 Hey Jumped on here a little early tonight get my little situation Set up got my little drop pod on here Forgive me for the last minute notice. I was uh Still dealing with this here back. Well the tripod out the way. Yes Want to pop on here tonight. Let me see now if I can Too bright on the face Want to pop on here tonight and do another Q&A Because I miss a couple videos this week. So and I owe y'all a few Q&A's So let me Try to hopefully tonight. I could do an hour to an hour and a half I just got to see what my battery gonna do for me tonight And we'll know better than Amazon Chocolate coated life. God bless you now. Remember to put the hashtag Q in front of your question So I can identify It's a lot of scrolling and then they get away from me sometimes so y'all got to forgive me for that there God bless you Jojo Precious boyfriend told me not to trust him. What should I do? Leave him If a man tell you don't trust him you need to leave Just met a man and we've stayed on the phone almost three hours talking met on Facebook We were Facebook friends. Is this healthy? As long as you're not neglecting kids or work or stuff you got to do then you are right If you neglecting Priorities didn't know it's not healthy Hey Tony, I've been meaning to ask you how men can be so selfish have no empathy for cheating and treating women so horribly I'm not sure if you really, you know, that's a real question, you know, or just kind of rhetorical question You know really only God knows but When we look at everything in this world and you see how men are raised and just how men are wired It really just comes down to Just the programming Just the way men, you know move in the world today. That's that's really all it is It's just our programming and the way we set up We're not really taught how to love. We're not really taught to love Y'all got to give me let me put this here light Baby's father wants to see her all of a sudden after a year I have feelings of resentment and don't want it anymore. What do I do? Well, see now what you got identified you said you have feelings of resentment So this ain't about you. So this about him and the baby now what you got to look at is is he healthy? Is he healthy? Is he meaning if he getting high if he getting drunk then and he hanging out in the streets He live in a trap house and he gonna be bringing her to the trap house now That's unhealthy But if he is healthy and doing what he's supposed to do it's not about you and what you want It's about him and the child as long as you feel that he's gonna be a healthy influence So that's what you got to get to you got to get over your feelings because you got to remember Just the man you laid down with so at the end of the day This is a product of your choices and you make a bed you got to lay in it So understand that now. That's hard to hear but Your your daughter get 13 and ask you where her daddy at and then she'll go find him herself And he'll say I've been trying to reach you for the last 12 years and your mama wouldn't let me talk to you and Then she gonna hate you Well, the man continue with you if his immediate family doesn't really care for you or feel as if they don't It just it all depends it that's not a one-size-fits-all Typically immediate family is not gonna care for a woman just all the time especially if they used to that man doing something for them or he play a role in their life typically the family not gonna want you to be there and Really honestly a man really only gonna leave you if he don't really want you that gives him an excuse to leave you if he Don't really want you now. I done left Exes in the past over my sister and my mama or my daddy not Caring for them, but I also didn't really care for him either now when they had certain little feelings or certain little stuff They'll say about my wife Then they know I wasn't gonna pay them no attention because I know my wife and I love my wife And I want to be with her so they realize This who I want to be with y'all got to get with the program or y'all gonna get left behind Because I got a word about who I'm a marrying Bring children into the world with and who I'm raised kids with so that's when my family was like, okay We're gonna head and chill on out about our little opinions or what have you? Cal niche a God bless you What other things can a single woman in her 40s do if you are working on the three B's and dating is impossible? Because of the situation Without feeling lonely at times lonely is is natural. You know, that's something that you've got to embrace That's something that you got to appreciate that loneliness You got to appreciate that loneliness knowing that you ain't always going to be lonely And so get sick and tired of being lonely so that when you get somebody You ready for that relationship and you happy for but at the end of the day What you got to do is always ask yourself Where's my have I written my book? Have I wrote my book? Have I started my for-profit? Have I started my nonprofit? If you haven't done those three things then You shouldn't be lonely because you should be busy working crystal God bless you now was talking to a guy He was mad that I had male friends He spashed out on me and told me to delete his number because I didn't answer the phone while I was at my friends get together I blocked him. Was I wrong? No, you weren't wrong. You weren't wrong. I tell y'all all the time you got to recognize crazy early If a man spads not on you because he couldn't put his finger on you when he wanted to put his finger on you That lets you know he crazy and if you ignore that and you stay with that man, you're gonna end up in somebody's ditch Sierra god bless you was on the right path fell for a grown boy and created a soul tie How do I reset? Definitely letting him go but i'm disappointed in myself That's good. You're disappointed in yourself. That's good. If you wasn't disappointed in yourself, then that'll be a problem But the good books say sorrow leads to repentance so It's good that you feel that so now now you can do the work So keep watching the videos keep reading the books keep taking the courses get your accountability partner somebody you can talk to You see this right here behind my head my mentor dot life. You go on and get your coach And talk through it Hey, now if y'all already asked a question y'all ask one question and let everybody else ask a question And if you see everybody else ask they question then you put a second question But try to because just the way it happens I just look up and whatever question I see That's what question I answer But if it happened to be The same person now i'm answering two three questions of the same person just by default So if you ask a question and I answer your question Uh, hold your question and and let other people ask they question Do men ever think a woman is too pretty or too smart or too something and not want to date her Now he could think she's too something Nah, but it ain't gonna be nothing. That's too good He could think she's too loose He could think she's too trashy. He could think she's too Ignorant he could think she's too ghetto. He could think she's too childish But a man ain't ever gonna walk away from a woman because she's too pretty She too smart. She too successful. She too classy Every man want a woman. Honestly, that's better than him. So whenever A lot of women, you know Say that oh, I was too Too successful I was too pretty. I was too this or that. No, you weren't no you weren't He just ain't want you he just ain't want you because He he didn't even see your value you you wasn't what he was looking for You know, whether that but whether that's because he was immature or what have you he didn't want you And but a man he ain't gonna turn away from a woman that he think is a good woman Hi, Tony my fiance who recently got out of prison from doing eight years He went in when he was 19 and got out last year when he was 27 What are some red flags I should look for? Well, you really want to see if He's coming right out and he's ambitious And if he's transparent If he's been, you know, giving you his word and keeping his word to be honest with you this your fiance and You say he recently got out of prison So and he's now only 27 To be honest you finna be in You your red flag is gonna be a fire truck You you just like you know how to firemen ride on the side of the fire truck When they're going to put out a fire. That's what you finna be doing. That's right there You just finna ride a fire truck from fire to fire to fire because this man been gone eight years It's hard for a man to be faithful and give you his everything when he done been in the free world So now this man been gone eight years. We didn't got new iPhones. We we got new tv show We got new technology. He didn't came in the social media He finna see what a tech talk is he finna see what a real is He finna see all kind of bullet jiggling all kind of twerking They didn't even have twerking when he went to prison now. They got twerking So he finna face so much temptation It's really not even smart to jump into a relationship or to be in a relationship with a man that's been locked down in prison so I've never seen that really turn out. Well, he he need about a year or two years to acclimate So you you really gotta be in some prayer And don't speak nothing on them now if if he come out and hear an exception to the rule And he just amazing and he just got all dripping from the anointing or dripping from him And he amazing that don't speak nothing on him now don't accuse him of doing something that you don't know He's doing don't do nothing like that. But you definitely got to have your eyes wide open Tony, what is the best way to find your purpose when you're over the age of 40? Where Do I get started? Well, what you got to remember is that purpose is really just serving So you could be 80 and find your purpose so And a lot of times your purpose will be connected to your pain So if let's say if you were You know taking advantage of at a young age Well, if you if that happened to you, you know what it felt like on the other side of that You know if you felt alienated if you felt like you couldn't talk to anybody So your purpose could literally be starting a nonprofit To go connect with the guidance counselor and be connected with young girls who are struggling in school Because they may be going through what you went through That's purpose You could