 I was a Christian ministry CEO and a megachurch preaching pastor until I came out as transgender and then it was all gone in seven days, but I loved the closing lines of Mary Oliver's poem The Journey. But little by little, as you left their voices behind, the stars began to burn through the sheets of clouds and there was a new voice which you slowly recognized as your own. It kept you company as you strode deeper and deeper into the world, determined to do the only thing you could do, determined to say the only life you could say.