 Ita bia kutuma salamo time ya intro nika matutonga ya badai Hai, we are still imagining with Y254 in particular, what in the morning so with MZ1 and Zoom, it is now girl's talk and our conversation today is based on money Madem, tulizu tu sumukweli where does your money go to? because uta icha boy child pesaya fair kwanza poku afeni noto rias Allah fuku doggos tu pesaya nyele hidok doggos junat kaki atuna kaji where does your money go to Bo? Y254 on Facebook Y254 channel on Twitter Hashtag is why in the morning but before we get down to that we are crushing on somebody today yay, shangwe bigele gele our crush today is Kambua FYI Kambua just got a congratulations queen on your pregnancy she looks amazing can we show pictures ya, she is just over here stunting and looking like an African queen yes Kambua we are very very very very very very happy for you very like mimi niko veri veri veri happy for you looks so amazing and you are glowing then it's out as it's time to get up for all your books but as for the minu congratulations na mungo ache lewe guys alright Milhua aside from Kambua and her beautiful self we are still talking about ladies and the money but let's say hi to our panel first saseni wasana hainbona nyam ya jibu ya, how are you twins are now a king because you are the only man in the group lewkona responsibility wait wait wait ok i am grey rogers i am a journalist in the making in the making they have not finished listing you so send me to any journalist ok i am a journalist i like that he is confident but how can we find your social media ok i am grey rogers twitter grey rogers facebook and grey rogers instagram why grey i don't know it's your favorite color my favorite color is blue ya i don't know why i was named grey i am a white walker so i am grey walker next kwen what's your name my name is Leila Hassan and i am a lawyer you see though she is just precise Leila you look very lovely today how can we find your social media Leila Hassan facebook Leila Hassan on twitter and Leila underscore doa lei at instagram tат Sichero ko paa atona glow men b inflikutak site Bahia spiritually top o ni but I will support you from him no cherry thank you thank you nトッパ说 Thank you you were making money i think so ya not sure ay the account is not to where i want it to be sometimes even in my account Iqanimbarazmi, it's okay. Wana kuitadana yukunji? Oh, Lorraine, yes. Lorraine ninshoka, I'm a student. What did you study? Machisha in the making. I'm a middle teacher, really. Wow. Okay, we're clearly kula bitu. Juhi, juhi, vivi. Isi kushu wa. How can you find your social media? At Lorraine Nyanaro on Facebook, Twitter, El Nyanaro and then Instagram, Nyanchoka Nyanaro. You sound like you're about to be a very important writer in the future. How could you not know Nyanaro? Yes, tell us where do you think the money goes to? Be honest. Pesa was tan. I'm out again. Isi pesa. These people, in my opinion, I just think that they are too stingy with the money. They have money, but they still want to pass. Stingy, why? Yes, because you find that a lady is working, she's making money. But they don't have money. They don't have money. They don't have money to make up. And all that. It's like they want to spend their money. Maybe we can put it in a way that they enjoy spending man's money on theirs. There's applause from the audience. See, it could be. I really enjoy spending my own money. Then you're one of a kind. I don't know where to buy it. But that's the point. The point is, maybe they're not making money. Maybe I want to do it. No. How do you know? Kamawi oni, why are you so sure it's there? I just think that our ladies of today, they still want to live in the era, the pre-Elaiakitambuka bisa. We're not pre-colonial. We men used to depend on men. But you also want to live in that era, era, era, where, era, where, era, where, the guy is the head of the home. Am I not sure? So why do you want to be not era alone? Sitka e tuwa posiwati? No. We're talking about money, not who heads. Let us get it clear. But talk to them. You head like this. It means just give. That is heading, you wouldn't say you're a head of something where you can't provide for it. Now you know the difference is that this is like a modernized way, like Kitambo, they didn't used to make money. They used to depend on men because... They used to be housewife. Yeah, they used to be housewife. Just pretty. But today, these campaigns of girls going to school, like you now make money and you still want to live in that era, you have your money but you don't want to spend it. You want the head of the family to give you that. You see, this is the difference. You see, actually, when I feel like in the current society, even if I'm a woman and I'm making my own money, if I give that money to my husband, he starts developing there in a priority complex. Even if it happens to boys, to the boys we date, then I pose to them and provide, I don't feel fine with it, you see. So... At a kabla provide, if I may, and please don't be so silent of coming to you. Even before you get to umpe, do you want to say, oh, Udema, in fact. Just the mere fact that I have a job that maybe I earns more than you, already in Shida. Like, if you come to me, I'll give you money. You know when that comes in, how do you carry yourself in your mind? That is not a problem. So, if you want to give me money, then I'll give you money. No, no, no. Ya, me, me, me, me, as, for example, I wake up before 4 a.m. in the morning, before even the birds wake up, ala pun tegnese pesa kujuni yambi yambi, yambi yambi nteitu me, asa samimi. No, you