 a dead fish there's a few of them around here don't know why I do have a strange fascination with dead animals and creatures don't know if you see it on my Instagram I put up some pictures before I think I had a dead turtle found on the beach and a dead octopus I don't know they're just interest me sometimes I know it may seem quite strange we actually know it was a dead jellyfish I think there's one here as well very interesting to see yeah just like weird stuff like that don't really know the reason why it's just what I like of course I don't like to see things dead since it's already there might as well take a look at it what else we got here another fish some coconut shell another fish over here sorry if these images disturb anyone it's not intended to of course just playing around having some fun on the beach just drove a couple of hours to get here on the way to my next destination as you can see it is beautiful view fit off the beating path you know how I do I like to wander far away but yes let's get into the meat of this video there is something that the narcissist wants from you and I'm sure you've all been through it you all know what I'm talking about they do such weird things things that don't seem to make any sense things that have no logical meaning as you look at it sometimes and you wonder why are you doing that for what is the purpose of it what is your desired outcome or result because you're looking at it and it seems meaningless and purposeless as though there's just no reason or incentive for it and a lot of times it may even seem self-destructive I can tell you that yes well it may be purposeless there is also a purpose to it at the same time and what it is what they want from you is of course your reaction they want you to respond to them emotionally they want you to get all worked up all worried and confused it's where you don't know what's going on you're losing your mind you're running around just trying to figure things out just trying to sort things out for them because they will often present you with a problem and at times it may seem like there is no solution as though there's nothing you can say or do to resolve it and you're just scratching your head thinking what is this about what am I supposed to do because many of you may be in paths and you desire to resolve a situation you don't like conflict you don't like disagreements you just want peace and yet this person is coming to you with all of these problems and they're expecting you to fix it for them and you're the one who's doing all of the work you're overthinking you're over analyzing everything trying to just come to some sensible resolve or conclusion in the hopes that it will make peace between you and them but that's the thing and it is the reason why nothing ever gets resolved because what you want and what they want is very different it's like you're both sitting in the same boat but you're rowing in opposite directions and that is why it never seems to go anywhere because you want two completely different things you want a resolve you want peace quiet and maybe solitude but what the narcissist wants is your reaction and of course if there is a sense of resolve how are they going to get that from you which is why they will create all sorts of problems they will make false accusations against you they will spread rumors and gossip about you even though they know fully well a lot of times that none of it is even true yes a lot of times they are already aware of that they know that there's nothing wrong with you you're not bad you're not crazy you're not dangerous you're not any of that and they already know it but they also know that if there is no problem at all and you are after all fine you're okay you're not a threat to them maybe you're not even going to reject or abandon them you're not going to try to expose them you're not going to do anything that may be harmful or dangerous to them even though that may be the case and they may know that they may be aware of it what do they gain out of that because they've still got all of these mixed up emotions they're still going through it they still can't be happy so they look at it like what am I supposed to do just sit on my own somewhere of course that's something they cannot do which is why they have to create a narrative about you about you being this or that it's always the same no matter what type of narcissist you're dealing with no matter where you're from from any part of the world I know you all know exactly what I'm talking about the narcissist you're dealing with and I'm sure there'll be thousands of people who watch this video and they can all relate the narcissist always has to have some story some narrative about why they cannot trust or believe you about why you're a problem you're bad you're crazy you're wrong you're dangerous you're all of these things there's always some reason or excuse for their behavior but actually the reality is that they just want a reaction out of you that is really all that they care about they don't care about anything else and that is why people with this disorder they don't tend to experience long-term success because everything they say or do it's just intended to evoke a reaction and that's really all that it is and of course when someone's just going around trying to seek these reactions out of people of course it's not going to lead them anywhere because there's no definitive purpose or meaning to it it's just whatever emotion or feeling they're trying to provoke out of you and I know as an empath myself I can completely relate with all of you that are going through this it's very strange it's very confusing it causes you to overthink to overanalyze the situation it causes you to self reflect and look at yourself it causes self distrust self-blame and just just thinking about what have I got to do to convince them that there's nothing wrong with and it's like no matter what you do no matter how many hills you climb no matter how many years go by they just don't want to see things the way that you do because that is the thing when you finally wake up and you realize that actually there is no problem that is when you discover the real problem and that is a problem that you cannot fix because that problem exists with them it exists with their inability to regulate their own emotions their lack of self discipline and control which is why they have to continuously provoke and evoke these reactions out of you and I know it hurts you it harms you it confuses you it drives you insane they gas like you it causes you to believe that you're losing your memory perception or sanity and when you're going through all of that they're just sitting back and they're laughing at you it's bringing them amusement and enjoyment they're having a good laugh at your expense they're lying to you and they're enjoying it because the truth is that all they actually want is a reaction they do not care about you at all and you will notice that as soon as you pull back on your emotions you stop giving that to them you stop reacting watch how they respond it causes a narcissistic injury they get very angry they want to destroy you and that is how you should know when you pull back but yes all they want from you is a reaction that's all they care about and I know it's so simple for me to say this but I understand