 My house has been set on fire after I stood up and spoke about anti-social behaviour while we were asleep, but nice. I was driving through a village and this is where I get to, so in between two villages, Winggate and Shortenwyth, where I live, I was driving to Shorten, go to the garden centre, get some other zea flowers for the kids. A Snapchat image of my house from just a name who I've never heard before in my life and it was a picture of my house with the flame emoji in front of us. I usually say how are you brother and for some reason that doesn't seem entirely appropriate considering what the hell you and your family have just been through, but I'll say it anyway, how are you mate? I'm pretty good actually because obviously for those who haven't heard, my house has been set on fire after I stood up and spoke about anti-social behaviour online and so my car, caravan and house was set on fire while we were asleep, but nice. Unfortunately we're all out, but the outpour and the support has been absolutely amazing and from the car family it's just been something to behold. But with it, just use this platform now to make positive changes regarding anti-social behaviour and that's keeping my spirits up because a lot of people are taking a lot of solace from the fact that someone's stood up to be heard and so are not back down and that's what I want everyone to do. So yeah my spirits are good, the kids are a little bit oblivious because they're only five and seven. My Mrs is struggling to be honest, but we're in the cauldron now, no pun intended. So just try and make a difference now because so many people their voices aren't heard and they are suffering at the hands of thugs through anti-social behaviour. So just to recap for our friends at home, I was messaged more than a few times to say could I speak to Sean and somebody I think they even tagged me in your video that you did make which was quite emotional in itself and I heard you, well I'll tell you what I heard so what I know is you're a former Royal Marine like myself. You've suffered injury in active service which is a big enough thing for any of us to be dealing with. And as of recently, by standing up to let's call them local thugs, you then had retribution from them and they set fire to your house, they set fire to your caravan. Was it something else they set fire to your car or something wasn't it? And your car, putting aside the trauma that that must cause and I'll ask you after this, were you in the house etc etc but I just wanted to add on that then you realised as a result of your, can I call it disability, is that alright? So your brain injury that your house insurance had lapsed? Yeah, if I didn't laugh about it I'd cry. One second mate, yeah crying would probably be the option most of us would take mate. I'd say that however, would I be sort of in a position to say right enough, enough stand up to it if it hadn't been for the car, nor the car ethos and what the marines, the foundations of the marines is built on and you know what the people you've become from that. It gives us all that resilience and that determination that you know, many will never understand and yeah I've got a lot to be thankful for from the car and just seeing veterans in general, all the veterans from all across the service come together. Absolutely breathtaking, unbelievable. Yes, the support you can get from the military family is not to be dismissed is it? Absolutely not. Message of support, positively people wanting to come in and get things done pretty quickly, people offering you know, building services, electricians. I had one getting touch off, he runs a business where he provides guard dogs, wanting to provide that, people offering breaks away, holiday getaways to take the family away, it's just been absolutely unbelievable. Big credit to all of you good people out there that have stepped in to help. How are your children? The kids, the Roach here, my daughter, so my little boy Benjamin is five, my little girl George is seven and when we brought them out the house, we realised the extent of the situation. We covered them up so they didn't see the fire, they haven't seen the damage caused and the piles of ash that it's left and we'll keep that away from them. So with just the generosity and kindness that's gone on over the last few days, we're a little bit oblivious to it, which is great. My wife however, that's not the case, you can already see those signs of PTSD and you know the trauma that's still going on with her, but the kids are fine, the kids are fine, the school today, we just keep the routine as normal as possible and yeah, we'll get through this. Good, good, I'm guessing you know from your wife's perspective, well all of your perspective, but particularly your wife from what you've just said, it must make you feel quite vulnerable. Englishman's home is his castle, her castle and you think that the law is there to protect you and then in situations like this, am I right to say there's a gap in the law that kind of everything falls into and you fall into this lack of protection? Completely and I mean it's one thing I've got a stress, the police bear the brunt of the public's annoyance at the fact that nothing's done without actually taking into account if you spoke to any police officer, they'd want nothing more than to deal with these problems of antisocial behaviour, burglary, any kind of crime, much more effectively. However, the law well above their heads, well above their pay grades doesn't support them in that fact and that's the issue and just as you say there, there is a big gap from those at the top to the faces on the streets and that's the issue, that gap needs to close and officers will tell you, you know, there's ex-military who are working in the police force and they'll tell you they're absolutely stretched, they haven't got a chance, they've got the resources, the manpower, the time or the power, the authority to deal with it. I mean one thing for instance for me for COVID, police officer can go and whack out a £200 fine on the spot for COVID. Why not do this for kids, you