 On head now girl, ladies and gentlemen make on some what not Why standing at my office looking in here Benjamin God bless you, you know, I want to pop in somebody notified me that I got two different shifts you know, I got different time zones people different time zones in the bless tribe and The bless tribe is is growing. So as you can see when I do a Q&A a lot of times it's hard for me to see all the questions and It's hard for me to get through all of the questions. So I realize when I have the free time I'm gonna have to Do a few more Q&A's as time permits so that I can get the questions of the people that I miss so You know, it take a couple minutes. I had to send a message out the Let the bless tribe know I was gonna be going live and had to put it on my Instagram and some somebody told me that They haven't been getting the notifications, you know that YouTube isn't sending the notifications. So I know it so as you see coupon and with Saudi Lin she say finally caught alive. So it's different times people, you know doing things at different times So I Gotta try to go live, you know, whenever I'm able to Just to catch the different shifts, you know, I've got the morning shift afternoon shift night shift So if you ask the question in the morning, you got to answer Maybe try to let some of the people who missed it who or some people who was asking a question and didn't get there question answered let them ask a question and And it probably takes a couple minutes so that it'll finish Loading on my end here I'm on my Wi-Fi share. Thank you for making it share one of my moderators and huge supporter She she she wanted a few caramel kisses in there another moderator huge supporter Those young ladies they shown me that you know, they can understand to where they they understand You don't have to argue just because somebody say some you on this that you disagree with You know, you don't have to argue. They they listen and they get what's for them and let the rest go And that's what I call emotional intelligence I'm always having to deal with you know, when I'm going through comments dealing with people Want to argue and I don't argue About what I know, you know, I'm speaking from my experience Hey, thank you can be if you got a question we could go ahead and get started now about three minutes in you know put a hashtag cue on there or Put the question the what what really catch my eyes when y'all put them little fire fire sirens in front of it Tony how do you love like you've never been hurt and when will a person know? That true healing has taken place and that they are ready to love again That's essentially the second part of your question is the answer to your question That's when you know when that's when you know you can love as if you've never been hurt That's when you know true healing has taken place and that you ready to love again and so basically what that means is when you can go into a relationship and You can give a person trust Let's say let's say in your past relationship your ex You he will come in late from work And let's say he will come in two hours late from work and then later you found out he was cheating Well, let's say you get into a new relationship and this guy's a super hard worker and he works over time and His check shows that he works over time when you can be in that relationship and not Come at him when he gets home. Oh, where were you with your other woman? And you don't have to come like that, but you could say wow you really working hard How was it? You know what do they have you doing today and you sit down and you go into a conversation That's when you know you truly heal and that's what loving as if you've never been hurt That's what that looks like Veronica. God bless you. God bless your question. My six-year-old Dad has been inconsistent and he wants nothing to do with him should I force him absolutely not absolutely not you never force a man To be in a child's life because that's something he should already want So a lot of time when you force in a man to be in a child's life and he don't want to be there it actually will be really bad for that child because Your a man who don't want to be there is not gonna be a good example. It's not gonna be loving and caring No question. I'm really enjoying the certification course awesome job on the content. Thank you so much Daniel for that feedback. I'm glad that you getting that out of it in that you You know learning and grabbing what you can out of that. You're talking about the life coach certification Of course Which for a limited time y'all remember to use your your coupon code my mentor What do you think about baby? That is who try to control their child's mother's relationships Because of the child when they are the one who let go of the relationship. I think you just gotta Let him know that he has no control You got to set those boundaries to where you don't even answer his phone call after 7 p.m Maybe not even after 5 say listen if you need to talk to me call me on my lunch break It's at a it's at 11 a.m Or it's that noon or it's that one and you don't answer the phone at 9 30 10 p.m Because it's like the child already in the bed sleep. So ain't no need to be calling You got to create those type of boundaries to where also you cut off refrigerator rights To where he can't just come in and just come in your house When it's his time to pick up that he come in and he's sitting all on the couch He going to the refrigerator y'all meet at the park to do the drop-off and pick up So now when you set these boundaries, he knows he has no control and no say so The other thing is don't ask him for anything unless you absolutely need it or unless he got a child support order You know don't go out your way to ask him for something just to be asking them The less you show him that he's needed the more he realizes he doesn't have control in your life Tony I'm passionate about mental health and want to be a therapist. I have a bachelor's but still need my masters I'm deciding whether or not three more years of school is worth it thoughts now you're asking the wrong one for that now because I'm a life coach and to be honest with you as a life coach I'm able to impact a lot of lives as a life coach and to help them and I don't have to Label diagnose or prescribe and I don't have to stay inside of a treatment plan like a mental health person I don't have to stay inside of a treatment plan and I don't have to be audited and I don't have to You know be recertified and all of that and I could be my own boss So me personally I feel like The people who are therapists they already therapists they could be therapists You got to really identify why you want to do that and how much of it do you want to do therapy? Or do you just want to help people in their life if you just want to help people in their life? you know reach their goals and Grow and stuff like that. You could be a you could be a life coach consultant You don't have to spend all that money getting all that schooling But if you want to do literal therapy you want to be addressing those topics, you know specifically then yes, it'll be worth it Love to be comfortable Sharon. God bless you. I love to be comfortable with a loving man, but his family is To scan and I don't like company. I Love to be comfortable with a loving man. Oh, you probably had a typo in there But his family is to scan and I and don't like company Maybe scared Put that in and if you remember the bless tribe Sharon put what you meant in there You know repost that and if somebody see it and I miss it Because I don't even want to speak on that is if I really don't understand and For y'all hit the scene y'all read it two times because you know sometime one one word Change the complete question and and my answer be totally off Based on what you what you want to say Stephanie God bless you. I'm looking for Sharon to see if Sharon is a member of bless tribe, but I don't know But just to speak on that period a lot of times a man family is not gonna like you anyway So you got to realize the relationship is between you and that person Because a lot of time family gonna be a little controlling But at the same time if family gonna be budding in and the man is gonna let the family bud in and do what they want to do Then that's when you got to move back. That's when that's when the relationship is not for you God bless you and your family Ruby. Yeah, God bless you. Thank you The ratio God bless you. Well, thank you for the response. He's on child support and a PPO at the moment. Hey, that's good. I don't know what PPO is Somebody told me not too long ago So long vibe God bless you Tony, I'm 20 years old boyfriend broke up with me in November I'm having a hard time moving on advice when he contacts me He said he doesn't want a relationship but wants to see me. How do I move on you move on by blocking them? You'll never let don't ever give a ex-boyfriend access to you You having a hard time moving on because he's still contacting you the need of working. God bless you So you got to move on with your life. Don't ever let a man Leave you and then keep in touch with you. No, buddy. You don't want you don't want to be all the way in there get all the way out Don't don't let them be be there wasting your time Marie be what are your thoughts on toxic in-laws? Thank you. Your in-laws have to be checked by your spouse You know in-laws can be toxic, but they got to be checked by the spouse Some in-laws going to be ignorant and they're gonna overstep their boundaries. They're gonna say stuff They shouldn't stay they shouldn't say and that's when your man got to check them but That's when your man got to check them, you know, I had to let my mama know I had to let my sister know You know be careful what you say about my wife, you know Don't don't don't bring any negativity to me about my wife because you upset because I'm doing this and that for her and Like my wife. It was our anniversary. I got a gift, you know, it cost me and At the same time my sister had asked me for some money. I said listen, I can't give you that money I can't help you with