 What's the purpose of therapy? I'm gonna put it as plainly as I can in this video. What is the point of talk therapy? The way I put it is the reason there is a need for talk therapy at all is a little bit difficult really to come to terms with but the real reason we need talk therapy is that most people go through life go through their entire life without anybody actually listening to them Isn't that amazing? Your whole life, you know, we can go and nobody listens Not people who are close Not people even in intimate relationships sometimes actually deeply listen deeply vividly listen That's the reason talk therapy exists good talk therapy The main there's lots of things that go on in therapy you can you can identify various tools or you can go back in and you can you can identify core beliefs and significant milestones or traumatic experiences that shape the person's life And maybe hear from some of those But really it's just the act of listening itself doesn't sound like much I mean, we're all capable of listening really we're capable of hearing But really to deeply listen is actually a skill. It's not actually that easy. It's it's quite takes it takes a certain degree of skill or Certainly a willingness at least to do and An a listening is to be listened to is to be met without an agenda so the therapist meets the person and Whatever the therapist's beliefs are and they do have beliefs, you know in perspectives They're kind of just taken there's an awareness by the therapist that these are my Perspectives these are my biases. These are my ways of seeing things I'm gonna park that now and I'm just gonna listen to this person That's it So I'm not like comparing what this person says to my own perspectives, that's not really listening It's just meeting the person where they are and acknowledging sometimes reflecting back to them that that's what You've heard from them So that's it that the real purpose is and the huge value in talk therapy is when a person feels truly understood Because when you feel understood what you feel is less alone in life and the core of so many problems for so many people is That feeling of being alone being cut off being by themselves In isolation That's where all our neurotic Top processes and beliefs come. That's where the what I call the defective story Really thrives in isolation This belief when I'm in isolation I can I can almost start to convince myself that this idea that there's something wrong with me has some merit to it and Then our fears and everything come out of that But to be understood makes you feel connected with another person So they talk about the therapeutic relationship being very very important But that is that is what I would suggest is the main purpose of therapy to feel heard by another person So I hope that's a useful video. Maybe it'll help anybody who's Who's ever wondered about the purpose of therapy or what goes on in therapy? And of course if you're considering therapy, maybe that might help you understand how it could be helpful But I'll leave it there for today guys and as usual, thanks for being with me and I will see you again in the next video