know, down to the very basic things, throwing litter on the floor because that's where it starts and it just goes from there. Little kids, it's three, four, five year old, a total lack of discipline in the lives and then that just grows so one day it might be just a cart and a pop, then it'll be in someone's garden and then it can turn and restone at someone's window, then at a car and you know what I'm saying, it just escalates but something's got to be done right at the bottom and you know, the police, they say why haven't they got more police on the streets? How do you expect to put more police on the streets? The police officers that came to my house after it was set on fire the other day, they had to come from Durham City, my local police station is Peatley Place but we had no one available, no one available for a house that had been set on fire while the family were inside asleep, that tells you all you need to know. It goes, the problems rooted far deeper than just blaming, you know, it's easy to blame the place and knows on the streets but we all know, we all know where the problems lie and that's the gap that needs addressing. Yes, so I guess we should point out here this isn't a knock against our wonderful police force but I literally was in a conversation yesterday in one of my social media groups and one of my oldest friends again, fellow bootneck, he's been an officer in the Met for many years now and he's just handed his notice in, Sean, for exactly the reasons you're saying. Lack of support to do the right thing, everybody pointing at policy or dismissing their responsibilities for the officers below them, the officers below them are getting fed up because I'm going to go out on the limb here and I'm not getting the support and then therefore I'll be one that's left in the shit, I'll have to face charges, you know, I'll have to face repercussions either on my person or my career and this sort of thing, so this is hopefully something that our constabulary will address. What I will say again for people listening, I'm not going to ask Sean the particulars of these, I don't know if they're youngsters or whatever, let's not even go there Sean because I can see that there's obviously, in most probability there's going to be a court case coming and I don't want you to say anything in the podcast that later gets pulled up in court if it might be, you know, a little bit of wrong information, do you get what I mean? Yeah, completely, yeah. I mean, I can tell you how this came about which is, you know, that's there and it's not going to sort of incriminate, it's not going to do anything because it was totally anonymous anyway, so basically I was driving through a village and this is where it gets to, so in between two villages Wingate and Shotten, which is where I live, I was driving to Shotten, go to the garden centre to get some other safe flowers for the kids and there's a car at a junction and as I've gone past, I saw the car in my eye, someone on a motorbike off-road, straight away, he just mounted the kerb, shot round, wheelied away and I looked over and I'm like, ah, what are you doing? Is this for real or what? Pipped at him and then from there he just brakes on and he rode by the side of the car and he did that for 500 metres, Gordoners and all the rest of it. I pulled in it really by further up and then he just started causing criminal damage with his bike in that area, so there was three, four other people affected by this, including one elderly gent who was actually sprayed with the mud when he was pulling wheelies over the side of the road. And then I was made aware, sort of later on, of a Snapchat image of my house from just a name who I've never heard of before in my life, don't know who he is and it was a picture of my house with a flame emoji in front of us and phoned the police, obviously reported that, and then two days later my house was set on fire. Now, my house is at the bottom of a cul-de-sac, it's out the way. The only reason you'd go there would be to, if you lived there or you were visiting someone there, so to have the next to come into the streets, do that and then put it out over social media. That's the problem, these morons just think they're invincible and that's, it's just got to change, absolutely disgusted. I'm absolutely disgusted. You must be a lot of things, it beggars belief and probably not best qualified. I reckon if a police officer was here, they'd probably be able to elucidate upon why they would be able to do that. I reckon if a police officer was here, they'd probably be able to elucidate upon why this source, why people can get away with this sort of behaviour. And like you say, when you think that they're battering old ladies, wrestling them to the ground and carting them off in handcuffs because at the grand old age of 70, they believe they, and quite rightly so, have the freedom to wear what they want when they go out in public and to not listen to the mainstream media and the BBC, what I would call brainwashing and they're getting battered and carted away. These are our elderly people that have been through a bloody war and then something like this happens and there's an obvious loophole. I'm guessing you're upset, traumatised, angry, worried for the future. And my God, what? I mean that's it, cos they're just going to settle at some point inevitably and then to then become another target again from some other jobs who just want to have a pot shot and make themselves famous. More than lightly, that's just the nature of the beast. Like I've said, this is the point now. It's clear to see the upsets across the country. The response has been absolutely amazing and not just heartfelt best wishes but also people telling me their stories. A family who live in a house, the house over the road has become a little bit of a drug den as such for it to leave the house. A family from, I think we were in Yorkshire, Leeds or Rotherham was ringing a bell had so many messages and two youngsters on little off-road bikes rode over the front garden, it just absolutely ruined us. It went outside, chased them away and