see somebody doing a good work that you like and you just go volunteer You just go be a part of it. That's purpose So purpose is always rooted in service And so if you can't start something yourself join what somebody else doing See just like how the moderators on here and they keep the chat clear for me and you know, they help me out That's purpose because they're serving they're serving and in that service They're going to discover their passion their purpose what they want to create they may say Tony good about 70% of the time he's saying what's right that other 30% I need to start me a channel so I could so I could be hitting on what he's missing So I could speak from they in serving My ministry they may find and discover their own ministry right their own book You see what I mean? So just start serving jimmy god bless you now Um, god bless you mr. Gaston just sending a blessing of thanks and to let you know There's a brother out there who's grateful for all you do not all of us are against you You helped me to be a good man. Hey god bless you now jimmy god bless you So appreciate you cool calm chris bless you. Thank you for your video how to date correctly it bless me Hey bless you now. Let me see if I got that one Hi, Tony. I've been having a tough time focusing on god Honestly, I find myself thinking about my past especially my ex and bad decisions I made How can I focus on god consistently? Well, you got to remember that you're human, you know, so you you don't want to Be so Heavenly minded that you know earthly good So you got to remember that you're human And remember that, you know while when you get distracted and you're thinking about your ex. That's a sign That could be god telling you then you need to continue healing you need to be Getting coaching you need to be writing your book or reading a book You need to be talking to a good friend who encourages you and speaks life into you You need to have an encouragement circle. You need to have an accountability partner So whenever you feel those little moments to where you're thinking about your ex That's human but it means You have a soul tie and you need to continue doing the work So it could be as simple as when you're thinking about that just start praying When you're thinking about that Pick up your bible and start reading, you know, but you you don't want to be a robot Ag is it okay to be silent? Yes for a period of time now see what what I talk about when I say the silent treatment I'm really talking about like two three days But when you are silent for an hour You know two hours to gather yourself to cool off to do your cool down technique It kind of calm down or just think and process That's different. Now when you silent to play mind games with the other person, that's wrong So understand that single mom Both parents passed by age 28. So don't have family or friends How do I deal with being all alone? I find myself pouring more than getting poured into Well, see as a single mom in a situation like that You you can't look Outwardly you have to look within and what I mean by that is you have to realize that You may be put in the valley Solely so you could raise your children with your influence So because you're a mother your children have to become your life. So I'll give you an example My son My oldest son right now. He's doing Soccer and soccer practice is Tuesday Thursday and saturday He's also doing crossfit and crossfit is friday saturday and sunday and My wife takes him to practice to all six of those practices and Whether i'm I could be in another country. She still does all of that So it ain't because it's because she got me she do all of that herself unless I can go do it so Understand that you have to invest in your children now Don't work because you could be raising the next president. You could be raising the next District attorney you could be raising the next Nobel peace prize winner. You see what I mean? So once you have children life is no longer about you Not it's about your lineage not it's about your legacy that you leave by how you raise them So don't don't worry about and there's no rest for the weary and what I mean by that is is when you call The when you put it in a position to where you're the head to where you're the leader Then You can't depend you got to depend on god. You got to go to god for your rest You got to go to god for your peace because see me. I really don't have anybody to talk to Because of what god has called me to I try to talk to coaches and things of that but god have to give somebody a revelation That's different than mine in order for me to be fed from them But because of what god has called me to do and what he put on me It's really I don't really meet people that is Moving spiritually on that wavelength. So that leaves me solo to where my father my wife my You know Colleagues constituents coaches mentors or as you would call it whatever you call it They nobody fully understand my positioning and what I'm called to nobody really can understand what I'm doing because It's only a few of us with the type of business that I have In the spiritual realm So I say that to say Nobody going to understand you as a single mom who lost both of their parents by 28 So that's when you got to call on god and realize that you are the one that's called to leave the blueprint For the single mothers in that situation coming behind you Justice god bless you. Hi mr. Gatsons. I took your birth your book course and I wrote my book called poetry that soothes The soul and it's now on amazon. It's full christian theology and was wondering if I could send you a copy for you to read Justice god bless you now god bless you. Um You can send me a copy Because it might be like a seed, you know like you saw in a seed But but I I know I won't read it. I don't I don't I get so many of those books coming in I I can't lie to you some people. Yes in my cup. I read it I one of my client just sent me his book. He just probably I said no, I'm not gonna read your book But I appreciate you sending it because it's the act of what you're doing but You know It's so many books coming in that I wouldn't have time to think I wouldn't have time to do Anything if I'm reading all these books that's being sent to me from the graduates of the birth your book Program, so god bless you. I'm glad to help and y'all If you read poetry go get her poetry book on amazon poetry that soothes the soul And now you see now she published her book And she took the birth your book course all right All right, you see how that work working on the three B's and feeling great I'm only being hit on by looks challenged Or men that remind me of my exes. What should I do differently? Keep doing you keep doing you keep doing what you're doing It's just like, you know, when I became an author You see the book behind my head The book is published by simon and shooster, which is one of the top five publishers in the world Well, when I was looking for a literary agent I sent out like over a hundred query letters to literary agents All of them said no all of them say we don't understand what you're doing. We don't really get it. Who are you? And they all said no, so I just started self-publishing I kept self-publishing and I just sat still And then my literary agent who sold that book and who sold a woman's influence to simon and shooster She came to me She found me on facebook So I say that to say When you know you're doing what you all you could do just keep doing And in the right time what's for you is going to be for you Nobody can block it, but you can't force it Don't don't change what you're doing if you're doing the right thing Chevelle god bless you now should you give a man another chance knowing he is keeping parts of his life's secret He doesn't know what I know know that I know and should I tell him I know um Well, see it just Does what you know hurt you so like If I know something about my wife, but it doesn't affect me like if I know she went through some trauma, but it doesn't affect me then And she's not operating from that place then it doesn't matter that I know If I know that she cheated on me with a guy Then that matters that I know because that affects me So if you just know some information That doesn't affect your relationship Then it doesn't matter But if you know he slept somebody cheated on you lied to you about something concerning y'all then that's a different story So He don't need to know that you know For you not to deal with him if you know when you know better do better That's what you got to understand j. Renee. God bless you my ex is 50 I'm 26 Treats me like a queen stable job Home car and excellent credit Like older men, but he's too soft like Like more masculine men. Also. He only makes 90k. I want to be a stay at home mom thoughts uh nah Now I try to take all these questions serious, but This sound like you trolling me This sound like you trolling this sound like somebody playing online Because I don't know how long you them being on my page But I Okay, now I'm gonna answer this seriously in case this is a serious question But this time I'm gonna let you know though. This sound like you trolling me So that so just by me saying that ought to let you know Just how your question sounded me. All right I Matter of fact, I can't answer that question because I can't I can't come on now. Okay Only 90k only 90k 99% of people won't make 90k in a lifetime Okay, 50. He better have a stable job home car excellent credit. He 50 He old enough to be your granddaddy in this day and age. He old enough to be your granddaddy It is 26 years old with a 50-year-old granddaddy. You know, man All right, and in the end so sister really honestly what you said what your message says to me Is that you looking for a sugar daddy? You ain't looking for no husband. You're looking for a sugar daddy. That's what your message say now So you looking for a sugar daddy night? Go go go right here my mentor that like go on to my mentor that like And so you could talk that thing out go on talk that thing out Go on my mentor like Danny god bless you Tony every now and then I would reach out to my ex and initiate convo He's done me so wrong in the past a toxic person got issues I don't know why I feel the desire at times to reach out. I feel dumb I feel dumb I feel dumb I don't I the last part of your message just kept I was trying to make sure I was reading where I feel dumb Okay, all right Danny