 know how there's just some people when they walk in the room they have this aura that just screams winner their aura is just like this person's got it together they have charisma they have this feeling about them that draws you in and they just they have this raw confidence this winning vibe and there are other people where they walk in the room and they have this kind of invisible battered dog kind of feeling and if you were to bet your money on one of the people who is going to win at life you know which one you'd pick so what is that and what leads to developing that kind of vibe or that kind of energy that is everything is always happening in my favor well in this video i think i'm going to talk about one of the most important topics i've ever brought up so stay tuned so guys alex hind author of the habits book master the day so below this video i've included a free journaling worksheet if you're someone who wants to try to get their life together and take it to the next level learn how to set effective goals the first link below this video is for this free journaling worksheet as well as email series you'll get every week so obviously what we see when you see those two people walk in the room it's almost like the movie cliche of the jock and the nerd the jock walks in all puffed up smiley happy ready to go what's up bro and then the jock looks at the nerd who's like hunched over with the book bag like nobody make eye contact with me please don't punch me you know the vibe without analyzing anything else the body language says the internal state right the body language is the external mirror of the internal emotional state of a person almost every time unless they're acting so a person who's typically in one of those more elevated states whether it's just courage and confidence or inspiration they're inspired they give off that feeling to you but a person who's in the opposite state who has this feeling of i don't know i'm worried like kind of ambivalent about life stressed a little depressed a little anxious you feel that too so the first thing is we're feeling a person's confidence but that's not what this video is about behind that confidence is a person who has built a life and they've seen a clear pattern where the winner has consistently seen these wins in life they're more likely to get the jobs they wanted they're more likely to reach their dreams and their goals they're more likely to have the person they ask out say yes and the loser to use these loose terms is more likely to not see the things they want have happened and so individually these people have developed these life stories and these narratives that things generally work out for me or things generally don't work out for me but what is behind that the layer even deeper now you guys might know i used to have this website called milk the pigeon and i still have a book called milk the pigeon a field guide for anyone lost in their 20s and i'd coached probably at least 300 people one on one going through their 20s and untold thousands tens of thousands of the same emails or thousands of students going through my programs and one of the main trends that i noticed that was immaterial that was more invisible was that the people who consistently had life working out for them like life was working in their favor the things they wanted loosely happened more often than not those people the only difference was that they were listening to their gut and had the guts to trust their gut so they had that same feeling that we all have oh look i like that person should i ask them out or i've always wanted to do this thing should i do it or my family must be to do this career but something else really really speaking to me really exciting me they felt the same feeling but they had the courage to act on it whereas my other clients the people that were just always in this kind of like i don't know yeah well i'm i don't know like this ambivalence that lasted decades they either didn't make a decision couldn't recognize their gut or they recognize their gut but the buts all the fears all the rationalizations the mind all that stuff came in and so they never acted on their gut so i found that the through line like the thread that linked a generally positive life where things worked out in the favor was the person's ability to trust their actual gut or hunch or instincts but then act on it now richard wiseman is this researcher who actually had studied lucky and unlucky people and in one of his studies he actually put on an ad in the newspaper this was actually like a experiment where they were going to get paid based on if they you know solve this problem and basically they had to see the number of photographs and count them and then report them so the people that counted the right number would get xyz dollars now what he found was that they actually the researchers put in huge font on the newspaper on one of the pages stop counting there are 43 photographs in this newspaper now what he noticed in his research was that the quote lucky people self-identified as lucky they were more likely to notice that humongous boldface print that said that and then stopped the experiment and get their money versus the unlucky people were not as likely to spot the huge thing in front of them giving them the answer so the weird thing about fear is that fear kind of narrows the looking glass that you see through life until eventually it just squeezes it shut and you can't see anything anymore and of course life is not going to work out for you if you keep going on dates and you don't trust the gut feeling you have about that person your mind likes them they're successful they're decent enough they're interesting but something about your gut says is something off of course things are not going to work out if you keep getting high paying jobs that you hate of course things are not going to work out if you keep making pro con less but something about you just really wants to move to san francisco or new york or houston texas but there's no logical reason for it so you're just like why would i do that of course your life will not work out if you're getting the message but you're just throwing the compass in the ocean so let's do a little simple practice you can do in your daily life the simple practice is first of all the idea of the body scan or body compass that i've talked about here before it's just recognizing the feeling of attraction to something or aversion to something like think about a food you really like what your body language does when it's near you or a food that absolutely disgusts you your facial expressions your stomach feeling the way your body moves pay attention to that and then start documenting how that shows up when you go on dates when you interact with certain people when you see that job ad pop up when you have these discussions with your friends and your family when you think of moving to that place or going on that trip how does that body compass register your compass has given you data all the time it's showing you where true north is but for so many of us fearing it and not listening to it or recognizing it but not acting on it is like having the compass to true north and throwing it in the ocean or throwing it in a ditch you have the answer but you're deliberately putting c because you're too afraid that it could be so simple that it really is just a so my experience why some people continually feel blessed backed by guardian angels guided is a good word is because they trust that inner feeling that yeah i this i feel like this is the thing this is the direction to go in and then they make the brave decision to actually trust that that is the number one thing that i've noticed so this is a big video and a really really important topic i hope you take it seriously that's my mission my tiny daily habit for you today now again i've included a journaling worksheet below this video that first link you'll also get an email every week on how you can use journaling to go through this exact process that i just talked about all right guys before you go there's two related videos for you here that'll help you do that process