the next night they turned up in an off-road truck right next to the house and she says, we're afraid now. This isn't a story that I'm making up, that's the thing. That's the annoying thing. It's not the annoyance of yeah, my house is gone, it's the fact that chances are the sentence will be lenient if they go down and then let out on good behaviour or the rest of it but some of these are poison and this rehabilitation, it's not always going to work because some just don't want to be rehabilitators and that's the frustrating thing how people are now living in fear from all walks of life, all backgrounds and it's just absolutely shocking. You've only got to look at the Bristol protests last night and then how the media portray that and then the police being painted in the picture of just being please brutality to the extreme and all the rest of it. Just hang on a minute, do you realise what's happening? Going back to the unfortunate with the vigil last week now all these youngsters, all walks of life have gathered together and I take my hat off to what the cause is but the police far above their heads they've got a job to do when they've been doing that job and then been absolutely ridiculed for it because it was in support of the poor young lady who were from up in this area actually who died and there's too much negative portrayal from the media and social media is very much to blame for this when you just go back through the Black Lives Matter protests and all the rest of it. Social media and the media in general can paint a picture that they want you to see but in actual fact you come and speak with the person on the street and get a real idea of what exactly what's going on and you'll get a better idea of what the problems are and what needs doing. Sean, you work with young people, you're a teacher aren't you? Yes, so I had a brain injury and thought Bloody Hell after coming back to Birmingham and then down to Headley Cross, they did find a brain so I thought Bloody Hell I'm going to use this. So I became a primary school teacher, loved it, totally related to the kids and you know that's the area I want to make a difference in because you know you can have an influence and I work in a college now and there's just so many underprivileged kids who you know some let's face it that from the second, the end of the world they haven't got a chance because of the parents who've just given birth to them and so hopefully you want to make a difference in that sense you want to help them and realise that you know there's a life far beyond the surrounding area and a life of crime and drugs you know just becoming a criminal and let's get away from that and just you know go and achieve something that you're capable of and be amount to come to me who I teach now and will I be fit enough to join the Marines, do you think I'd be okay and it's all in the mind, it's the mindset and that's the most important thing if you have that positive mindset if you tell yourself it's possible then anything's possible and that's what you want to do I want to, Sean, I want to avoid going on a rant here but my subscribers will many of them very much know what's going on I call it the agenda, the agenda of the sociopaths and they set out to destroy young people's minds across the board confusing them about what it is to be a man or a woman confusing them about things like sexuality massive agenda to soften people up I could go on and on and on but people who watch my podcast know what I'm talking about it's an awful situation that most people are too asleep to realise is going on and it's all done for a reason it's all done for this one world government so you've got a group of sociopaths controlling the whole show using their technology etc etc having a global society that is just so damaged that the left hand doesn't even know that there's a bloody right hand and it's hard the limestone now so the Royal Marines training ground limestone commando, they've had to add another four weeks on to training because young people are turning up I'm just going to say it and this is I'm a youth worker Sean so like yourself I'm passionate about young people young people but it has to be said they're rocking up to limestone and they don't know what's hidden they're not used to the real world environment it's all been so softened you can't say this, you can't say that you can't believe that it's all just a gender to set one person up against the other so that society squabbles and gets soft well these maniacs it's not even about money for them it's just about the power game and I get it reflected in the messages that I get sent from young people and again I mean no disrespect but I get things like Chris if I join the Marines will I have to leave home because I'm a bit worried about that and what I want to reply is the leaving home part is that's kind of like your job it's to shove in a bayonet through another teenager's face that's the bit you're going to struggle with especially because it's to make these fucking sociopaths even more powerful than they already are it's the role of the modern warrior hence why I do my worrying these days on YouTube and social media and yet I get it and a lot of the upheaval in society it's on purpose this mass illegal immigration that we're suffering it's all just to create division in what was essentially I'm an Englishman it's a beautiful country England full of wonderful people and it's just getting smashed this woke agenda that they put through the universe season by the end of studying youth work for three years and I did a year and a half of social work I'm just like it's a joke mate I've been educated and completely I don't know corrupted by these idiots and you're getting two people squabbling over two people squabbling over the same thing and these folks love it sorry friends I know I've gone on a little bit there but this is what we need to needle out when you hear of this carnage that's going on it's also divisive it's also outside of what we would have called in the old days community where the copper would clip around the head if he caught you