jam movie We got to go pick up my oldest son because he paintballing with some of his friends So I didn't realize the time so I'm not gonna be on here too long If you missed my video yesterday, I did a video about Women approaching men I've been hearing about that still and more with with our Little raggedy society and just how we changing everything up So y'all make sure you catch that video and then maybe when after my movie when I get back home I might upload a Video for today and for those of you in the blessed business tribe I try to put a business video up every Saturday. I moved that to the blessed business tribe so you'll see that under the channel where it says join and It was some issues with some people in the blessed tribe. So y'all forgive me about that, but you just you know Whitney I honestly don't know how you do it, but I think you know, I Really don't know you probably have to Google it, but I think just where you hit join you hit See perks or something and then you see the blessed business tribe up under the blessed tribe But it's on that's really for people who you know You serious about building a brand building a company a personal brand or a company or something like that If not, it's not it won't really be beneficial So yeah, thank y'all and I'm gonna try to get on here a little more every time I say that then everything in the world You know, it's summertime doing a lot of moving around a lot of traveling but um, I Begin some videos up. Let me see here now if you have a question for me hit the Put hashtag Q So it'll pop up Because I didn't come on here with a topic because I thought I was gonna do a Q&A and then I realized What time it was so I got to get going soon but um, I Pretty sure you probably miss some of my videos because I had like a week there where every day at noon I had one going out So if you miss something make sure you look back Bodine, thank you so much Thank you very much for the support there Okay, so this More people in, you know Europe and whatnot y'all get to find a See a live because it's earlier Ashley Beverly God bless you now. Am I wrong for telling a guy to stop buying me things which is sending mixed signals? No, you're not wrong You're not wrong for that That's very noble of you Thank you. Just join. I'm building my brand and just finished my book and got it on Amazon. Awesome Well, that'll definitely help you. I just posted a video today called a brand story and Talking about a couple different aspects of that. So The blessed business tribe definitely a bless you on that end Am I wrong for telling a guy to stop buying? But you're sending mixed signals. Okay, you I've seen your question in the in the chat now How do I create distance without being rude? Have a friend that's starting to call too much and have a and have a girlfriend Want to avoid an emotional cheat vibe? A lot of time we can't really worry about Being rude you just got to do what you do and and really it comes down to just ignoring If you don't want to say it like hey, you got a girlfriend, you know stop reaching out so much because you got a girlfriend and I know if I Had a boyfriend this you talking that I wouldn't want him to be reaching out to you know One of his lady friends So you can express that if y'all that close and if he gets it he gets it if he get a attitude he get a attitude But you know, I got people in my life like that I have texts and they got a lot going on Some of my professional athlete clients and and there's just so much going on that they might not see my message And I just don't hear from them And sometimes it might be two three messages of me checking in But it just could be there in the season of just shrinking their circle just kind of closing things in and I have to realize and respect that like Hey, it's a lot going on, you know, and so we can't really worry about How a person gonna take it or if they're gonna see it as rude when you Protecting yourself How do you know you can trust a man who has been caught messaging other women online? You don't know that you can trust them But one thing you can do is see if he's willing to open up that Channel of communication meaning if he's willing to come in and you know Be transparent And bring you in and show you more and let you see his phone You know, let you see his social media be open and transparent with you And so when somebody's doing the wrong thing they typically if they want to make it right they come and they do the opposite And have a open door policy I remember early and me and my wife when we first got together You know, I messaged a young lady on facebook And then later after that I left my computer up. She saw the message And she thought it was, you know, a little too friendly And so after that for me to You know, do the right thing and show her that i'm about her. I just Left my facebook open like just let her see like ain't nothing going on. I ain't really mean nothing And so that's what a person should do It's been almost two years since I broke up with my ex, but I still have random thoughts and dreams about him How do I stop this? You can't stop it You're not gonna be able to stop it. It's just the more you get the do in your life the more you see the more you do You know the more Data you add to your memory bank Then the further you push that away You know, so live life get out join clubs join organizations get going meet new people network talk Make new friends. You just need more data in your brain But that stuff right there. It's just the brain doing what the brain does It doesn't mean you're still in love. It doesn't mean that you still care for the person It just could be a smell that you smell It could be a sound that you hear it could be something you see And the brain just associates it because of the memory And it's just how the brain works. So don't really look too deep into it It's just how how your brain works. You'll have a random thought of when you were four years old You know out of nowhere and just your brain just Recycling just replaying your life My son's barber has been asking me out on dates. I have declined should I find a new barber? I really like his