 This is when The narcissist knows you're done when you move on from the narcissist And you go no contact That doesn't mean that they know That you are done That doesn't mean that they know that because they are very arrogant and And audacious so they think they're the best thing since sliced bread They think you can't do any better than them as though whoever You move on to or whatever situation You go into it Will never be as good as what you had with them. Well, at least that's how they think in their minds And it may not always play out that way in reality But in the beginning when you go no contact when you cut them off They're assuming that it's not going to get any better for you as though You already had it as good as it gets with them So they're not really thinking that you're done They're looking at it as though it's only a matter of time until you come back Until you start messing them or they might just think that you're waiting for them To come after you because many of these narcissists are very delusional They really think that you still want them That's how they think Even after you've gone no contact Many of them just can't believe that you want nothing to do with them They just can't believe that But there is a time when They do begin to realize That you aren't done that you no longer want anything to do with them that there is No going back. Yeah, there is a time when they realize that And it's not just because you cut them off. You went no contact Or you start seeing them blog them on social media No, it's not just because of that But it's also because when you Find a higher purpose When you find something greater than what you had with them when you Find something that you are passionate about Something that you believe in Something that matters more to you than anything else Something that they can't destroy Something that they can't take away from you. Yeah when you find that They know There's no going back They know you're done. They know it's all over for them But what they will try to do when they know that you found something That you believe in Something that you are passionate about And this could be A religion spirituality It could be a job Business Or maybe a family member or friend that you care about It could be any of these things, but there's something that you hold is more significant Something that is more important to you than the narcissist when you find that In most situations, yeah They will assume that you were done they will assume that there is no going back, but of course there are some Narcissists were so crazy and delusional that they will try to come back and and Mirror Your passions and interests they will Re-customize their false self just for you and Yeah, they were like to so they've changed So they're no longer about what they were once about They've cleaned up their act and now they're on the same page as you so if You've become more of a religious or spiritual person Or whatever it is that you're passionate about whatever it is that you're doing They're like like they're about that too Even though they know they're not they're fake They're not about anything for real and that is why What's most important to them is a source of supply They are addicted to people and they can't be alone Because that's It's most important to them Which is why they may Come back I try to love bomb you trick you all over again act like they're about what you're about Even though they know fully well that they're not But they may still try some of them But as you continue along your path to purpose Your mission your objective in life to become The best version the most righteous version of yourself Who you are always meant to be? Before you got involved with this narcissist Yeah, when you become that As you continue on This purpose and you don't let them distract you you don't let them sway you Yeah, when you continue doing that At some point They do get the picture They do realize that you're not coming back Because that dysfunctional behavior Does not resonate with you anymore. You've had some time away from them You've had a chance to heal To practice self-love and self-care and when you do that Because that that is it that is the missing ingredients That's what you were missing all along is that love for yourself You become secure with yourself When you do that this toxic behavior no one on the resonates with you You just can't be around it anymore. It brings you down You don't like it because you know you deserve better than that You already know that And that is why you left them Cut contact you moved on And you focused on a higher purpose that is why you did that And yes, those of you who have done that I am very proud of you for doing that And I want you to continue doing that You need to continue moving away Distance in yourself from them Because you should already know that they are no good for you They mean you know well and as you continue To strive for this higher purpose All they can do Is try to bring you down to their level That's all they can do. It's like this crabs in the bucket mentality They're not gonna lift you up How are they gonna do that if they're beneath you they don't share the same ideals and standards as you do They don't believe in a higher purpose You do and that belief is very powerful. It's what helps you to move on It's what makes you want to run away from them Because you know they're not about anything for real Yeah, your belief is very powerful and the entire time that you were with them you believed in them You had hoped that they could change And that belief is what kept you stuck But guess what when you take away that belief it's so much easier for you to move on And that's why my videos are so powerful Because they instill a new belief inside of you This belief that they are not to be trusted. They are not to be believed in They are not to be valued Why should you value them? What did they ever bring a value to you? All they did was bring you down and try to control you They kept you stuck in a situation where you were miserable and they didn't even care They didn't even care about how you felt and I need you to know that I Need you to be aware of that The power if you want to change your life just know that the power is in your belief Not only in other people but in yourself You must believe in yourself if you believe in yourself you can be anything that you want to be But I know it's difficult because the entire time that you were with them the last thing that they wanted you to do Is to believe in yourself? They never wanted you to do that Because they know that's where the power is They know that when you believe in yourself they can no longer control you So they