what you need because I got to take care of my wife first. It's our anniversary Sometimes family will get upset about stuff like that But I you know, I don't care nothing about that because I know what I got to take care of and so That's how a man energy and attitude got to be he got to be able to check his mom and say listen mom Look, I'm married. I love you if you love me then you'll respect me and this and and my woman That's me because we won so if you disrespect in my wife, you disrespect me and If you disrespect me, then we're gonna have to get some distance I ain't gonna dishonor you. I ain't gonna disrespect you. I'm gonna get some distance Said his feelings are so strong that after eight months of talking and not meeting it hurts and can't talk much make sense Yeah, it could make sense. You go long distances extremely hard for a man Men do not do good at long distance. And so it's really a waste of time and what you got to realize It's kind of like for a man that energy and you talking y'all making love to the mind The mind is the largest sexual organ. So for a man, it's kind of like if you shake up that That Coca-Cola you shake that Coca-Cola up It won't explode. That's how a man is So while y'all talking it's working working working working him up and not been able to see you hug you kiss you That could just make him want to jet throw in the tower But if he really really love you and care about you he'll be trying to figure out a way for you to move to him or him to move you Marissa God bless you Anna, I can't remember your question and eight I can't remember your question just cuz I'm answering so many questions. I'm not really remember names So when you say, what can you do? I know you're adding on to a question, but I'm not really taking in who named come with what questions. I can't remember which one your question was My advice on starting a any advice on starting a cooking channel teaching people how to cook I want to stand out from the rest and make my channel unique It really ain't nothing you air you unique because you you You know that that mole in your face the size of your lips how your eyes set That's what's gonna make your channel unique to be honest with you Ain't nothing new under the sun, you know You could unless you finish jump out of a plane and cook the recipe coming down on a stove while you add Skydiving ain't nothing new ain't no way you could cook That somebody ain't did it already or something very very close to it You know unless you got opening up as your assistant helping you just cook It's gonna be your recipes if you add your little twist or something You know you make you use some some barbecue and then you you decide you finna use a certain Special ingredient that'll set you apart but other than that and to be honest with you just keep it simple I will take I will take a smartphone invest in a smartphone if you don't have one Get invest in the phone tripod and just sit it down and just let it shoot You could plug in a mic to the phone a lav mic and just keep it simple To where you shooting it and you can upload it when people try to do all this extra stuff got a camera man Got all these lights got to do all this editing got to put all these graphics got to put off You burn yourself out and and you'd never get to where you need to be I Keep it simple. I Just want to say thank you for your knowledge twice in one day Hey, God bless you actually three times in one day because I posted a video this morning called Investing yourself then I went live earlier now. I'm live here. I asked me why could I do this lie? Because we got a date at nine. She said yeah, so You know I started feel crazy about serving so much but Lord say man, you got to do you Joy, I don't know if that's how I pronounce it, but you know God bless you Thank you Tony. Thank you for all you do for the bless tribe. I know it gets hard But I appreciate the effort you give on a consistent basis You've helped me grow so much. Hey, God bless you. I appreciate those who appreciate Sharon, okay, I love this man, but his family is too private and does not like to see anyone But his family is too private and does not like to see anyone. What can I do? The key is does he love you? does he love you and Because if he love you then what they want won't matter. So that's the key if a man Tell you that he can't see you or be with you because his family is private He don't want you He don't want you. You hear me a man who do a whole lot for love. He don't want you coach rock God bless you God bless brother Tony. I'm taking a birth your book course and Friday. I'm going to purchase the life Cope certification online the one man that's going to support you doing God's word. Hey, I sure appreciate your brother I sure appreciate you Okay, you tell my next Friday cuz I was like today. Oh, no, no all day Saturday. Okay, I'm thinking the day Friday, man being in his house God bless your brother. I am glad to hear that Tomorrow just want to say thanks. Thank you for being a big brother always needed even though I'm older than you Hey, God bless. Hey, I might be older than you now. I could be like might be lying about my age What is he actually saying when he says We're all going to get hurt no matter what relationship with is that manglish it feels set up He's he's saying that He is trash That's manglish for I'm trash and I can't do right. I'm not gonna do right by you So if you're gonna be with me, you're gonna get cheated on that's what he's saying That's all he's saying really what's the difference between love? I love you Always but I'm not in love with you ex told me that That's just what it mean, you know, like I love this here candy bar, you know, I love this here Game controller. You hear me? I love this here This here bank card. You hear me see love. I love this here On House slip of my wife bought me. It's a It's a house slip. You said I mean love mean I cry if you die In love mean I sacrifice everything to be with you but love You love your TV on the wall is different levels of love like love can be very very shallow And then when love gets very very deep, that's what we call in love and in love is a sacrificial love Meaning that I'm gonna get over my ego. I'm gonna get over my youthful us I'm gonna get over my selfishness to love you. That's what in love is We both cheated and earlier you said it's over. I'm moving out to heal Can we recover while separated? Can we save the marriage if I leave men learn through loss? Am I playing myself? Yeah, you playing yourself, but anything is possible. You know, I don't have a final say so on that It's a gamble either way, you know, so you got to realize what you will in the gamma But what I will tell you is that It's very very rare for you to physically cheat on a man and for him to truly heal and forgive It's very very rare. I've never seen it happen. I've never seen it happen And even the men who stay after being cheated on they doing something behind closed doors to get back The even though they don't let her know I may not tell her to rub it in her face They doing something to get back even if it's just watching nasty movies And he got his favorite nasty actor that he watched and he just sitting there You know in his bathroom by itself and he just yeah, take this take this. Oh, yeah, you want to cheat on me? Take this so a man Men don't really if a woman cheated on a man, it's a wrap and that's what women need to learn from me You rarely you rarely y'all gonna be in it if a man get cheated on and he stay with that woman truly holy purely Faithfully he need to be in a Guinness book world records. I just I don't see that. I don't see that happen Wendy I purchase Your life coaching Certification a few days ago and have since seen your live event atl Open up some spaces. Do you suggest doing the weekend event or stick to the online course? Well, I'll stick to the online course but um But you could do the live the online course they the same, you know, it's like the Live is just you asking questions, but you're gonna get those questions answered anyways because I do q&a's with the students And the online you get access to that for life You can watch the videos every day you download the textbook So it kind of save you the the flight or the gas and you know the time just more convenient and also That June 6 live. We don't know what that 19 still gonna be out here So we trying to you know see so I definitely you in the most convenient one Definitely Jackson. I don't know what you talking about eight months talking Not meeting Said it hurts and can't talk much and you ain't hear your answer earlier plan for me to move on Plan for me to move when I get a job. Okay, you add to it jobs are scarce now What can I do to keep the connection? I miss talking if a man give up on you you got to give up on him You can't be you can't be trying to figure out what you could do to get him back And all of that if a man want to leave you let him leave Don't ever beg a man to stay with you never beg a man to stay with you Never beg a man to come back to you if a man want to leave you. It's only been eight months now It's hard to be in a long distance relationship, but eight months. He make it a year He he want to leave you because he don't want you so you miss talking you love him He don't love you. So that's what you got to understand now. That's hard to help But I'm here to tell you now I'm here to tell you so a don't don't don't hold out for that now go on about your business forever April I am 24 dealing with a single father that's 27 He seems too busy to see me since he's in school and taking care of his kid should I take a step back? Absolutely Absolutely need to be doing reverse lunges Absolutely, you need to pull a quad muscle you reversing back on that line so long because let me tell you Man always got time. What he in school for? He's trying to be being surgeon being Carson the gifted hands if he ain't trying to be no surgeon If he ain't in school to be no surgeon He got time for you because guess what if the child in school and so You get out of school. You in college class over with one