 In a sea of dysfunctionality when it comes to dating, I think it behooves us to know, or at least for the ladies out there, to know which guys are serious and which men are flaky and non-committal. Now this begs the question, is it better to go quick in the process or take your time? And we're gonna explore that because it's something occurred to me this morning as I was preparing for this video. And I'm gonna talk about those seven early state, signs of man's ready to be committed to you, but something occurred to me. You know, prior to the 1950s, people used to get married rather quickly. They in some cases knew each other for very, well, they might knew each other in the town they lived in or the city they lived in, but they got married rather quickly because back then if you wanted to have sex, you oftentimes got married. And prior to the 50s, marriage actually had a fairly strong success rate. So think about that. I mean, for the most part, if you got married you were most likely gonna stay together probably at a rate of 70, 80 or 90% excluding death, okay? Then around the 50s that changed it. Now I think divorce attorney shifted that rather predominantly because it became the proliferation of divorce attorneys out in the marketplace created an opportunity for people to end their relationship. So today we have roughly about a 50% success rate with marriage. Now when you think about this, people that live together, there's studies that say people that live together oftentimes have a lower success rate than those that get married. Okay, that might be true. People that live together don't necessarily have to fully commit to one another as marriage. But I want you to think about this success rate. How many relationships people have actually turn into either moving in together or getting married? That success rate might be far lower. That might not be 50% for marriage and let's just say 30% for living together. The success rate of people in relationships might only be 15 to 20%. I'm guessing here because I'm just speculating here. And then let's think about the success rate for dating. The success rate for dating is probably less than 5%. In other words, probably let them guess it's less than 5% of people who are actively dating prior to a relationship actually form a relationship together. And of those that form a relationship together, probably don't move in together. And of those that move in together, probably some of those don't get married. So why is this important to know? Because the reality is, as I said in the beginning of this broadcast in the sea of dysfunctionality, it's rather important to understand the mechanics to a healthy, happy relationship. And for the next few minutes, I'm gonna share the five stages of relationships every couple goes through, okay? Every couple goes through these stages of relationship and this will better prepare you to understand the early signs of whether or not a man is either capable of commitment or truly wants to commit to you. Now the first stage is rather obvious, the honeymoon stage. This is where lust and limerence and excitement and butterflies take us over. This is why people oftentimes jump into the bedroom quickly because they're in this awe and excitement. They're in this space of attraction and that's rather understandable for many couples. The sad part is many people believe that this excitement leads to relationship success because most people don't understand the mechanics to a healthy, happy relationship. If you haven't read the book, here. How to be an adult in relationships by David Rico. I highly recommend checking out this book. By the way, there's a link below to all the books I recommend. Why am I recommending this book? Because a lot of people don't show up as grownups. We are, as I said, swimming in the sea of dysfunctionality. A lot of that is because humans are rather dysfunctional. Roughly, I state, anecdotally, 80% of singles are rather messed up. They have weak emotional skills and they have, excuse me, weak relationship skills and they have poor emotional maturity. This is true of men and women alike. So when you're in this honeymoon stays, here's what happens next. All of a sudden, the differences between two people create doubt and denial. Doubt and denial. So when you're in that stage of doubt, denial, this is where men start to pull away. They start to pull back from the relationship because the honeymoon phase, and these days, the honeymoon phase can simply be a couple of weeks or a couple of months at best, but the reality of the relationship sets in. It also is the reality of how emotionally capable is this person to be in a relationship begins to set in. That's the second stage. The third stage is the disillusionment. The disillusionment problems become, so once you think about this, we go through these also these seasons. There's the summer, the hot phase, the fall phase, that's the doubt phase, the disillusionment, that's the winter phase. And just to give an example, and I wrote notes on this and disillusionment. Disillusionment is when the hard truth of reality makes you lose faith in your dreams and ideas. You might have thought your internship at the movie studio would be this super glamorous job, but you quickly suffered from the disillusionment when you realize it's a 14-hour days and a lot of coffee runs, okay? We all go through a period of disillusionment. In other words, the idea of a relationship doesn't meet up. The fantasy of the relationship doesn't actually meet up with the reality of the relationship. You know, most of you know, I'm in a significant relationship. There's my sweetheart picture of her right there. You know, I'll be candid with you. Even as much as I do this work, I still had my box of what I