 good morning everyone how's it like this is decaps that's probably not doing anything for me I haven't woken up completely yet but how's everyone doing this morning my family and I have had some sickness run through our house super not cool with that bothers me when that happens so we're all trying to kind of come back from that on this Monday morning today I finished this book called are my kids on track and today I just wanted to do a quick book review on it you're probably wondering why is she drinking decaps in the morning I have realized that a lot of caffeine has affected my health so I started drinking less coffee I don't have decaps every day I know decaps not super good for you either but like at least it tastes like coffee and that's really all I like anyways the taste this book is it's by sissy goff David Thomas and Melissa trevathan I think I'm saying that right and it's pretty on the front says the 12 emotional social and spiritual milestones your child needs to reach so I read this as a parent but I ended up walking away from it thinking of all kinds of things like this book is amazing because it talks about settling conflict and like I thought about that in my own childhood and I thought about that as the person I want to be now there's just a lot of really good stories in here about kids and people coming to terms with their hurts and how people have done them wrong and how that they can rise up and be better from it so many good chapters that it covers but it does talk about like ownership giving people owner your kids ownership they even talk about how you can practice playing catch with your kids to practice the art of back and forth conversation because it's actually something that doesn't come super naturally to us we have to be taught so or they have to be they have to have it modeled for them so I started doing that with my kids I think it's really cool so I'm like okay I'll ask a question and then you answer it and then you answer ask me a question and I'll answer it and they're learning how to do that and it's really kind of cool a cool way for them to visualize how that's supposed to work in relationship there's a chapter today say that there's a chapter on boundaries in fact the chapter on boundaries was quite eye-opening for me and I feel like this this should be in accordance with the book review I did on boundaries and I'll link that up here she said something in it that I never heard before okay so I found the part where I really it was eye-opening for me but she pretty much says that she's she feels conflicted as a counselor about the idea of boundaries she feels conflicted as a person as well and that even though they're very necessary they need to be done correctly and used for good you know and the the idea of boundaries this is so foreign to me when I first heard it that it was an end I'm such an all-or-nothing kind of person that I was like thinking this has to be I have to protect myself I have to guard my time but here she saying that because we kind of live in this therapy driven society sometimes boundaries can be used to hurt people and you need to be careful that you're using boundaries for good and not running over people's feelings in the process so that that was really helpful to me if you haven't watched that boundaries video that I did go ahead and watch it because I I just love I love the idea and I loved that book as well and in the final section she talks about are your kids on track spiritually so she says that that studies have been done and you I mean you could read the book to find the studies but really showing how foundational a faith is and that their spiritual life is gonna guide them through most of everything else that they're gonna go through they're 40% less likely to use of substances and 60% less to feel depressed than other teenagers so there's also brain imaging data showing that cerebral cortex of the brain shows to shows to be thicker for people that are spiritually active versus the one that's not super super helpful book it was really helpful as like a book of psychology there's all there are so many stories to you guys that I'm like sitting there weeping and I when I when I go donate plasma also I'll link that video right there when I go donate plasma I bring my book so I'm like sitting there crying while I have the needle in my arm people probably just think I'm psycho that's okay I highly recommend it if you haven't heard of it already go ahead check it out yeah are my kids on track so have an amazing week I will be seeing you again next Monday for some new Lauren learns topics and I can't wait to continue learning with you so go get messy have fun learn and I'll see you again next