o'clock two o'clock If you know if you working throughout the day, you doing night school You ain't doing that because you got a child So you didn't got home did your homework and you get your child you put your child down the bed eight thirty nine o'clock What you doing from nine nine p.m. On to midnight you ain't studying unless you're in school to be a surgeon so, you know That's a That's some you got to look into egg now Y'all got listening caramel kids and I care miss kids. They don't send Tony little emojis, please at Stephanie a Little caramel not caramel. She's gonna warn you once nice. You got to be the ability to block your knife Let me sit no. I'm a married man now TT God bless you ex-loss mom dad and Bro within the last four years With most recent death With most recent death twelve 2017 Dated one year long distance now in the same state Left him in November because he pulled away He's in therapy now and we talked for the first time today He's very apologetic how to move forward. I Tell you this Just move forward with your legs closed Don't go over there and oh you lost your family Here get some love and no go over there with your legs closed And you move forward with your legs closed and y'all just talking and y'all just build it If you talking and you build it and your legs closed cuz you ain't giving no sympathy You ain't giving no sympathy, you know all that you give a sympathy with your time and your energy but not No move in not no less, you know get to here You got to take your time cuz see men That I heard a man that really hurt a man, but men Process things differently and a lot of times a man will see something that he didn't went through and he actually is Built for it. He actually was given the strength to get through it But if he see that you really really care about that then he'll take and he could Use that to get what he want. So just keep Your legs closed and they'll show you if he really trying to connect and build Shamiah, I saw your question here. I'm a new member God bless I appreciate you telling the game out of anger husband tells wife to file for divorce after cooling off He apologized and says he wants his marriage. He was just frustrated What you got to do in that situation you got to tell him that's your first and last time because that's actually a form of AB USE okay, can't say all the words on here, but that's actually a form of That there so when he Says that you got to tell him that show first and last time says say it again grant your wish So when you get frustrated, that's what we call emotional intelligence You got to do your cool down technique talk backwards from ten walk to the door and back start doing you some pacing Do you some push-ups? But you're not gonna be dangling this over my head and all of that there So you got to let them know that that's unacceptable I'm gonna call you the piano just cuz the way my accent set up I Don't I just struggle even saying that in my head. I'm just like man That's gonna really come off my tongue the wrong way. So I'm just calling the piano Okay, just found out boyfriend was a habitual liar And then you put another hard word in there cuz the way I space words out you got me cussing Boyfriend found just found out boyfriend was a habitual liar. I had combo with another woman and found out how manipulative of All the words ain't you he has been I broke up with him No question just want words of encouragement and know That right there. Okay. God bless you. Okay. Well, like they say you dodge the bullet That's what you got to realize you got to process the fact that when you find some mouth before You didn't gave your body or you didn't had to reproduce with him or you didn't had to get married You said boyfriend, that's what that space for that space is to be there to be able to learn about who He is and when you find out who he is you out of there you able to get out of there before it's too late So count your blessings because a lot of people still got the co-parent with this person forever, you know Can't be Tony. I am 36 this year and feel I have failed in life due to not being married and And having a family I don't do online dating and find it Hard to meet me. I now feel it's too late. How can I change this? Hey, listen to them You better ask one of one of the ladies that's in their 50s and 60s that that be on here on this YouTube They'll let you know your spring chicken your spring chicken. I tell women all the time They're really you really don't have to worry about nothing just kind of coast Because Oprah ain't got kids. She don't look like she upset So what you have to realize is life gonna go on, you know life gonna go on it ain't by a man and you know Children like live your purpose Fulfill your purpose that's gonna give you meaning and then when you step in the purpose you're gonna attract You're going to track You know somebody for you to Bella. God bless you one mother supporters moderators in him But you still a spring chicken. You still a spring chicken. You so young You still got similar like on your bra. So you got to understand that like you got plenty time plenty time if a Brianna God bless if a guy makes a woman his baby mama does that mean he does not value her He value you but you got to realize now you got great value Which is the Walmart brand? Okay, if you got a Walmart near you if you ain't got a Walmart You listen when you got a Walmart look up Walmart great value you got great value brand and then you got the The name brand so he he values you he just don't put the most value on you He value you now, but it's just different levels of value you you know, you got You got a Toyota Tercel value. Then you got Lex's value. So he got some value for you But he just does not have Maybe the amount of value you want So you got to understand that and realize that it's a man who will value you so much That he don't mind being a step daddy and what I do look at what Russell Wilson doing see what Russell future did not value Sierra but now he'll come Russell Wilson and he over here on know why Wilson came out like that But Russell Wilson over here. He over here. He she named brand He he is a proud. I ain't never seen a stepfather that happy He's so happy. You can't even call him stepfather. He like father 2.0 So you got to understand that what one man don't value the next man been waiting for all his life So understand that now Kelsey God bless the counter to $12 So that's like a dollar 20 cent in the US Well, y'all God bless you now a God bless and I'm just playing sometimes people from Canada be writing like oh It's too much on the conversion for your coaching. I'd be like hold on That's what you told to live at okay Don't try to call ask me for no discount But I sure appreciate you Kelsey for showing up here from camera. I think that's kind of the forgive me if that's somewhere else My ex ghosted me then text after three weeks And switched it around saying it was me who ghosted he put me down for sending his stuff back Why is he so defensive and what to say next time he texts me? Well, that's what a man does one lady. I heard call it the Jedi mind trick a man Want to put that on you so you got to live with that so you got to live with that and he can just Ride off into the sunset. So you got to understand that right there That is really just his ego and when you say next time he text you you shouldn't be responding next time he texts you Because he ghosted you when he ghost you and he don't hit you up for three weeks No Don't don't waste it because what happened? That's his habit. So what that means is You will move on with your life And next time instead of three weeks, it'll be three months And you'll be sitting there and you've been doing good you living good You ain't got nothing to hide you sitting there at the park You know got your little park basket out and you got your little sandwich in there your cheddar chips and and your new Boyfriend right there and you got your phone face up because you ain't got nothing to hide But because you didn't block your ex Here come his name and number popping up or here come his number popping up and then he calling calling calling calling calling Because he just watched your story or your picnic basket and because you still got an open line of communication And he blow your phone up three times Now your next your new boo bite to be your old boo because he feel like you still got a soul tie With your ex so understand that now when a man leave you cut them all the way off to where he can't get to you Marie be God bless you. What are your thoughts on a man with three baby mama? He's not married and living with the third baby mama. I'm gonna be honest with you like this right here I don't have no thoughts on just like you shouldn't have when a man in situations like that you need to pay him no mind That's what your thoughts need to be pay him. No mind. Yeah me don't even think about that What what you wasting your time for? Yeah, that's Absolutely not that's like buying a car That you can afford a new car or gently use car But you consider and buying this car that been through Katrina and been through Sandy in New York and Had the last owner had the 19 and they're coughing on the steering wheel and you thinking about buying it So when you say what's your thoughts on that? I don't have no thoughts about that car Why I'm thinking why I'm considering a car that made it through Katrina and was sitting on the side of the road Floating and then it made it way to Florida and now they trying to resell it That's what you is dealing with when you're dealing with a man like that three baby mommas ain't married now one of them living with the third one Absolutely not I'm all the way out of there. You got to pull a hamstring. You running so fast from that man Listen to me now when I tell you this Stephanie God bless you Let's say us as a female don't have social media Include an Instagram Facebook MySpace et cetera Okay, my space Must be should we tell that to a man? He might think we are lying or we just trying to get brownie points Um, you don't have to tell that if he asks you you