Read your question one more time now and see get that in your spirit. See in every in every problem It seeds to the solution So right there right there what you just said right that in I feel dumb Okay, you reaching out to your ex Who did you nasty and he talks it? So what what what y'all therapists call it a trauma bond? You see what I mean? You have to look at that situation and you got to say Do I love me? And what is it about this person who hurt me that keep making me going back? So get you about four to twelve sessions of therapy And once you understand the clinical Implications of what's going on with the trauma bonds and all of those things Then go on graduate to coaching To where you can start talking about the spiritual side of things with the soul ties And the lack of self-love and then you could take that pain Turn those mistakes into lessons I mean you could turn that pain into purpose Because what it is is you hurt but you haven't learned from it And so that's why you keep reaching back because You haven't gotten the lesson from what from the mistakes that you live through Jay, what if you wait until marriage before being intimate and found out That it's bad then what thoughts? Well honestly The only way you know sex is bad really Is when you're not in love Because I remember hearing a Sex therapist say that it only take a thing about this big Okay, it only take a thing about this big to Give a woman a release That's that's why they make those little bullets for y'all And y'all be around here in sin with them bullets. So essentially That's what they're saying But see it's about where your mind at where your heart at Because love making is in the mind So when it's bad You're not really in love you may have love for the person But y'all not in love because when you in love Then you working for each other you loving each other you sacrifice for each other So he gonna shower he gonna brush his teeth he gonna make sure he clean You're gonna make sure you clean smelling fresh with what with what you're using honey pot Summer e y'all say summer e even toxic, but whatever you using down there dial soap Dial soap gonna be to peel your skin off Iris spraying Whatever you you you gonna make sure that you presenting yourself He gonna make sure he present because y'all in love and then if They hit on work, right? He finna be down there You son up peach cobbler You see what I mean? So a lot of people have this fear But if you just fall in love you ain't got to worry about nothing else if you fall in love That that 70% of it already done 90% of it all in already done if you in love T johnson god bless you. Thank you for your time and wisdom mr. Gass a bless you bless you Kalneisha Bless you Boyfriend cheated address him Denied then shut down once I stated In his face. I'm out. He pushed me in front of our kids. What to do regarding the kids You're gonna need coaching because see you got Of you in there the a word a b u l m. All right came to talk about all that kind of stuff on youtube So you got that in there? And so that could be what what if it happened like on the movie? He got game when he pushed it if you would have fell and hit your head on the stove You would have went to meet the lord. You see what I mean? So when stuff that deep you need coaching 499 it ain't gonna get you what you need sister That did the right there that way too deep for for what we doing here. We ain't going there You need coaching sister and if you can't afford coaching then read A woman's influence read a woman's influence that woman's influence Everybody who has been honest Now if I got an old hater that read the book they could have left it three star two stars But everybody who just honestly read the book like they ain't got nothing against me personally They gave it a five star. I I was afraid of the book So I didn't read the book again I still have not read my wife's part in the book a woman's influence But if you ain't read it make sure you read it. Let me show it to y'all Get what it looked like now Make sure you get this book tonight if the lord if the lord got you something in your account the way you can afford it You can't afford it. God bless you. We're gonna lift you up in prayer We're gonna keep praying financial blessings on you But if you can afford it make sure you get to his book because I'm be honest with you. I'm shocked. I'm shocked because the feedback that I've heard from people DMing me I just I've just been blown away. I'm like lord. I thought those were my worst book but Because I wrote it. I just wrote straight through it took me about three or four days Maybe five days. I just wrote it straight through. I ain't read back through it. I ain't do nothing I just dumped my heart out there. I said, Lord, I don't know if this gonna be too real I don't know if this gonna offend people. I don't know how it's gonna make me sound But the feedback has just been a blessing Uh, let me see who that was. Tonya Jordan. God bless you now Tonya Jordan that sounded like a famous name now. Oh, I guess somebody Jordan, but hey Better gonna be great better gonna be great with last name like that Montel Jordan Michael Jordan Tonya Jordan better gonna make it Only one Kenny god bless you mr. Gaston keep on blessing us at all ages. Thank you and your family may god continue to Be in your life. You are doing great things God bless you now. Thank you Um I'm looking for y'all question now. Look if if I don't answer the question from you Hold your question till I get to answer a few other people question My ex wanted me to have an affair with another guy He set me up with it I don't understand Why he did that he wasn't having an affair at the time So now I see when somebody do something like that, that's when I that's when I let y'all use that word that y'all love to you Y'all know the word y'all love to you Start with an What's the word? Y'all love that word why start with an And I ain't talking about what what y'all call black people Narcissism Y'all so ready y'all ready. They everybody who watching this is that's a narcissist Narciss Y'all got the little bell that y'all finna have a little alarm that just just you tap on mercy Somebody a man that's when I that's when I be okay Which I'll use that word when when somebody do something crazy like that So some of your man do something crazy like that. He's slap crazy He's some kind of a tad bunny. He's slap crazy Go on about your life because ain't no man in his right mind Gonna try to set his warming up with a real man for him to sleep with that man nine I didn't try to use a google voice number to see if I could strike up a conversation With somebody, you know that I'm dealing with to see if they gonna Respond, you know something like that. I tried my wife like that early on in our relationship You know trying to be petty But a whole man like a physical man that that he won't Something wrong with him Elena god bless you broke up with x of two and a half years Because he delayed the proposal Elena you asked this question last night And so I guess you asked the question then got offline and Didn't hear your question get answered I broke up with x of two and a half years because he delayed the proposal never met his family Now he is saying he wants to go to the courthouse to get married a little uncertain We both are christian with good jobs. Okay. That's a different version. So you're trying to get a coaching session in All right, you say all right spending this $20 better than 300 Tony answered the question Um, you wasting your time You wasting your time because Here go the key words two and a half years Two and a half years Or they don't take a man that long to know if you his wife He delayed the proposal that means he's unsure about you and he should not be unsure at two and a half years You've never met his family That means he don't feel you worthy to meet his family or he don't feel his family worthy To be in his business which also speaks to some toxicity or some brokenness But not meeting the family for whatever reason is a red flag Now he's saying he want to go to the courthouse to get married what that is talking. That's his ego talking That's his soul type strangling him And so he's trying to fix it. And so he know in order to get you back He got to one up you and give you what you what you've been waiting on So he's going to take you to the courthouse and marry you But then he's going to keep dogging you out dragging you along And when I say dogging out, I mean you're wasting your time and then when he gets his feel of you And he figure out what he want to do with his life He's going to drop you like a hot potato and move on with his life because he he's not afraid of divorce Valerie god bless you now Um, the ratio, let me answer your question So you could stop posting your question in here because I see your question 90 times the ratio is do you hear me? the ratio Testing testing do you hear me? All right? I'm finna answer your question. So you can stop posting this question in here And let somebody post a question. All right If I have a stalker and I begin dating someone should I let the person I'm dating know or does that not matter? I've gotten police involved. So hopefully he stopped All right, go ahead and see I can't touch on questions like that because When you deal them with stuff like that that's That's deeper than this here so Yeah, just do what you're doing. You dealing with the police. That's who you're supposed to be dealing with when you're dealing with stalkers. All right, not not not you too to enact because I've been a say at some something being happening then Your family be trying to sue me. Do do what you do. Do what you're doing. All right So what what y'all gotta realize about when I'm on here? I don't deal with any type of a word A b u s e I don't deal with any of that Anything that that could cost you your life if you mention anything about H o m i c i d e s u i c i d e anything about any of that right there That's old. That's old my Depression I ain't got it all of that right there anything that you need therapy for or that you need police for Don't ask me about that I am a life coach. So we dealing with Love little questions. All right. We ain't getting all Deep ocean deep on hell With all that's going on in the world and the climate of dating and marriage I'm scared of dating and meeting someone who could potentially hurt me. Is that bad or should I step out