 Yeah, you can use that for anything. I love how tall you are. I love how sweet as you look I love the way you're just looking at me like what's going on, you know, and it just Diffuses the situation if you can call out what she's thinking and turn it into a joke. It's not a problem anymore and The last thing I want to talk about is closing and closing solid so a Lot of guys when they when they go for the number like they've done this great approach She's attracted. He's built a bit of comfort, you know, and it's time to close The whole thing goes out the window and they go into this approval-seeking Kind of thing where they'll say oh, this has been really nice Can we swap numbers or This has been great. Maybe maybe I could maybe I could take you out for a drink sometime You know and it's like it undoes all the work that he put in a daygame.com we say open strong and Close strong the rest of it in the middle Doesn't have to be that fantastic But if you can open really really strong and she's looking at you with the frame of like Wow, this okay, this guy is he's confident, you know, he knows what he wants Rather than is he trying to sell me something? What is what does he want? Yeah, and you can close in a way where she's where you're basically You're not asking her permission at no time in an interaction. Are you ever asking her permission for anything? Yeah, you're telling her what you think you don't really care what she thinks, you know And this is so attractive to a woman when you're a guy who just lives in his own reality And he's not bending his reality to meet hers. Yeah He's not worried about what she thinks. He's just Saying it like it is, you know So as I was saying when it comes to closing I see so many guys Kind of do this little dance when it comes to getting a number and it and it just becomes really contrived It comes it comes out so contrived So the best way easiest way to open and I got this from Yad and it works every time is At the point when it's time to close You say I Tell you what I Would love to invite you out sometime And then just look her in the eye with a straight face and don't say anything else That's it. That's all you need to do and when she says Okay, or yes, then you just get your phone out and it's obvious that she's going to give you a number But at no point do you actually say to her? Can I have your number? Maybe we should swap numbers. Yeah, you're telling her you're giving her reason It's what you want to do with it. You want to go out with her. Yeah Obviously if she says yes to going out with you then you're going to get your phone out And then at that point if she's not comfortable with giving you a number She might say I'll tell you what I'll give you my Facebook or my email and that's fine as well Yeah, so that's all you need to do is you need to At that point in interaction where you think okay now's the time to close It's just to say oh, I can see you in a rush and you got to go But I tell you what I would love to invite you out sometime and then just look at her with a straight face and I think I'll leave it there. That's it Thank you. Oh, we've got a Q&A. Yeah. Okay. Any questions? Hmm. Oh, yeah. Yeah, yeah I forgot actually and just to sort of thank all you guys for coming today. 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I think as Long as it's coming from the right place Then you don't need to do anything what I'm talking about is my style and my style is very chill No, not everybody is like me as long as the energy is not coming from a place of approval seeking Then I think I think it's fine because if you're being yourself then that's that's what this is about But what when I was saying about not going in With all this high energy, maybe that was the wrong word I shouldn't have said that what I should have said was going in trying to attract her going out of your way to try and attract her So having high energy is fine if that if you're a high energetic guy, and that's your natural style Then that's great, but just as long as it's coming from the right place It's coming from a place of like this is me and I'm comfortable not It's not coming from a place if I've got to be so high energy because otherwise she's not gonna like me, you know so It's I think it's something that You'll find your own style. I mean, I don't know how experienced are you with with this stuff You're quite experienced with a game and pick up Okay, you may find that as you as you advance your energy might may start to come down naturally You know because you start to you start to care about it less like you start to not care so much about the outcome And that affects how you your your whole demeanor your whole behavior in the interaction Once you really don't care and that's something that I should have mentioned earlier actually once you really don't care about the outcome It it just permeates through everything through the approval seeking through your body language It's like I really could just walk away at any minute, you know So yeah I mean you've mentioned about kind of being natural and not Trying too hard and not being invested and being outcome independent, but don't you have to go through a phase Sort of fake it till you make it where yeah, you act you're acting that way, but you really are trying you really are you know kind of Yeah, trying to act differently to the way you naturally do and then it becomes natural because that's kind that's kind of it Like I said, it's that there's a process where to begin with it's it's nervous you're just nervous and fearful and Approaching is an ordeal when you just hate it and then once you once you can do it you get you get filled with this Like oh my god, I can do this. This is great. So you start going up to girls with this just high energy You know and I can't remember it now in my head when I used to do it