can tell him But for you to just bring it up then it does sound like brownie points like you know And so just so you know, I don't have an Instagram Twitter Facebook anything Okay, I don't do Social media the way these other little Things you're dealing with do so he gonna take it like that like okay. You got so do you want to cook it? You probably your phone probably ain't got the data that might not be what so a man gonna take it a different way He could be like your phone ain't got no doubt on it. I want you got social media Or he gonna take it like what child you slap crazy cuz you ain't got Facebook and you ain't got Instagram What's wrong with you? So a man might think that you cuckoo for cocoa puffs because that's just so common You know, you've got Condoleezza rice and Michelle Obama got social most social media than you and you know, they classy You know, they busy. So you see them saying it don't actually benefit you not having those things So just bringing that up is a waste, but if he asked you you didn't bring it up That means you're not wearing it on your sleeve. He ain't wearing on your forehead So if he asked you and you tell him you don't have social media now, he's actually extremely happy about that Cuz I used to love my wife and how social media now she got social media. I Thought it was gonna have some problem, but I ain't got no problems. You know, she do what she needed to do but I just love seeing how no social media could like ma'am. I want to focus all the way on me Because when you get that social media, oh, look at this this good this dog She got now I got a dog running around here. Oh, look at this look at they remodeled that kitchen now I got to get read kitchen remodeled. Oh look at these shoes. Oh now. I got to get the shoe You said I mean social media cause problems, you know for a situation So honestly if the less social media somebody got a man actually like that unless you wearing it on your sleeve Pleasant smell of God bless you y'all hold on nine. Hold on. I see somebody keep asking a question. I'm trying to get to because I don't seem Okay, can you talk about divorce and guilt was cheated on Several times, but I feel kind of sorry for a husband who seems lost That's good. You got the love of Christ, but that's what you're gonna have to do Let Christ love him see you you trying to do what Jesus died on the cross for let let Jesus do his job And you move on with your life That's only I am a Baptist and I have a relationship Relationship but what I want to do is for my parents to see his parents But they are private and don't want to see anyone. What can I do? I okay? So your question getting deeper and deeper and deeper sharing you probably gonna need a session When you came just express that whole message in that right there You might need a session, but see this thing you actually You got to get beyond tradition every woman a lot of women not every woman a lot of women won't a wedding Guess what me and my wife got married in The courthouse it was $79 And they I think they had a special $79.99. Oh, no, it was probably $75 But we got married in the courthouse Nobody was there but her mama because it was in the middle of the day. My parents was working So you see what I mean, but look at our marriage today 13 years So your parent my parents didn't meet my wife parents I ain't meet my wife daddy until we have been married five years and he was in her life He sent him money every month. They talked he she wasn't raising the house with him I ain't meet him till we have been married five years. You should I mean a marriage between y'all two Don't get so caught up in all the tradition and all of that right there Cuz you'll be done block your blessing Latoya, I took your life code certification and I'm working on my second book. God bless you I'm divorced and haven't had any luck with relationships any advice Well, the good things before you start coaching clients. You probably ought to do a session or two yourself and That's what we could talk about your relationships And and really getting specific to your situation. I'm pretty sure it's a few things you need to do, but That's a specific situation So, um, I can't really see you But it might be just one tweak it might be one tweak It might be the way you're dressing might be the way you're doing your makeup might be the way you're thinking what you're telling yourself It could be one thing that does that's blocking your blessing And so that's you gonna have to dig a little deep on that Chrissy. God bless you Hi, Tony dad been very helpful and I see the VIP line getting too long now y'all hold on on the VIP line Let me get some of the free before 11 into the club on sat this Saturday night So y'all y'all, you know, God bless y'all y'all blessing me But they ain't really what I'm doing it for I'm on here I'm trying to get to the to all the questions and y'all popping up that I appreciate y'all now God bless you I ain't now you hit me. I want you to understand But I'm feeling a little overwhelmed by this fast these questions coming in here. I'm like I'm in the read and be I'm like Keela in the read and be Hi, Tony dad been very helpful During this time been calling me babe slash baby Dad oh your son dad. Okay. You got creative. I just thought that was a space okay Son dad been very helpful during his time been calling me babe and baby when answering my questions Ask him to not call me this he says I'll always be his baby says last three months been hard for him as well feelings coming up I Tell you what tell him let the feelings let him keep feeling But if you know, he's in your past leave him in your past and don't worry like you ain't got to get into the semantics you ain't got to get in the tip attack look the situation like that and You just taking if he calling you baby, okay, just flush it down the toilet Let it go in one end out the other don't even Show him give him the satisfaction that you paying attention to that and that you getting in your feelings by that cuz then he said Okay, I got her cuz she could just ignore that. I got her, you know The man who handle her food that might done the drive-thru say hey, babe, you know She could just ignore that boy. You give it attention. It's show him He still could get under your skin still could get to you Sean Oh God bless you now Sean and you was in the first Q&A this morning. I remember your name now I remember your name cuz that's the unique with that you in in a I told now I've been with my spouse for five years and he keeps saying he wants to Fix our relationship been with your spouse for five years and he keeps saying he wants to fix our relationship But lie and choose friends over me. What could I possibly do in this situation? You in the situation that's kind of gonna take like a real real conversation like in a time of peace like tonight Since being that we all in the house sitting and talking to him and After that if he don't if you don't really get what you want from him Then you in a situation where you need that two week break because you say spouse So I'm guessing you mean a husband So a husband You just don't walk away from as easy as you do a boyfriend if there's a boyfriend you about it up But being that it's your husband You gonna do your two week break first to see if that's gonna hit him. You don't tell his two bro two weeks You tell him I'm leaving I'm leaving and so he gonna feel like them two weeks as an eternity But in there that's when you're gonna get to see if he chasing you his true colors If he willing to work and then you come back and you got a little more leverage because what I got to do They get you back and and then you say, okay, we got to do this this that this that that you said, I mean Wow somebody bless me So Lord, it's been good to you Jastel 45. God bless you. Thank you Tony. You ain't even asking no question God bless you Lord boy. Oh, I don't like Lord. I don't like double portion bless everybody who them bless me Lord Everybody all y'all bless because it's the bless tribe. So that means you on you on the membership So I really appreciate y'all Janine. I got married in the courthouse also 17 years later Filed divorce. God know it was a heck of a journey. I'm 36 years old 14. Thank you Thanks for you and RC Blake. I don't know who the person is if that's your pastor whoever, but You probably ought to thank him instead of, you know, thanking me for him or her So, you know, make sure you thank them too now But I see what you're saying. God bless you. I'm gonna be here. I appreciate that blessing Somebody I feel like sometimes people be paying people go over there. Hey, go over there. They live and say hey Drop my name Y'all got it's a lot of craze. They'll have it on going out here now How to deal with a man who does not need you? Sorry, your God bless you How to deal with a man who does not need you and he brings a lot to the table and has a lot to offer Working on my three bees He hits me He hits me every couple days Now You talking about Hit you up I'm not chasing him, but I am interested Okay, I'm thinking you talking about hitting you up the way you wrote that You should say he calls me now that cuz you mean right now we locked in right now So that right there means something different because they say that's on the uptick all this hill They say it's on the rise right now being that with this situation we in so I miss read that Yeah, well, I'll tell you this you can't take it to heart if a man hit you up every couple days you can't take that heart because It's it's when a man hit you up every day That's when it really means something but you can't take that heart when it when it's every other day Just because you could be on the roster But it's a big difference between being on the roster and being You know a star player Hottone is there such a thing as being too available to a man when dating For example answering the phone every time he calls. It's it's not if you're available If you're available, you're not too available when you you driving and you making your turn and Your phone ringing and you hello hello And all of that now you