 People ask If God exists Why do we see some people go through so much things? Children are born with defect Children go through so much. How can Allah exist and all of this happens? Number one brothers and sisters we have to understand That in having a child You know, it's amazing sometimes. We as a human being Whenever everything goes wrong, you know who to blame Allah That's the easy target Anytime something goes wrong in our life Let's put it on Allah. I choose a wife Things didn't work right Who am I gonna blame? Just guess my Allah's decided. What can I do? Even though I choose it. I saw it. I decided no now I have to blame Allah The same thing sometimes you see people a woman or a sister doesn't wear hijab. You ask you why don't you work? Say Allah doesn't want me to How come doesn't Allah control everything? Yes. So if he wants me to wear He could change my heart and make me wear So he's in control So now who to blame? Allah Everything goes wrong in our life. Let's blame Allah And what is my role? Zero He controls everything But in reality That's not the truth when it comes to having children There are some some we call and And there is illa nakasa, which means a full course and incomplete course Do I have a child? Allah is not the only one who makes decision in those days Even though the Qur'an was clear Yehabu liman yasha'u dhuquran We have women yasha'u in other Allah spawn on that I say sometimes I decide what to have Sometimes you decide to give some people only girls We try the second child girl the third girl the fourth girl the fifth girl the sixth the seventh. So God give up You know this decision of Allah It's a sometimes We have women yasha'u in other and some cases it gives boys You want to go? Trying to fucking turn The third time a boy the fourth time the feet you are telling a lot. Okay. Now I give up Would you say that Allah spawn? Number three says I will use the widget home the Qur'an and why not In some cases you say I mix boy girl Boy girl or sometimes girl and boy Sometimes first one is a boy second one is a boy the third one becomes a girl Sometimes the other way around girl girl boy Who does that? Allah spawn to say I don't I'm the one who makes that decision Number four way a lot of money yasha'u aqeema In some cases They try they take medication they travel they do orca not enough Allah said I make that decision What to have I make that decision But in some cases he makes that decision but having a child There is a lot and the people say You know most 99% of The children who are born with certain problems The parents are involved And I'm not gonna explain to you more But I'm gonna give you some references that you can read to see what the Rasulullah said the night Imam Ali and Fatima got married What are the advices he gave to them? It's a book all Shajaratu Tuba and That book there is advices Rasulullah saying mama. Yeah, I lay tonight you got married If you don't want Allah to bless you a child with this defect don't do ABC If you don't want your child to end up this don't do this if you want your child to become like this do this All the advices is mentioning Because you have to understand Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. He said in the Quran. I said la qad khalaqna li insana fee We created him and been in the best shape How can you say and then turn around and make something else? He says la qad khalaqna li insana fee ahsanita quay We play a big role in that Not Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. Yes, there are certain situations. It's a test of Allah But that comes in the very rare situation In the many cases We the parents we play a role And how our children should become In what we do And today You can check with the doctors. They can tell you so more about this also in details When a woman is pregnant and they smoke what happened to that child? What does that have to do with Allah? So the mother is the one who is affecting the child A woman is pregnant and she is on drugs. What do you think is going to happen to the child? There's nothing to do with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala It has everything to do with the payment So when we see sentences like that don't blame Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala immediately Look at our own action because it plays a big role in how the child will be in the future Because you have to understand brothers and sisters Our actions Not only it affect our children It sometimes affect generation of our children What you do today as a father It can affect your children and great-grandchildren too I'll give you one example quickly. You go to the Quran in surat al-qaf Example of a good how it affect the children Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala in surat al-qaf in the story of musa and khidr When they came to the last point of their journey All right, when khidr told musa this wall need to be ruined and rebuilt again No, what happened? Khidr, alaihi salam asked musa Musa said why are you going to work for these people who refuse to be Nice to us After they rebuilt the wall, what did khidr told musa? Listen to the ayat clear That wall belongs to them To the two orphans in the city That's all Quran see about them Are they women? No Are they believers? Quran didn't say anything But the father Was a righteous servant The children They didn't do anything The father was good Now Allah sent khidr and musa to come and serve them not because of them because of their father Because of the father's action Good deeds Was able to reach to the children to rip the good of their father So our actions can play a big role in our children's life That is to understand So whatever something happens, we cannot just stand and blame Allah We have to look back in our action and say what did I do wrong? Because I could be one of the reason of what is happening in come