work and the environment No, just decline them, you know, don't change your whole life just because Somebody asks you a question. You know what I mean? Like We have to learn how to be more confrontational in the sense of You got to be able to Tell somebody no and look them in the face with a smile Now if your son coming home get out of the chair with patches in his head And if hairline keep getting pushed back Then yeah, the barber trying to send you a message for turning them down on that date But other than that you got to be able, you know, be a woman and stand on your word Like no, I don't want to go on a date But I hired you to cut my son out do what you hired to do And you ain't got to say that but that's how your energy needs to be And honestly it makes a man respect you more because he's like wow, okay She turned me down. She respected herself. She respected her son She respecting this personal environment because it's like, okay, barber. Why are you single? You know, why are you still single you in here cutting all these heads? Everybody got a mama. Why are you still single? Where your woman at? Where your wife at? Where your girlfriend at? Do you have a wife and a girlfriend already and part of your little fantasy your little fetish is to sleep with the the mommas of Your little boy clients. You see what I mean? So you got to read between the line We'll get out. God bless you now Should I stay with my fiance who is really trying to grow he does fall short But he is growing not cheating or anything just not strongly on christ Yeah, I think as long as he's making forward progress then you're going in the right direction You're not going to meet a perfect man. You're not going to meet a man who all the way grown who you know All of that so as long as he going in the right direction And he doing the right thing. We all gonna fall short, you know me I'm slick out the mouth, you know, I'm quick to hurt your feelings with just my My demeanor my my words like just being blunt. I'm very blunt And I'm 14 years into my marriage and my wife still have to you know, look at me sideways Sometimes if I say something that's too sharp, I don't yell. I don't curse But I still have to you know, watch how I say stuff And because it could it could hurt because You know I'm like that And so when you got that little goon in you You could be like that. And so you have 14 years in marriage. I still have to check myself And so I say that to say none of us are perfect And if you just walking away on everybody Because they're not perfect Even though they're making progress then you'll be single the rest of your life And then the thing about it is you also have to look at yourself and realize that you're not perfect either And so the same way you judge him you could go to another man and then that man judging you By your imperfections and then you like man, I had somebody that accept my flaws But I judge him too harshly now I'm getting judged by my flaws Uh Jimmy god bless you I gotta watch this here time now If you have chemistry and he doesn't ask you on the first date red flag text every day meaningful combos Um Yeah, that's a that's a red flag, but you know, it just depends on how long y'all been talking So If it gets passed like three months Then yeah, it is It's probably a wrap. You ain't going about your business, but If it's still inside of three months, then he could just be taking his time getting to know you And he not out 10 times could be talking to one or two other women getting to know them too And just for the sake of his pockets and not having to spend too much money Going on these dates. He's just doing the free The free way of getting to know somebody My boyfriend dumped me, but I know he's my husband. He says he wants me to focus on myself He's going through a lot and we've been through a lot together. What should I do? What does that mean? um it it It mean the opposite of what you think it mean Uh Unfortunately, that's not your husband Unfortunately, that's not your husband So, you know, I know you have made up in your mind that that's your husband But that's not your husband because a man who is your husband is never going to dump you Because it's kind of like if you got if you go to the car lot and you got the money for a car And you see this car and it's your favorite car and you really like the car And you got the money for are you going to walk off the lot and just leave the car? But you come to get a car Because you know if this is an amazing car and you got the money for And you want a car and that's what you come for You know, if you walk off that lot the person right behind you fined by that car That's why a man will never dump a woman that he sees as his wife If he's not ready for marriage, he will just lead you on If he's not ready to settle now, he will cheat on you And keep it a secret, but he will never dump you because he knows that when he dump you And he tell you do you focus on you He knows that the next day you can meet another man and that man could be the man of your dreams So therefore a man who is your husband is never going to dump you If that's your husband, especially For no good reason like it's different if you're cheating on him or something like that now But you just saying he said he he break it up with you and you need to work on yourself Or he wants you to focus on yourself They didn't got for four months. He never tries anything when we are together. He takes me on dates I feel like I should tell him i'm a version before Continued dating further how to tell him should I? Um, I mean he's not trying you so he might already know that he might already assume that Because he's not trying you and he may be as well so You know when what you have to realize and yeah, you could tell me a version if you want to that's just your personal business That's your personal choice But the thing about it is if you telling your version then y'all break up the next day. Are you okay with it? My thing is when you dating somebody don't tell Them anything that you don't that you're not comfortable with them going and announcing in the barbershop That you're not comfortable with