 Welcome to today's episode of the mindset mentor podcast. I'm your host Rob dial and if you have not yet done So hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another podcast episode And if you're out there and you love this podcast and you want to get some extra tips and trips on how to improve your life And how to improve your mindset I send an email out every single Monday morning called Monday email you go to Monday email calm right now And it's absolutely free. I'll send you in your inbox some tips and tricks to how to improve your life And also your mindset once again is Monday email calm today We're gonna be talking about your legacy and what people are going to say about you when you die Don't worry. This isn't gonna be a morbid episode But what I really want to do is start to open you up to thinking about your life what you do on a daily basis and What's gonna happen after you're done? I want to talk about your legacy and I want to talk about the life that you're going to leave When you are done here and so I was here I hear this quote one of my favorite quotes is they say that you die twice once is when you stop breathing and the second Time is a little bit later on when somebody says your name for the last time So let me say that again You die twice once is when you stop breathing and the second time is when someone says your name for the last time The real question is between the first death and the second death between when you stop breathing and the last time Somebody says your name. What is going to be said about you? What are people going to say at your funeral? What are people going to say about you and so we all want to feel Like we're getting something from our lives deep down inside every single person listening to this episode You'll be not be listening to this podcast if you didn't feel like you wanted something to come from your life We want to make our lives mean something But all too often on a day-to-day basis we get busy and we lose focus on That and we just try to get things done throughout the day versus actually making our lives meaningful All too often we focus on our own needs Instead of the needs of others instead of the needs of the world instead of the needs of our community of how we can Leave this world a better place and so I'm going to go through a few different aspects of how I think we can all make the world a better place They're really not hard. They really don't require a whole lot of time What it takes as most people know is these things don't take time They take intention and all too often we're just not being intentional with our day with our life and with the legacy that we want to leave and the new billionaires they say is Not someone who's just worth a billion dollars But the new billionaire is someone who can create a way to positively affect a billion people And so a lot of people run after money just for money's sake instead of thinking how can I help people? And if you can figure out a way to help a billion people there is no way on this earth that you will be broke There's no way so you can make money by chasing money Or you can make money by actually trying to change the world and help people and the reason why I say that is is It will come back. I believe in the way that I've run this podcast in my business and everything I Believe that money is just a byproduct of the value that you give the world If you give the world more value and more value and more value Somehow money is gonna come in. I think money is just the energetic Exchange between you and the universe and it's kind of like the breadcrumbs that the universe can leave you of saying Hey, hey man, you're on the right track And so all too often we get caught up in having to go to our jobs having to work the day to day Because we have to pay our bills because we have to feed our families because we have to be able to survive But we're focused on the money instead of focusing on the purpose instead of focusing on how we can actually put more good into The world and so I want to ask you a question before we dive deep into it is what is the legacy that you want to leave here? Have you ever actually thought about that? Between the first death when you stop breathing and the second death the last time somebody says your name because there will be a Moment in time where your name will never be said again There will be what's the legacy that you want to leave here? Have you ever thought about that? Have you ever like really given time and attention in intention To what you want your legacy to be when you leave here and I mean like not just thought about it thinking about it's great I want you to think about the legacy that you want to leave But what I want you to do more than anything else besides just thinking about it is I want you to put it down on pen and paper like put down Why the fuck am I alive? Like why am I here? Am I just chasing money? Am I just chasing pleasures? Or am I trying to do something to make the human experience for every human that I can better? According to what I think and the way that I try to drive myself is I think that this should be like our number one individual endeavor years ago like Before I started this podcast before 2015 when I started it I Did some cool things. I made some money all of that stuff But there was a part of me especially towards the end when I when I finally left the last job. I was working at I Was at the point where it's starting to go into like a mini depression Because my existence felt very hollow. I was like, I'm just working to just pay bills Be able to do some cool shit every once while and then die that doesn't feel Fulfilling to me it doesn't make me fire up and excited to get out of bed and go do something And I was working for a recruiting company and I was doing sales for recruiting company I was like all I'm doing is Making these massive corporations that are just this figment of our imagination like somebody just made this corporation up One day and I'm just making them more money. I'm just making them more digits in their bank account That doesn't feel fulfilling It doesn't feel like I'm actually helping people in any sort of way And so I'm gonna break down a couple different ways where you can impact and leave a lasting legacy And so I'm gonna go through a couple different aspects of it And I want you to write down and think of whichever one hit home for you the most Okay, the first thing that I think about because I know a lot of people listen to this podcast and the most Intimate way to impact the world is your children first These are the closest people to you and the closest people to make a big impact on if you do nothing else in this world But put all of your effort Into raising incredible children. I think that it's time well spent Laura and I had a conversation my fiance had a conversation about two days ago and we were talking about how For some reason like being a stay-at-home mom or a stay-at-home dad is