 What happens if you go no contact with the narcissist? All right, let's talk about it. When you go no contact with the narcissist, it will cause a narcissistic injury, which will be followed by narcissistic rage. They will get very angry, and they will show this desire to punish you. They may hoover you, they may love bomb you, but in many cases that's just so they can come back and do you worse than before. But they will often just go straight to the revenge, especially if you reject their hoover, if they know that you're not susceptible to them at ablation anymore. They will just go straight into punishing you, get in revenge, they will smear your name, they will say horrible things about you to people, they will try to damage your reputation, to get everyone to see you the same way. They will play the victim, they will act like you did something to them, you abandoned them without help or support, and they will just ignore everything that they ever did to you. They will just dismiss it as something irrelevant or unimportant. They will focus on your reactions to the abuse, to the horrible things that they've said about you, the things that they did to you. They will focus on your reactions to that. When all is said and done, they will just blame you for everything. Everything that went wrong, that was your fault. They won't take any accountability because they want you to look as bad as you possibly can. They want their feelings to match the environment because they're feeling really bad after you've gone no contact. They see it as though you just ran off with all of the goodies and while it may be things that you worked so hard to achieve, they feel entitled to the fruits of your labour. They feel like you owe them a living, they're very arrogant and entitled, so they just expect you to hand it over to them. And if you don't willingly do that, they will come after you. They will try to destroy you. They will assassinate your character, they will smear your name, they will destroy your reputation. They'll stop you from moving on because that's really the last thing they want to see, is you finding someone else and giving all of these great qualities that you have to offer that they never appreciated. You moving on and giving that to someone else and someone else being happy with you, which they know can happen. If they really thought that something was wrong with you and you're going to move on and not amount to anything, they would probably just leave you alone. There would be no reason for them to come after you, but the reason why they do that is because they know just how great, just how special you are. They're fully aware of that and that is why they come after you because they know you have all of the tools. You have the qualities and the abilities to build something and to be something great and to share something wonderful with someone else, someone who can appreciate you, someone who will give you the love and affection that you crave, but they don't want that to happen and that's why they will come after you. They will try to destroy you because they don't want you to be any good for anyone else after they're gone. That is the last thing that they want to see and it's crazy when you think about it because you were there giving them all of your time, energy and money. You gave everything you had to someone who refused to appreciate it, someone who refused to give you credit and applaud your contributions. They wanted to take all this stuff from you but they never wanted to appreciate it and they hate to see it when you move on. You find someone who does appreciate it, they hate to see you experiencing it, the love and joy that they never gave to you because this is all part of the narcissist master plan really is they don't want you to have any value, they don't want to give any value to you, they only want to take and at the same time they try to isolate you, they try to prevent anyone from bringing value to you. It's really sick when you think about it but this is exactly what these people are doing. They're trying to prevent any value from coming into your life and I mean a normal person maybe, they might be a bit cautious in the beginning, maybe they're holding back a bit on their love, on the attention that they're giving to you and then they see you getting that attention from somewhere else, they're probably going to step up their game a little bit, they're probably going to try a bit harder but no, the narcissist pours on the misery and pain and makes your life even worse, they're trying to make your life hell, they just don't want to bring anything of value to your life, they're just trying to take everything away from you and when you realise that, it makes it that much easier for you to go no contact. When you know that this person means you know well, they don't have your best interest in mind, sometimes you've just got to look back and see everything that they've done to you and see how little value they brought to your life, they never even made an effort to do anything for you, it was just you doing all of the work and of course they see all of the work that you put in, all of the effort and they know fully well that while all of that effort may have amounted to nothing with them, they know fully well that if you put that same effort into something else, you will achieve something great, they know that and that is why they hate it when you go no contact, that is why, because they know all of that value and effort, it's going to count for something somewhere else, just not with them, they know that. Thank you for the donation, Earthly Patriot, you're very welcome. Yeah, they know, deep down they know that you're just pouring all of this love into a bottomless well, you're never going to see it again, you're never going to get a return, it just all goes to nothing with them, but you put that same stuff into something else, whether it's a person or a project, whatever it is, and trust and believe that you will see the return, you will achieve a lot, somewhere else, just not with them, because they're no good, they're bad investments, normally if you invest your time and your energy and money into something, you should get something back in return, if you're investing in something that has value, the problem is the narcissist doesn't have any value, and that's why by being with them, you end up losing your value, but then when you leave them, that's when you become more valuable, that's when things start to come together again, and then if you put that same value into someone else or something else, you will begin to see the results, you will, it may not seem like it in the beginning, because you're still healing, you're still recovering, but in time you will see the fruits of your labour. 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