those of you you're going through it you feel like you're losing yourself because of this person which is why you have to affirm to yourself you have to validate yourself every day remind yourself that you are okay you may not be perfect but you're not as bad as they say and I know that because you found my videos you're trying to be a better person so you're alright you just need to remind yourself of that but you are okay and you're with a crazy person who is trying to make you crazy they're trying to drive you insane because if you haven't noticed already they do not find fulfillment in the same things that we do they do not find fulfillment in genuine interaction engagement a deep emotional connection they're self-absorbed that they like empathy that's not going to do anything for them which is why what narcissists do what they all do is that relationship that you want that connection the intimacy they just dangle it in front of you like a carrot on a stick and they leave you to chase after it but you never actually get that from them because they haven't even got it to give and yet they string you along they lie to you they future fake to make you believe that one day you're going to get it when you're never going to get back from the narcissist because there's just no incentive for them to do that it doesn't bring them any fulfillment and the reality is that they can't do that anyway they can't be vulnerable they can't connect they can't be intimate with you all they can do is give you the illusion of that they can only give you a simulation of love as I've said before the best you will ever get from them is an illusion and that is just something that you're going to have to accept they can't give you something that they don't have all they can do is lie to you and mislead you but what you should do is start connecting to yourself the most important relationship you will ever have is the relationship that you have with yourself and it's a very powerful experience when you do connect to yourself everything you thought you were looking for from the narcissist you can't actually find that from within and of course I do advise if it's safe for you to do so to go no contact with the narcissist because just imagine what it will be like to find another empath someone who doesn't have to lie or mislead you someone who wears their heart and their sleeve just like you do someone who can love the way that you love someone who will care about you the way that you cared about the narcissist just imagine how amazing that would feel to look into their eyes and to see them looking back at you and knowing that it is real you have this connection someone cares about you someone has your best interest in mind just imagine how amazing that would feel and when you realize that you will know that yes you do deserve better because all you've got from the narcissist up until now it's just a solution and they're dangling it dangling it in front of you like a carrot on a stick making you believe that one day you're going to get it you're going to get their love that appreciation of you when you're never going to get that from a narcissist they can't be vulnerable they can't do it and you're just going to have to accept it because at some point we have to take responsibility and realize that by staying with them we're just disappointing ourselves and not only that but we're disrespecting ourselves because that's not what we really want we want something more we want something special so when you're around the narcissist you are suppressing your true desires in a way you are neglecting yourself which is why at some point we have to wake up and realize that this is not what we want and when we do that we free ourselves we can invest more of our energy and emotions into ourselves and we can later use that to attract someone else who loves the way that we love and who wants to love us in the way that we want to be loved because that's the only way that it's going to work it's the only way that you're going to find any fulfillment in a relationship and it's the only way that you're going to have a solid future with someone and I make these videos because I know that's what you all deserve yes you deserve someone who loves you someone who accepts you someone who cares about you someone who treats you in the way that you treat them so it's a fair and equal exchange of value of love and I believe that that's how it should be if you can be vulnerable if you're willing to give your love to someone why shouldn't you receive love in return I know many of you you feel neglected you feel like this narcissist doesn't care about you and that's how you managed to find my videos because you wouldn't have found these videos if there wasn't a problem if something wasn't wrong with your relationship although we call them relationships but they're really just transactions and you always end up getting the short end of the stick just imagine that for a moment and let that guide you to where you need to be it's actually very healing when you do that when you visualize it in your mind when you fantasize about it that connection that you want where you feel loved where you feel special where someone can be open and vulnerable with you just imagine how amazing that would feel and it's not too late for you to experience that it all starts by you recognizing that you're not getting what you want right now you're not getting what you need you're not getting what you're craving that love intimacy and connection so yes that's really the message that I want to share with you because an assist as I said all they really want is a reaction that's all they really care about that's all they really desire from you they don't really care about love or intimacy but they like to see you try they like to see you try to help them to make them happy to chase after this illusion the simulation of love when they never even had that to give to you to begin with if they did then you would have gotten that a long time ago got my Kia parked up here quite a long road trip today I think I still got a few more hours to drive here you can see the mountains Vietnam seeing some pretty amazing views along my journey and we'll be sharing it with all of you very soon on my Instagram you don't know it's not survivor YouTube on Instagram you can follow me on there and see all of the pictures and videos of my travels but yeah that's all it really is that's all they really want from you is a reaction and if you look at everything they're trying to do they're just trying to provoke an emotional response from you but that is not a connection because they can't be vulnerable they can't open up to you so what good is that you just got something that looks good on the outside it doesn't have any real meaning or purpose so it's never going to satisfy you it's never going to bring you any fulfillment but yeah I wish the best for you and I hope that you will move on and find what you really want which of course as we know it's love intimacy a connection vulnerability a real relationship a future and yeah that's really what I wish for you anyway I'm gonna continue along my journey I still got quite a way to go I just like to thank you all for watching please give it a thumbs up down below if it was helpful and as always I will talk to you in another video very soon