 Hello, guys. Welcome to yet another episode of The Unfinished. This is where we cover trending stories and exploring and reveling mysteries happening in the country. I am your host for today Ayuvinjuguna. So, guys, our topic for today is a very interesting one and very controversial. We're going to talk about online dating. Online dating is arranging to meet somebody and possibly begin a romantic relationship with them. So, our question for today is going to be, do you think that online dating should be banned in Kenya? What's your thought on that? Please let us know. I'm Jamena Moses. You can call me MC Aguash. It's a very good question but I don't think it's the right thing for now because it will be a rush to ban it. So, instead of banning it, maybe you talk about regulating online dating. I don't think so. Why? I think people should explore the options. Now, some people are scared of meeting people one-on-one so they find it easier through online dating. So, that's my intake. Okay. No, why? Because many youths and teens meet there and in a lifetime you find many couples tell you maybe they met online and this is what has been helping them. I don't think so. I think somehow... What's your attitude about it, honestly, but for certain controls. Let's say if the app where you're doing that online dating can register. Amadizawit can keep track of your location with the person. Maybe, yes, you've chosen Nundum to on a date but if those apps themselves, zineza kwa na security, kama tise me this trading apps, una pata, some even take a photo of your ID, all that it a kwa secure kwen shamo security. So, by the time umengen an online dating platform and let's say just for you to be registered in there, a photo of your ID was taken and maybe the location where you live, I think such measures would either reduce or help when these actions happen because when they happen and you can't really trace when a person has put a fake photo honestly, you can't really say whether that is the person. I guess cut fishing really happens a lot but if a person literally had to take a photo of their ID just to register on the platform, I think that would cover a lot of cut fishing, fakeness and security matters on finding the person later on. Ya, for me I guess I agree they should be banned because looking at the side effects, the negative are more than the positive ones. For example, you can, when I meet two now and I'm too easy on my dating apps and anything can happen especially considering what has been happening recently. I guess as in kwa ziko, those are few lives that have been saved. Ya, so for me I agree they should be banned. I don't think it should be banned reasons. For some people it actually works out quite well. Like personally past experience, I met someone through Tinder. Ya, though it didn't work out but we are really close friends right now. I think yes or no because if we can say yes we can say yes to prevent cases. We can say yes to prevent cases. And no because people sometimes we are not partners online. We can say yes to family support. So it depends on someone. We can say yes to online, we can say yes to serious, we can say yes to jokers. We can say yes to asshole, we can say yes to serious business if they are looking for partners. For me, I think they should because at a time you want to find your perfect match then you see the profile. Maybe I do am say a jeka profile real. So I am keeping it in real life. I don't know who is this and you saw an Indian guy and you fell in love. So ya, they should be banned. It should not be banned because different people with different desires, different opinions. So kwaingine they see like kutafta keeping in style online is the easiest way. Na kwaingine they love the physical. So and to me, I think the online dating is what you have to require for wale when you are now gopa kutafta physically. Now it should be controlled. Because I think some for victims of negative things although some get married. It's easy, easy. If I could baniyo ajo. I feel I feel you space I could consider a book what's on is interact internationally. What's on is a pattern kujoana from globe na inakwa stuff fetisana. Ni kama maso omo like tunafa kujoana so like ni dating so na kujoana jo prefencia ako na taste kususaha. No, I don't think anything good can be regulated. Yeah, so online dating can be regulated because kama kuna tuntu kakufanya vitumbaya other than that wuki patiyana info kwa kwa ni ni ni twadze kwa mtandao so like you can be tracked in case you do anything bad kwa wul kwa na intentions baya. Na kwa wul kwa na good intentions na the other party piail kwa na good intentions it can lead to something good. It should not be banned. It is on being people are grown people are grown and as much as there is online dating there are others who can't face maybe they had their trauma from the first incident where they met and face to face and now they prefer online but they just have to be cautious. Not really I don't feel like online dating should be banned here in Kenya because some people it has worked very well but some people it has not worked so I feel like online dating should not be banned here in Kenya because some people met people do meet in different platforms so I feel like it should not be banned. Yo satu tachiya ma proa yo sektakama wile uneza kwa na smartphone yam tu iwako alafu na monitora bitona access yes so apota consult maybe you'll you guys will need to we'll need to consult the IT guys and those who can fix such things ways which you can use to regulate online dating sindio that's my thought No I don't think it should be banned because for some of us it in our work yeah 20 years cause me no nanga like here in the west side of time you what when online dating nga patumetafi wadim po me ito na dima me ito you may be there you talk sometimes wengia waila wanangi kwa zuna para sita tiyako so me ika recommend that they're not helpful they're not helpful kataka ziko helpful to some percentage 10% of people but none alike na fawukwa banned na fawukwa banned ya kwa zna jua anigizuri pade na msem jua ne for long time then na date kiyom na jua nasile me na mpapatana me jua na fawande you moving that's not good personally on my opinion about online dating I feel like online dating should not be banned I feel like people should have choices to make you know let them explore decide if I want to do this online dating or if it doesn't work for them secondly I feel