too available You know you taking in you in church in the pastor preaching and he calling you and you Hello And you took on out of church now you too available so you got to understand that, you know, but if you available Don't take in Don't take in, you know Be there When you tied up, but if you free then it's cool. Don't play my games and ignore the phone if you if you free Tony when you say you post on Twitter 17 times a day, what are you? Exactly posting like different quotes or sayings or what? Yes, I was posting quotes I'll do that no more because I don't built my brand But when I was building my brand every hour from the time I wake up I would start posting at 7 30 a.m. And I would post every hour on the hour 7 30 8 39 30 10 30 11 30 12 30 1 30 2 30 3 34 35 36 37 38 39 30 10 30 and then at 10 30 I would post from 10 to 10 30 But I would post every five minutes almost like a little tweet sermon and that's what I was doing I was posting quotes. I would analyze my heart see what's on my heart And I would post a quote from what I was feeling in that moment And so because of that I have over 30,000 original quotes online and A lot of my quotes all around people use of them and it's just because I was I was posting so many quotes Tony can a man change? Can a man change his young ways aka? Not a grown man yet. It's been seven months and I see change, but it's not good enough yet. Should I be patient? If he's making progress If he stops making progress Or if he starts going backwards, then you got to get up get going Can be what's Tony cash out? Hey, God bless you. I showed you why you trying to look out trying to Try to look out for me. God bless you. I show Tim Henson God bless you Tim Huh Tim this a Tim this a Tim somebody on the wrong. Oh Okay You using your daddy page for this a guy like on Insta He only post him flying. He's a footballer You live outside of America footballer. I have never seen a girl on his Insta. How I get his attention on female He follows no one You might be reaching a little too high on that one. Okay He posed pictures of him flying So he got a jet or he got flight money so He's a footballer that sound like soccer They make a whole lot of money Yeah, that yeah, you can't get nobody attention like that And a lot of time when you don't see a man always got a woman a man always got a woman It's one out of a hundred thousand men That's completely completely single meaning he ain't touching no woman. He ain't courting no woman He ain't dating no woman. He absent it or he a virgin A man always got a woman just because you don't see a woman on Instagram that just because he keeping his option open to cheat When a man showing you his woman on Instagram It's for one of a few reasons But when you don't see a woman that don't mean nothing at all trust when I tell you We just don't give another shout out to this hundred dollar blessing that that uh Jastel bless you Jastel. They stay let now you get that honey. They let your Donations stay up there all night. You and me I long hit a mart. They still got your donation up there God bless you Karen war is god bless you Hi Tony. I've been having a hard time letting go of a failed Talking stage it ended a month ago. He wasn't ready for a relationship. So I ended it He hasn't reached out and with this quarantine. It's been hard to let go I understand that but what you have to do is you just got to feel You got to feel it. You can't run from it. You got to run through it So you got to feel it and just sit there and think about it as long as you could think about him Just sit there and think about him. Just sit there and think about him and feel it and then Look at the lessons while you watching him in your mind That's like what I call watching game film Like when you play a football game basketball game and then you go back the day after and you look back at the game You watch the film to see what you did right and wrong That's what you do as you thinking about him get some out of it by looking at what red flags Did you miss what things did you do wrong? What things did he do wrong? What did you overlook? Get the lesson from it and the more you think about it And you process it and you get the messages Then that's when it's going to bring healing And you're going to be able to move forward But don't try to run from it. See a lot of people just try to be busy busy busy busy busy And they're trying to run from it. You can't run from it. You got to run through it So you got to feel it so that you can heal it. You cannot heal it unless you admit that you feel it Breanna god bless you. How can I find out? How I am being perceived by males. I do not have male acquaintances to ask you gonna have to do coaching You're gonna have to sign up for coaching With me You got to sign up for coaching That's a that's a coaching Uh That's what happens in coaching, you know, I get three pictures Three different pictures some it'd be a headshot full outfit Like when you stepping out on Friday night to go out to eat and I give you the feedback of what that says to a man And we identify if that's what you try if that's the message you trying to send off now me Being a march baby is what I read. I don't believe in all this, but I read it one time Say that you're good at you know seeing They're reading people and seeing a head and I I just have a gift where when I'm on the call Sometime coaching the woman she showed me her her boyfriend Or the dude she talking to and I read him to her and she'll say wow How in the world did you know? He did the nasty movies. I just could look at him and tell I just could read that It just give god gave me so I'll be able to tell you Who you are What you want and what you've been through in your life And how what you them been through in your life Got you dressing the way you dressing and sending off the energy that you sending off And then you'll be able to say, okay, is this what I want to say or if I need to make a couple tweaks X blocked X is blocked and he knows it. He won't stop reaching out. Will he stop? Eventually he gonna stop, but he probably not gonna stop until He not blocked. He have his fake page. He looking at you from his fake page Or from one of his somebody he knows page. He logged into another page. So he ain't blocked. He blocked on his page But he's still watching you he probably not gonna stop reaching out until he sees A post that kind of insinuates that you want to date Don't post another man. Now don't post no man on your page because you can't be posting a man until you know as your man For real for real until he posting you Stephanie Jackson Tony, how can a man find me and is not on social media or dating sites? And that is a godly man and that is husband material You got to get out the house You got to create a routine and you got to get out the house cocoa our dog name is bella The dog name bella the middle name is marley the dog name bella marley gaskins. Now, how do you come up with that name? I don't know But I like I like the little doll. I like the little doll. It's only it's love So it's only gonna get four pounds. It's a murky. It's a murky. It's a bontis and a yorkie So I like the little dog It can't do no real damage because it only get up to four pounds. So I like that I could one of the old big old some mouth slob and big old boo doll I wouldn't have been able to do this do that but this little doll. I'm all right with it Um, Stephanie, you're gonna have to create a schedule. What that means is Friday night Now right now you can't have no schedule So you can't worry about this But when you get back to normal life when we get back to normal life That means you're gonna have to Friday night. You're going out to the lounge Saturday morning 10 a.m. You're going to starbucks, you know, or to the internet cafe Then you go into the gym You go into the gym three to five times a week you in the hour Then you're going to cafe for 15 30 minutes and get your smoothies sit down Have your little bite to eat So you got to create a out of the house schedule And then whenever wherever you go gas station grocery store What you have to do is you got to have your phone in your purse Your head got to be up a pleasant look on your face And your head got to be on the swivel watching where you're going That's when you're going to be Approachable, but right now is when you need to be preparing So right now what you could do to get ready for your husband You need to do 100 in-house squats a day. You need to do 100 squats a day You need to run in place do imaginary jump rope Three minutes at a time You need to be reading you need to be praying you need to be working on your business You got to be preparing because that's what your husband doing right now. He prepared Let me see Lenny or Lanny God bless you if I'm saying your name wrong means bless you for your blessing. Hey Tony I'm 33 met someone new in my hometown Last month has no kids just like me. I live in a different state But he's been consistent with giving me his time. How do I avoid not wasting my time? I like him a lot You got to evaluate how much time he gives you So if he's giving you his time and you talking to him every day In some form And then the conversation Is real conversation Like he want to face time with you He want to sit and talk y'all talking an hour, you know, and then he's going to get creative You know, he he want to send you some from some flowers, you know He he's showing you that he's investing time in you not a red flag now The red flag is if he go to asking you For nasty pictures. Okay, if he go to asking for nasty pictures, that's when you know It's something up, but if he just getting to know your mind You're in a good place Kelsey god bless you kelson came back through with a blessing kelson. I felt like I seen you now I just ordered Your pre-order your pre-ordered your book. Thank you for your response earlier much appreciated. Hey god bless you If y'all have not do me this favor now My publisher they still making us publish the book right now in this time. It come out april 7 Pre-order a woman's influence if you don't mind That'll really bless