damaging someone's property wouldn't take you down to your old man who then would have a word with you you didn't do it again now all this has become now I'm not suggesting people lay hands on people of course not but what I'm saying is the police must be so scared to know what the limits of their power are and if they're going to wind up in court the next week because they said don't do that I don't identify with a gender I'm a pink octopus I'm making sort of slightly lighter I just want the people listening that aren't aware that this is part of an agenda it's not just an accident that England's happened to fall into absolute chaos with open borders Sweden is a beautiful country wonderful people now the great capital of Europe and it's not going to get better folks it's not going to get better because no one's interested Sean completely and that's the frightening thing partly the reason putting me head above the parapet with me misses was this was the justification I don't want my kids growing up in this kind of environment I don't want them growing up in this kind of environment because it's only going one way and that's down and just like you said there the fact that these divisions are being created I had a meeting with the parish council on Saturday morning and this was before the fire this was arranged this was arranged after the motorbike incident now it's just fed up and just some things got to be put in place now our village is joined on with another smaller village called station town which is joined on to another smaller village called Hutton Henry which is a school where I go I've spent army life in Wingate Hutton Henry's got a parish council they all work separately so Wingate used to have a youth scheme the kids in station town of Hutton Henry couldn't go to that youth scheme because of the fact that it was only for kids of Wingate and he's where the problem lies that division's created and just people are unwilling to work together and move in a direction and that's where you'll see the results we know that from the car where it's essential that you can work as an effective member of a team to achieve a common goal and that's where it's fallen down it's like every man for himself it's that very sort of one of the commander we thought was the commander of spirits and selfishness that needs the selfishness needs sucking out of society because some people are it is a case of I want a bigger car than him, a bigger house than her I want my kids to wear these clothes you can't hang about with him because he lives on that estate etc we are a divided country and using things like race and culture as excuses which I've seen because I worked in schools where I've seen different races and cultures and where the encouraged by the parents to avoid associating themselves with those because they may be Muslims or Sikhs and it goes on on a playground 10 year olds and that's the frightening thing we're flipping human being at the end of the day we're all human beings and that's absolutely disgusting and shocking and people need to be held accountable and made responsible for how the kids turn out at the end of the day the next generation is going to dictate how we move forward from this it's a bit of a quagmire subject to negotiate again going slightly back here to the immigration thing but one of my university placements I work with asylum seekers and from the kind of people call it left wing I've never voted and I don't watch mainstream media I don't think it's helpful and I don't think it's the truth and I think you get one life and you've got to live the truth and I can't be dealing with watching nonsense and then regurgitating as if that makes me clever or something but the kind of agenda at the uni was all these people are victims and I wouldn't dispute because I met genuine asylum seekers, people that have been tortured people that had been in the back of a lorry with just a litre of water no food or maybe a sandwich for three days to get to the UK and this kind of thing and of course we signed up to the Human Rights Act and the Asylum Act and these kind of things so as a UK person if I start getting discriminated against in my country based on my sexuality I can go to France and I can claim asylum and that's a good thing but the truth was some of these so-called asylum seekers they were really just illegal immigrants that had come for a better life of which I don't blame them it's just and it's the same I've driven to India and back when you start getting to into Europe you start heading around Turkey, Iran this sort of thing you get a lot of immigrants camping out at the borders where they're making their next move to get to Europe to get to the United Kingdom and I'm not saying they're not nice people or anything like that as a traveller you get on with everybody but they'll come up to you and say could you stick me in your luggage compartment on the bus and take me back to the UK and again I don't blame anyone for wanting a better life I've certainly tried my old life to get a better life but it does it does create a problem when you have so many people coming into country a cultural background to yourself again as Sweden is finding out and I'm using that as an extreme example I'm not suggesting everybody that wants a better life is a criminal but the issue we face within the UK is now we're very much like one child family two is possibly bordering on normal three is not really the thing anymore but of course families coming from Africa are like well I've got three partners, 16 kids and we need to accept that it's not racist to say what's going to happen to little England if they're reproducing it three times the rate and the English population is actually the indigenous population is going down it's not going to be good we will have to live that reality again as I'm saying they find that place like Malmaw now got no-go areas the difference is I've met many people in Pakistan for example never seen a naked woman Sean if a woman wears a short skirt she's begging for it basically and she's a slut and I'm not here to judge Pakistani culture