 Hello everyone welcome to another NARC survival live video. In this one we're going to be talking about why the narcissist has gone silent because it's kind of funny when you think about it. It's like of all people the noisy narcissist the one who's always so outspoken they've always got something to say and now it's like where are they? What are they doing? The noisiest person on the planet is suddenly not making any noise at all. I mean if that isn't enough to leave you in a state of confusion I don't know what is because all of that time they always had something to say they always had to be in control they always had to manipulate they just always had to be there but now it's like wherever they go on what are they doing what is this about? The narcissist has gone silent and there is one main reason why and the main reason why the narcissist has gone silent on you is you're not hearing any noise right now or you're not you're not hearing a response from them. The reason why is because they feel that you are no longer susceptible to their manipulation which means that their efforts to manipulate and deceive you they assume is no longer effective on you. This usually happens when you begin to figure them out you start to catch on to them you start to put the pieces together things start to make sense you no longer trust them as you did in the beginning because let's go back and analyze why they targeted you why they came around you in the first place the reason why is because they saw you as a fool they saw you as someone who was easy to manipulate gain an advantage over and maybe that's just because you were very nice kind friendly a generous person accommodating maybe that's what it was but they saw your love as a weakness it is a way for them to gain access to your life and to exploit you but then as time goes by and you start to see more and more of their behavior you start to figure them out then they start to pull away they go silent because now they're busy targeting someone else another person who they seem to be a fool and it's not so much someone who's a bigger fool than you were or more of a doormat it's just more the more at the beginning stages of the relationship you know as it was with you so this person doesn't really know them they don't really know what the narcissist is really about just yet I'm sure they will know in time but at this time they they're not fully aware of what exactly is going on so that's one main reason it's that you're just no longer susceptible to their manipulation they can't pull the wall over your eyes they can't trick and deceive you like they used to but not only that I mean I'm sure if you look back at all of the things you did for them all of the favors all of the kind gestures the generosity you gave a lot to them you did a lot for them and of course they do understand that when someone is constantly putting out like that at some point they're going to expect a return on their investment they're going to expect some level of reciprocation if they're a normal person or even if they are a co-dependent or people please at the very least they're going to expect some level of validation and return maybe praise compliments something to let them know that they were actually doing the right thing by doing all of those things for them and ask the citizen to understand that and they really don't want to give anything to you despite everything you've given to them everything you've done to be honest they don't even want to give you a thanks they don't even want you to know that they were satisfied or grateful with anything you did for them because it's just so much hatred bitterness and resentment that they would rather just pull away and just ignore you that's a way of punishing you this is what you have to understand with narcissists it's like you do all of these things for them you give them all of your love one of your devotion yeah with a normal person that will probably make them like you a lot more of course but with a narcissist that has the opposite effect you give them all of your love and devotion your kindness your empathy your compassion money resources a place to stay you give them all of that it just makes them hate you even more and in fact they would say that the more you give the more they end up hating you the more self-sacrificing you are and I'm sure many of you have seen that already so that's another reason why they've gone silent because they know if they're in contact with you they're just looking at it like you're still going to be waiting expecting something in return and they just don't want to give it to you they don't want to give you any compliments they don't want to even say thanks I've got to remember they are very selfish greedy arrogant and entitled people they just come around to rob you and then they're off to do the same thing to the next person as well but what I don't want is for you to blame yourself I mean you're such a kind person you did so much for them and then they suddenly went silent of course you know when you're communicating with someone or then they just suddenly cut contact with no explanation naturally yeah you're going to blame yourself you've got a question if maybe it's something to do with you maybe you weren't good enough for them maybe you did something wrong maybe they just don't like you for whatever reason of course these thoughts may go through your mind and I really don't want you to think like that because that's not how it is with narcissists they really just come around and you know as I said the more you do for them the more they will hate you they will resent you for all of that it's not like with a normal person I mean you know you just imagine for yourself someone comes around to you and they're very kind they're very sweet very friendly loving compassionate of course you're going to like them more and not only that but you're going to desire to reciprocate some of that love back to them of course that's just a natural inclination for us doesn't work that way with narcissists though it's quite the opposite you do anything for them and it just makes them hate you even more as I said before you could help them out of a ditch and then they will turn around and push you in there they bite the hand that feeds them they hate people who help them and it's because it just reminds them how you're nothing like them you're kind you're sweet you're caring they're not and it's like this mirror it reflects the truth back to them that they are trying to deny because remember they want to present this false image to the world that's why it's like when you start to catch on they don't want to deal with that they don't want to be around anyone who thinks less of them regardless of what they've done doesn't matter if they just used you all of that time and they gave you nothing back in return they would just run away find someone else do the same thing again they really don't care and they feel no no inclination I mean going back to what I said I mean yeah I mean