anyway? If you're scared then stay out the way If you're scared stay out the way You're not ready for love until you ready To take the risk of being hurt of having your heart broken Being lied to being cheated on You you could go through that in any relationship at any given time in your life It don't matter if the world the world will never be perfect It always be stuff going on It'll never be the right time to date if if you want to date without any worry of being hurt So what but the reason why you fear Is because You do not know What I mean is a lack of knowledge Produces an abundance of fear So the more you know the more confident you feel So the more videos you watch and the more books you read the more courses you take them The more you feel you understand about men about women about love about relationships The more confident you become so now you're not afraid to date because you know On the first date you're going to be able to recognize the red flags because of how you've prepared yourself So if you have not done the work then you're going to be afraid to be hurt because You don't know what a red flag looks like because you haven't done the work. You haven't done enough work So that's that's what that is an indication of error Desa god bless you Both divorced with kids We work and he is about To start school A lot of moving parts He initiates text all day and we meet two to three times a week two to four hours Dating four months. Our dialogue is reliable Don't talk on the phone. Don't talk over the phone thoughts um Yeah, that last part right there that you thought in there and see you notice that you put all the Good in there first And then the last part that you dropped in there. Don't talk over the phone That's the part right there that you know ain't right That's the part right there that you know He and the relationship That's why you don't talk over the phone because see a man in relationship can meet up with you two two to three times a week A man in relationship can text you all day, but when the man don't talk to you over the phone That's because that phone record gonna show it That's because the other woman could log in and see that phone and All he he's hiding something But a man all that else what you said and see Y'all work and he's about to start school that right there gonna get just give him a little bit more space to get a little further from you So he's dealing with somebody So understand that right there now Rebecca God bless your height on it. Do I tell someone I'm not interested Without hurting his feelings How do I tell someone I'm not interested without hurting his feelings He used to work at my job and we exchanged numbers only because we used to work on the same unit Not because I was interested Uh, you're not gonna hurt his feelings. You you just if he trying to come on you like that then just say, hey, you know, I Just say the same way you would fire an employee Because what happened when you fire an employee if you do it the wrong way they could come back up there with that tool You know seeing that on the news. So the same way you let an employee go That's the same way you break up somebody cool, calm and cordial respectful. We appreciate you, but we gotta go separate ways so Do it like that right there and you're not gonna hurt his feelings men men go through so much in the world If it hurt his feelings, he's still he's gonna be able to heal Uh, jane's greater regard bless you now God bless you now And that's usd jane's. All right now jane jane A unit came into a blessing Lord let him pour out on his life my good That might be all I think that might only It might be the first or maybe the second time i've seen somebody do something like that. They'll jane. I bless you now Hear counsel and receive instruction that thou may as be wise in the latter end Proverbs 19 20. Thank you for your wisdom mr. Gaston. God bless you now. Hey, I show appreciation Now deny jane's now Don't do no charge back jane's Okay, don't don't be sending that to come on here flex now and call your bank tomorrow still fraud now because I don't want you to go through The wrath of the lord. Okay, and you use the scripture. So now if you call and say that's his fraudulent chart The wrath is gonna be so strong So don't play with the lord like that now jane because you didn't drop the scripture on us And you didn't drop that blessing. Hey jane just Know i'm praying for you bless you lord bless him 10 fold 100 fold a thousand fold lord I don't want you to come on here playing with the lord now God giving god bless you. Why is Why is it That my child's father keep bringing up his girlfriend even when I told him I don't care It's because he has a soul type And a soul tired strangling him and that's why he want to bring her up because he's trying to hurt you because he's hurting And it thoughts on so-called Christ believing Hebrew men saying the bible teaches. It's okay to have multiple wives now In the old testament it was And that's why I was saying and there were so many christians that just got so up in arms when I said that A person reading the bible can say that the bible contradicts itself If they are not spiritually inclined to understand What's happening in the bible the old testament? You can have multiple wives And he brews or whatever brews they was Had multiple women the wives. Remember sarah told abraham go sleep with such such Remember jacob had rachel and leo In the new testament is when things was changed So if if a person is hebrew and they believe in the Torah You know, they believe in the old testament then for them that may be true in their belief when I went to africa They had me in africa in south africa talking about love and relationships and I was like, uh So can some people over here have multiple wives and they're like, oh, yeah the zulu the zulu tribe They can have multiple wives. I said, well, why y'all brought me over here to talk about love and relationships the way I teach it When it's okay in y'all culture to have multiple wives. Don't be don't don't get me shot With them darks over here now because I'm not come on now Now and the young brothers that you know, they got them a good little laugh and all that But I'm like, bro. So some belief systems. That's what they believe. But if you believe And you know that that ain't right. They don't let nobody talk you out your belief going about your business Can you explain a man's ego? Can a man be in love and still have an ego? Uh, not really ego and love don't really go together But so he could have an ego meaning that he can operate from ego But as soon as he operates from ego, he then will quickly be checked in his spirit and so After being checked in his spirit, then he will apologize or he will Correct course. He will change his behavior to Overcome that ego so ego and love don't go together because ego is more so connected to you know Pride So understand that How would you handle parental alienation? My son just turned 15 and his father told him that I wrecked his life I see the hate building up in my baby boy's eyes and it breaks my heart Okay, so y'all okay Now I don't fully understand your question. Uh, because because I don't understand if you're saying His father told him that you wrecked the son life or you wrecked the dad life Um, but what the way to get past that is communication So it's your son. So if you sit down and talk to him, he's gonna listen Even if he frowning, even if he looking mad, he's gonna listen And if he need if he ever gonna need you for anything, that means you've got his ear So if he needs some new shoes, if he need if he gonna need a car at 16 If he need a roof over his head Then he got to sit down and listen to your side of the story And when you tell your son The story and when you tell your side of the story completely and clearly now that brings understanding Whether no matter what his daddy said, he need to hear from you and he's heard from his daddy And that's how you get through that. The worst thing parents do is Parents aren't transparent. The best parent is transparent So when you openly communicate just like you would want in a relationship You have to communicate with your children so that they fully understand Why you are the way you are and where you're operating from Do you think that men who choose to not commit to one woman May be operating out of a place of fear and insecurity Uh, Serita, you already know that answer You already know that answer Dating a man for two months Said he wants to date me with intention Found out he is dating other women Should I continue dating or talking with him red flag or okay because we're not official Well, what that lets you know is that You need to have your legs closed Because if he's sleeping with them and he's sleeping with you now y'all got a smorgasbord of bacteria And you're going to end up with something so your legs need to be closed And your eyes and ears need to be open What that also means is that If a man if you meet another man tomorrow That you think look handsome approach you respectfully And looks like he could be a husband Then it's okay to give him your phone number so he could reach out to you and it's okay To converse with two or three men at the same time as long as you're not sleeping with them Because you're not going to meet a man That isn't dating other women Every man you meet gonna if he has the ability to talk to a second or a third woman. He's doing that He's gonna do that until he Feels like one of those women is his wife And when he feels like she is his wife, then he's gonna cut off The other women so as a woman don't put all your eggs in one basket Don't just focus on one man If you don't know that's your husband. You don't know him well enough. So don't don't be shooting nobody else down Why do these men reach out to single women when they know they aren't ready to be in a relationship? I'm talking about the 50 plus men Now let me ask y'all a question now y'all gotta y'all have to ask me questions about y'all About what you're going through. Okay Because now I told y'all when y'all say why do men why do men why do men That's like saying Why is the sky blue? Why is water wet? When y'all when y'all ask this right here. So something right like that right there. Why do men Talk to women. Why do men reach out to a That's just me. That's just me men men selfish The that's a grown boy. You see what I mean? So When you ask a question they