not whatsoever and I'm not tying everybody into that but what I'm saying is you can see you can sort of see where it's going to get problematic and I know a lot of people are feeling this now and my final point again I apologise we're sort of going slightly away from your story at the moment but my final point is I wouldn't be bothered if this was something that's it's just going to happen it's the way life but it's not it's the agenda of the sociopathic elite they know exactly what they're doing and things are going to get things won't get better whole nonsense that we're putting up with at the minute because people won't speak their minds that ain't going to get you think your children will be free they can be locked in their houses now just like that and with the exception of the beautiful warriors out there that have got the guts to stand up to it the vast majority have gone okay you know I could go on Sean I'm sorry mate but I think it's obviously difficult time for yourself and your family but we're all facing this is in cohesion even a word but this lack of community this breaking down of you know traditional values I say values I don't mean traditional ways because sometimes traditional ways can be wrong but yeah do you feel your situation fits into completely I've got to go back to the four we live by you know that unselfishness integrity you know your determination your chiefness in the face of adversity we know all about these and it's those values that have been lost that integrity across society now you know that determination and that motivation to achieve and do well you know and not expect a seed in college some just want everything handed to them on a place and it's just it is frightening it is frightening for future generations especially when you're looking at your kids and but you know I've got an impact I can impact my kids the young I've got that power what you don't have is the power to tell them at a certain age where they go who they speak to which groups they conform to and that's the frightening thing that's the frightening thing yes I don't know about you mate but if I wasn't a parent I wouldn't I'd care because I'm a caring sort of person I try to be but it wouldn't be such a bloody clincher if I wasn't a parent you know I could sit back and just frickin drink myself to death like I used to in the old days sorry I shouldn't laugh but you know bootnecks are bootnecks but when I see what adults try to do to my child and if us as parents we didn't step in and say sorry not you know this is just non-thinking adults that just watch their google box believe it's true and it's just the mouthpiece for the socialists and they just carry out their their agenda on your young person and it's it's awful that's that yeah so had I come it came out the house a little bit earlier had I caught one of them had I you know let's say sort of relieved some of my frustrations on this person who's the one in the shit who's the one that goes down for that who's the one that suffers yeah I might have saved the house might have saved the car the caravan but I'd be the one charged and that's it it's just when you when you went back to the home you made at the start an Englishman's home you know you're home that's where you're supposed to feel safe you should feel safe that's where you you know that's that's your land that's your and I just want to point out and again I don't want to mention any like little names that are in the media at the minute because people know what I'm talking about and I don't want to go and get you know in trouble with the various platforms that we're on but we're moving to a point now where the priest can just charge in your house and remove your your children from you right they're gone they're your kids they're gone putting to care because you won't you know you see through this agenda and you're saying I don't want to be a part of that so just leave me alone you know we're all born into free humans you know it's our was it called it in in a liable right to be free to travel so long as we don't hurt any anybody else that's going now they can say oh this person won't wear you know a certain thing when he goes does he shop in will not not not fit to be a parent right and I'm sorry folks I'm being a bit you know I'm painting a bad picture because it is a bad picture it's just the way it is and we just all got to wake up to it basically or it is as easy as that it's taken me 51 years to get my head around it it's not that easy but if you love yourself you love your family you love your community you'll find a way to to see what's going on Sean have you heard about it it's like a points based red flagging system that they use in Australian education I'm guessing they do it in league with the social the social the social field so the social workers and youth workers etc yeah I don't know too much about it to be honest I haven't looked to the end of what I've heard I don't know too much about it to be honest I haven't looked to the end of what I've heard of it yet so in a nutshell and I've got a friend who's a headmistress in Australia and we've talked a lot about this and she says that they've got this system where by multi-agency working so this is what we we were talking about earlier rather than people being separate and I'm alright Jack I'm doing my job here I don't need to know what you're doing that that's all scrub brown now as you know as a teacher so teachers now work with the social workers they'll work with the GPs they'll work with probation the substance misuse specialist whatever it might be to manage a family so the family get the best outcome and essentially the kids don't get removed I've done a lot of that work myself being a part of this multi-agency approach in Australia by using this approach they look at the children when they're very young so as toddlers and they start to build up this point system as to how likely from all the indicators so let's say absent parent substance misuse by which I obviously include alcohol within the family unit so add to drinking or whatever or mum's on the gin is there abuse