me. I wrote the book and then my wife she wrote Each in each chapter. She add her voice to it At the end of each chapter, you know Two three pages. Yeah, I think it'll bless you Charmel god bless you. Thank you. Thank you god bless you Sabrina God bless the poor out of their life. Lord. Just like you can read people can most guys read girls. Absolutely. Absolutely What makes guys decide from first glance slash interactions that he will be serious with her if he's If he's the quintessential player. Bless you, Tony Okay, I'm trying to see if I got my little dictionary in here because I'm now I don't do you know How you using quintessential or you using it the way I use some words the way it just sounds good right there but um I don't want to lie to you. So let me pull up dictionary.com But a guy can read you every man reads women and a man will read you just like that. Okay He reading you from head to toe now. This is the thing That's the thing and the book is available on audible Just seeing that in the it is on audible So if you got the iphone you can download the audible app or any phone probably got you can download the audible app It's going to be on audio books on your iphone Now let me look up quintessential see if you actually don't know what that word mean See how you spell it in there too But I've been looked up the quintemplate player So Representing the most perfect or typical example of quality or class. Okay, so bring them so bring them with the school now Now it sounded like that's what it meant, but I had to double check Now I'll tell you what the thing about men and this is hard to hear this hard to hear this is very hard to hear now Amen Amen is He's visual a man is visual first 9 out of 10 men He's visual so what he's looking to see Is he's looking to see that your temple Is well taken care of and presented with confidence and when I say When I say Well taken care of what I mean by that is that you comfortable and you confident everybody Temple gonna be different But he's looking to see if you confident and you comfortable Do you take care of your hair? Do you take care of your skin? Do you take care of your nails? Do you dress appropriately? Do you take your clothing seriously? Even if you in workout clothes, do you take your clothing seriously? That's what he's looking for first And then from there he want to get to know you And that's why I always say keep your legs closed so that he really actually has to get to know you Kelly dark. God bless you in a long distance relationship and he used to call slash video more but since 19 he's working 12 to 16 hours a day He says he's saving up to fly here And for an engagement ring, but he's cut communication in half. Please help Well, I'll tell you this the flight so cheap. He don't need to save up He could buy a flight off well, I will work so That's a lot unless he live on the other side of the world, but even then they still ain't that expensive And then tell me he's saving up for engagement ring. Listen to me He lying to you. Okay. He lying to you because it's long distance What it is is He might not even be working Unless he might not even be working because he might be at house quarantine Unless he working the medical field, but what it is He didn't find him because y'all long distance. He didn't find him a quarantine buddy So he with her so much he can't call you till she get her work out in until she knocked out sleep That's what that is That's all that is because a man uh-uh a man ain't gonna let No woman that he really into Just go he ain't gonna just let you be really nearly out here He want to be on that line with you. You hear me? Listen to me Does that sound right? So I love life coaching ad on facebook for 25 all the you ain't see mine on there for 25 All and anybody who's selling one for 25 all You better run You better run I had a man tell me I walk and carry myself like I'm already taking but I'm not how do I fix that Is that why I don't get approached a lot? It could very well be if he's not lying to you Sometimes men just say stuff for the sake of conversation just to strike up a conversation So you can't take everything a man says to heart But walking taking mean that you walking with your head down or you on your phone or you walking too fast That's what walking taking would mean What does it mean when men say you're you're a different breed should I be offended? Again, it's a conversation starter You a lot of time don't mean nothing But it's a conversation starter. So what that means is Your different breed just mean he he want to flatter you he want to flatter you because he he He's trying to get you to drop your guard if he could flatter you make you laugh make you smile You'll relax. You could drop your guard, but It don't mean nothing a man will tell Every quote-unquote breed that they're a different breed And and it'll be He's just talking Brianna was with my ex for one and a half years He broke up with me three times over petty disagreements in the first five months Each breakup lasting A day I became insecure in the relationship that I ended it was he training me. Yes, he was Yes, he was And that is a form of A soul Exhibit a you can't deal with that you can't let a man keep running in and out your life and want to break up A lot of time a man want to break up just to have him a hall pass. That's just a free day the way he could go back to his ex You hit me get that in And then come on back to you get that in with you So that's what that is a lot of times a man will break up for a day just so he could do what he want to do It's it's his hall pass When he when he go to doing that Just let them keep all Going by this business. So don't let them come back again Cheryl just pre-order. Hey god bless you god bless you Let's say everybody who didn't pre-order that book Remember, they don't charge your card until it'll authorize your card, but it's not going to charge you until april 6 so y'all make sure That the card you ordered on you don't transfer some money in there because I don't want because You hit me I don't want to get that 35 all the fee That 25 all the fee then be talking about you need a charger bike. So make sure you transfer some money to it now Tony, I'm 40 And the paradigm and being approach has changed Only somebody's Power power approach got my age wants younger women What can be done? You're right. It has changed and the paradigm. Okay. Now y'all y'all try to show off your degrees the night And not a power power approach. I'm not sure, you know, exactly what that is The guy's your age want a younger woman and that's the lesson though for everybody that's you know getting seasoned of age You're gonna notice some men want a Uh paw paw Okay approach, you're gonna notice a lot of men looking for a younger lady to get his groove back So what you're gonna have to do is now men still approaching You just got to make sure That you are approachable. You got to make sure that you're giving off the energy you want to give off But then also what you have to do is be open to meeting a man online But not online dating Understand, it's a difference between meeting a man online And meeting a man on online dating. Do not do no online dating. Do not do no online dating people Later just be writing all the time about online day online listing that's online dating the trash until I Get the money to make my online dating out y'all gonna see how it's different now I might out gonna be different I'll have to make one But I'm waiting on that money because they call about a quarter million dollars just for a raggedy one So the real one be two three million dollars to bill y'all ain't know that But and that's why they got to charge you. So listen, don't do no online dating. But this is what you do You get your instagram you get your facebook When you get to that instagram you get to that facebook Now one of y'all coming to a quarter million we could talk Now you get your instagram you get your facebook now When you on there and you posted in your story It's going to show on people popular page when you posting every day Your quotes what you eat for breakfast you're going to start to show up on me and popular page You're going to start again dm's So now it's another way of meeting people online but not online dating online dating send a whole other message Some younger men that want older women got mommy issues leave that young man And wait on god for the one you write stephanie jack Let me make sure I find the next question now. I'm looking for I'm looking for the one with hashtag q in front of that now. So y'all Let me see jessica. I'll find you we broke up two months ago Hey, y'all I got 20 more minutes now. I got to get going We broke up two months ago Have 16 month old I've not let him see her in one month because he would manipulate me saying he's not going to pay for daycare If I didn't do what he wanted what he want told him to get a lawyer for Visits I feel bad. You can't feel bad now Now you could feel bad, but you got to keep doing what you're doing. You're doing the right thing. You're doing the right thing Law you up Law you up go to get to the courthouse Let the court tell me what kind of visitation you could get because I'm not going to be your pawn on your chess board That's what you got to let him know. Don't don't let a man play with your heart. Don't let a man try to Get over on you now. Is it reasonable to expect a man to call every day? Yes Absolutely, what if he calls every other day? It ain't real or every two days. It ain't real Should I assume he is actually interested? No, he's not You a roster filler when a man calling you every other day he either immature trying to play mind games or He juggling you with his relationship or other women that he he's courting and it's a waste of your time What does low self-esteem look like on a man? What are the signs? Doing too much doing too much When a man doing too much, you see what I mean? So like If I had low self-esteem, I'd be trying to show my money in my in my outfits I have on always have on my diamond chains. I have all my diamond my diamond watch and my diamond