need to be specifically you and your man And what y'all dealing with what y'all going through other than that you just could chalk it up as That's just me. It's just here. What it is. It's why water wet. It's why the sky blue That's the same answer So, you know, we'll be we need we'll have to talk to jesus confucius and playdoh and aeroscotter to understand Why humans do some of the stuff we do To me for god bless you nine Thank you, tony for confirming my thoughts on how a man should treat the woman He says he loves I told my aunt about you and now she watches daily. Hey the auntie god bless you nine God bless you. Tony. Do you have an official cash app? God bless you My cash app is my name Tony gaskins. You see carmel kisses put it right there. It's my name. Tony gaskin D d one and only god bless you but nine nine Who that was after that jane? Now jane, hold on nine Nine, hold on jane. I pray over these funds nine that you because you asked about cash Now you ain't getting old sba scoundrel. I don't a jane don't send me no sba fraudulent matter nine to help me tired up because I'd be on that witness stand like six nine like to cost you six nine saying like a bird Well, yes, so on august 16th james came on my life and gave 300 of the fraudulent sba loan money And then he asked about my cash out and he sent This amount and I never spent it. You I'll be on the same like a bird They talk about don't snitch So, hey, not jane. Hey bless you nine bless you nine. I ain't I ain't did that much for you now, bro God bless you but hey what I was talking what I was talking about today What I was telling you all the day on my on my Sunday sermon this morning About how how Lorda Send folks your way like james. Lord bless him. Lord bless him. Bless him Everybody on here Who who sending a blessing? Hey, you ain't have to do it. God bless you Tony what bible do you read? I read all the bibles I read all the bibles king jane version new standard version Uh, American standard version I read all the version. I read the scripture. I read it in seven eight different translations So you're you're able to do that They got the bible app out there and then I use bible hub.com And you're reading all the translations Rosanna Garcia god bless you nine My soon-to-be ex-husband hasn't seen his kids or reached out in four months Will he ever be the dad he needs to be? Now see that's what y'all that's the kind of question right there rosanna that that y'all be trying to ask psyches Let's see me personally. I can't I don't tell the future neither can a psychic tell the future because they work for the devil So that right there. I can't tell you, you know He recently unblocked on social media and his friends are recently requesting me he recently unblocked your on social media So he might want to see what you're doing what you have going on and If he your soon-to-be ex-husband and he reached out to it to your kids What you have to realize about that type of man Is you want to go on about your business Going all the way about your business because see what you have to realize is When you are dealing with a man that you have children with And he can cut his children off That's a cold ruthless cold-hearted ignorant immature man He all of the above and that type of man you want to get far away from You want to get far away from So understand that right now Hi, tony god bless you was in a relay relationship for years four years And left because god dealt With me About leaving it's hard because I felt he was the one Was there a woman you felt was the one before your wife Absolutely not Because if you the one and let me teach on this right here if you the one Then it won't be any leaving See what you have to realize about love is that love real love does not leave So until I knew my wife, I did not know love You don't fall in love two times as a man See when a man love you he's never letting you go It's only one thing could pull a man away from you and that's the grave That's the grave when a man love you now see women typically can fall in love more than once because you want to receiving in And he is leading and he's the one who has to get on one knee. So you're loving him But understand it's right here. Jalisa if you had to leave a man It's because he did not truly love you Now I see some of y'all video lagging because you know, I'm answering Jalisa question She's still posting the same question. So I see some of y'all video lagging Y'all come in So I don't know so we're not on the same Page on here and that might be because youtube probably be watching these live to see if they got the If you don't hear working with a certain organization, they might try to cut your live off So they might have they might have a lag like on live tv You know, you think you watching live tv, but it's actually a seven second delay So that they could you know, if they need to cut some somebody say something while somebody cuts they could bleep it I think that's how this live working. I don't think we actually live live live What does it mean when a man's female coworker buys him random gifts pens notebooks drug et cetera Should he accept the gifts? so All that's happening because he buying her gifts and he leading her on to buy gifts a woman ain't just buying a man gifts So let me see what that question say When a man's female coworker, so it what you what the question what you need to be asking is is this your man Because not if if it's just happening for a man, then there ain't none of your business If it's your man that is happening for then that's still not your man You're in a relationship with a single man and he had a job courting his co-workers and that's why he getting gifts And he accepting the gifts because he knows she buying them because he didn't coerce her He didn't let her own the body guilt. So he's not going to turn the gifts down When he'd know he'd want to put her in a position to buy the gifts. You see what I'm saying I See this and see now this now this what I want everybody to understand who'll be watching this right here Y'all see the questions I be answering. That's why I do the work that I do That's why I got to come on here and do a video an hour every day Because this is the state that we in right here This is the state that we in and I'm gonna tell you this ain't this ain't this is not a game The question that I'll be answering on here When you sit back and you just listen and you don't ask the question And you just listen to people questions and you listen to the answer You'll think we all in elementary you'll be like high in the world Is these questions even questions? But this is real life. That's what a relationship does to people a relationship will blind you A relationship will have you crazy a relationship will have you lost a relationship will have you confused That's what a relationship does now Notice that I'm saying that's what a relationship does And I'm not saying that's what love does because he love does not do that But a lot of people don't have love a lot of people don't know what love is We think that a relationship is synonymous with love and that's not true Because you could have a relationship and have zero love And if you truly have love then you're gonna have a relationship If you truly have love so understand that and that's why we get the question that we get Because we're not really operating From self love we operate from desperation and frustration And we operate from loneliness So you get somebody and they slap you across the head like boo boo the fool not not literally But they doing stuff right in front of your face. This man bringing home roses and gifts and Cards and talking about oh this random woman at work just got me this stuff I don't know why she's doing this. Why is she getting these gifts? What in the world is going on And you sitting there as a woman like oh, she need to stop that she crazy What kind of woman just buy man gifts for no reason? I cannot believe these women That's your man That's your man And then the next question is should he be accepting absolutely not But he is setting the gifts because he dealing with her She ain't buying them gifts for no reason. She got Santa Claus You something so y'all got to really Sit and just really think about this thing. Okay. So one trick you could do is when you have a question in your life Ask the question from your friend pretend it's your friend asking you the question Because we always got the answer for somebody else's life But then we don't have it for our own life. And so that's how that's how I coach myself I pretend the question coming from somebody else and then I answer it JRP God bless you. I dated a man for one year But realized that he was a grown boy Even kicked me out I left for six weeks and he came back Says he's changed Cherie believed you change should I give him a chance too? um Well, see She didn't believe that I changed But she gave me a chance But she had a timeline in her mind So although she gave me a chance she still was ready and willing to walk away so I had to show and prove And I showed and prove But then when I married her I went back To the old person that I was a liar I went back to the street life Selling drug when I told her I was done with the streets And even though she we were married and we had just had our son. She's still left Now she was gone for three days and I begged and begged and begged the back So she gave me a second chance in dating And then she gave me a second chance in marriage Both chances were for two different reasons. That's another key Is you can't give a third chance for the same offense So if He did one thing and then you also got to look at what you're giving a chance for So it depends on what he did If he put hands on you if he was Of you in any kind of way The a-word a b u l in any kind of way then He doesn't deserve a second chance If it was just he had wandering eyes or he lied or he didn't always keep his words My wife left me the first time really because she had a soul tie With her ex that she had been with for a year and didn't know if she did the right thing when she left him And then she was talking to me for two or three months and I was being controlling and obsessive And so I showed signs of craziness So that's why she left because she had him still tugging on her and not knowing if she left him and did the right thing And then she had me showing craziness Whereas if I wouldn't show no craziness, she