try to put you down they try to make you feel insecure Because that's how they trap you it stops you from growing it stops you from becoming better And that is it that is the secret that is what they don't want you to know They never want you to figure that out Because it's a game all along the entire time the very thing that you need to move on Is the very thing that they hold away from you yourself love That security in yourself that belief in yourself Because that was what you needed all along That was the one thing that you were missing It's what kept you stuck all of that time because I can tell you right now If you had that belief in yourself in the very beginning you never would have got involved with them If you actually loved yourself for real But never would have happened you never would have met them and that is the truth We meet these types of people because we lack self-love Because many of us have low self-esteem We may be insecure in ourselves That is what lures you into these toxic relationships and keeps you stuck They keep you stuck That's the whole point they love bomb you and then they devalue you they play down your worth Because then you believe that you deserve it You believe that you don't deserve anything more And it's that shame That keeps you stuck as well not forgiving yourself Because you're totally don't even deserve to forgive yourself You taught us though. That's what you deserve But that's it. That's when they know that you're done When you develop self-love When you start taking care of yourself When you start putting yourself first Instead of always holding them as the main priority in your life When you realize that you are more important your needs are more important And you focus on a higher purpose Something that you are passionate about Something that means something to you I'm any of you You may be still stuck Where you're actually thinking that this person cares about you Because they act like they want to help you They act like they want you to be better But they don't that's why they want to keep you stuck That's where they devalue you in the first place Why would they devalue you? Why wouldn't they want you to become Confident in yourself That's the whole point to keep you down To make you become progressively worse Because they don't want you to move on. They don't want you to leave them behind That's the last thing they want you to do They want you to be stuck forever They don't care about you They don't care about you becoming better and why because they're getting something out of it Remember Narcissus they are self-absorbed. They like empathy They don't consider you They're only thinking about what they want and what they can get out of it And it benefits them to devalue you and keep you stuck keep you locked in as their supply I need you to know that I Need you to be aware of that Because again, even though you may Cut them off and go into contact that does not mean that they're gonna leave you alone because that is The greatest fear Is that when you move on You start to realize your worth you start to develop self-love because they know after that you're never coming back They already know that Because a person who loves themselves, they're not gonna put themselves in that type of situation They're never gonna do that Once you develop self-love and this belief in yourself. There is no going back You just won't click with them anymore It's game over and many of you who do go back or you give them another chance it's because You don't really love yourself from the core if you did you would never go back you would never give them another chance Because you would know that not only because They are deficient in self-love but also because they lack self-awareness They can never change They can never Realize That the problem lies with them Although we must take responsibility at the end Because we should realize that we are Deficient in self-love But yes, they never Realize that That's not something that they can accept. They can only project it onto you They can only assign these parts of themselves That they don't like to you If they don't like something about themselves, they have to disown it But the only thing that you can heal the only way that you can heal and move on and Really love yourself or real is to own it You have to own it first before you can change it Before you can make it better. I don't know sometimes they do Kind of give you the tools to do that When they devalue you because at some point You just can't take it anymore, and you're like, okay Maybe I am Exactly what you say I am and I'm gonna own that I'll be that And I'll walk away from you as well And I'll carry that with me And then you move on into a new situation And it's like, oh darn, I'm in it These people don't see me like that They see me like something else Something I never thought I could be, something better, something greater Maybe something I always thought that I was, but I was brainwashed, I was told that I'm something different, something bad Someone who will never be enough And when that happens There is no going back after that Once you realize Who you really are And You realize your worth You realize that you're okay. It's too late. You're not susceptible anymore They can't get you, they can't pull you down Because by that point it's It's just such a difference between you and them It's just such a different scale. There's just no possible way for them to reach you And they can try and mirror you, they can try and trick you But as long as you have that self-love You're gonna know, you're gonna know that it's not real You're gonna see it a mile away So at that point there's nothing they can do They know that you're done and they're forced to leave you alone And that is when you get to move on And Be who you want to be Be who you choose to be Be what always meant to be Before they got involved Before they tricked you, they valued you They made you feel like you're nothing Because that's exactly how they feel Especially when they're around you And yet they try to project those feelings onto you So yeah, that's it When the narcissist realizes You're done This is what they do Just been walking around in this park But as you can see it's getting quite dark now So I'm gonna head home I've enjoyed my walk, I love being in nature As you know I hope you enjoyed this message tonight If you did please give the video a thumbs up down below Help our community And Let me know your thoughts down in the comments Let me know if you agree with this Or not And Share the video, subscribe Before I go Here's Nala, sit next to me in the next one Alright, that's it I hope you enjoyed And I will talk to you in another one Bye