 That's not what y'all don't get into, is it? Like y'all might be wanting, um, beautiful wax from a date. Y'all might be getting a date, which I don't like to use there. So sometimes we let y'all be great and we love it and we come out, but you ain't going to get so much from all of it. It's pretty good, right? Yeah. Y'all think that's bad, or do you think? I feel like it's this kind of girl. Yeah. We'll hold this for a second. We'll hold this. I think when you start, when you start to let that perception and that vision of people, when you start to let that cloud you and like whatever girl I ever talk to, I ever see you. She don't look like her. She ain't worth my time. When it's like that, then it becomes a problem. As long as you're not letting that one person and how their body type is, as long as you're not letting it cloud you and cloud how you judge other people, I mean, it's fine. What, like, okay, what about other things? Because what you guys talked about, as far as us, it's always, you know, it's pain stuff. Like, I should put, you know what I'm saying? Go ahead, brother. All right. Oh, that's a good one. You don't really depend on how a woman is dressed. It's about, like, her drive. If a woman can't, she can dress in the latest outfits, but if her drive is nowhere, that's a big challenge. Like, it's a lot of fun for us to walk around here just because you're in college on me, you're going somewhere. Like, you can be fly going to the party, but if you guys, you know, drive and you can't push the guy that you with to do better, and he do the same for you, then the relationship is nothing anyway. Right. Man, head on with that. No, personality thing is important. Because you can't just hug me and have an ugly person at home. What is this thing you can't do? I didn't say to kick me out of here. I didn't say to kick me out of here. What? Just got something. He's giving me to come up on the left. I didn't say to kick me out of here. I didn't say to kick me out of here. I didn't say to kick me out of here. Let me ask you all this. Another relationship goal, I see a lot. Another relationship goal I see a lot, which is a good goal to me, but sometimes it gets taken out of proportion. It's, if you guys seen the picture of like, it's a dude over the left side with a woman on the other side crying, like kissing a Bible. I don't know what I'm saying. I'm thinking to meet him now what? Yes, ma'am. Meet me. He's lying. He's putting it on. He's talking to people that have been posting it. They don't be reading about it. They don't pray with that man. So why is he putting it on? Like, you know, me and my boyfriend, we pray together. But I ain't about to see him put pictures up like this. I always do. We don't do no sending. We don't say we talk about Jesus. You know what I'm saying? We don't, like, God is the center of our relationship. That's our main focus. If God in the middle, there ain't no... You know what I'm saying? Uh-uh, Alan. See, that's real rude. No, no, no. It's not about you. It's not about you. It's not about you. It's not about you. No, but the reason... The reason why I'm like this is because, like, I've been in that relationship. That situation. I've been in... I've been in that situation. I've been in that situation. I've been in that relationship. I've been in that relationship. I've been in that relationship. I've been in that relationship. Jesus, my God. And I felt like... I felt like I had to be somebody else just to take this, and set this kind of image of who we are as a group, as a unit. You know what I'm saying? being equally yoked, you know? So like if the yoked partner is into the, you know, Christianity and hard-on religion and all that stuff, she gonna have to be or he is gonna have to be with someone who's on the same level. So it's not the end of the world if you discover that that one person is on this level and you're not. You're not meant to be together. Simple as that. Let me ask this though. Let me ask this though. With that, with being equally yoked, like people, people misinterpreting things, you know, a good Christian is just somebody who can quote the Bible. With that, we're quoting the Bible. Right. Or a Bible told her that somebody who's acting self-righteous, that's not the case. Right. So who's to say what equally yoked is? Just because, you know, this person doesn't know the scripture or can quote the scripture. It's not the end of the world. It's not the end of the world. Right. Yeah. Like you're trying to get yourself into the world. I'm trying to get myself into the world working towards that same level. You don't have to be on the same level, but we gotta be working towards that same level. Right. What does that mean? What does that mean? If I'm, like, trying to get my life together and I'm trying to figure out exactly where I'm supposed to be, what I'm supposed to do, how I'm supposed to live my life according to Jesus, you need to be working your way up there, too. Does that mean going to church? I'll think. If I'm going to church, I need to be going around so I can meet up. I mean, it could be that similar as both of y'all have the same session as me. You