would have had no reason to ever question her moves in life So that was the first reason when we got married She left me because I went because I was in the streets And she didn't want to be with a man who lived in an illegal lifestyle So it was totally different. So it was never for infidelity See a lot of y'all y'all look at my wife's story and y'all comparing apples to oranges See my wife didn't catch me Hot hot dangling in another woman like a lot of y'all catching y'all man My wife didn't have me putting hands on her like a lot of y'all going through my wife didn't have me Ripping her to shreds with words being verbally abusing. She didn't have that. So her things was circumstantial. It was petty 21 years old asking her too many questions about where you at who you with what you doing when you're going where you coming And she was like, hey, we're gonna need to take a break We're gonna we're gonna need to take a break. That was she said to and then she just went on about her life So that break was i'm letting you down easy And we just so happened See, she didn't come back to me. I ain't come back to her We circle back together because my friend wanted to meet her meet her roommate And so I reached out to her for that. So she wasn't checking for me We just so happened by happenstance I said, hey, my friend want to link with your roommate. She said, okay, I tell her And then he didn't show up and I said, hey, he never came through Can you and I still link up and she said, okay, cool And we stood out outside of her apartment and we talked for hours And that's how it came back. It wasn't me coming back begging her and pleading and all of that because I still was operating from a place of ego. I still was so young. I was 21 I ain't know what I was doing. So I even though I knew she was a wife My ego was bigger than my heart at that time But God still set it up and allowed a way to happen to where I was able to come back in without necessarily having to swallow ego And then when I got back in her presence of her love It dissolved my ego because I realized talking to her again Just how special and amazing of a woman she is and what I was getting ready to let go of So y'all have to you know, when when you speak on Sheree Gaskins You got to make sure she never played a radio She never played a radio She like she just let me dog her out and then she kept taking me back now No So when you so you got to make sure you read a woman's influence So you see really how she did it what she did My wife ain't never put up with no kind of cheese. No kind of verbal Emotional physical none of that No Break up the makeup We broke up one time in dating in the first two months and we broke up when he broke up Took a break in marriage in the first three months of marriage. So so that's the other lesson the other lesson is She she didn't give me chance for a year two three four five years Letting me mess up mess up mess up mess up mess up She stopped me boom first two months of dating first two months of marriage She let me know I will leave you I will drop and see and and that's the mistake that a lot of women make you let a man drag you for for a year Two years three years dog you out and then You get fed up. You got to check on um quick Why do guys always tell me my standards are way too high after getting to know my views It just mean they don't want you they don't feel like you worth your standards But uh a guy not going to tell that to his wife Because he want his wife to have high standards. It's just because you indulge men you talking to men. That's not your husband I'm 35 waiting for a christian man And none of the men I meet are saved. I don't want to settle for an unsaved man. Am I crazy to wait? No, you're not crazy to wait, but you need to make sure you tapping into what you say you believe in So go ahead and submit that prayer of God every day and ask God to be working on you and making you better And ask God that you can attract who's for you We're seeing someone for almost one year was on my back Since watching videos. I want to date correctly. Haven't seen each other for three and a half months I drove three hours. I wouldn't get on my back. He put me out. Thank you for the knowledge Hey, god bless you I've never seen this guy data black girl and he's black He messages me here and there flirting on social media Been doing it for years, but has never asked for my number. Why is he doing that? Now is you black? I'm trying to see if you black look like you black. Ken deal. Yeah, that's a black White one with the name Ken deal now Ken deal. Yeah, I can't see if you black, but that sound like a ethnic name God bless him um Now I see a black man who who liked women that's not black A lot of times it's because he don't like himself. He don't like his own blackness But at the same time he still may see a black woman as a viable candidate To get laid down. So he wanted he wanted to do it as a test. He wanted to compare Juices he wanted to compare. So that's what it could be So you got to understand that if you see what he liked and his taste out there And he just throwing a little flirting message, but he ain't coming all the way over Ken deal gone by because he he can't handle Ken deal. He won't he need he won't kindly You know, he he won't you know something else and then Ken deal that's gonna be his Black of the berry sweeter the juice as he wanted to just get a little taste Just to make a comparison But just don't know but it go on here and stay over there where you at dating dating over there with the ladies that you attracted to Aphrodite of god bless your heights on it. Thank you for all that you do You deliver your message in such a sharp and humorous way that it's relatable to anyone You are healing and empowering generations. Hey god bless you now god blessing That's how y'all be doing now y'all are come speaking to somebody live now God bless you Should a single woman go ahead and buy a home or wait until she's married Now honestly, it's a personal choice. It's a personal choice But me personally I wouldn't do anything that is a life move Like a life altering move if I desire a life partner If you don't desire your husband, then go ahead and get your house But if you desire a husband, then what is what is buying a house going to do for you? You know other than then renting an apartment or a condo or renting a house Because it's it's benefits to rent Because now you ain't got to take care of none of the expenses I own my house But now I got to fix my house up And then fixing my house up that costs a lot of money if I had my roof Cost 37 000 to replace my roof if I was renting this house And the roof need replacing the owner of this house got to pay that you see what I mean? So that's 37 000 just because I pay 37 000 to fix my roof don't mean I can add 37 000 to the sale of this house I the house going to be what it worth. You see what I mean? So it's benefits to renting especially when you single And and the other thing is when you single if you buy a house now a man could be with you solely because you've got a house Solely because you've got a house and you won't even know it So you need to come in there with just love He don't need to know about your assets or anything And if you eligible to buy a house instead of buying a house for you personally to live in I would recommend buying that house as an investment property that you collect and rent on And then you rent and where you live and then You own where you rent meaning you own the house that you rent out Versus getting you a house bones and structure And locked down and then your your husband come along and now you either got to be trying to sell the house Or he got to be moving into your asset Which could kind of throw the relationship upside down because he the man And he may feel some type of way about that and you may feel some type of way about that when it's all said and done Ruby ill god bless you. I command healing into your back right now in the name of Jesus. Hey god bless you Now ruby. I hope you live and write and you're not over there in fornication. All right. Let me know all right Because uh, if you're over there for the kt ruby, please don't be speaking of prayers over me Every bit of pain information in front of going jesus might of name. All right lord ruby. I pray that you is After that Oh faithful, please keep them prayers if you in sin But actually right now my back feeling amazing. I guess when I serve My back feel amazing When i'm serving i'm living right god bless you ruby and it's not be seeing ruby a lot now So ruby you you better be living right much as i'll be seeing you in the comments and i'll be seeing you on this chat too So i'm glad sister ruby living right god bless you lord from from her mouth to your ears lord heal this back a The lord heard your prayer for you even said come on back feeling amazing right now. I don't know what's going on Y'all got about 15 more minutes on here now Um moderators y'all could take a break unless you see somebody giving advice if you see somebody giving advice And then nobody asked them for their advice then delete that for me, but moderator you could take a break People people telling me People telling me they don't want nobody answering they question if they ask me the question Uh carolina god bless you. I see 21 Y'all got an 18 year age gap. Yeah, you need coaching you need coaching you need coaching How do you deal with people who may get offended by your delivery? Occasionally should it be taken into consideration or is it okay to have a it is what it is? attitude um You could take it into consideration a lot of people get offended by my delivery, but For me, you know, it is what it is because Everybody ain't for you, you know, so if you know you offering From the right place see if i'm if i'm speaking to you from a place of arrogance Or if i'm speaking to you from a place of conceit, then that's when i gotta Check myself But if i'm speaking to you from a place of love and it may be tough love then that's when it is what it is Because the truth only hurts you When you walking out of line the truth only step on your toes when you walking out of line so It's different if you calling people names, you know, you calling somebody s l ut Or h o e You calling somebody, you know, no good sorry low down worthless And they ask you for advice and you say, you know what you is The worst person in the world And and