thought a relationship should look like. I was a significant relationship should look like. And what I mean is I had the fantasy of that honeymoon period being 24 seven constant. I thought it would just never end. I really did have that prior to meeting her. What I learned was something unique was because we established the deep roots of trust early on because we practiced radical honesty. This is something I teach in my private coaching. By the way, there's a link right here to schedule a free discovery call with me to see if working with the coach is right for you. And in the description below, there's a link. I learned quickly because through radical honesty, through a method of laying our cards on the table. And again, I teach this in my private coaching. I was able to pass through this disillusionment stage and realize something more important within this relationship. And that is a sense of I could be myself. I could really be myself. I was able to recognize that this is a partner I feel safe with, I feel comfortable with to be myself. And I'm not a pretty person all the time. I mean, I have my issues folks. Hey, listen, for all the work I've done in the area of self-love, I've got, hey, listen, we all have flaws and foibles within us. I'm grateful that my partner accepts me for those. The fourth phase is the decision phase. That's really what I went through that decision phase. It didn't meet up with the fantasy of what I wanted. Now, in my particular case, even though we have differences, I had to make a decision. Was this, was it worth going back out in the dating marketplace to go find someone even better because that's what oftentimes happens, especially because of our devices and our ability to swipe away. And in that space, I made a decision. I made a decision. I said, this person is amazing. I wanna be with this person. It's worth investing. And the last stage is the capacity if you can fix your problems. In other words, do you make time to discuss your differences and do you actively work on fixing them? And that's the space of the five stages of relationship. You can read the book, How to Be an Adult Relationship to get some insight into that. I wanna recommend one other book and I'm now gonna talk about those seven early warning signs. There's one other book I wanna recommend. Even though it's a marriage book, the seven principles of making marriage work, I love this book because it really outlines the mechanics to a healthy, happy relationship. In other words, when you understand how a relationship works, you're better prepared to be in a relationship and more importantly, you're better prepared to catch these seven early warning signs. A man wants to be committed to you, okay? So, number one, and this is early in the dating process. He makes time for you. He keeps up, he keeps in touch with you. Now this is rather obvious and yet many of you are experiencing relationships where the guy right after you have sex together, he starts to pull away. That's because the honeymoon phase was literally just the let me get you in bed phase. So, when you start to see consistency of wanting to make time for you after the physical state, that's a great sign that he wants to be committed to you. Certainly number two is his actions match his words. That's another great sign that he wants to be committed to you. His actions match his words. Number three, he's transparent about his past. He's not in the space of being secretive. Sadly, many people today are acting rather secretive in their relationships. They're not actively being, I think it's really important, as I said, in our relationship to lay your cards on the table early on because, listen, all right, I want to go back to something I said earlier. I talked about marriage, living together, relationships and dating, okay, the success rate. I was recently talking to a therapist who said during COVID many couples moved in together rather quickly during the, you know, after they dated for a bit, formed a relationship and moved in together and they're recognizing problems in their relationship. And she said it was the men who were actually scheduling appointments with her. But what I think is most important about the difference, you know, the idea of moving quickly versus taking your time, if the success rate with dating is so weak, I think it's important before you become physical with someone to immediately establish are we in a relationship? Okay, I think it's critically important to do that. I think once you've established your relationship, I believe it's critically important to lay down the foundation of why are we doing this? Ladies, many of you are in these so-called relationships. You have no idea where it's going. You have no idea you're in a committed relationship. You're still in this dating phase because you're in a space of uncertainty. It's critically important to lay down the law. I call it the rules of engagement and the rules of engagement state this, are we exploring a fully committed relationship that leads to either moving in together or getting married at some point? Because if you're actively having sex with someone, you have every right to ask those questions. And it's better to get that foundation set early. And this is a great way to test a guy. Does his actions match his words? Now, just remember this, a lot of guys will say in the early stages before you have sex with them, I want a relationship. You better get clarity on what that means, okay? What does a relationship mean? How often are you going to spend time together? Are you going to do social activities, hobbies, mutual interests? Are you gonna integrate your family and friends together? Because without an understanding of what a relationship looks like particularly and