have your money. Ah, we are. But you want to use your money in a way to show prominence on your husband. You know, there is nowhere the problem comes in. Ya. The problem is not you have in your mind. We really like it. In fact, we like people who are independent. It gives us peace. But now you have that money and the way you want to use it to show me that you're prominent, that is the problem. We love a question for you. Do you relate to this sentiment that if you don't ask a guy for something at a shantar, okay, ude mi ni ni mbo ne ni tishi? In fact, he'll now start thinking, if you're not asking me, then someone else is giving it to you. Na ka usku pei wewe, I will look for someone who is asking me. Kasa ni metu kwa kwa namutraki sambazia na credit. Nei, mwenye endo ushi na kini yomba mimi. So, I don't know how that tree is working. I really don't understand. What do you think? Well, I think one or more are required to something else. They don't want you to ask them for money and when you spend your money is a problem. That is... You're called as a lake when you do your drink. When you have your money, you're working genuinely. They say that ni sponyo. Na ka say sponyo. My friend, there are women who work there. They work, they sweat or they sweat, they work, they get their money right. But superiority complex, no shida wa na ume. You know, usipo omba pesa, ome toa kwingine. Ukiwa omba, she's needy. Omba sana. Na story ya fair. You want to see me. Why should I use my money? My friend. Oh my God, how? Let me tell you one thing. There's no way we're going to get a chikuna katia de muna mweka boks. If you cannot even take over, what's the point? Responsibility is something that people are failing to understand what it's all about. You cannot bring in another human nature like you cannot take over. Sanfujudet. Natu jazabar. Padu, my friend. If you cannot take over, me just keep off. Let me work. Let me have my money right to pattern embele. What you bring to the table? What I bring to the table? Think put. No, let me ask you. You quoted this issue of fair. You know, it's something that is very, very better. Ya, because, you know, when you're dating someone, for instance, you don't, that relationship is not benefiting a single party. It's something mutual. So when you're coming to see me, it's not only benefiting me. It's also benefiting you. Why do you agree to come if it's not going to be of benefit to you? Okay, but we don't see too many fairs here. See, I don't know what to do after that. You know, you can't do anything of course with a tissue of fair and you'll be taken from point A to point B. So when you come, should you also take it from point A to point B? So it's been executed. This thing, it makes sense when you use your money to come, then it gives you fair back. It makes great sense. But... But you use my fair to come. And then I also give you fair to go back. Well, I think the problem is, when it comes to modern day relationships, people miss the point. Where are you together in the first place? Is it for mutual benefit? Is it for material benefit? Is it for physical benefit? And once a girl feels like she's being used, she has to use the personal return. So where are people missing the point? Where are you together in the first place? Once you're able to answer that, then you won't have this problem. What do you think? Okay, what do you think about? Okay, we're just talking about the fair. To say me too. To say me too fair. This is what I think about fair. You see, we girls, we just do. You see, man, whether you just wake up from nowhere and you like come see me, that is what you do. And then you feel like at that time I should make you fit into my schedule. Whatever I had a different plan and then you insisting. Asking for fair is what I mean of saying, I don't want to see you. No. What? There have been allegations that have been made. Wait, asking for fair. Actually, when I wake up today and again ask me, can you come? I'm going to ask for fair. So if you send the fair, okay it means it has to push me to come in. Because the reverse might be true. Iso simu za uko api. Where monew na piga wu se ma uko api. Nakam. So apu akunaga fair inatu me. If I decide like if a lady wakes up and she's like, today I'm going to this person. I would wake up, prepare myself and I know like basically Nikona the fair I need. I won't even have to call you. I'll just call you like, can I come? So you see, that is where my argument is coming in. This relationship is a mutual benefit. You don't just decide now, because I'm the one who wants to come see that person. I wake up, I have my fair and then I go. No. Naizoku itan, then you come. But what is the point of being in a relationship? Let us go to our point. Waunani. Okay. Kura relationship. Relationships I feel like they can be defined differently. I can be in a relationship with you maybe because I love your company. That means you be at my call. I feel like I should see you. No it's like you should come see me. And then when I feel like you should come see me. No, we have to negotiate. Whatever, I'm not interested. Tell me you're not interested in a single affair. Naizoku relationships I feel like they're not like those the back days relationships where they were full commitment. Now it's like a girl can be with this one, maybe I get this kind of benefits from this person. And then this other person has other benefits. So when it comes down to the boyfriend, it's like now some guys will not define the relationship at all. If you don't ask me to be your girlfriend, I'll be your girlfriend. This is