 welcome to the video please like comment and share click the subscribe button underneath the video if you haven't subscribed yet also click the bell icon so you will receive all of the notifications for my future videos if you would like to make a donation my PayPal link is in the video description and there is also the new feature click the dollar sign icon in the live chat this is another way to make a donation if you are interested in a one-on-one coaching session with me please send me an email my email is in the video description why is the narcissist no longer attracted to you it may appear as though the narcissist is no longer attracted to you it's actually not what you think it is it has nothing to do with you personally and everything to do with them did you notice how once the narcissist knew that you were interested in them and they had secured you as a source of supply this is when the relationship moved from the love bombing phase to the devaluation phase this is when they begin to lose interest in you this is when they begin to devalue you if they actually chose to continue the relationship as it was rather than devaluing you i believe that they could have fallen in love with you for real but of course that cannot that cannot happen once they begin to see you in this negative way once they realize that you are interested in them you suddenly go from being all good to all bad although you may not have changed in any way as i said this has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them i am going to remind you of the negative qualities or traits which narcissists possess they are shame-based individuals they are self-hating they have low self-worth low self-esteem low self-assurance low self-belief and low self-respect they are very insecure and have an inferiority complex now connect these negative qualities or traits to how they feel once they realize that you are interested in them or that you love them once they become aware that you are interested in them or that you desire to have a future with them they suddenly become disinterested and choose to devalue you or at least this is how it appears to you you may think that the narcissist is no longer interested in you no longer attracted to you but this is actually an illusion it has nothing to do with you personally the narcissist is not attracted to people who are interested in them as soon as they realize that you have an interest in them or you are attracted to them that is when they will see the grass being greener on the other side not because they are not interested in you or not attracted to you as a person but because they are not interested or attracted to people who feel that way about them i am going to repeat the negative qualities or traits which narcissists possess just let this sink in as i am saying it they are shame-based individuals they are self-hating they have low self-worth low self-esteem low self-assurance low self-belief and low self-respect they are very insecure and have an inferiority complex can you see how these negative qualities or traits connect to my belief that they are not interested or attracted to people who feel that way about them in their minds it's like this person is attracted to me they are interested in me there is nothing good about me i am not attractive i am not lovable i am deeply ashamed of myself i am not attracted i am not attracted about me i am not attractive i am not lovable i am deeply ashamed of myself i hate myself so as soon as they realize that you are interested in them you are instantly devalued and seen as an idiot in their minds because narcissists are deeply ashamed of themselves they hate themselves they do not believe that they possess any value they do not believe in themselves or respect themselves they are deeply insecure so in their minds if you are interested in them there must be something seriously wrong with you not because they see something negative within you but because but because you are interested in them you are attracted to them the narcissist believes that they are not meant to be loved so when you try to show love to the narcissist it only triggers them to reflect on their own insecurities and negative traits they reflect on all of their undesirable qualities and think in their minds how could you love that they also believe that at some point in the relationship you are going to come to your senses you are going to realize how unlovable they truly are you are not going to accept all of their flaws and insecurities from the moment they first met you they already knew that there would be an exploration date on your relationship because in their minds there is just no way that anyone could love or accept them that's why they created the false character the illusions that's why they use manipulative tactics like denial projection blame shifting and gaslighting because they know all too well that with all of their insecurities flaws and negative traits there is no way that anyone could truly love or accept them when you display to a narcissist that you are interested in them or you love and accept them that is seen as a weakness your value instantly decreases in their eyes because your interest in them triggers them to reflect on all of their insecurities flaws and negative traits i hope this has helped you to understand the reality behind the illusion of the narcissist appearing to be no longer attracted to you or interested in you remember it's not that they are not attracted to you or interested in you as a person they are just not interested in anyone who is attracted to them or interested in them at the beginning of the relationship you didn't really know what they were about but as you got to know them and still accepted and loved them that then triggered them to reflect on all of their insecurities flaws and negative traits and how you cannot possibly be anything great if you are interested in them if someone likes me i instantly see them as high value people because i look at myself and i know that i am a beautiful person inside and out i am lovable and i possess many great qualities so in my mind if someone is attracted to me they must be pretty amazing people but for the narcissist it's the other way around for them to have any sort of interest in you you have to hate them you have to hate everything about them because in their minds once you have got to know them they believe that's all they deserve remember people treat you the way that they treat themselves and how people try to make you feel is how they feel about themselves this is for anyone not just narcissists i hope this video has resonated with you thank you for watching please like comment and share subscribe if you haven't subscribed yet and i'll talk to you soon