 I look at any actor Actors are primarily famous because they're able to convey emotion on Stage they're able to make us feel something Because they're feeling it so strongly in their body a great act I've worked with a few of them because this is basically the exact same thing They're not thinking okay. Well, I'm gonna do my sexy act They're gonna what they actually do is they turn up that feeling in their body and then the little things that they do a little lip-raise Little I twinkle It's all things that naturally come from that feeling and it like once again. It looks different for every single person So don't think about it. Don't try to you'll only be shooting yourself in the foot So if I understand you correctly, it's dependent upon your expression and urge of sexuality as well as the woman's and The uniqueness between the two of course. Yes You talk about coming together and wanting to touch each other you ever break rapport break the tension and come back to make it stronger or do just You know, it's once again two things I say you have to Can't be all the way on or the entire time. It has to be though that polarity Happening I call it physical polarity just for that reason. You need both sides, but completely breaking it It's gonna depend on her. It's gonna depend on the reading if once again I see that maybe she shifts just a little bit in an uncomfortable way. I'm gonna back up. I'm gonna be reading her But if she's once again Saying God, I want you if her expression is saying I want you on my body so bad right now No, I'm gonna keep moving things forward it and once again It's it's thinking about it technically if you're thinking, okay Well, I'm going to break rapport right now in order to create more sexual tension all of a sudden You're jumping in your head. You're killing the vibe. You're killing the mood. You're killing the energy and she's going to be less turned on by you So whatever the feeling is dictating in that moment That's what I'm gonna go for but to have some kind of preconceived plan of I should do this or I should do That you're only hurting yourself Thank you for the question So, how do you practice something that you can't think about? There's you know, normally if you're like doing equations or something you practice you got to think about it But how do you practice something you can't think about? Practicing not thinking That's a good question because on the surface it kind of sounds like a a contradiction Practice meditation at all Okay You should But I mean especially in building these feelings meditation Which is a practice known the world over it's all about a All about quieting down your inside voices I've heard prayer being described as talking to God meditation being described as listening And it's it's quieting down. It's it's Unactivating that that mental process that we've gotten so used to running our lives Finding peace finding stillness learning to connect with Whatever swirling around in our Our body Same thing as practicing listening Listening isn't actively doing something. It's becoming completely passive in that moment learning to Develop that passiveness learning to develop that quiet that peace that calm If you're trying to use a not that great of an example if you're trying to make a quiet You know meditative space. You're not going to be bringing in more Stimulation you're not going to be bringing more Things and you're going to be trying to take it away. You're going to trying to remove So it's it's it's something that's just cultivated It's something that the more you focus on bringing that quiet more you focus on getting in touch with those feelings The more you focus on being present with that and expressing that when you're with another human being The better you get it switch into that mode. So Can't actively think okay. I'm gonna get quiet right now. I'm gonna get peaceful. I'm gonna harness my zen It's Not doing anything Which is a practice in and of itself does that answer your? great talk Nick I think it's often overlooked I really like the Being true to your your feelings is what you said earlier and Being present Silent Excalation my question was a in a brief encounter with a woman, so maybe Your intention or the time frame is is short you see somebody you approach and you have those feelings It's somebody that you you have a chemistry with and You you escalate? You talk about pancakes whatever, you know breakfast Do you think that there's something to add to that? Besides the escalation, so it's gonna be a brief encounter You're gonna get a number or some kind of follow-up So there's something that you should add or consider adding so that when you see them So that you can see them again. They want to see you again, you know They don't walk away just feeling like oh wow that you know, I'm attracted to that guy, but something else and On your next encounter you're gonna spend a lot more time with that person so Do you think that? because We're complicated people just doing an escalation just Flirting what other sorts of things do you want to add to that awesome question? Oh my gosh I'm so glad you you asked this question because it's gonna include some things that I probably should have included in my talk already So thank you. Thank you. Thank you for starters Expressing your sexual sexuality verbally Your rights all I said there's flirting and you can talk about anything All right, but there is another key component to expressing your sexuality verbally other than just that feeling and What you have to do verbally as you kind of spoke to is you have to express the fact that I want to see you again and You have to take the steps in order to Logistics to make that happen usually just exchanging a phone number all a phone number is is just a way that our Society expresses I want to spend more time with you. I want to get to know you better. I want to see you so Verbally speaking that is the one specific thing that you have to express is I want us to be together more Thank you for mentioning that Answering your question a little bit more Yes, there absolutely is something that you have to express more than just that sexual connection that sexual feeling for a woman to want to see you again in a romantic setting and What that is is Essentially everything that I talked about in my last speech on this convention stage. That's why you need both parts All right, if you want to see a woman romantically again, you need to have that feeling have that connection of Yeah, we're Turned on by each other All right, I mean you can have two people at a dinner party and they're Just you know, everyone else is talking everyone else is having conversation But when they look at each other when they talk There's just that Extra vibe there's that extra really it's cool. They have that extra little connection that look in their eye Maybe they're stealing glances back and forth at that electricity. Well, everything else is going on And then the people at the table that don't understand how this work. They're thinking man, what did he say? What did he do? He must have said something before dinner that that made this happen when in fact, it's just that connection to getting sexual Right because once again nine times out of ten Got myself to where I've gotten myself to the point where I can kind of close my eyes and bring it up and Keep in mind like what you saw up here on this stage is a pale shadow Like when there's a woman that we are really connected and we're really jiving. I mean, it's gonna be like this times 10 right In terms of answering your question, I would say it depends on the person