how much time you're gonna spend together, then you're setting yourself up for failure. And I know many of you could say, well, Jonathan, I'm supposed to just be in my feminine and the man is supposed to lead the process. Ladies, I'm here to say to you, you are in charge of your relationship destiny. Don't give that up to a man. Look, I wish I could be there on a first date for you. I'd have the shotgun out point at the guy's face and say, what's your intentions with my sister? You have to establish the attentions early on. Let go of this narrative that you just sit back and just sit back and let him leave because men are supposed to be the provider and protectors and the hunters and that's what they're supposed to do. Okay, that's great. But for the most part, you're dealing with a lot of wishy-washy men after divorce because my audience is predominantly midlife, which is after baby making years and before retirement. Most guys are rather clueless. They're winging it, they're winging it. So you have to, you've got to lay down the law. In other words, if he wants to see you, then you better establish what it looks like, what you're seeking in the former relationship. And this way you can watch. If his actions match his words. Number three, is he transparent about his past? I said this before, is he transparent about his past? Is he secretive about his past or is he upfront and transparent? That's a critically important thing to do in laying the cards on the table. Number four, does he engage you in his life? Does he engage you in his life? Does he invite you to meet his family and friends? Or excuse me, does he engage you in his life by sharing his personal life with you, excuse me? And does he ask your opinion? You know, that's a really important thing to think about. Does he ask your opinion about things? That's a great sign that a man wants to be committed with you. Early on in my dating, by the way, Marie and I bypassed dating, went straight to a relationship and then we moved in together within five months of knowing each other. Okay, that might be not the norm, but certainly it's a commitment to one another. But early on, I asked her advice about my videos. This is why she suggested I dress a little bit nicer and some other things. I asked her opinion, that's engaging you in their life. I asked her opinion with respects to my son and other areas of my life. That's engaging you in your life. Number five, he asked you to meet his family and friends. He wants to see if you fit into his life. That's a great sign that he wants to move forward with commitment with you. By the way, my coffee mug says, don't make me go all psycho, roommate on you. I know sometimes in my videos, it might seem that way, that I get all riled up and excited. So just so you know, it's a reflection of that mug. He asked you to meet his family and friends. Now that's not a guarantee, but that's certainly better than those that try to avoid integrating you into his life. Okay, number six, he's protective of you, not just physically, but emotionally. I think a true gentleman is a man who recognizes that if he's not serious about a relationship, he won't ever engage you in a relationship. And yet true gentlemen probably represent less than 20% of the single population out there. But a man who genuinely is protective of your feelings, in other words, he's conscious enough to know that his words, his miswords matter to you. And so how you can notice this is, is he being protective of your emotions? Or is it all about his emotions and what he wants to feel? A true gentleman, a real trust is built, not just through fidelity, real trust is built by your best interests or my best interests. Your feelings matter to me as much as my feelings matter to me. So in other words, he's actively engaging in wanting to get your feelings on how the relationship is going. And he's actively engaging there because he's protective of your feelings. Many men, you know, we throw out the word narcissist, or I don't throw out the word narcissist, but the word narcissist is thrown out significantly. That's because a lot of times people confuse self-centric behavior, self-centered behavior as narcissists. No, it's just most people in the dating realm are hyper-focused on their own needs and they're not actually to, they're not leaning into your needs. And that's a good sign if he does that. And number seven, he understands that a relationships, that relationships are about the future and not living in the moment. How many times have you heard people say, I just wanna live in the moment. It's just about the moment. Let's just live in the moment. Listen, if you're, this is why you gotta have, you gotta do what I call rules of engagement early on, especially prior to having sex or at least shortly thereafter because, you know, I shot a video recently about getting used. This is where a lot of people get used because they're not talking about the future in the early stages. Marie and I, we talked about the future literally by the time we spent that weekend at my place. Right after that, we talked about how a future we looked because we were in a long distance relationship. We mapped out how this would work. And within a month or so after that, it made sense for us to live together to see if this is gonna work. We took the risk, okay? Now we felt enough trust for one another. And I get many of the men you're dating, you know little or nothing about them. This is why I recommend even doing background checks. She did background check on me before we met. I actually appreciate that. Thankfully, I have so much. If you Googled my name, there's plenty of content out there. But I would definitely, you have to go beyond the surface of getting to know someone. That's why meeting