almost seen as like a Not as good as running a successful company in society like like if you see somebody who's praised it's usually not Mothers and fathers. It's usually like oh look at the CEO that made billions of dollars doing this thing That's fine But why is it not praised to really raise incredible children to be the best parents you could be to? To Research and learn and put all of your effort in your spare time into making sure you're bringing in the best children's possible Like think about this for a second. What if every single parent on this earth? Put all of their time and attention whenever they had a free moment Maybe outside of their job maybe outside of everything that they do their free time into going I'm going to raise the best possible children that I can that would probably fix Almost all of the world's problems alone not by going Hey, I want to make sure that my children are the best entrepreneurs are the best students that they could be but the best people That they could be and so one thing that I think that we should focus on is how can we make sure that with you? If you are a parent or if you want to be a parent that you are raising the best possible children that you can That alone should be the the endeavor that all of us really try to work towards How can I raise the best possible children I can if you don't have children whenever you are around children? How can you be the light of this world to actually show them the example of what somebody could and should be? That that should be something that we should all focus on right there And so the thing that I want to bring into your mind is if you have children if you are stay-at-home mom if you are Stay-at-home dad That's the most important job that you have and will ever have and so how can you become even better at it? Put more time and attention into it as well I know Sometimes you get home from work and the kids are crazy You don't have a whole lot of energy if you can just take a little bit more time and attention into them It will be it cause a massive massive impact on the world So that's the first thing I think about the next thing I think about is your community You don't have to go and change the entire world and feel like there's this huge it I know there's eight billion people on the world. I have to change all of them No, no, no, what if you just focused on the community just the city that you live in just the village that you live in just town that you live in How can you think about how you can do better whether it's giving back and if you don't have time? I'm sorry if you don't have money you could always try to give back and help with time Especially this time of year like how can you try to help people as much as you possibly can and if you do have children Take your children to show how you help people one of the the biggest things that ever happened to me in my life I remember one year My father didn't have any money to give us Christmas gifts after my parents were divorced and What we did was we woke up and we went to the Salvation Army and we went to all of these people like we didn't have much money We were poor. I didn't get Christmas gifts from him. I got Christmas gifts from my mom But it wasn't like we had much but I was able to see other people who didn't have as much as us So it put my life in a perspective. That's probably nine ten eleven years old I remember specifically giving it wasn't mine But I gave a bike Brain new bike to a little girl and like what her face looked like when we were able to give it to her So it's like can you just donate your time into helping people and taking your children to see you helping people and taking your children? Your children will then grow up and want to help people as well And so how can you help people more? How can you help people in the community? Another thing that's popped in my head as I'm saying this story as well like Where there's some bad times in my life with my father? Sure There definitely were but there were also some really light times as well I remember one time there was a guy that was on the side of the road in his car or something was wrong This car I can't remember exactly what it was, but my dad pulled over helped him with it I remember seeing the guy my dad did not did not have any money But I remember seeing the guys feeling so thankful for my dad pulling over and helping him that he tried to give him $20 and my dad was like no no no and He got back in the car and I said I was probably ten eleven twelve once again I remember being like dad did that guy try to give you money and he's like yeah And I go why didn't you take it come a little kid? I'm like go get that money And so he's like I didn't take it because I told him I would rather prefer him do something for somebody else today versus me taking his money and I was like oh That's a good way to grow up and to be the type of person you want to be and so those are just two life events that I remember happening in my childhood that made me go my dad's giving back like I want to give back in some sort of way And so can you give back in your community if you have children? Can you take your children to help them give back in the community as well and start to instill that in them? So that's the next thing I keep thinking about as your community the next thing to think about as your profession how many people listening and be honest are Waking up and going to work and doing something that maybe doesn't fully fulfill you maybe don't hate your job, but you're just Doing it right. You're just doing the job because you need to pay your bills. How many people are just chasing money a Lot and I want to tell you this of course you have to pay your bills Of course you have to provide for your family, but if you don't enjoy what you do It doesn't always have to be that way. You don't have to work a job that you don't enjoy Sure, could it take a year or two years to find a job? That's more fulfilling that helps that makes you feel like you're doing something for the world Of course and for those of you that raised children If they see you waking up and going to a job that you hate and working there and coming back tired and complaining They're going to see you and go. Oh, this is what the world's supposed to be I'm supposed to get a job that I don't enjoy that tires me just so I can get by Most people want their children's life to be better than their life was and If we keep doing the same thing over and over again as Einstein says that's the definition of insanity. You're gonna be raising your children to do the exact same thing as well Your children deserve to see a parent that feels fulfilled with whatever is they're doing Can you find something that feels more fulfilling that you could put more passion into and you actually help the world as well Maybe in some way, even if it's just a small thing Can you figure out a way to do that and it you know, like I said, it doesn't have to be this