is it likely that there's abuse going on or has abuse been registered by the police who are also another agency that are part of this approach and they build up a picture of what's going on in this young person's life so that they then when they're entering the school years they can put measures in place to support that child as best as possible to kind of soften what they're going through to recognise that this is a child that's probably going to struggle in school because their brain is too focused on what's happening to them when they get home in Eve and the reason I mentioned when thinking of the situation you're going through undoubtedly well I say undoubtedly I mean people aren't just born evil we're a product of our our upbringing aren't we you know people that you're describing that have done you harm we've got to ask ourselves the question what the hell have they been going through in their lives to turn out such you know I was going to say rotten eggs it sounds really old fashioned I know that I mean this is the thing this is why that you know I'm not sitting here now annoyed and just want to get old of the it's no other word the bastards who've done it because I'm not aware of their background I don't know what they've gone through I don't know what chances they've had and what chances they haven't you know and you've really got to take that into account now rather than just categorising all kids who run around in tracksuit borums they're just hanging off and you know they're just jumping on horseback and throwing stones at cars and just categorising all these kids as hoodlums as you know as some messages have come back and oxygen thieves and all the rest of it should be you know he needs taken into a darkened corner you don't know the background you don't know the home lives and that's that's the thing now the Australian wave of dealing with that that's fantastic because you know a lot of these kids they just want to be loved but they go past a stage where there's no turning back what's happened cannot be reversed but hopefully with the things that could be put in place in schools you can hopefully reverse some of that but there's too much pressure on schools to perform so you don't get the chance to do all that you know that nurture I mean as a teacher I went in and it took me by surprise the first two years the teaching sometimes comes second or third end up being a social worker a confidant, a role model a parent I remember sitting in the school hall teaching kids how to use a knife and fork now these are kids from the ages of seven up to ten and I'm showing them how to use a knife and fork now yeah that sounds just completely immaterial but as I said before that's the stepping stones that just leads to and it just goes to show what's going on in the parents' homes and when you join a core and you have your what used to be called induction when I was in that sounds like brainwashing they call it foundation now and your DL rocks up with just a towel round and goes right everyone in the showers I'm going to teach you how to wash and depending on what background you come from you think I know how to average it it's funny that Scottish people for example they don't get taught how to have a shower do they so they just don't know and they but it is funny on a serious note for our friends some kids rock up to limestone and they don't know how to wash it's quite a leveler it gives you all whether you know it or not you get that basic sort of those basic skills skills for life but you reminded me then of when I was young I think I was about 10 at primary school I'd already been through a world of shit I won't even go into but I think my parents they'd I think they'd separated three times by this stage so I've been to about five different schools already I had to live up the other end in a completely alien part of the country to where I was born or to where I'd grown up all this sort of stuff and this was starting to come out in my personality as a kid unfortunately and the reason I'm saying this is it goes back to that thing it goes yeah hang them you know put them up against the wall they're scum and it's like folks we need to understand that in my situation I started bullying a girl in my class right fortunately it was stopped literally I think I hid her school bag or something it was we were all doing it and that's not an excuse but that's what kids are like right and of course I was too young to know that this is a girl that's going through her own world of shit in her own background and it wasn't her stuff was probably like worse than mine and the headmaster just pulled me to one side and said Chris can I have a word with you and he said listen God I'm going to try not to get upset now but he said I know what you're going through he said and Chris but you can't take that out on other people that was all he needed to say Sean and it stuck with me for life unfortunately you know that's sort of the end of my career as a bully stopped in its tracks but just him understanding and then when I was a comprehensive a similar thing a silly thing we went for a phase going down the market and buying these day glow socks we had day glow red and day glow orange luminous green or something and we'd wear one yellow sock and one day glow red with our slip on loafers or whatever it was thinking we were dead cool and again the deputy headmaster called me across he went Chris I've heard things aren't quite right this is so I'm a teenager now I'm not a child anymore and things still ain't right he said I know things aren't right at home he said I'm not going to have a go at you for that he said but do you think you could wear the same colour socks and I'll never forget that kindness he understood he knew what was he got it and hopefully it all goes in there maybe these lessons don't come out you don't go back and use them for 20 years of your life and I didn't because I had 20 years of out of stupidity that's the key though it is the key that someone comes back to you and someone does at that young age when you're still very much learning your place in