the thing. That is a very essential question. Can you be my girlfriend? No, I'm not in a relationship. If you just assume. At the same relations, do the desires. But I'm not my girlfriend. That's not my girlfriend. I know that we've come to that kilamutu akuna kazi ake. Have you noticed these people? Nasi chomi ake, please. Don't take me for being mean. I'm not being mean. But there are men out there who will ask you, umataka ni mi. Like, say ati, ati, ati. Mbonon ati shia fea, ama kubilu take time here. No, they'll ask you for what you want. There's no limits. Mbono ape, gangi keleleju ya fea ake. No, just let's be honest. Is it that your time has not come for you kurringana pesa and you sasuna to pimiapa amani? Ama, what's going on? You know, you know the thing is, for a man, when a man gets a girlfriend, it depends on the basis amekupata. Kama amekupata with the influence of money. Atakuita initain, she will give you anything. That is what I was telling someone here that, you know, money can buy attention, but can never buy affection. This is my dictionary. No, I just read, you know. When we start a relationship and it's on the basis of money, that is where everything starts going. Ukuna ukulik, it's not a relationship that is meant to work because I know I'll overspend on you, I'll give you whatever you want, but you will give me what I want because of my money. But no one sounds unhappy there. We've been given, I've been given. Are you happy in that relationship? But no one sounds unhappy, that's my point. Like all needs have been met. And now my point is, there's attention, but there's no affection, you get it. But love cannot feed us, imagine. Imagine it don't feed us. Love cannot feed us. It don't protect us from the ring. Okay, you know our discussion today was about your money, not mine. Let us go back to that. But I hope you understand that, that's the whole point of the conversation. Akuna tengi tongelia pesa zetu. It's always yours. Yeah, it's always mine. Sochuna ishne tutkikudeva, chokpele katumansaidik. So are you trying to tell me that if you're in a relationship, maybe find your relationship, yes? So the thing is, in takuana spend, anything you want, nikuulizetu, atakani nileo, what do you want? So I spoil you every day because, yeah, we got it. We react, yes, that is the correct answer. Then what do you want? Takuot. What was that option? Hachatuna yatrali. Akuna option. Like, I don't accept that. Why? That is not a relationship. No thing is, you cannot try to win a lady's heart using money and expect her not to ask you for money when you're into the relationship. And that is my first point. You should not win a relationship you see money in. Then how are you going to win her? Okay, because then get to the affection. Onave niya onakavizuri na wanendume zi kwaapa ewe. Wakipanga pa waterline. Every one is a shareholder. Akuna monyako na more rights than the other. Sipigatuk suileako. Am I wrong? And possibly the person with more things to give might win this game. So are you trying to tell me that every relationship should start with the basis of money? I'm thinking you should keep an answer. I don't think it's... Okay, one, money is a factor. Okay, let's just define money. Money gives us options. Money gives us a lot of choices. As a woman, I wouldn't complain if my relationships started on the basis of money. Is that song that Kina gives Sauti Sosa? Do you love me, baby? Or do you love my money? Simple, like to me, while answering that song, it's just like money. Because this money will give me options. Like I would go to the salon, make my hair. If that money is enough, I'll buy my own Mercedes and really work in this town. Like, I'm really... Like my problems. Don't tell me a man will give me a problem in the house. I need to have this money. Amma, that's the problem. Ju sasome juona sasa queen, sasa wezi ambiwa jukona pesa. See, but... My duty, remember, if sasiyangu. So if you think you're the man who provides and you're going to stress me out, do you know the guys who provide and then they feel like, it's alright for me, the woman has to become my property. But that is not the case. Smart women, that is just a bridge to move. Because if I get her money, let's get a guy who pays me like... Let us women who get a license like 100k per month. A smart woman would know any savings. You, you are not a pig, are a half in your shopping. Everything is provided for. I need to do the 100k. This is my saving. At some point when the lady gets to find that now I have adequate money, that's like the end of that relationship. That's about me. Okay. Just for example, a local example because I like local content. Kuna dintu, lani adipona pewa, naliske kwa radio nimi kwa meluia. Hei. So atia na pewa do, you know, upkeep her husband, let's say 500 every day, punch, punch, punch, punch. Na, akuna siku iyo punch ya leo, itabaki, atia semeni pay 200k per month. It's always punch, punch, punch. At some point in time, ali jubaya piki piki, left him and started a business. Yeah. This is why you're afraid of women. Are you afraid of women with money? They're just even scared of women. Before you do, let me give you time to think of an answer. At WhiteFive on Facebook, at WhiteFive 4 channel, under the hashtag, it's white in the morning. I hear this heat on Facebook. Don't you number. All right. So we have Zeli Ramses. Good morning, what you from Kisumo. Hello from Kisumo. Nowadays, the involvement of technology, ladies tend to compete with their fellow ladies all because of lifestyle. Makeup has become their morning breakfast. For me, all they