know what I mean? Y'all don't push each other to do. You know, get a common goal. It don't necessarily gotta be religious. But I mean, it can be like, y'all can have similar goals. Put it like that. Y'all both want to achieve the same thing. Even morals. Like, not necessarily... You know what I'm saying? Make sure y'all got the same mindset. Like y'all on the same page as far as what's right and what's wrong. That's where it starts. You can think all day, I go to church. I'm a good person. You don't have to... I go to church too. I'm not saying so... Well, okay, thank you. I mean, I don't say that to find it, but it should be... But not necessarily, oh, I should depend on the Bible. But it need to be y'all on the same page. You know what I'm saying? Or at least working to get there. Like that's what I'm saying. So, it's just... I was singing about this the other day, and I think I was talking to you about it. Like, I feel like this generation especially... We've gotten so wrapped up in social media. Which I call... I call social media all the time. Like, we would rather be either in the future or the past than in the present. You know, even in relationships. Like, that's why we look at this person's relationship. Because what's ironic is the same thing you're envying somebody involved. In their relationship. They're probably envying you about the same thing as yours. We look at the same thing. You know what I'm saying? So my question is, like, why is it that we never feel like content? Why is it that we focus more on, you know, what he doesn't have... What she doesn't have... What do you think that comes from it? What do you think that comes from it? What do you think that comes from it? What do you think that comes from it? I say, what do you think we're not easily content? Like, why do you think we focus more on... say, what he's doing wrong, what she's doing wrong, what she doesn't have, than what they do? People's focus on their own happiness, that's why. You know what I'm saying? Like, if he's not doing something right, and it's not making you happy, that's what you're going to focus on. You know what I'm saying? I mean, maybe not in that respect. If he's doing something good, then you have... But if he's doing something wrong, you're mad at that moment, so that's what you're going to focus on. I just threw one up right here. Why? Ask me the question. Ask, ask the question. Part of it is like, why some people aren't easily content. It's because, you know, everyone's not focused on the people. You know, like, this person maybe got in the relationship with one lady, you got in the relationship with one another. And that's a part of it. Sometimes it could be the fact that you're curious to experience other things because you're fascinated. You're facing everything you're going to be fascinated with. So it makes up a boom, but you still have something different from that. I think at the same time, a lot of people are focused on what they want in the future, but they're not looking at what you got to go through right now to get there. You're so focused on, alright, I want him to be here, here, and here. If you're in college and you date somebody in college, he's going to be a Fortune 500 seat. Oh, he's going to be in college trying to pay the tuition. Like, I'm in college trying to pay the tuition. So you got to focus on what's going to get you there. If you're so focused on where you want to be and not how you're going to get there, you're never going to be happy. She's getting bars. I told you she would. I was saying this the other day, too. Nowadays, like, I'm at, like, our society. Like, we always want everything right in front of us right now. Like, this generation and, like, it sucks. Like, it sucks bad because, like, we don't believe in building anything anymore. Like, we want everything already packaged together. Like, you know what I'm saying? It sucks because, like, you never know what somebody can blossom into or what y'all can become if you shut them down from the get-go. You know, relationships can't be built in a matter of two or three weeks. You have to be able to accept that person's flaws or whatever it is at the moment and then see if y'all can help each other build it off of that. But I feel like we don't do that anymore. Like, we just want everything right now. Do y'all think most people get into a relationship to help somebody or for somebody to help them? Each person has their own individual motive. Like, there's not a one-size-fits-all answer to that one. Like, I know for me personally, like, my main intent in life in general, like, my main intent is to help other people. Like, that's just what I do. So in a relationship, I find myself taking on her challenges and making it our challenges. And in return, she does the same thing. Now, I know when I've been in previous relationships where I've made her challenges my challenges and my challenges were just my challenges. And, like I said, it just depends on the person that you're with. And it goes back to what I said earlier. That person is not for you. Like, I understand you want to fight and fight to save it, but at the end of