the world you're finding out about yourself you're finding out about the environment and now I'm around you rather than giving you a bollig and say you know what this could be a better way and that doesn't happen enough especially in school seeing it punishments let's it's better to be deeper understanding I don't think it happens enough in school in the place I work now the support for the kids is unbelievable and the understanding is unbelievable the last head teacher I had when I went through training he went in his acting head actually he was wonderful with the kids and he totally got it and if you've got that then that's when you're going to start changing lives I mean my parents fought as a kid they were very violent I'm killing my dad and I've stopped my dad killing my mum and in some cases I've got the scars to prove it now do I just think that that's acceptable do I then follow that same route when do I then think that domestic violence is okay and use that as an excuse to move on to more serious things fortunately I didn't do that and realised that's not the way you want to move forward and those cases like mine it doesn't happen enough because the kids haven't got the support it's just sad I just want to say a couple of things to finish off like this part of our chat Sean the first thing I want to say is these let's just call them young people that have wronged you are they English people or are we talking immigrants here? From what I believe young kids who have been brought up in local villages all their lives so yeah English kids I only wanted to ask because one of our oppos friends at home is a buddy from the Marines Alex Carney has been he's been on a let's call it a warrior mission I want to say crusade it sounds a bit rude but he's up there in Scotland I think he's outside Glasgow and he's been highlighting I don't want to say a nationality here but am I right in thinking the Romanian community he's just been highlighting some real horrible stuff that's been going on again that the law doesn't seem to be addressing that so that was the reason I asked you but you're saying these are local yeah yeah it's just sad it's just sad I've got a lot of words with it all really yeah I can see that mate so on a constructive note for a start anyone watching this podcast feel free to download it share it if your media journalist watching you have my permission to reuse this material how can people support you Sean there was a fundraiser that somebody kindly set up wasn't there unbelievable I have a friend I haven't seen him a few years ago at the Newcastle football match actually but prior to then he left the car after I think it was hurried 12 or I can't think back he had left the car he's had his own sort of battles with whatever's gone on in the car and he started the GoFundMe page you know it was just something to help out which I wasn't aware of to be honest and it's just absolutely snowballed and it just goes to show the car family, the wider military family how this it's reached out to people this story and the horror that's occurred but also to the general public not just in the UK as well I'm receiving messages from Perth from New Zealand from Ghana and Canada and you know people who relate to the fact that things are changing on the streets so communities becoming you know much more unstable fragmented young people have been so this goal of the bloody Mercedes and the Rolex and the pop star lifestyle and they ain't gonna let's face it you know they're about as much like you get it as I am we don't teach them the right stuff actually we're born perfect, we're born into paradise you just got to connect with the universe oh you're going out of focus, surprise surprise you've got to connect with the universe as long as you've got a roof over your head everything else is sorry I've gone a bit out of focus haven't I typical hang on you're coming back in my beautiful face for you Sean look at that should I put my green lid on shouldn't I I'm sort of thinking you know this HD it has it's downside doesn't it thanks mate you joke right there is an actual setting when you set your webcam up called sharpness and for podcasters they say knock it down a bit so you don't show the wrinkles on your face I like to knock it down quite a bit show me it doesn't do the grey hair is this the just giving page that we're talking about or are they too I'm looking now at justgiving.com forward slash crowdfunding forward slash Sean Ivy and bloody hell people have given generously mate haven't they which one is that I think it was this is we're raising I'm just going to read what it says we're raising 2000 pounds to help a former Royal Marine et cetera et cetera what we all know this is from Kevin it's unbelievable I'm not going to say the total because I don't want people to think oh that guy sorted because I'm sure that the repercussions of this are not just going to end with you getting your house you know you fixed up in a new car whatever we're talking serious this is a seriously traumatising incident but yeah so I'm just going to put that link friends below the video so you can go and check it out your check it out yourself um well well done the great British public and I'm guessing there's a the global public as well and um I've got a you know I've got a I'm trying to reply to the individual messages individually the comments on actual Facebook posts I've put on themselves so many would take it I'd need to just get a full-time job just get an auto reply on because everybody will understand you've got your children and your partner to look after we haven't shed tears over what we've lost we've shed tears over the support and I could never express me gratitude and how thankful we are for the generosity of people and just the empathetic nature of people if anyone didn't have any faith in society go on have a look read the stories, read the comments coming back and it will restore your faith that there are decent human beings living among us who will keep being kept quiet it's absolutely it's mind blown it's absolutely astonishing just thank you yes human beings