usually use, all they usually use for makeup and things concerning beauty. That is where you think women spend their money. Trevor Amboy says, present from Westerns. Good morning. We will meet again in class. Nakwona. Congratulations. Good morning, Trevor. Make up those guys over there. Ladies, my name is Salimiwa, I'm a king. Salimiwa? I'm sorry. Make up those guys. It is sometimes just complicated with the money. Miss Joangipe sayahu wa ina jinganchini ni. They need to tell us, dema kuna donna still anetisha fair. Akiyo fair man jiniwa. You need to know what to. Well, Balazi Ken artists, never, not on earth. What is that never? That girls don't spend on guys. Which is one of our next questions. Silas Black says, may baby wana changa walunue gari. I imagine ladies when they say, mawana pesa hadim lalebila kula dina na kuna yotu. Kwa impe sata simbani. Konkara sala. Lady, they love their money. They love their money. Many, oh many ladies am konongumu. So you basically trying to say that ladies are stingy. That they love their money atake kupiana tena. That's true. We start from there kwa ushanzakwa gari. No. They love their money atake kupiana. It's very true. Kwele. Maybe wana lipadene a china. When a lady does not use her money, kono gamakli she does something. She does something like the ladies just say, I eat agata mawapu kipiki. What do you people do with your money? We spend it only on you. Even when you have what on who. Numerous women. So allow us to save money and raise our children. They say me oh baby, niku na 2,000 yuh in Guinness yuh ume atata ita landlord. Namibia the three other girls who have been spent on 2000, 2000, 2000, 2000, 2000, 6000. Hensai shaisha. So uksha to ma fair ten times. Konakitu ma seima that you put your money and say what your baby is or something like that. You know when you go to a family, let me say young family where the children are already going to school. Most of them will find that skulfi ita kuangatuku obu eni kumanaume kila siku. What I say ma, no I don't agree with that. Mimimita nitamununuliyangu. I'll do a shopping lakini skulfi. And what is the bigger portion going to school? Kamasi skulfi? That is right, should be. You are the head of the family. Hello. Uli say how are you here? I sing the problem. Uli say how are you here? Uli say how are you here? I sing the problem. You are saying that you want to spend your money to raise your children. You raise your children, you don't need to give them food. Let me tell you one thing. Have you been to the kitchen? Do you know how much money is spent in the kitchen? That's not a lie. That's not so true. That is, please believe her. You pay school fees once in three months. We provide food daily. We feed your belly. You look very well on your walk on the street. We provide food daily. We provide food daily. We provide food on young campus girls. We provide food on the street. We pay them food on the street. Come on, let's be real. Do you know that most women don't even spend on food? Hey, do you know if I go to my kitchen and I go to the kitchen to see the space? I can spend roughly a thousand bob to get you that one dinner you want. I don't know. We are talking about a modern family. We have a lady bring something to the table and the man brings something to the table. If I tell you to pay school fees, my friend Furai, if I tell you to provide every day that they won't give you. You'll get that, so let's be real. Do you know how much they pay? Okay, we are talking about the modern life. How much do they pay fee? We are not going to talk about the school again. Come on, take my kid to the best school that you can pay. And how much are they going to pay there? In three months. Exactly, but they don't pay as much as they pay a month. You people are not realistic. How many meals do they take in that house in a day? If I don't make my money. That's your children. I don't know how much they eat in the house. I don't know how many meals they take in that house. No, but stop misquoting. No, I'm just worried because they only want a pig. How much do they eat? Or how many meals do they take in that house? Breakfast and supper. That makes you think that you spend a lot of money on me. We are talking about providing for the household. Even those kids that you are paying school fees for. Yeah, they are in burning spots. Assumption. No, that's an assumption. That's an assumption. Other kids at the school are so they have to pack their lunch. Do they have breakfast? You know there's some grumpy kids that they eat good breakfast. If that breakfast misses, then we are going to take breakfast. Ni na nini when you come up here and say, Go sit in a corner. Sit in a church, okay? So those ones may be a little bit held there, a little bit different. So guys, please remember at 254 on Facebook, at 254 on Twitter, hashtag is one in the morning. So we did prefer a couple of slides to help with the conversation. So the first one is obviously, where did the ladies, where does the money go? So some have claimed that school fees over to Jazah. When you know you're not safe, which may be no query, when you know maybe it's not going to change you, you never know maybe it's not going to be paid in China, when you know maybe you're not going to buy a gari, I'm not too sure. But I'm not going to buy a gari, maybe. You guys have been working around this town. Squeezing was done on a chafua. Yeah? Kwa zizi katgarik boku boma and say, It's make me feel so nice. I'm like, yeah, that's a queen. What makes you think that the people are bought there? Sasa skia. Sasa at 254. Nimbaki kwa ni manome.