them going and telling everybody else that they know That may know you Or them posting it on facebook don't tell any of your business There's somebody that you just starting dating that you really not all the way locked in with If you're not okay with them putting it on the billboard So what you do with what's between your legs? That's really your private business. You know, that's your body your choice That's your private business. It's none of his business Especially if he's not asking you shouldn't just offer up information And to a man a woman being a virgin a good man. He that's actually a great thing. That's an amazing thing and so Whenever he find that out, he's gonna be ecstatic about that. He's not gonna be like, uh, you're a virgin. Well, I'm finna go You see what I mean? So just kind of keep your business to yourself Make sure you put the hashtag q in front of your question. So I can identify If y'all noticed the moderators, uh, thank you to the moderators. God bless y'all. I really appreciate y'all They've been uh, fun. They've been be helping me out, but they delete the messages in the chat. That's not a question So try to make it a little easier for me to see the questions Hubby keeps going to x With kids when we have disagreements comes back and suddenly agrees with me based on what she said and makes changes How to explain this is not okay. He thinks it's helping us Um, sometimes you got to explain things with your actions and not with your words So if he keep going to his ex and keep coming back to you and you keep letting him go to his ex and coming back to you Did nothing you say out your mouth gonna Mean anything to him as long as that door is open So when he got to really know and understand it's like listen Playboy you go over there to that woman again Don't worry about coming back here. Just stay over there and i'm filing for divorce by You got to be by it instead of just you know talking about it because a man don't respect words You know, we we really bop that action with men All the talking really don't mean anything if actions don't follow it up I'm 23. He's 41 long distance perfect dates Says the right things never caught Never calls me and goes days without texting. I ended it. Was I wrong? Uh, no, you were not wrong. You was not wrong Read read that message. You wrote me two or three more times Read that two or three more times. Okay You was not wrong Me or more god bless you Tony i'm taking your advice and stand off my back and men And men are looking at me like i'm crazy, but i've noticed i'm way more focused on my goals. That's a great thing That's a great thing and them looking at you like you crazy is a compliment too Luciana god bless you What should you say when a guy you started talking to ask if you are talking to other guys? um No, just tell him no that you're not talking to other guys because he's just trying to Get intel so that he could not feel bad about if he talking to other women And what he mean by talking to It in his mind is going to mean more than what you mean by You know a man when you tell a man you talking to other guys He assumed that you sleeping with other guys That you sleeping that there's a possibility being a grown woman in this society that you sleeping with Another man or those other men And so You only let when you dating you only let people know business that pertains to them Anything that don't pertain to them Then it's none of their business because anything that you say can and will be used against you in the court of love So you have to be very careful that you're not speaking And just volunteering information that you don't have to give up You got to act like you're in the first 48 because In the society that we in today People ask questions to see how they could get over To see what they could do and so you have to be careful with how you answer these questions And don't be given too much information. That's not being given to you Uh, Stephanie god bless you met on tender Took me Took me out on a date to a nice restaurant was a gentleman Suddenly becomes explicit context nasty movie requests degrading behavior. What does this mean about how he saw me? um You know It could the issue could be with him very much so he could just be nasty He could just be a little perv and That's up for you to understand And there but there are Ways that a woman could come off You know, so if a woman has on jeans and a t-shirt And it could be a nice outfit, you know with some nice shoes some nice tennis shoes Or a woman can have on jeans with some heels or a woman, you know But there is energy That a woman gives off that a woman could give off to a man that says this woman's about business And if I try her the wrong way, I'm liable to get slapped cursed out and she'll never talk to me again So But there are men that regardless of how you present yourself and regardless of how you show up regardless of how you look How classy you look or whatever They're gonna try you just to try you because that's in him And so that's something that only you really could analyze because you know as a woman What kind of energy you give off or what you're going for? So if you're going for sex appeal If you're going for you want to look sexy you want to show your assets, you know meaning Your body part assets then Then you know, you kind of gave us certain energy if you know, that's not what you're going for and you didn't do that Then you know everything it rests solely on him And so you only you can determine if he reading and responding or if he just being who he is Be Jones, he say he need time to himself and he and he was the wrong doer Oh, no, that means the wrong door. Oh, and he was the wrong door And he need time to himself. Um it that means he's not ready to settle down That's all it means. He's just not ready to settle down. He's not ready to be in a relationship He ain't ready to you know tie tubes Like the women say get the tube tie. He ain't ready to Lock it on in on one woman. And so that's all it means he need time to the Do his thing to cheat in peace. Melinda. God bless you now Caramel kisses. God bless you now Caramel She um, she got my cash