 Men will always be suckers for women. Women are beautiful, intelligent and very attractive. Men therefore have to be careful in deciding which women they want to be with. When you are young, it is very easy to just enter into a relationship simply because you feel like when you are older, you are better equipped to make good decisions. Anyone can fall for a woman, but many fall for the wrong people. How do you know if you fell for the wrong woman or not? In today's video, I am going to share with you 9 reasons men fall in love with the wrong women. 1. They focus on physical attributes. Women are generally physically attractive. Being physically attractive should therefore not be a distinguishing feature. However, they are women who are exceptionally physically attractive. This makes men flock around them. Men who know what they want in a relationship shouldn't decide based on physical attributes only. There are many beautiful women in the world, but there are not as many independent and goal-oriented and tolerant women. If one desires a relationship with a woman, it is ideal to sit down to explore the desirable attributes you want in a partner. While the fact that they are physically attractive alone help you stay sane in the relationship, a woman can be beautiful and disrespectful. Is there a beauty enough for you to abide with all her shortcomings? For most men who are visionary, the answer is no. You need to take time to understand yourself. If you don't understand yourself, you will hardly be able to make a decision that is right for you. 2. They are not confident in themselves. We are naturally attracted to people who we feel have what we think is lacking in us. This explains why baseball players in school have a lot of admirers. People want to be able to play like them. The same is applicable to people with other talents. If a woman is extremely talented, men will often desire her. While there is absolutely nothing wrong with desiring a girl, wanting her only because of her talents may well backfire on the long run. You see, there are many things involved in a relationship. There is emotional support, affection and mutual communication. A relationship which has only one of these may face challenges on the long run. A woman who is confident can also detect your low self-esteem, even if they accept to be with you and help you will change. If you don't, you risk losing them. As a general rule, don't date someone simply because they have what you don't. It is also a good idea to date for a while before entering into a relationship. Relationships have their own challenges. Unless you are self-aware and emotionally stable, you may not even be ready to get involved in one. 3. You don't want to be single Some men start dating simply because they don't want to be single. This is crazy, yet true. Some people can feel left out when all their friends are dating. They can then start dating the first women they come across just to belong. If you are doing this or about to, you probably should reconsider. According to a survey by Illicit Encounters, a British dating site for married people, 25 out of 1000 people ended up marrying their first love. This is less than 10%. I'm not an expert in relationship matters, but I think that it is better to slow down when trying to enter into a relationship. It is better you start later than end up heartbroken. A heartbroken man often never loves with as much passion as the first time. There is always a fear that the person you are with will betray you. This fear does not allow you to love the current person fully and it often ends up in a breakup like a self-fulfilling prophecy. 4. They think they can change her People are very complicated. They have past and experiences that you may never understand. It affects the way they relate with others and their approach to life. In starting a relationship, communication is very important. You need to understand who you are dealing with. Everybody wants to wake up in a relationship and realize that their partner is a junkie or a side prostitute. You need to take your time to evaluate the relationship and whether you and your partner are compatible. It is very foolish to remain in a relationship out of sympathy for the other party. If you have discovered something that makes it difficult for the two of you to be together, take time to evaluate your options. Don't assume that love will conquer all. It often doesn't. Love also operates with wisdom. You cannot entangle yourself in a relationship that will make you perpetually unhappy. Assuming she had a criminal record and in the course of your relationship has been in and out of jail, how would it make you feel if you were clean yourself? You need to think about the consequences of your decisions. Don't enter into a relationship hoping to change anyone. No one changes without personal effort. Remember, your happiness is a tough priority in achieving all your goals in life. If you are distressed and unhappy, you will like the zeal to push. Protect your happiness. You deserve peace of mind. 5. They don't define the things they wouldn't accept in a relationship. It is quite difficult today to see people who just met moving in together by the next week. Unlike in the past, people no longer spend time getting to know each other before they make up their mind. This is partly as a result of mainstream media which projects unrealistic relationship and one-night stands. People all over the world are beginning to replicate what they see on screens. What this means is that people don't spend a lot of time talking. Every man should communicate clearly to their partners what their goals are and what type of relationship they are looking for. If the man does not abide multiple partners, he should communicate this clearly. If the man does not accept premarital sex, he should communicate this clearly. Everything that both partners want and don't want should be communicated. If this doesn't happen, the tendency is for both partners to become dissatisfied with their relationship. This often ends with breakups. 6. They have a picture of the perfect woman. In the mind of some men, there is a perfect woman meant for them. In reality, there is no perfect woman or man. There are only perfect relationships. People who have such ideals usually date the same type of women over and over without results. The reason why it never works is quite simple. The woman's flaws always show up when they are least suspected and then the breakup with them. Don't enter into a relationship seeking the perfect woman. Be open to meeting good people who you can build something beautiful with. That way, the two of you can accommodate each other's flaws. 7. They haven't figured out what they want in life. One key thing you should know is that a man who doesn't have his life figured out can hardly add value to anyone. You will just appear unstable. When you are like this, the type of woman you will attract will also be people like you. When you are in this state, it is not even ideal for you to be dating. You may think you are in love, but what you need more is a retreat. You need to figure out what exactly you want to do. When you start doing it, then you can start thinking of dating but not before. 8. They feel they don't deserve a good woman. Some men have a bad past, they need some time and are trying to redeem what is left of their lives. Because of this, they can sometimes settle with any woman at all that accepts them. This is not a great move. You deserve love and affection. If you enter into a relationship with this mindset, the tendency is for the woman to think she is doing you a favor. This will ensure your unhappiness in the long run. 9. They don't love themselves enough. Every man must learn to love themselves. You cannot love another person the way you should if you don't love yourself. Nobody will treat you the way you don't permit yourself to be treated. A woman cannot abuse you if you don't have low self-esteem. Your partner can also not manipulate you if you are self-aware and very active in your work. They enter into a relationship when you are sure of yourself. You need to be whole before you can share with others. If you enter a relationship broken, you will just end up hurting yourself and your partner.