the day, you have to realize not everybody is for you. So you can't please everybody. With the pictures and stuff, like, what do you think? What do you think that has caused? Like, what do you think it makes us unconsciously more... You know, because I feel like, say back in the day, a guy going after a girl, a girl going after a guy, it was more like, let me find out of my challenges, let me find the guy who I feel like is the hardest worker for things like that, or the best provider who'll be a good father, and vice versa with men. Let me find the woman who can, you know, take care of my house and take care of my kids. And it's kind of still like that, but now it's more like, okay, let me find the guy who can... who can, you know... So when we take this selfie, with the clown, there's a couple. Or let me find the girl who, you know, I can use as a trophy for my own boys. Like, when did you think that happened? Like, when it became more about just, um, yeah, superficial stuff, just being vague and just asking stuff you need. What do you think that happened? Yeah. You know, like someone who in return, for substance in a relationship there, I'm going to be looking at that, you know. Whereas someone who's just looking for surface stuff, those people that are like, oh, let me post, you know, through a media base, I feel like, those people that actually feel like that's the basic of their relationship, those are those people that, you know, are the people that are in that relationship. Alright, let me ask y'all this. If you're a significant other, that's not posted on their social network. You feel like they love you in the lesses. I'm not going to say I'm not going to say I'm not going to say I'm not going to say I'm not going to say I'm not going to say I'm not going to say I'm not going to say I'm not going to say I'm not going to say I'm not going to say I'm not going to say I'm not going to say I'm not going to say I'm not going to say I'm not going to say I'm not going to say I'm not going to say I'm not going to say I'm not going to say They say, you don't want, yeah, people in your business, if you don't do them in your business, then don't have a social media. So, you can't, you can't do them in your business. So, okay, so, okay, if he doesn't do it, how do you feel about him? Well, how do you feel about him? How do you feel about him? I don't feel, I mean, I don't really know, because I never actually, I've been in that situation where I'm like, okay, feel me or go. It's what you're not saying over until we know. So, I can't even say I'm feeling good. I mean, I don't really, I don't really know what I'm feeling. Why? I mean, why not? Don't say it like this, boy, what does that mean? What does it mean? I mean, I feel like, it's just, it's just, it's just a picture. If you're saying it's just a picture, let's put up some speed in there watching. Let's put up just a picture. It's not, it's just a big deal. I think a lot of, yeah, like I saw something the other day, it was like, are you single, single, are you internet single? Maybe he trying to be internet single, that's why he not putting you on the same grade. I mean, that's a weird thing. Cause he want, yeah, he want everybody to be single, but I mean, personally, hi, give me a hug. All right. I mean, like, you try to be weird. We really think, we really like, ain't about to social media that much. We think of what you got going on, so when you can't put me on like, what you trying to do. Okay, so like remember, remember when you made this book in relation to your relationship. If y'all get in a relationship, the blue doesn't change, if the girl doesn't change, what do you think that means? I'm trying to bring it back in the comments. Look, cause y'all know back in the day, like that was the thing to do. Once you got in a relationship, you change it, and it puts you in based on, you know, the way y'all act, it's how you came in. Yeah, yeah, yeah, 14 years married and stuff like that. I never came up with a saying about that before. I'm sorry. I was with that girl before, and I'm gonna take that seriously, so I'm gonna take this off. It's just kind of like that. If there's no pictures of the girl, or whatever you mess with, when you're like, oh, you don't want to be in love. Yeah, I would say, if you can't show me, you don't deserve it yourself. You know what I'm saying? I'm sure you'll put me through. Hey, Krapeda. Hey, stop it. No, no, I think that is wrong. You know what? You cannot quantify your love for someone over the picture on the Internet. I mean, if a girl doesn't put you in picture on the Internet, that doesn't mean, maybe you might have other reasons. I think you shouldn't say that's a big deal. So, it's not a must. Your boyfriend might almost have your picture online on social media. I mean, you cannot judge him based on that. Because I think there are other important stuff, apart from having your picture online. And I mean, I think for me, you might have other million reasons not to put your picture. Maybe you feel that it's not the right time, you know, but hey, to me, if I don't have a girl's picture on Facebook or something, it