you know, you calling them names that they didn't call themselves You know that the lord ain't called them. That's something different um Thank you tanya All right, he ain't got a little happy there Tanya on here I have listened to countless youtube's and Read three books and counting Where have you been 40 plus years ago? Or you were not born yet. Um, I am generally a serious person. Blessing sandy god bless you now Sandy says you needed me 40 plus years ago now i'm 26 Been hurting the past got all my knowledge from your videos, but good men are scarce is 26 year old too Soon to give up on dating Yeah, that's way too soon to be honest with you shouldn't even be worrying about dating right now and You say good men are scarce So you must so you a woman as a woman you really shouldn't even worry about dating before the age of 28 In this day and age you really shouldn't as a woman be worrying about dating before 30 If your husband find you before 30, then great But don't be looking for it. Don't be hoping for it. Don't be praying for it. Just be working on you Be working on you because You need that time as a woman to strengthen your heart and to learn and to grow because that's what a man needs a man need that time Because a man don't really become men until 25 and then at 25 A lot of them still five to ten years out from being real men from understanding what it means to be a real man So so don't worry about it. Alexis talk. God bless you struggling with lust Is self pleasure equal to authentication? If so, why? If you're acting alone when a person Is pleasing themselves. All right, now you two after dark Or let's say Oh, yeah, all right. We try we we was over here a PG and he'll go. Let's see Now it's not in my head either something because I'm a visual creature. So now everything was going good and I And so now I can't now I'm losing sleep tonight, but let's tell me let's I It's just not healthy It's not healthy because you Doing what you Going to need your husband to do So if you doing that unless and see this is the thing You when you struggling with lust, it's a root to the lust So you got to understand where the root is And typically when I talk to people who's struggling with lust Men and women it come from they childhood They got they they found a nasty magazine They found a nasty movie Somebody touched them Somebody they got into something with a cousin and then many cousins were hunting Then the neighbor was hunting Before the age of 12 and so the body The body got into this rhythm Before it even knew what was going on And then now your body needed and your body calling on it And that's what I noticed one thing about women whenever I deal with women who say that they lustful and they horny When I look into they past it's all the same story They was exposed to it before they were mature enough to understand The implications of what that touch and what that does But then the women who are conservative in that area It's because they were saved They when I say saved ain't talking about christian. I mean it's because they saved themselves until 1718 19 Somebody say is it considered a sin? Well, see now the bible tell you to stay away from fornication and lasciviousness Now that lasciviousness It really can it encompasses all kind of sexual immorality So when you look up that word in all the different languages of that lasciviousness, that's really where you fall into sexual immorality when you touching yourself because You stimulating for pleasure for what? as a result of lust As a result of youthful lust So you are giving into lust and jesus say if a man lusteth after a woman in his heart He's already committed adultery So when you take lust in your heart and then you act on that lust Then you are in sin And when you yes, you may be alone, but you're not thinking of blue skies So what are you picturing? Who name you saying who you listening to who voice you listening to what music you listening to who you picture? So while you doing that you picture Sometimes you picture in your ex Sometimes you picture in your next Sometimes you picture in somebody else's husband. Sometimes you picture somebody else man Sometimes so where's your mind at and depending on where your mind at? That's where your sin is So when you and when you do that as well you losing self control You losing self-control because to consecrate your life when you consecrate your life, that is when you are taking control over your life. But when you feel this and then you act on it, you lack control over your life. So even in my marriage, I will go with bouts of abstinence to quench, to curve lust. Because when I had that self-control, it's not even about me saying, oh, I got a wife, I could just do whatever I want to do. No, when I practice self-control, that also helps me when I'm tempted in the world, when I'm tempted out there. If I could practice self-control in my house and I'm married, then I'm definitely going to have the strength to have self-control when the adversary try to tip me out there. So typically the people who condone touching yourself and all of that, it loose booty individuals who have not dealt with their childhood trauma. So now I see, Alex is your next question. So if you were molested as a child, as young as five, how do you work on this? I have a therapist. What do we need to work on? I want to stop this. It's so hard. Now, see, if you got a good therapist, your therapist should know what to work on. But what you have to realize about therapy is that you may have to go from one therapist to the next. Because not everybody is called to be a therapist. Some people just came because there's no qualification to be a therapist other than going to school, taking the test, passing the test. So if you grade that test taken, you could go be a therapist, but you may not be called to be a therapist. I don't see people right on my comments. I've been in therapy 10 years, 15 years, 20 years, 25 years, and this one video did more for me than X amount of years of therapy. It's people that have wrote that in my comments. And it's because I didn't just come to what I'm doing. I was called to what I'm doing. So you have to understand that if you dealing with a therapist and that ain't helping you, you need a new therapist. And then in addition to therapy, you need coaching because with coaching, you're going to get application. You're going to turn that pain into purpose. You're going to turn your message into your message and see just like what I just told you. I said, when I see people who struggle with touching themselves and I look into the past, I find a common thing. And your next question was, so if I was touched at five, that's exactly the root. So when you understand the root, now you can address the root. So then you did not know good touch, bad touch, but now as an adult, you know good touch, bad touch. So now you take the new knowledge and you apply it knowing the root and then you uproot it by self control. Because in through prayer, fasting, if you believe in that, supplication, because guess what? When you uproot it, now you're going to realize when you don't touch yourself, you're not going to be short of breath. You're not going to pass out. You're not finna faint. You're not going to go without food. You're going to get stronger. And in that process of consecrating your spirit, you're going to get clarity. You're going to get wisdom. You're going to get a breakthrough. And then you're going to be able to help another woman that's struggling with the same thing. And now that purpose, now your pain has birthed your purpose. Now when you pull in other women away from them vibrators, now you being encouraged. So now you don't want to go back to that lustful act because other women count on you as their accountability partner. You see what I'm saying? So it all worked together. Pain becomes purpose. Mess becomes your message. Mistakes become lessons. You got to tie it all in. Gigi, God bless you. Thank you for the reassurance, Mr. Tony. I'm 24 preschool teacher and currently in school to become a school counselor. Dating is not on my radar. Hey, God bless you now. So A, understand that right there. Do the work. See, a lot of times what we're doing, we don't want to do the work. Marie, God bless you. So a lot of people, you know, come to me and say, hey, Tony, what I need to do for this? What I need to do for this? And I say, well, have you been to Tony Gaston's Academy? Because you got a real love university on there. Got a soul ties course on there. Got a birth your book course on there. You got a win to let go course on there. You got a dating 101 understanding men course on there. So when you start doing the work, you start having less questions. You'll start having less questions when, when, when you applying, when you doing the courses, you reading the books, you getting the coaching. This right here behind my head. My mentor. That ain't nothing for no reason. That's up. That's up there to help change your life. So you could go on there and help change your life. It ain't changed my life. Yeah, I'm the founder of it. You know, yeah, it earns, but it, it don't earn enough to change my life. They don't earn enough that I could buy me a private island and move. It'll earn me enough. The way ain't got to work no more. But so it's doing more for the coaches and more for the clients than it's doing for me. But that's why I created it as my 56 or 57 stream of income. But it ain't even about the income. It's about the purpose. So see, that's what it is. Coaches on there for $25 an hour. So the Lord saying, listen, if, if you won't help yourself, how am I going to help you? Because faith, you can have faith that you could change, but faith without work is dead. Jenae, God bless you. So move away from your lust, your pain, your fear, your worries. You always got to evaluate where you operating from where whatever action you're doing, get to the root of that action. Where are you operating from? Why do men not want to get married as much as women? Because men have a fear of not being able to be faithful to one woman for the rest of their life. And so men fear failure. Men don't want to break a woman's heart. Don't want to hurt a woman. So men try to avoid what they feel is inevitable, which is them being unfaithful. And that's why men stay away from, but see women on average don't fear. Women on average don't fear not being able to be faithful