 what's going on you guys welcome to the single guy channel i'm not the single guy but i have a question and that's hey loyd i've been going out and getting some success with women but i feel like my text game is not very good i either text too much and seem needy or text too little and come off as not interested right now i'm leaning towards take texting less but what is your opinion about how often i should text a girl how often should you text a girl this is a question that a lot of guys will ask me in different forms a lot of my clients want to know about this so i'm gonna answer this guy's question directly then i'm gonna tell you a better way of thinking about it and what you should actually do in your everyday life to kind of solve this issue okay so the first way is that yeah you know too many guys they worry about obviously if you're texting a girl all the time like blowing up her phone you know you're going to come off as a little needy desperate and sometimes a little too pushy okay and then sometimes guys will text not enough or are barely at all and the girl will just think he's either not interested aloof or just kind of antisocial or maybe an asshole okay and not in a good way so what should you do you kind of want to find that happy medium in between and guys are looking for that happy medium but the problem is is they're usually asking the wrong question for instance how often should i text a girl isn't usually the right question because you're focusing on something that's not in of itself that important okay now what do i mean by this i'm not saying how often you text a girl is not important at all i'm saying it's less important than other things for instance what you're texting her okay probably going to be a little bit more important how did you get the phone number what was the interaction like before you got the phone number what's the general feeling between the two of you okay those things are much more important and am i acting like a man am i doing the things that i want to do those things are much much more important a better question that i how often should i text a girl is how often do i want to text this girl do i want to text this person right now do i want to hear from them or do i not want to hear from them if you don't want to hear from them why are you texting them in the first place why are you trying to meet up with them in the first place okay so too many guys are ignoring these questions and focusing on something to try and get a specific result as if it's some sort of game or a cheat code okay people are much more complicated it doesn't necessarily work like that so if you're going to find a happy medium you probably should start asking yourself better questions now the way you should text a girl and the way you should do it is the way that you want to if you genuinely if i genuinely like a person and i want to hear from them i actually text them more generally i would say if a girl really likes you she probably wants to hear from you a lot okay she probably wants to hear from you more than you a little more than you would want to hear from from her okay so i would say if a girl really really likes me this is just me in my life if a girl really really likes me she probably wants to hear from me almost every day That's just me in my life, okay? Do I text her every single day? Sometimes, but not all the time. If I'm busy with something or if I'm doing something, then I don't do it, okay? But I try and make sure that I'm giving her attention. I try and make sure that I'm doing that because if you don't give someone enough attention, a lot of times they will go for another guy who will give them more attention. Now for some guys out there, I know that they are really, really busy with their lives. They don't like to spend a whole lot of time talking to pursuing women, and so they only text women to set up dates. I think that if that's what you want to do with you in your life, that's totally fine. Now your success rate, you're going to get less women doing that, but the women that you do get are going to work perfectly for you in your life. So if that's what you want to do, that's totally fine. I know some guys talk about that and, you know, it eliminates a lot of the games and all that stuff, so they just, they meet up with people. But like I said, if a woman really likes you, she probably wants to hear from you a little bit more than that. You know, asking her how her day is and that sort of stuff. Like, you know, women, if a high value guy is checking in on them and talking to them and giving them attention, they really, really like that. So just keep that in mind. It's more important to be a high value man and do that stuff than to be a low value guy and try and imitate what a high value man is doing based on their texting. Okay, so that's the other thing. The other thing too is that what are you texting this girl? If you're texting her, hey, what are you up to? Or good morning? Or happy Monday? Or all that? Like these kind of meaningless text messages that are not going anywhere. Like she's probably going to think that you're like either needy or just weird or she's just not going to want to meet up with you. That's not going to be the thing that she likes. So for that, if you're only texting her those things where there's no point and you're not actually getting towards a meetup or a hangout or you're not actually progressing the interaction or the relationship, then yes, you should probably not text her that much because it's, it's, you know, there's no reason to text her. But if you're not doing those things, if you're not progressing it forward at all, then it's probably not going to work out anyway. So what you want to do is you want to make sure that you're progressing it forward and that all of your messages are going towards the main point, which is trying to meet up with them. Okay, seeing how they are getting to know them, those sorts of things can also be done over text messages if you want to as well. But I find that the guys who asked this question, when I look at their messages, they're usually is kind of scattered. They're usually trying to text what they think the girl likes. And so they're following her lead. And every time you do this, you're not being masculine, you're not being a man. But what you should be doing is you should be going for the things that you want to do, texting her when you want to and not, not trying to figure out the secret formula of what she wants. Okay, so that's where I would go for. So there's a lot of other videos that I have about what a texture, how to text her, how to flirt over text, those kinds of things. So I would recommend that you check out those videos. But if you're wondering how often should you text a girl, really the answer is that however much you want to text her. Okay, as long as you're moving towards the goals that you're looking for. Okay, that's what I would say. And maybe a little bit more than that just because like I said, if you're a high value man, women want to women want your attention. That's what they're looking for. And if you don't do your due diligence, then they might not give you what you want. Okay. All right. Well, thanks for watching you guys. Tell me your opinions about this. I know people talk about this a lot. There's like, Oh, I would never text a girl twice or I only text a girl to meet up with dates. They have these, they almost go by it as if it's a religion. I'm a little bit more relaxed than that. So yeah, that's my opinion on this, you guys. If you want to get coached by me personally, there's a form down below. Click on the form, fill it out and if your application looks good, we'll get back to you. Thanks a lot you guys. Good luck out there.