especially as empaths we do have that it's like when someone does something for us we just cannot rest until we do something for them in return we just have to we've just got to do it we just can't rest until we do because otherwise we feel bad we feel guilty we feel like we're doing something wrong it's not like that for narcissists they'll just take whatever you've got and in fact they will see it as a source of power as though they've gotten one over of you on you that's their narcissistic supply or feeling like they've exploited you and they've gotten away with it they're like this top dog who has conquered you that's how they see it so it's a very different story for them because of course with us it's like someone does something for us you want to do for them in return it's a natural inclination for us we can't just receive without desiring to give as well so yeah that's why they've gone silent you're no longer susceptible to their manipulation most likely they just can't pull the ball over your eyes anymore they can't deceive you because at this point now you've seen enough you know enough you've seen so many videos so you know what to expect and yeah I mean they start to realize as well you must be getting bored at this point I mean you've seen the same act now how many times they're just repeating the same actions again and again of course they can see you're getting sick and tired you're getting fed up just can't be bothered to even deal with them anymore they can see that they do know they are aware of it they can see that yeah after a while you just you get bored you really do and they're aware of that it triggers them makes them feel like they're not good enough for you and then they want to run away they've got to go then before you reject them because that's what they fear as well the last thing they want is to be rejected I mean yeah it's all fun and games when they're the ones rejecting you but they really don't want you to do that to them they can dish it out but they can't take it who knows what they would do if you did reject them they would probably try to destroy you ruin your reputation so sometimes you're just better off just letting them think that they have rejected you let them go silent let them think that they've gotten went over on you at least then they will hopefully leave you alone but then as we know they do come back like they want to make you think that it's all over they're gone but then before you know it whoop and ask the sisters back again they're blowing up your phone bringing your doorbell better to not let them back in they're just going to bring more trouble into your life and if you thought it was bad the first time second time it just gets worse they don't get better they've learned what to do how to manipulate you and they're just going to use that to that advantage they're not going to come back with any desire to change or to be better for you they don't think that way as I've said before all they have is a false self a false character and all they can do is manipulate and deceive you they can't do anything else they can only manipulate you they can't give you anything real all they can do is manipulate you and I've even done a video which is titled the best you will ever get from a narcissist is an illusion because that's really all you will ever get from them you'll only ever get an illusion that's all they have but all it ever really is is manipulation everything is manipulation even in the rare case where they just tell you the truth that's manipulation as well it's just intended to harm you to punish you all they can do is manipulate let's go deeper into that that means in any situation any interaction all they're ever doing is they are putting forth an agenda hidden intentions objectives and motives that they are not revealing to you you so there's always something covert going on which is intended to manipulate your emotions or to change your behavior to make you think feel or act in a certain way that's what I mean by manipulation it's intended to control you and that is the only thing they can do it's all they can do everything they do is manipulation everything there is nothing else it's not like how we are right now you know I've got no hidden motives whatsoever as I'm giving you this information there's nothing there's no like second dialogue running through my mind where I'm trying to control anything or make people think a certain way to give myself some kind of advantage or anything like that this is just a real authentic genuine conversation or interaction dialogue it's never like that with narcissists never it will never be that way it will only ever be manipulation there's always going to be some of the voice in their heads where it's like if I say this or if I do this then he or she will think this or feel that behave this way that gets me closer to what I want or how I want them to be or it will give me more control over them it's only ever like that as sad as that sounds it's only ever that way with narcissists or with just narcissistic people and when you realize that it really puts things into perspective and prevents you from overvaluing them as many people do I mean when you realize it's it is all manipulation everything that's all that it is it means it's all fake everything is fake and they're not just manipulating you they're manipulating everyone just remember they have the the capability to manipulate you they're capable of doing that we're not as empaths we can't naturally do that we are more in the moment but just not really thinking of what to say or what to do we just do it we'd say it we're not thinking so much about how it's going to we're not like thinking two steps ahead all the time like everything's like a game of chess as narcissists do we're more in the moment we're just presenting our authentic selves and we just can't be fake we can't it just doesn't allow us to just as they cannot be real they can only ever manipulate in any interaction no matter who they're with they can only be fake and then you wonder why they've gone silent all right it's getting quite late here I'm going to get ready for sleep I did another live video earlier today on the chosen ones and gang stalking so check that one out if you haven't seen it yet it was a really good video I did it in the city of Fukuoka in Japan and we do have a premiere beginning in three hours and 15 minutes so I hope you can join us there as well if you found this video helpful please hit that thumbs up button down below very important as it helps the youtube algorithm to get this message out there to other survivors as well let me know your thoughts down in the comments section I reach your comments every day and I'll try to respond to as many as I can hit the subscribe button and click all notifications so that you will be notified when I upload a video or go live in the future and if you'd like to book a one-on-one coaching session with me you can go to my website it is 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