their friends, meeting their family, talking to these people gives you a better insight if you want to invest in this person. But a man who is genuinely talking about the future, talking about commitment, what that would look like is a good sign that he wants to be committed to you. Is this sinking in? Is this resonating? Please let me know. If it is, please hit that like button. Please share this video. Please subscribe to my channel right now. And also check out the links below to a discovery call with me to see if working with a coach is right for you. Check out my group called Midlife Love Mastery and check out all the books I recommend. It's in the description show notes of this video. All right, this is our time to take questions. Those who know my format know. If you have a question, write the word question and then post the question there after. Or you can purchase a Super Sticker Super Chat. All of the monies from the Super Sticker Super Chat goes to a scholarship fund in the name of my son, Connor Asley. That's a picture of him right there. He's my son who passed away going on almost five years ago in his honor. I donate to causes like the Hoffman Process and Insight Institute, just to name a few. And if you're watching the replay, please give those super thanks as well. All right, let's see what we have here. And again, post the question. All right, Leif says, good ideas. I gave up when family and friends were not introduced after a long time and he was supposed, and his supposed ex still posted them together. It turned out they were living together. Oh my gosh, folks, I've gotta say something. Do not get physical with a man without physically going to his home, okay? A lot of guys wanna come to your home because they're hiding the fact that they're actually living with someone or married to someone else maybe going through divorce. You may, again, background checks also include seeing where they live as well. That behooves you to do that because in this particular case, she found out quickly, he wasn't integrating her into his life, and that was a sign he didn't wanna be committal to her. Escar says, Jonathan, I still like when you wear your T-shirts and that casual sip from your varying cups amongst you, share your wisdom. Well, I appreciate that, Miss Love. Thank you so much. All right, Leif writes, self-centeredness is narcissistic trait, like jealousy, but not the sole characteristics of the nine criteria. I think we are all born somewhat self-centric. In other words, in the beginning of our life, the world revolves around us. We have caretakers that are physically taking care of every need we have. So on some level, we become self-centric from birth. Let's face it, in the early stage of dating, how many of you ladies are actually thinking about how can I make this a great experience for him? And how many men are thinking, how can I make this a great experience for her? And men actually do that because they're using romance as a vehicle to get you in bed. So you're sitting back on some level focused on your needs. Now, I'm just saying, this isn't an absolute, I'm just saying very few people actively date from a place of true generosity and true sincerity. They're operating from a self-centric place. Does this person meet my needs? That's a natural thing to do. I think what happens is, for some people, they never go beyond recognizing that a relationship is a two-lane street, it's a partnership, it's actually about the other person. And sadly, men and women alike can be rather self-centric. That's just an observation I have. All right, thanks for that post, Leif. Roxy writes, question. What do you think about my husband saying to give me after 20 years that he was always fearful of me and now is loving me? He was avoidant and I used to be an anxious attachment. You know what, I actually appreciate his honesty. Many people enter into a relationship from a fearful place because we want companionship, connection, and sex, but we might want, you know, there's a difference between a need and a want, okay? I need companionship, connection, and sex versus I want it. Sometimes people come in from a need and they're coming from a fearful place. I know in my last significant relationship, I was on tiptoes with this person. I put this person up on a pedestal and I was rather, you know, needy in that relationship. And it didn't work out. But ultimately, what I appreciate about what he shared with you, he was an avoidant and I used to be an anxious, you've been together 20 years, you've established somewhat of a secure relationship with one another. Folks, if you're not familiar with the book attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, okay, there's a link below to get the book. I highly recommend getting this book to understand love attachment styles, what she was talking about, avoidant, anxious, and also learning about secure. When people have been together for 20 years, they become rather secure, but I like that he was honest with you and now he's loving me. I think that's a great thing. Rather than focus on the past, because you can't change the past, the past is prologged, I would highly focus on where he's at today and that's a great sign that he is most likely secure. Great question, Roxy. Leif just makes a comment, COVID were a huge factor because people could keep a lot of hidden due to lockdowns. They can't do that now. Great point, that is certainly true. Andrea says, when do you give out your last name to someone? Look it, if you have a Facebook page that has your last name out there, if you have an Instagram page that has your last name out there, you have some social footprint, I don't think being fearful about giving out your last name. I'd rather do it sooner rather than later to determine, I'd wanna find out their last name. I think it's fair that they do a background check on you as well. I wouldn't do this after you've been dating for six months, finally give your last name to a person, I'm being tongue in cheek here. So again, I would do it sooner rather than later. Okay, great question. Sharon says, I was fooled for two years, never went to his place. He was full of excuses. I was blind, then I woke up, I dumped him. Listen, what's the old expression? Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. After the third excuse, you should have done something about that. I'm sorry to say should have, but you already know now to do a better job, screening, vetting and filtering. Versus, you know, taking things for granted. Or I mean, just making assumptions, excuse me. All right, thank you so much. Let's see, DC says, question goo everyone. I'm in a side of cyber relationship. We've already gone through iInternet. When we get together, we will end up going through all the stages again. Listen, folks, many of you find yourself in what I call cyber relationships. You are simply communicating via the internet and telephone. A relationship isn't real until you've spent at least, as Jay Shetty says, 40 hours of face-to-face time just to partially get to know someone. Takes about a hundred hours of face-to-face time to build the first level of trust. It takes about 200 hours of face-to-face time to build a good friendship with someone. You know, the other day, Marie and I were talking and we were just saying how we're good friends with one another. I mean, first off, okay, folks, I wanna say something. We started off as lovers. We developed the friendship and now we're family to one another. We, I think we treat each other like family, okay? Friendship is the glue that keeps us excited about the relationship. Her and our little kids play together. We make space once a month for our, you know, it's a relationship day where we unpack our relationship and talk about things at a more deeper intimate level. But we do that from a place of friendship and then we're family together because we wanna take care of one another beyond the surface. This is why I'm espousing continually a different way to date, mate and relate. This date, mate and relate and this is why I started my new term, rules of engagement. This is radical honesty laying your cards on the table before the penis ever goes inside the vagina. That's my invitation for y'all. Sharon says, I need to hear this years ago, thank you. Ah, question, is it possible to find someone in between the spender and the builder? Okay, so folks, if you're not familiar with my chart of the, and excuse the glare on this, three types of people actively dating. There's the users, the spenders and the growers. By the way, this is not a fact, merely an opinion. Users, they seek short-term game. They're the love bombers. They're the gold diggers. They're the entitled selfish people. And then there's the spenders. They seek companionship, connection and sex, but they have no direction, uncertainty, fearful. Usually have a dysfunctional life in the builders. They seek a long-term commitment. They're emotional grown-ups and they have good relationship skills. They have their act together, okay? One of the key differences between a spender and a grower and builder is they have their act together, okay? They really have their life and act together. Those who lean to the user phase don't have their act together. So if a man has his act together and he's right at the cusp of builder and grower, it's because he's actually contemplated commitment. He's actually contemplated commitment. Many are people are just spenders, meaning they spend time with you because they haven't really contemplated commitment. The key difference, okay, good relationship skills, that's the grower, the builder, the emotional maturity, but it's that capacity to move from, I want someone at my beck and call versus I genuinely want a committed relationship. That's how you differentiate between the spenders and the growers is that they want commitment. They may not have the relationship skills and the partnership skills yet, but that's something that two of you can develop together. So Tasha, thank you so much for that question. Sarah writes, question. What about a guy who acts like he wants commitment then pulls away? See, sometimes we pull away because of you. Sometimes we're just not that into you. So really getting, listen, asking the question, what does commitment mean to you? But more importantly, what does it look like for you? And then see if he actually lives up to what he says. Pulling away, again, I told you, there's going to be the phase of doubt and denial. There's going to be a disillusionment phase. That's a very common phase to feel a little disillusion with relationship. The growers and the builders, they persevere through those challenges and the users and spenders, users, spenders, they disappear rather quickly. It sucks that it happens. This is why in my private coaching, by the way, Schedule a Discovery call with me, I teach you the questions to be asking to filter this out. When I talk about laying your cards on the table and rules of engagement, I'm teaching you a radical way to approach this so you don't find yourself with those men that say, do relationship talk and then disappear. So great question, Sarah, thank you so much. Hey, corny cobs in the house. Question, how do you avoid conflicts when you cook together while being stressed and tired? Well, conflicts, okay, well, it's interesting. My girlfriend likes to do things a certain way. And I like to, you know, like, let's use cleaning as an example. She likes to do things a certain way and I like to do it