doesn't mean I don't like her. I might still love her, but I don't have a picture there. Because I think it's not the time. It's just steps. Well, when is the time? But that's it. That's the step on the guy. I mean, to make a woman a problem, like, to make a woman a problem is not easy. It's not an easy thing. One day, one day, we're just like, okay, let's take a picture with Instagram. And they just like, no. It's just crazy. Because you know something, Roman. Like, why would you put your girlfriend under the picture? Even though she actually likes Justin. I ain't even trying to show off. You know what I'm saying? Because you don't want to take a picture on your Instagram. So you don't tell her stuff. I don't see who that is. Instagram. Let's see what he is to react to. No. No, she's not. Okay. This question was directed towards the females, but what about the girls? Is your girlfriend done? This is what you want her to do. Uh-oh. Your girlfriend don't put you on her Instagram. You know she got all these dudes following her from every witcher place around every witcher web. How do you go from her Instagram? It's my friend. It's my friend. It's my friend. No, it's my friend. Why don't you put her on Instagram? You said it's so hard. Okay. The reason I wouldn't put my girlfriend on Instagram is because personally, I don't need to wait showing off to love. You know, I value the stuff people don't see. You know, people getting gotten so wrapped up in, oh, this picture that person wrapped me. Like, I value it. You know when Drake said, here, time to look at her fake phone? She's not gonna let you take a picture of her, man. That's the picture that you value. You know what I mean? That's a personal picture. That's a personal picture. That's a personal picture. It could be two years before you put on your Instagram. So after those two years, it's gonna be like, y'all just have to have this picture. You know what I'm saying? That's a personal picture. That's a personal picture. That's a personal picture. But you were like, I'm not about that. It's my name, it's my sign, all the relationships are real versus sign. But if you have an Instagram, you post it? I'm not talking about real, I'm talking about real, I'm talking about real. Alright, I will post a picture of me if I had a girlfriend. I will post a picture of us on Instagram or whatever based off of how serious we were. Because I don't like to be embarrassed. I don't want to post a picture and I'm not sure how strong... I need confirmation that this relationship is going to be sturdy because I don't want to put something up and then have people like, Oh man, y'all, you know people in your relationship, do they put... That's what I'm saying. But what's confirmation though? Because it's just as embarrassing, maybe even more, you're going back in the lead in the picture of somebody you've been with for two, three years. That's my wife, everybody knows her. So just because you have a girlfriend, you're not supposed to... I'm not saying it's a must, I'm just saying why. If I'm your lady and you say you love me, I just wonder, you totally know. Every time I'm with you, every week I'm with you. Hold on, hold on, hold on. Focus on the picture. It's not a picture, it's the captured under the picture. So you can post, I can post the picture to a diamond and let people think that's my girlfriend. That's what I'm saying. It's not the picture, it's the capture. Like, if you post a picture and it's the picture, you can say my friend. Okay, that's your friend. If you say my girlfriend, that's your girlfriend. So it's not the picture, it's the captured under the picture. I want to ask you a question. Why is it embarrassing to have to go back and delete pictures that you had with somebody from two years ago? All that means is that at some point there was growth. So at some point one of y'all grew up or one of y'all grew apart, but that means somewhere in the line somebody stopped growing while the other one kept going. So why is that embarrassing? I'm not going to be embarrassed because that's embarrassing. And me and him just didn't try that kind of thing. Then we just weren't meant to be. Like he said, everybody's not equal to y'all. You might think you're equal at that point, but at some point somebody y'all become bigger than others. So why is that embarrassing? I'm going to give you two answers. So okay, why is it embarrassing is because that might be a reason why some people break up. But another reason some people break up is the whole, you weren't who I thought you were. If it didn't work though, at some point you'd get with somebody, at least I would. If you get with somebody, you're thinking, okay, well at least at this age now, you're thinking, okay, this could, this somebody are really going to work, but you know what I'm saying? You just get them. Let's you just to get in the thing. So you can't just, you can't go into a thinking like, okay, it's on my app, so I'm not going to put it on Instagram. I keep going, let's you're thinking like that. So why do you get with the embarrassing? I don't know, but that's what you said. So yeah. My second answer is, my