unless they have something in their life, in their past. It's the Nika God bless you in their past that they are struggling with like the young lady asked us tonight. That can produce fear if you're struggling with something from your past. Now somebody said I missed a question and it's under GG, I saw that, but I don't see no 599 or 499 question. I see Marie gay 499 right there, but I don't see no question from Marie. What YouTube doing? It might have showed on your end, I'm gonna look for it. Okay, you above Marie. Okay, I'll see you right here kitty, I got your question. Now see, you ever heard the term, you get what you pay for? That's what YouTube be trying to do. Y'all send their 499 YouTube, they just flush that. They just throw it away, I don't be seeing it. They said, because see YouTube get a percentage. So they said, you give us enough, get the question out of here. So I don't see it, but then you see these up in the red, they stay up there the whole time. So I've been trying to hope somebody from YouTube watching this video to treat everybody equal. All questions matter, YouTube lead the question up so I can see the question. So y'all might see it on your end, but it delete on my end, it be gone. When they need to let all the questions of people that who gave an extra donation just stay in one bar. One bar over here where I could just go through them without them disappearing. But they disappear from the top and they go back into the chat and it's a thousand comments in the chat so I don't see it. But I find you right here. My friend wants me to have a child with him. He has four kids with two baby mamas. He doesn't spend time with his kids. Why does he want to have a child with me? Okay, I see it's a fight off plan. All right. Okay. All right. Okay. Okay. Now see this right here when y'all be needing coaching kitty. You need to talk this through because what you need to hear right here. Now what you got to read through your question a few times kitty and then let's break it down. All right. Boyfriend. Boyfriend. Okay. Boyfriend. Boyfriend don't get rights. Boyfriend have no benefits. Boyfriend don't get to make requesting your life that's going to alter your life forever. Boyfriend. That's the first thing. He has four kids. Four kids. So you didn't have four kids. That means you didn't have enough sleeping around to have 40 kids because they're just high break down when you don't hit every time you shoot. You ain't going to make it every time you shoot. So to have four kids, that means he didn't have enough. He didn't slept around enough to have 40 kids. He got two baby mama. So that means he got double trouble. Double for your trouble. And then now he don't spend time with the four kids he already got. Now you see what I'm saying? And now you say why do he want to have a child with you? Because to him, you look like boo boo the fool. You look like who shot Johnny forgot to kill. You look like you tore up from the floor. You look broke busted and disgusted. You know why? Because you with him. When you with a man who got four kids from two different women and he don't take care of his kids and you with him and you claiming him as your boyfriend, you are a reflection of him. That's the level that you see yourself on. So if you see yourself on that level, then he wants you to wallow in the mud with him because you don't came to roll. You didn't you sitting in the mud with a pig ish man. So if you in the mud with pigs, the pig don't want you to do pig things. So he wants you to be in mess and slop because that's what his life is at and you with him as his girlfriend. So you have to understand that whoever you settle down with. See a lot of time people get confused when I say you attract what you are. I don't mean who approach you. I mean who you with who you with is a reflection of you. So that's how you see yourself. That's the level that you love yourself on, which is a very low level. So you have to understand that you dating down that you dealing with a man that don't even need to be in your presence. Only way he needed to be in your presence if you his therapist and he your paying client. You know what I'm telling you? So if you don't see yourself on that level, if that question that he asked you don't make no sense to you, then why you with him? Why you with him? Aliyah God bless you now. That's your name God bless you. How come men are always dying to get around their friends? A lot go down a lot go down. Hi Tony is my mentor life available in Australia. Yes, if you could visit the site my mentor that life is available. I got clients in Australia and we open we've opened up my mentor that life for beta testing of coaches in other countries. You just got to be certified. So you got to take a certification course. You take my certification course on Tony Gaskins Academy dot com. The link is in the description. And then you could join the site as a coach and start getting clients. And so international coaches can now join my mentor dot life. Alexis talk bless you now. Hey, I got to get going now. Don't y'all send no more blessing. Don't send up. Don't send no more blessing. Don't send no more blessing. Don't send no more question. I got to go. I got to go. It is 95 minutes. I supposed to be gone at 90. So hey, listen, just a little quick wrap up. Understand, you know, feel me tonight. The night we talking. We talked about loss dealing with that. We went deep on that. So if you dealing with that loss, you dealing with your spiritual situations. You got to keep working in that area because you will produce based on where your spirit is. That's where you produce from. You got to address your spirit and make sure that you're healing yourself and understand this in order for you to stop playing the fool in order for you to stop looking like boo boo the fool. Like who shot John forgot to kill. You got to get the knowledge. So getting the knowledge is doing what you're doing right now. You get knowledge. So you need to have an accountability partner. You need to have a close friend or family member who speaks life into you. You need to be reading the books that you could read taking the course. You need to be studying other people relationships. You need to be evaluating people relationships and getting lessons from it. It's like you watching game film. You watching their life and you seeing what they do, what they do right, what they do wrong and you getting lessons from it. You look back over every relationship you've been in, every relationship you've seen and you pull lessons from it. And that's how you build your knowledge and that's how you build your confidence. And that's what prepares you for a successful relationship. See the issue that's going on right here today is everybody just living but nobody's learning. Everybody going through but you're not getting the lesson from what you went through. And so you're making the same mistakes over and over and over. And the reason why you're not getting the lesson is because in order to learn, you got to sacrifice. In order to learn, you got to change. In order to learn, you're going to have to do what you don't want to do. So if that means changing a behavior. If that means spending money on a book or a class or a mentor. If that means doing something, it's going to be something that's uncomfortable. But nothing happens in that comfort zone. You got to get uncomfortable and then become comfortable being uncomfortable. And that's what's going to change your life. So you're going to have to hear what you don't want to hear. And if you watch my videos every day, you're going to hear a whole lot of what you don't want to hear. And that's why I want to say thank you to the moderators. To the moderators that's on here to help us out on these lives. Because they listen to me more than anybody else on the channel. And they be here. When I'm going live, they be here. And they be in the comments on the videos. And that's why I made them moderators. I don't know them personally. They don't work for me personally. So imagine as much as they listen to me. How much they didn't hear the stuff they didn't want to hear. And to still be there. That says a lot. But see a lot of people today. You hear something you don't want to hear. And hurt toes got you coming out the mouth sideways. And then because you don't take the time to sit with a truth. That's already proven. When I'm talking to you, I'm not talking to you from a new marriage. I'm talking to you from going on 14 years of a healthy, perfect marriage. When I say perfect, I mean it's good as it could get. I mean we're not arguing and fussing and fighting. We ain't breaking up the makeup. We ain't cheating on each other. We ain't lying to each other. So when I say from a healthy marriage, that's producing amazing young boys growing the way they life. Straight age, no A minuses. That's because of the marriage that they up under. That's because of the household they in. So when I'm speaking to you, I ain't speaking to you from a boyfriend, girlfriend situation. I'm speaking to you from having been toxic, lost, broke busted and disgusted and confused to a blessed and highly favored. So when I give you a nugget, it's coming from because I done been on both ends. I done been on both ends. So if you ain't married and 100% happy in your marriage, then you ain't seen what I done seen in love and relationships. But everything you going through, I done did it. Because I was the absolute worst. And now I'm trying to be the absolute best. And so that's what I want you to understand. So I'm gonna tell you like my daddy used to tell me, if I tell you a chicken dip snuff, you better check under the wane. If I tell you an ant could pull a train, you better hook up the chain. Because I ain't gonna tell you nothing that you can't take to the bank and cash. Hey, it's on the gas and God bless you. I got to go. All right, you too. Y'all could turn off my live. I self in the go last night, you too turn my live off. I said, boy, they be over there watching like Patrick Snowden told y'all on the movie Patrick Snowden told y'all to be watching. I said, boy, hey, God bless you. All the members of the blessed tribe. Thank you so much. Everybody with the little sign behind their name, those members of the blessed tribe. God bless you. And everybody who gave an extra donation tonight. God bless you. And to the moderators, thank y'all so much. Bless you. We'll talk.