way forever It might be this way now that you have this job that you don't like But it doesn't have to be this way in the future Can you create some sort of plan and figure out what is it you want to do and how to transition over there? Whether it's six months from now or a year from now two years from now come up with a plan of how you can actually do something That feels a little bit more fulfilling to you. So that's the next thing I think about as your profession next thing I think about is Dedicating your life in some sort of way your fun time to some sort of hobby and improving at that hobby Becoming the best that you can be at something trying to strive for mastery in some sort of way It could be a business. It could be a hobby But when you try to get better at something You're helping humanity move forward in whatever it is that you love doing so like an example that I can think about If we go back to like the Renaissance era, I Love Italy spent a lot of time in Italy. There's so much Renaissance art and there's so much rent like Renaissance changed Italy and changed the world These are people who loved Doing art doing architecture like that was what they loved and in turn a lot of people doing what they loved Made that they got better at they got better at they got better And they created mastery which then made people see that there was another level on top of what they thought was possible There was another level of art. There's another level of architecture. There's another level of color And so when we find a hobby Something that we love and we want to improve it and we want to try to strive towards mastery It makes us feel like there's more in this world that we can actually work for it inspires other people around us And it shows that there's another level that people can get to and inspires other people when they see you getting to that level And so can you find a hobby or something that you love that you want to put your time and attention into and the last thing I think about that will really help change the world and leave an amazing legacy for you after you die It's just to be kind like just be kinder to people There's a quate the quote that I love that says everyone that you meet is fighting a battle that you know nothing about There's so many people that if you think of like Robin Williams that the happiest Funniest people are actually struggling deep down inside and you don't see that and sometimes all they need is just someone to be more Kind to them, you know, sometimes all they need is just someone to reach out to them I remember hearing a story of a lady and I saw this post She was walking into Dunkin Donuts and there was a homeless guy that was on there was you know outside of it And instead of just walking past her I'm sorry walking past him and acting like he didn't exist or act like he didn't see her It was you know towards Christmas time and she walked over to him and she's like hey, what's your name? And he's like oh, my name is you know Tim whatever it was and she's like hey Tim How are you today? And he's like oh, I'm doing okay. Da da da da whatever it is and She started she talked to him for a few minutes, right? And she's like well, I'm gonna go get coffee like do you want a coffee or something like do are you hungry? Do you want me to get you like a bagel? She talked to him for like three or four minutes. I was it and he's like, yeah, that'd be really nice and so she goes inside gets her stuff puts it on the table and Ends up getting him a bagel and getting him some coffee and stuff coming back out and having a couple more minute conversation With him and just giving him kindness making him feel seen talking to him Recognizing him as another Sentient being that has feelings and has gone through good and bad in the world They talked for like five minutes total and then she's like, okay. I gotta get I gotta get back to work I came here to get some stuff done so she goes back in you know the part ways She goes back into the the Dunkin Donuts and she works for about an hour or so And then she comes back out. There's a note on her car And it was a note from the homeless man and she and it said thank you so much for your kindness today I was considering killing myself tonight But because of your kindness, I see that I actually there's more hope for me in this world she had a quick few minute conversation with this man and Through that kindness made him decide not to kill himself and so Everyone that we meet is fighting about that we know nothing about and It also brings him back to like the Maya Angelou quote where she says people will forget What you did but people will never forget how you made them feel How can we just be kinder and make people feel better feel more seen and that's the reason somebody asked me this a few weeks ago of like Why do you end every single podcast? Episode with make it your mission to make somebody else's day better is because I truly believe that if every single person There's hundreds of thousands of people listen to each podcast episode Imagine what good would come if all of the people 300,000 people decided to do one thing for someone else today and how that could start to spread That's why I think it's important for us to do that And for us to it doesn't have to be a big gesture be something super small. How can we do that? And so The reason why I wanted to go over this podcast episode is so you can start to think about the legacy that you're going to leave When you end up leaving here, you know, don't worry about making millions of dollars and having millions of dollars in your bank account when you die Be as good of a person as possible so that when you die There's not enough room inside of the funeral home for you because people show up I remember I was really inspired when I went to one of my ex-girlfriend's father's funerals like six seven years ago And it was full I was like man, that's really inspiring like this guy didn't have a whole lot But he was an amazing human and he impacted so many other people's lives And so you don't want to have hundreds of people at your funeral just for yourself and be like Oh look at how many people show up to my funeral because you'll be dead Anyways won't matter in the first place But really like how can I know that that I did as much as I could that I had the right habits traits qualities And then I added as much kindness and love to this this earth as I possibly could because that's really what people need more anything else So that's what I got for you for today's episode If you love this episode, please share it on your Instagram stories and tag me in at Rob dial junior R.O.B.D. I a l J R and Now you know I'm gonna leave you the same way leave you every single episode make it your mission to make somebody else's day Better. I appreciate you There's a ton of people that are listening right now go out and just do one small great deed for somebody else And I'll see you guys in the next one