second answer is, and dudes talk about this sometimes. You know, it's one of our fears. Like I said, two weeks ago or something, we're scared too. Before you finish, I want you to say what you said first, but you said dudes. People, I'm going to say something out of it. You know how like when we get into a relationship, we start talking to somebody. We all have fears. Girls are scared of getting their heart broken. Dudes are also scared of getting their heart broken. But it's two different like perspectives of heartbreak. The dudes, I'll speak for the dudes. Our fear is... Our fear is like, especially in the beginning. Like what dudes do is we go around asking all our friends about the girl. Yo, you know what's the name? What you heard about it? Y'all do it too, but like y'all do it too, but I'm just speaking for us. Like we do it, but it's from us. It's from that fear of looking stupid, like we don't want to be. No dude wants to be the same as he was wifed up for home. Who caught a dude who was sleeping around with every girl? We don't want to be that either, so I call bullshit on phone. You're saying what y'all feel and everything like that. But that's the same way girls think. When it comes to relationships, I feel like most of us, whether you be male or female, you have the same mindset. I'm not going to get in a relationship. I'm going to ask, trust me, girls, we better investigate this than y'all. So I'm going to try that out. So you won't look stupid. We don't want to look stupid either. And I feel like as girls we sometimes might hold others' opinions more highly than guys do. Sometimes we do. So for us to look stupid, it hurts us more than it probably hurts y'all. When we look stupid, y'all don't have the bold guys coming up to y'all. Oh no, I fucked it up the other day. But we got the bold hoes who come up to us now. I was with him last night, where you was at? He came to my room last night. So it's like, and you have to deal with that because females become so much more bold as time goes on. So it's like, if I was sleeping with anybody man, I could go up to her and be like, oh shit, you out with him? But the reason we was like, the reason Alan's point was because like, I get what you're saying and it does hurt both ways. But we kind of touched on this a couple weeks ago too. Like, in most cases you got some exceptions. So I can't say every time. But a lot of times like, or do just by our nature like, if you settle, if you like decide to be with a girl, like it takes a lot to get to that point though. Like it takes a lot, it takes a lot. Like girls, I feel like it's, y'all do this investigation, whatever. But I feel like y'all get with people faster than dudes. Like officially, like officially, officially, officially, officially. For a dude to officially say, this is my girl. Y'all don't understand, it takes a lot, it takes a lot. Well then that depends on each individual person. Because I guess you would say I'm the same way. Because I don't, yeah, I don't, like, you, we could be talking for two years and you'd be like, so we gonna start dating and be like, you sure you gonna do this? Let's move it kind of fast. If we two years then, like, That's what I'm saying, but I feel like officially, yeah, people are gonna be like, he is like, okay, so we got this people doing as well. I don't know, so what's the big official? So you, like, wait, wait. That's what I'm saying. It takes a lot of time to check that out. People gotta go to the manager. But I don't think you should just move it. Okay, we're sitting over there. Okay, we're sitting right over there. All right, here we go. Esdie, I'm gonna get it for you so you can sit down. But generally speaking, like, when a dude settles down, like, that's the big deal. Like, that's why, like, I feel like, I mean, if you got a good deal, you got a good deal. You should have a look. You should have a look. You saw that head shake? You should, but that's what I said, he's a good dude. He appreciate his girl. If he is a good girl, he appreciate his girl. And if she's, exactly, if that's my birth... Right, everybody wearing, the good people already you gotta just, if you find a good, I mean, if you find a good man, How about the women in the room, do y'all have any questions for us, like some of the men in the room, do y'all have any questions for us, like some of the women in the room, do y'all think this stuff we expect that y'all agree with? If a girl doesn't put up a picture of what it is, shouldn't we do something about it? So, I mean, I'm not even supposed to, like, no, because I ain't even supposed to. Like, if he kinda be like, let's post a picture, you know, okay, we can do that. But right now, I'm not even supposed to, so it's like, I mean, I didn't get a picture of the person, but I'm not feeling to be like, if he want a picture, I ain't feeling to be like, no. Like, that's the, that's leaking to be like, oh, I shouldn't want a picture, you know what I'm saying? So, like, I don't know. I'm not even supposed to. If it's a pregnant woman. If we can, I mean, he's not supposed to put a picture, he ain't even gotta put a picture of me like, I love him, I'm pregnant and stuff. Yeah, post a picture. A picture's just a picture. What people assume is what they assume. But if I want to post a picture, I'm not supposed to put a picture. Do y'all not post it? Because she just said something about, like, are y'all afraid that, like, he's gonna fall in a dream. Because my man always had big issues. I ain't taking shit. The last picture of me and my boyfriend, that's the first time I've ever taken any picture, because I don't like pictures by day. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. That's what I'm saying. I have a question. Yes, now, to those that oppose, like you, to those that oppose tagging your boyfriend in the picture, you said you mentioned that you don't want other women following him. Now, my, my, my, my tag tag on that is, why are you concerned about what the other females do? You need to be concerned about him. Right. It takes two tangles, so like, they can send all the love they want. But you don't have to reciprocate. Now, if you reciprocate, that's an issue. And that's true. You must not want to see him. Exactly. I had a friend, and I told him, all the other guys I was talking to just do, you know, she said, what's his name? I told her, you know, she was like, oh, I don't know him. And then, I just so happened to see on my little, you know, little following, and I started following him. I'm like, what the fuck are you following him? I just wanted to see him. I'm like, what the fuck are you talking about? That's what I'm saying. She wanted to see him. No, but she didn't. She said she was a kind of person, you know, so I'm just like, she was seeking anybody. So that confirmed, and we ain't cool enough. It was nothing. She got mad all over again. She got mad all over again. You may think the world of your significant other, but don't everybody want them. Like, just that they get a lot of likes or whatever, don't mean nobody want them. Just because they're hanging around a lot of different people, don't everybody want them. So it's up to you as a person to trust your significant other. Don't worry about the other people. Worry about him or her. Right, if you trust your significant other, you don't care who they're around. Because that girl and that dude can do whatever they want to your significant other. Your significant other ain't reciprocating that love or whatever. Then what are you worried about? Let me piggyback. Let me piggyback off of that. Somebody asked me, in relationships with a mom talking to somebody, whatever the case may be, I'm not a jealous type of person. It's just not in me. To be in need of some jealousy, whatever the case may be. But a lot of people, a lot of people use that to, to equate that to love. Since he's not jealous, he ain't checking for me or worrying about what I'm doing. The thing about females, I'm sorry to keep you all together, is that sometimes, because y'all take stuff, y'all take stuff sometimes. And sometimes, you might say, oh, you know, somebody DM me today. Just to get a rise out of it. I know a lot of people do. I can't agree with you on that. Everybody jealous, you know, may not be on 10, but if a dude creeping at DM you, if he's glad enough, he'll be back. Everybody got a little bit of jealousy in them. It might take a lot of getting out of it. I feel like, I feel like, I feel like that might be the case, but I feel like, you know, just like I'll say, if you're doing, because we're, as human beings, we're scared of being in attitude. We're scared of not being good enough, right? So I feel like, if you're doing everything, you feel like you're supposed to be doing this, to help this person. Like, ask me if I've eaten today, not who, what the bitch was that, who likes to pitch me. I'll say that, just to make him feel good sometimes. I trust my man, and he trusts me. You know what I'm saying? I might do that. He was like, wasn't yesterday. He said, I had said, who was that girl who asked you to play football? I'm like that. I didn't give them, but that didn't happen to you. You know what I'm saying? That don't make us feel good. That's stressful. No. Bro, that's a stress. Yeah, no. But she not saying all the time, you doing it every once in a while, to feel the ego and garbage. Even once in a while. The fact that we know y'all creeping and know who was asking us questions, that is stressful. We ain't really creeping at all since you haven't looked at us. We like to brag to each other. There's only one of you, license. But it's not a problem. I don't know if I'm going to go over each column to see if my column is not long enough. I'm going to take a quick break. Yes, please. Oh, I should talk to the president. Yes, please. Why is that? I'm going to have you much more excited. You don't have to tell us everything like this. No, I don't know if it's going to happen. That's another point to get, is the comment is, both of us are like, okay, I have to get to the end of the minute. Okay. Okay. Bruh. Bruh. Bruh. Let's talk a little at a time. If you have something to say, you know, speak up or raise your hand or whatever the case may be, because everybody's hoping it was. But, um, yeah, so, okay.