grill I'll be you know, I'll be shooting letting you You know how people get in their car and they got the thing, you know And they talk it like this on the video. I'm spraying my neck just imitate. They being a yeah So what are how y'all doing today? Yeah So yeah, I just want to pop in and shoot a video and they trying to let you see the rr Or the Mercedes back there. That's what it'll look like. He doing too much You shouldn't even be able to tell you should be able to tell he take care of himself now But he ain't trying to Float and show everything like how do you rappers be doing? That's insecurity. That's low self-esteem And they tell my oh, I got to sell I got to do that to sell Sell albums man. J. Cole. I had a look in a mess and still I sell 90% of artists and how And let that hell go Daughter of a kid just clothes on my first house. So now I can send you a blessing. God bless you Thank you for that blessing Thank you for that blessing And you know what that was smart now because when you trying to close on the house They do look at every transaction. I remember talking to one of my friends who look over the loans And he at the party just laughing and joking about how somebody got la fitness coming out in the next charge is burger king And I'm like man, you just ain't he'll talk about people business people bank transaction ain't that supposed to be confidential But that's what they do. So you're right. They would have been like now this $50. How often does this come out? And what was this for? So that was real smart of and I thank you and congratulations on your house. That's that's that's amazing May God continue to bless you and pour his favor out on you by the boys a new video game. Hey, God bless you You know, I'm sure we're gonna do that too My my six-year-old Joe asked me for a new video game because he come in here in my office and play on on the xbox in my home office and uh Been asking me for a game. So i'ma tell him Daughter of a king bought you a game Tony should men be courting the whole entire time Take royal Should men be courting the whole entire time until it's time to bring up being in an exclusive relationship Courting really means Trying to win you, you know taking you on dates calling you, you know, just leading in the initiation Initiating the contact, you know and being silver is that's what courting is So actually courting never stops Courting never stops. I when I get off here me and my wife we sit down and we watch us a movie a lot of time We'd be too tired like old folks and we later and we talk and we watch us a move I'm still courting my wife 13 years in America. So understand that that never stops. But yes Um somebody Now hold on Alasha v Just pre-ordered the audible book. God bless your question. I have began to Be not so giving in my current relationship. So Here recently I tried to turn the tables getting to be not so giving in my current relationship So here recently I tried to turn the tables I don't know what you mean I don't know if you mean turn the tables meaning You're gonna be giving or you trying to turn the tables where you want him to give now if that's what you mean You're gonna learn about that in the book. You just pre-order Where it's um, the chapter is called let him love you And basically what this means is you let the man give You met you let the man lead you let the man do this. Okay, and then you reciprocate You reciprocate Now, let me see Shamiya Shamiya got your question now You ain't got to post it Shamiya husband separated Was staying with mom After threatening for a divorce because I didn't allow him to move back in Because of threats of divorce found out he bought a house through social media. He didn't tell me Okay, all right Um Do you is that a question? Um It sound like to me he done It's all done. He didn't moved on He was threatening divorce. That's what he wanted to do man not gonna threaten divorce If he want to be with you I don't know if you were staying with your mama or he was staying with his mama But not even bought a house through social media Which you can't believe everything you see on social media now He could know you watching social media and he just giving you a little show Trust me now. Trust me that social media stunting gets really really deep You hear me? He'll be in the whole airbnb talking about his new house So until you know for show till you drive past the three months from now and see his car there And you still don't know if he bought it because he could be rented. So But that's that's that's your husband y'all separated y'all going y'all separate ways. So don't don't spend too much time thinking About that What's your take on men who were raised by their grandparents compared to their actual parents always find them a bit different? Yeah, um It's all it just depends on whether they got love whether they got love or not But at the same time it could be a little different just because they got a void You and your biological parents not in your life You got a void and so everybody else talking about my mom about me this my dad about me this and then You got to be saying my grandma about me this and like oh, why you why your daddy ain't by And then they got to be you know my daddy. I don't know my daddy So they got to go through that over and over and over. So it's gonna be a void in their heart So you got to understand that sometimes but be honest with you Being raised by the grandparents could be better because it's more stability It's more wisdom. They haven't been taught more pure love. They didn't seem so it's a little different If a man acts distant should a woman say something or stay silent um That's a tough one because it depends on if you want the relationship or not If you want the relationship then you got to speak to it and say hey, you've been a little distant What's going on and then see if you believe that answer If you know the relationship has ran its course then just stay silent and go on about your business Alaysha, I said to him When I need to depend on you, I should be able to he tells me that's what he doesn't want me to do Responded so quickly. How do I take it? I said to him when I need to depend on you I should be able to he tells me That's what he doesn't want me to do Responded so quickly. How do I take it? Alaysha you tripping me up now you don't need your session And you might need your little set so you could further explain to me what you're saying Continue. Yeah, you need a session. You're trying to get a whole session $15 session two set You're gonna need a session because I'm gonna have to add a lot of questions for you Um, my email is support at tonygasson.com. I don't do email coaching So if you email an end it need to be a business question like how do I sign up for coaching? How you know, what's the coupon code for the life code certification? I don't do email coaching because that just at too much time and it just and that's one-on-one So if it's one-on-one it got to be on a Professional session. That's why I do this so that it could be for a lot of people In the beginning he penned on me so much and I gave so much to him So when he said that I was thrown off So it sounded like you saying He doesn't want you to depend on him All right, I'll get the session you need to be a member of the bless tribe because you could be typing all this For free if you are a member of the bless tribe now you didn't pay for a year Or you'd pay for a year and a half for bless tribe, you know membership And I'm still lost But yeah, yeah, you're gonna go a little deeper Is your man knowledge for all races of men? um Man is man To be honest with you men is men Whether it's billy Or whether it's boucher Men is men or whether it's barok Or whether it's oh my god. Oh my god Men is men. So to be honest with you All of them Going to tell the same amount of lies all of them cheating all of them going to be The same kind of energy a man a man going to be a man I used to think That certain races was better than others Until I got older and I started to realize Oh Y'all white man nasty too y'all woman just stay because she Need that check she wanted a family to the club. So she just go ahead and you know put on up with it and she got you by them by that scroll them and She finna run you through that wrangler because you know if you divorce her You finna be paying alimony at your neck So I learned every different race nationality Do the same stuff Can you take a man serious if you are dating him while pregnant by another man That you are not with I met a man in 2018 right before I got pregnant by a distraction Could he be the one? No No No No Not in a real way a man is not going to love you with another man, baby in your stomach Not in a real way. Now there are rumors that That type of love making is said to be better So some men that's maybe a fantasy may be a notch in his belt Now that's if you're not currently pregnant You just talking about you met him while you was praying not even came back around But the child already born and all that then That might be a little different, but Very rarely Delana Houston Fitness mom came in here fitness mom say hey now I used to give 10 and 12 and 15 dollars to ask these people questions Hey We got to keep a budget right now while we're in here 19. So hey Tony here go five fitness mom I'm praying a blessing for you because how you be looking out for people How early do you expect a man to call every day? now This is the type of question y'all ladies be asking me Now I said a man ought to call you every day Then this why I be telling y'all Y'all make my job hard now you want to know how early do he need to call this and sister As long as he called you as long as he called you Because he might sleep in he might be working A lot of times what players do now is that good morning beautiful that hello beautiful, you know Morning love, you know, that's what players because they know women Understand They know women think They know women think that means something So that's what they're gonna do but as long as he calling you every day You know, it ain't got to be by 7 a.m. It