 Hello everyone, welcome to another Nark Survivor Live video. I'm barefaced in this one. No makeup This is what it looked like naturally normal eyebrows Being quite busy today How's everyone doing? Who have we got with us? In the live chat Let me know your name and where you're from We got glow up glam From Illinois Gazz from Australia Who else have we got in here? Let me know if you're new. You don't know yet I'm Nark Survivor or Christopher From Wales in the UK. I've been doing this now for over five years. I am a narcissist expert a life coach and CEO of Nark Survivor LTD. All right, let's get started Let's talk about this very Interesting topic. You may think that you know the narcissist You may think that you know who they are What they're about You may think that you know everything that there is to know But you do not know the narcissist Until you do this And you may have been with them for months or years And you may be thinking to yourself I've known them all of this time. I've been with them every day Living with them. I know exactly who they are I know exactly what they're like. I know exactly What they are capable of You may think that But I can tell you that you are in for a shock It will really surprise you and you never would have seen it coming If you didn't watch this video because you may think that you know the narcissist You may think that yes, you spent all of this time with them You've been living with them every day For months, maybe years, maybe decades You may think that you know all that there is to know but I can tell you on my own experience I thought I knew this person But I was living with but I was sleeping next to every night. I thought I knew what they were about I thought I knew what they were capable of Until one day I got a fed up of the abuse And then I try to move on and if you haven't experienced this yet It's very important that you are watching This video because I'm about to tell you what will happen when you finally get fed up And you decide to move on you will see a very different side of the narcissist And up until that point You may have felt like you knew this person like you had them all figured out Yeah, they were crazy sometimes abusive Maybe they lied to you Maybe they even cheated on you, but you assume that they have limits They have certain standards. There's some things that they're not going to do Because that's what they tell you when you try to move on there are things That they will do things that you'd never expect When you thought they had certain limits, maybe you were dealing with a self-righteous narcissist They uphold themselves to certain standards and expectations As though they don't get involved in certain things, but there is no low For a narcissist There's really nothing that they aren't capable of If they see an opportunity to do it Trust and believe that they will do it Especially if they think that they can get away with it or that no one will find out Yes, they are going to do it And they're not going to feel any remorse As long as they feel like it's getting to you They're punishing you as long As they feel like they're getting something out of it It's benefiting them at your expense And in their minds it's like who cares and you may think you know them But when you try to move on you will see a very different side of them So what they will do is they will shift the blame on to you They will make false accusations. They will blame you for everything As usual they will lie They may even stalk and harass you They may show up at your home Your job Maybe where you go shopping It could be anywhere. They will just pop up there And you may never have even expected it And they will cause a scene They will put on a show To embarrass and humiliate you in front of everyone and to paint you in a bad light Like you're this bad crazy person and they will also try to get you fired from your job They will target you financially They will do anything to sabotage your life. They will talk about you to people behind your back They will spread rumours They will start a smear campaign against you and enforce their flying monkeys To spread this false narrative about you to alienate you to isolate you They will cheat on you They will steal from you if they see that you're trying to move on You may notice your money Your material possessions all of these things just begin to disappear. They just develop this Sense of arrogance and entitlement as you trying to move on because they don't want to detach from you They're very obsessed They want to hold on to you because although you may not know it They actually need you far more than you ever needed them. They just manipulated you They lied to you and yet You may have felt like you knew this person You may have felt like you knew who they are and what they're about But you really don't know them Until you try to move on The person you see at the beginning of the relationship and this isn't just with narcissists. It's with anyone A Person you see at the beginning That's rarely who they actually are Who they are is who you see at the end That is who you are really dealing with and when you finally realize it. It's like you're on your own. You're isolated You have no support Because they've already been smearing you behind your back Or maybe in front of you as well But when they were doing it, you didn't really understand what was going on You thought that maybe they were just worried about you or they were trying to help you, but they weren't And they know exactly what they're doing They're setting up the situation So that it's easier for them when they finally Turn against you and blame you When you start to figure them out and you try to move on It's really crazy because you might have been involved with them for years You may have thought that you knew everything there was to know about this person And then suddenly they show this other side of them And you never expected to see that You never knew that they were like that But they just come out and they reveal it to you and then by the time they do that you're not even prepared for it You don't even know what to do You may not have any support because they've already isolated you and you just feel trapped You feel like there's no way out of this situation and it can be really hard When you're going through this When you're dealing with someone who was able to get you from the very beginning They just never revealed this to you. What you've got to understand is that the narcissist was never with you They were never in your corner They were never put on your side They never cared about you You never meant anything to them in that way They were only in it for themselves To get something from you You were their source of supply and when they feel like they're losing you It's like life or death to them because you're their narcissistic extension They can't live without you So that when they feel you slipping away It just destabilizes them because you're propping up their false self Every time that they manipulate you they insult you and put you down Every time that they do that it makes them feel powerful and in control So they don't ever want to lose that So when you try to move on it really affects them They can feel that energy slipping away from them They feel that they're losing their source of supply and they react very badly in that moment Then it's like they're out to get you and they'll do anything just to take you down To destroy you because they look at it like once they've got involved with you that is it for life And it's either You remain their narcissistic extension Or you have no life at all There's just no other way around it with a narcissist You can't just move on and live without them Even though that may be what you want to do That's just not even an option Once they found you Once they've secured you as their source of supply and they're using you to sustain themselves To regulate their emotions They just can't let you go and you may not have seen it yet Maybe you haven't decided To leave the narcissist just yet You're still putting up with them and you're watching my videos Because maybe it's helping you to deal with them as I said when you get to that point When you can no longer tolerate it The abuse is getting too much and you decide to move on from them You will see a very different side to them and it will shock and confuse you Because up until that point you felt like you knew this person you felt like you knew who they were Or who they are So this video is really just to prepare you for if or when you do Decide to move on from the narcissist. Of course, I can't tell you what to do. I can't advise you in that It's your choice what you decide to do But just be aware of the consequences I mean for myself Every narcissist that I was involved with I left them behind And each time I had a devastating effect on my life But I'm still glad that I got out because for me, it's no life Being stuck being imprisoned A slave to a narcissist. I just believe that there's so much more to life than that But if you are thinking about moving on from the narcissist You do need someone To guide you someone to examine your situation To see whether or not it is even safe for you to do that Because otherwise it might put you in a lot of trouble Which is why If you are thinking of moving on from the narcissist, I do recommend booking a one-on-one with me So that we can discuss it if it is safe for you to do so and then The right way for you to move on so that you minimize The damage that it might otherwise do to your life When you are breaking away from them So yes, if that is what you decide to do, I do advise booking a one-on-one with me And you can do that on my website It's narksurvivor.co.uk Because you do need to have someone there. It's very important that you have someone who understands Someone who can support you Instead of you just going through it on your own Because when you're doing that, there's just no telling how it might turn out It may affect you very badly So yes, that's what I advise you to do If you are planning on moving on from the narcissist and really that's what we should all strive to do I mean, of course, it's no good. It's no fun Being Chained To a narcissist for the rest of your life, of course, we all deserve better than that We deserve love We deserve respect We do not deserve to be abused There's more to our life And just existing for a narcissist selfish needs So that's it. You don't know the narcissist until you do this Until you try to move on from them. 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