are wonderful I've been fortunate to like yourself to see a lot of the world and I've met people with different ideas might not necessarily want them living next door to me and that really does sound racist but no I'm just being truthful however the vast majority of the hundreds of thousands of people I met have just been kind wonderful human beings and those that aren't as Sean and I have discussed that they're wayward and wayward people need to be brought back into the fold with empathy understanding kindness and a strict you know and a strict hand sadly we don't see this wonderful beauty and humanity that you're experiencing now Sean because these idiots I keep mentioning it says so job is to just destroy our opinions of one another to get us all bickering amongst ourselves rather than being the beautiful global community that we are and local so just to reiterate friends I'll put Sean's links below so that you can get involved should you so wish and I encourage you to do so Sean can we talk a little bit about your time in the call now and then we can finish on her I am sort of running a little short now as well sorry but yeah I mean I love the call I joined on a whim I always wanted to be a teacher in PE teaching initially so I joined so my cousin joined the army from school my other cousin joined the Navy it would happen to be my two best mates I was 18 going on to 19 at college and I was like I like what they're doing sounds interesting but if I'm going to do anything I want to be better and then I joined the car didn't realise where I was letting myself in for and then you get off the train and you know you're just like a rabbit in headlights and one 2001 that's when training got really easy wasn't it yeah whatever and from getting off the train down at Limston and just the whole life after that you can't put into words it's just yeah there's I mean you have your moments of course during time spent away time spent at home leaving the family on New Year's Day to go to Norway going out to Afghanistan and picking young kids up being blown up with football to turning it into an alcoholic almost through the culture that's created needs to be said especially in this current suicide epidemic mental health and drugs and alcohol just don't mix do they absolutely not but what a magic life what a phenomenal experience instances like this if you didn't realise you do afterwards how strong that brotherhood is it's just one created and it's just sad that people have forgotten that I'm working with the RMA working with me they've been excellent in support the Royal Marine Association but X RSM is getting in touch and you just want to help and you come out and something like this happens there when you're in the car it was just absolutely magical so it was just coming up at 15 it was 15 years spent had an accident resulting in a had a couple of bleeds on the brain and that was sort of the beginning of the end with the problems that resulted from that what happened what I had done previously I was involved in an accident in Norway we were out there cold weather training and then there was a head injury basically hit by a car walking back from town some young kid on the road he's lost control of the car and that was sort of the beginning of the end really with regards to the car but rather than see that as that's the end of it feel sorry for yourself just going to do this, that and the other I'm going to claim off the government so I've got a disability now just so there's a chance to move forward and just explore new avenues from the likes of Ramersmark Armrodd and what he's done and what he's gone through and how he came out the other end I got in touch with him when I was in Hedley Card it was really struggling mentally and I'd heard about how he also struggled down Hedley and beyond I remember seeing one post he put on it was along the lines of he couldn't imagine going back to his life and being still filling before the explosion and for a trip you'll have to see that that struck a nerve and I was like mindset, that's it your mindset's right, everything else will follow Yeah exactly and there's our mind is so powerful that you can just condition it to understand there's no such thing as negative experiences or positive there's just experiences and it's up to you some experiences can obviously be highly unpleasant as you're seeing at the moment but our mind is quite a powerful tool isn't it to reframe situations for a more positive situation it's a common expression we use from the core everything's carried the building but you know what it really is it really is carried the building and yeah this is it determines a man it determines a person when you knock down how do you respond how do you get back up and we'll come out of this stronger we'll try to make a difference we've had so much support we'll get back on our feet and then we'll use any funds that we've got to push and try and make a change and even if you rescue one then it's a success Yes on that note I'm going to lift the living legend mug for you there you are man is okay absolutely not I know the legends are the ones who come out and support yes of course and get us out there that's unbelievable so Sean listen give on behalf of the podcast give on love to your wonderful family and take some for yourself mate if there's any way I can help you again if you need to come back on the show that's the door is always open for everybody out there if you want to get involved if you can see a way you can help media etc feel free to contact me my email is on either YouTube or it's on my website big shout out to Kevin Miller for getting the fundraiser up and running I imagine Kev you've taken an enormous weight off the family's mind by your selfless actions so well done brother and to everybody at home massive love to you all thank you so much for watching what's probably been one of the most important episodes of the bought the t-shirt podcast people watching if you haven't already done it if you could please like and subscribe that's going to help us to show more stories like this so ciao ciao thank you