ain't got to be by 10 a.m You know if and a man who like you now a man who really into you He gonna text you when you wake up. He gonna text you when you wake up And he want to he gonna ask you when can you talk? So if that's on your lunch break if that's out to work if that's before bed He want to get on your schedule if he's into you and when he get on your schedule now He want to hold you on that phone as long as he could keep you on that phone if he's into you If that's two hours, he want that too If that's 30 minutes, he want that 30. You hear me if he's really into you And and and when he gets your number He gonna he gonna text you that same night if he into you. Hey, just checking to make sure you made it in safely Thank you so much for the connection Please let me know when maybe it's a good time for us to get on the phone tomorrow How to heal from an ex-baby dad of eight years pretty black you're gonna That's a that's a broad question. So you're gonna need to Continue doing the work you're doing watching these videos And then add your books in there add your courses in there and add your coaching in there Just add what you need to add until you start to get to the place to where You feel you learning and you've grown but that's a real You know broad question because it also depends on how long the relationship how deep the relationship do y'all have Children was it any you know real crazy stuff going on All of that goes into it question how to remain open to dating after so much hurting dating You got to get the new knowledge. You got to start all the way over and you got to get the knowledge When you get the knowledge it'll give you the confidence to move forward because now You feel confident with being able to read and recognize red flags early Talking for four weeks. Hey y'all got a few more minutes on here now talking for four weeks Every day all day since being quarantined. He hangs out with friends One day on the weekend Saturday or Sunday and doesn't call for a block of time I feel like he is using me to pass time No, if he talked to you, um For the last four weeks every day all day He getting to know you some happening there now. He getting to know you now How are you going to be able to tell if it's real or not is what's coming After this time if you go to ask me for nasty pictures Okay, if you go to ask me for a business investment for a loan For some kind of money now. Okay. That's totally different But Don't don't get caught up. You know just as long as he asked me for nothing. Wow Then that's some It could be something actually there Hi, Tony. Do you think it's good to create a personal website even if you don't have a clear business plan yet It's good to buy your domain. You ain't got to create a whole website But it's good. You could go to go daddy.com or bluehost.com and just buy your name.com. It's good to have Got a couple more minutes. Let me see how I get One or two he texts. Good morning every day. No phone calls. I'm okay with that because he's not my type But I wanted to know what you think I blocked him So you asked about a man that ain't your type and you blocked them Sheila you're taking up questions. Okay Come on now Y'all got to do better And the man don't call you. Come on now. Sheila Y'all see how y'all are doing Just have me just eat nothing time She reads our most single man spending quarantine with someone regardless of social distancing The beyonds which I don't know because I don't know that that many single men but Nine out of ten times. Yes, because a man want him something to touch Especially if he's not single an abstinent or a virgin. Yeah, he want him something to touch So In a lot of cases. Yes, and I'm just hoping that he ain't coughing on her. She ain't coughing on him But yeah, a lot of I'm trying to get somewhere and the beyonds which ain't nobody paying that social distancing. No tension I because I had to run out to get me all essential And the screeches look like Mardi Gras. I'm like what the world But I live in Florida. So, you know, our old raggedy governor took 90 years to tell people to stay home So a lot of a man ain't gonna let no social distancing to keep him From them pancakes now listen to me last question or that's a Blessing, this is the last one. I'm not look at key that I'm popping. He'll bless try have a blessed great evening Tony you and your wife and children be blessed and safe. Good night. God bless you So bring I ain't even see y'all up there. I ain't see that. Um Um Before though 777 God bless you. I ain't see you up there. Forgive me I was trying to get the people in the club free before 11. I ain't even see you up there before though. God bless you Pour out in the light Sabrina man social media tells a different story Immature screen name shirtless pictures. Do we trust his online life or in person? No, trust him online. Trust him online Because who he is online? That's who he is You ain't showing immaturity and all of this here online and then you mature You know, that's just like me trying to say i'm this and i'm i'm this man Then you go on my page and you see a bunch of means with cursing you see You know women on their slapping cheeks. You see me, you know getting drunk you see all of that What you see online from a man That's who he is Can I be a health and fitness mentor on my mentor dot life? Absolutely when you sign up you'll see like a hundred different categories and health and health and wellness or health and Fitness coach and health and wellness their options on there you get to choose three options Can a relationship work if the ex-wife Chris king god bless you for that blessing if the ex-wife they have kids together hates you No, I didn't break them up Um, yes, it can work it can work Yep, it can work. It just depends on how much he gives her How much you know room and space he gives her in his life Hey, let me try to make sure ain't nobody hitting with no buzzer beat her I think I got the last buzzer beat on the health and fitness. Hey god bless y'all. I really appreciate it Charmel slaughter Did you put a was you at it at the top or was you Charmel say I didn't get Charmel put your question in there. I'll make it my last question because I'm I'm scrolling up, but I didn't see it If you post your question your question don't sit there and wait for me. It keep it keep going up And it looked like you just I see your name here, but that's just a post Well, I tried to find it But I can't find it man. That's a lot of stuff in now Let's learn. Ain't god bless you. Thank you for all you do. I took your coaching. Hey god bless you Yeah, they got this old. Look, I can't see everything Hey god bless y'all. I appreciate you. I tried to find you these questions. They go too fast and you know And it's so small So I can't I can't see everything but um Tomorrow she just posted again. Enjoy you See everybody else and their mama still posting So I can't see Y'all got your grandma and your auntie and he'll post it too. So I'm scrolling Okay, this is my last question wanted to know how to start dating after 27 years in a relationship The way you start dating after 27 years in a relationship. It will fold is with full coaching sessions After 27 years, you got to hit the reset button all the way because think about this. It's like Going to prison and spending 27 years imagine somebody who went to jail in Uh, 1993 And now they get not Now they get not they if you went in in 1993 and you get out in 2020 It's like you done stepped into the Jetsons. You remember that you remember the Jetsons You remember the the show they got the flying cars That's what it's going to feel like for you when you get back out here in this dating world Because with all this social media with all this different access it and change men mentality and change men energy So you got to start all over again and get to that place Other than watching your videos and taking courses. What advice do you have for women in healing? Do the work But it's it's take work, you know Watch other people videos take other people courses read the books. That's that's that's how you heal, you know Laying out in the sun that ain't gonna heal you You know, you just praying that ain't gonna heal you the way you heal is to get new knowledge That's why I say that it ain't saying that trying to sell my courses I'm saying that because what you went through in your life You have a thought that you think this right here is love, but actually that's self-hate You think this right here is love, but that's insecurity So what you do by doing the work when you're watching the videos you reading the books You're going to seminars you're going to courses you're going to retreat You learning so now you taking The old and you replacing it with the new knowledge So now that you truly know what love is So you have to be able to get new knowledge to replace the old that you thought you knew And then when you get a new knowledge now, you're going to feel ready to move forward What's the number one thing to do for single women at home alone? Hey y'all I got to go now. I stopped posting these questions now I got to go Y'all know how how my heart is you post a question. I don't want to leave you hanging But y'all stop posting these questions now I'll turn the chat off on you You turn the chat off. No one thing to do for single women at home alone work on you Build your business build your business Now I said I need to go y'all just gonna keep posting questions Tony at what point will visits with other parent need to be monitored or involved in the court Son's father is teaching son to be deceptive and hide the things and says he can have him around Who he wants? You at that point You at that point Hey, I had turned chat off. God bless y'all remember make sure if if you Send in a question or you put a question in the comments. I'll see it and eventually And that's why I do my videos based on what you say So when you watch a video if you have a question just put the question in the comments And that's how I come up with my videos for the next day and so on Thank y'all so much. God bless you And we'll talk soon