like the government should put a fee for everyone that wants to do this online dating thing number three I feel like you know people need to be more cautious more careful before meeting strangers from the internet I feel like you should have done your complete research before letting your guard down and meeting a stranger from the internet onto our next question is why do you think that most ladies are victims of online dating myself as a lady first impressions when we go to the online sites we see the profile pictures I have my own perspective of the kind of person that I want to date the kind of person that I want to meet so like from the first perspective when I see you I see your looks and what I'd like to know more about you and that will force me to follow you up I don't know what to say maji kujipi anasaan okay lack of satisfaction honestly because those in yambi omans yajona machali kabla inga kwa tingi I think umtua anawana labdawa nyanapata hawa kuyo klasen ataka and I've created online datapatamzungu flani atamsap tamse akona ligiflani doflani kategoriflani hence one thing more actually gives them less because I think nimamboya too much options I think to niwa kukontrol options so kwa satisfied ladies are more vulnerable according to me most of the time masyana naji kali anga makwao na adjuki kwa anga human beings are social beings sendio you need other people you need to interact with other people most of the time masyana anga kwa that's their primary role so for her to experience the outside world most of them anga internet ya so I think what one exploiting give their vulnerability juu piya ukipata anga asya ngingi niwa na timbi anga ukunje like okosofri na people na awakwangi susceptible to those things ya so it's vulnerability ya lafupiya men on the other hand like matikavituza marakana rahisi so anga iniwa kamao upochnitia ko exploit noot sinika sababu madem asya si ok madem atkwangi satisfied most of the time so tundaktafta Samoan manyata fitting kwa she stay true so ya because no on editing it's no you can't trust people there's a lot of cut fishing there's a lot of fake pictures no people are being fake over there no we exaggerate a lot so na onna we can't even trust what you're seeing can be difficult ya I can say ya because ladies sana sana how ando watu na onna target wazipata online manoma na target iwa it's very hard so ladies are very at the victims of online dating hawa jipe hangi time me at least could get to know that person alafu I should advise those who use the online dating apps ekifika yo patiaku meet onambia yo close people maybe kwenye meagrim ta meet or kitu ka aiyo I think they are most of the victims are ladies not only ladies but but most victims are ladies I think it's because it's because they are prone to maybe being hard harassment and alafupia they could be victims because of the situation ya life say the economic situation people take extreme measures ama risks kupata at least something to put food on the table so na dem maybe aneza kubali kutumi kama going for a blind date ilia patedo sindio ya na maybe waziji ulem tu na date intensionia keninini kuna atupia aneza kwa nataka tu tu ama aneza ua wafa ni rituals na bodi pati zaw we have seen such cases siu tu kwa movi ji life say zi ni kama move ni kama drama na ni real sindio ya that's my thought about that according to me I think some of the ladies they are desperate so they feel like when they interact on social medias maybe they will find someone whom they can date with or have fun with ya heart breaks heart breaks from men ya that's the only thing I think for me it feel like you know as a man sometimes you don't fall with the emotions like onaka wukimili yaga vi tu saan arak na na na na na na na na na na na na kaisika wana hume like una na fikanga poinfla ni desishu una mesh browser na mesha internalize anajwa ni ni ni ni nini nitaaka LADYS sometimes they go for money and good things me i say ladies fall for they go with their genuine emotions but men wanna stick with their mind like aneza gugani lady sometimes na kungaka had So making that decision is something So the nature of lady It's like in23a lady goes when it comes to a lady Even with a woman It's almost 90% of what I will win So anything can happen to you Even if white poor have the greatest reputation Raghima tukuma kwa tuke did for many years, we can things can happen and the tukiansa kupigana maybe probably uta-u-ta kwa nini, you'll be thenini uta-u-ta senno. Ya know we, let this, moral mingi tu na fall into these traps so easily, unapata like kukiparanamtu mahali, amekuambia yo, like amu-jwani apamuko online but akikuambia like, let us meet. Ito hition candidates for a Kusolo, p أ Guermaniasi kii pwera na miwa kwa dai hendam. Nikiwe呢u kwa ni Uqam na Ambe Pochikulchi ni kwa da katologizat universal ni Kuniya, j solidu Bl Milliputia ii ji aqdemia anataka kutdebiti ya na niz debt, but asia hi pataboi. Naxida siya hui kupa pataboi, shidani nidenja kunakuname hamo hama approach, Una iten mei online dating, komanda zapa temase. Do leka lady, iso howl to approach a man, na, shuta shoot, na na. Su na patade the way ako desperate and sorts of things suno pata most ladies una, yundo like alternative to ya warts ya at least pata someone to debt. So that one is personal though, but for ladies, ladies are perfect in my personal, you're only dating, because in this generation right now, the young youth, ladies don't want to attend kukua, so it's a magic. We interact with their relationships, and I hope you can attend kukua at Broken Santa because you can get a relationship, you can get so much love, so much affection, so on and on. So most of them think that what you conduct after, in the online platforms, what are part of their match, because in the jia apu platform kuna in my descriptions, they tend to be when you want to kua ataksana kwa, and you call the platform because you want to kua, so missen edze, on a cost of vulnerable in this kind, this relationship thing. The reason why ladies are victims of online dating, number one is because ladies are lowered with money, expensive gifts, cars, number two, I feel like ladies are very trusting, number three, I feel like ladies normally let their guard down, I feel like ladies should always trust their guard instincts, I feel like if something in your head tells you something is dangerous, don't try it, and so we're going to go on a short commercial break, we'll be back with two more questions.