a different way. So we both agreed, okay, and because she likes to do things probably with more effort than I do, we just agreed that she takes care of that duty and I take care of different duties. That's how we avoid conflicts is we take our strengths and we say, okay, your strength is here, my strength is here. Let's focus on our strengths rather than getting the pissing matches with one another. That's my suggestion on that one, corny cobs, okay? Sharon says, thank you, you're so right, Jonathan, thank you. Okay, Kathy says, question. Good morning, Jonathan. Will you take responsibility for me being wide awake and watching your video low from Australia's two hand? Yes, I'll take ownership of that. Thank you so much. How do you know if a man is really busy or just making excuses? Listen, when a man genuinely wants to be with you, he'll make every excuse to be with you. When he's saying he's, and like, look at, I think the difference is when a person is busy, they still make an appointment with you. Like, look, I'm gonna be tied up for this next week, but I've got a date planned for us. We're gonna go to Maastros for dinner next Saturday night. I just gotta take care of business right now. By the way, no one is that busy. I'm sorry, nobody is that busy, okay? People, nobody is that busy even when the worst thing is happening in their life. If they genuinely care, they can make time for you, okay? Crystal Wright's question. Does when he says before he would want to move in or move in or marry is two to three years away? Is this normal? I'm used to men who jump in right away. You know, for the population of divorced people, they are rather gun-shy and it is not uncommon that they might take a couple years. Again, I'm not so certain that's the best way to go. I'm not saying it isn't the best way to go, but the reality is is if marriages only succeed at 50%, by the way, second and third marriages succeed at a 25 to 35% range or they get divorced 65 to 70%, if moving in together, there's a failure rate. And if in relationship has a failure rate and dating has a failure rate, I think the sooner you make a full commitment with one another and just go for it, the better chance for success, okay? So that's my response to that one. Sunny D says, where can you find the rules of engagement for dating? Great question. By the way, schedule a discovery call for me. I will, you know, if you schedule a call with me to see if working with a coach is right for you, I'll give you a short, I'll give you that, my dating vows, but also importantly, in my private coaching, I teach you more about establishing your individual rules of engagement because each person is unique to them. You know, folks, this will be our last question for the day. Wait, Sharon says, I've learned this the hard way. No one is that busy on point again. Thank you. All right, this will be our last question for the day. Well, I'll have a couple more. Question, I've been in a relationship with a widower for the last six months. We've spent over a hundred hours together, but he is still grieving his wife. Is there anything I do to encourage more commitment? It depends on how, okay, this is the tough one. Look at, folks, you know I lost a child. I'm gonna be grieving that the rest of my life. I think when you love someone deeply, you could be grieving them for a very long time. The real question is, does he want a full commitment with you? I think what happens is with widowers, which is very common, is that they replace their partner rather quickly, and you're gonna be living with the ghost of the other person. That's just a natural byproduct. The real question is, I think what you should be doing is speaking up, sharing that it's uncomfortable if he goes on incessantly about his partner, have some dialogue about that, how that feels to you, and come to some agreements of how it might not be in their best interest that he still relives his significant marriage, okay? So that's my suggestion to you. All right, honey Lou says, thank you Jonathan, I already knew it, but I wanted to hear it loud and clear. You're very welcome. Folks, this is gonna be a short live stream today. I hope you found value in the seven early warning signs a man wants to be committed to you, just to repeat them really quickly. He makes time for you and keeps in touch with you, but this is rather obvious. His actions match his words. He's transparent about his past. He engages you in his life. He asked to meet your family and friends. He's a protective of you, also you meet his. And he understands that relationship is about the future, not living in the moment. Is this sinking in? Is this resonating? Please let me know. Please hit that like button. Please share this video with your friends. Please subscribe to my channel. Check out the links in the description and show notes to schedule a discovery call with me to join my group called Midlife Love Mastery and all the books I recommend. All right, I'm gonna wrap up this video as I always do. First off, giving myself a big, gigantic Jonathan Barak of self love. I'm gonna reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay. I'm gonna ask you to turn to someone, a Pat, Teddy Barapillo, give Iter them a hug of love because hugs are a great source of love. And let's face it, we could all use more love in our lives. I wanna thank Hilary and Miss Love and Leif and Sharon and Tanya and Honey and Crystal and Terry and Corny Cobb. Oh, and one of my Facebook fans, really quickly, she's focusing on each other. Strengths is something I've learned from a team building seminar. Great advice. This is from our Midlife Love Mastery group. Escar, Sunny D, Yvonne, Kathy, everyone, Corny Cobb. Thanks so much, wishing you a fab weekend. Be well, bye now.