shop a long time ago And she'd be posting that thing And every now and then somebody will send me a little blessing and that That's because of the moderator caramel Kisses, I appreciate that and the other moderator to be posting a little stuff for me and Helping out really appreciate y'all really do This guy invited me to his bday party haven't talked in four months after I told him not to contact me anymore Why would he invite me if we don't talk? It just you know just circling back just just checking your temperature What should we do about it? Yeah, it's getting rough. You you know what you kind of just got to keep going until you meet somebody who's not into that Because not everybody's into that. So you kind of just you find out early, you know, you could pop that question You find out early and if somebody into it If you're not a therapist that work on addiction then just go on by your business because it is getting it's getting a little crazy D night. God bless you. Hey y'all got to go here in a few minutes You know, I got to go see the moot and space jam with my family And we got tickets for my sister and her kids too And I got to pick up my oldest son before we go So I ain't got number probably a few more minutes on here D night on 42 single no kids fit etc already leveled up Where can I meet men during the daytime without going online to bars or to clubs? to be honest with you men everywhere and What I would recommend too is just kind of is how you're a couple coaching sessions Just to really talk through this thing and see if you're truly ready to see what you're giving off to see If your mind is truly ready in position But and then once you do that It's really just about getting out of the house with intention You know, you go sit in starbucks and do your do your work for a couple hours. You can go to the gym You know for an hour every day You know just get out and be out with intention your head is up your head is on a swivel You're looking people in the eye. You're speaking you're smiling You know and just just getting out but sometimes We we can't see ourselves and so sometimes we say oh, I'm ready. I'm this and I'm this and I'm this But perception is reality and we don't have to give to see ourselves through the eyes Of others. So that's where a coach will come in. So y'all make sure y'all go into my mentor dot life And um hire you a coach for yourself development If you don't have a coach then you ain't fully developing because because you need to be able to see Through the eyes of somebody else because you may have some blind spots You may have a couple areas that you're missing that you thought you had filled in And so it's worth having a talk or two With somebody outside of you even if it's not a professional somebody that's going to be real with you Kimberly god bless you divorcing my choice and it hasn't been a year and my husband's new girlfriend Is posting them in claims. They're a couple. I feel disrespected if this is a me thing or Is this a real concern? Have three kids. He cheated the whole marriage Well, you got to ask yourself why you feel disrespected, you know, if you leaving Then you shouldn't worry about what he got going on, you know, you have to get more into yourself you If you feel disrespected then you need to get respected, you know, meaning by Doing you, you know, what do you have? What do you have going going on? Other than looking at her facebook and so you have to Level up to say, okay She patty he patty he teed on me the whole time. I'm not worried about what a doll A stray dog finna go do with his life You know, if it's your Doll and that you got to feed you worried about that, but that's straight all walking down the street You're like, okay. I have a good time man. Hope you find something to eat today You see so you sitting and you weren't about Old work and you got to worry about you. You got to worry about new work. So she need to be blocked Her facebook shouldn't even be coming across your page. You should not ever be checking her page You shouldn't be checking for him checking for her Focus on you and do you and so and that's what you have to realize So a lot of time to work is just in us I said it god bless you now greatest little high Tony What does it mean in manglish when a man Approach you Shows interest and communicate with you and tell you to call him but doesn't ask for your number Sister I don't even know I don't even know I can't even I can't even tell you I can't even tell you He's uh, he must be listening to that man podcast I can't even tell you about that one sister That he got me he got me confused about that one. I Y'all be going through it A key look God bless your boyfriend. Don't me to focus on himself guilt when I think about dating another man in the future normal I tried my best and did nothing wrong discouraged So it's uh, you got to pick yourself up. Okay, and you got to go on about your business. You can't feel No guilt when the man say he need to focus on himself in manglish what he's telling you is It's me not you But what that really means is it's not us. It means we're not meant to be So hey, don't y'all see no more questions. I got to go I think y'all I'm gonna pop on here a little more and it's gonna be at random time So, you know y'all just have to set your notification bell You know, it'll be on random time. This is random time today. So it's just a few of us But I'll be popping on here Just randomly when I get some time in my day And sometimes if maybe I might do it a couple times in a day. So It'll be different members of the blessed tribe on the different sessions to the moderators. Thank you so much Really, really appreciate you. Um Caramel kids are giving you the blueprint right there if you missing the lives I don't know if share was in here today or glam rock. So mama tish Um, god bless y'all. Thank y'all for being moderators on here We'll talk soon maybe oh, you know what one of my guys got a boxing match tonight on showtime. So y'all tune in on showtime tonight if boxing don't turn your stomach And uh, so I don't think I'll be on the night, but maybe tomorrow. Hopefully lord will We'll talk soon