 What's going on, you guys? Welcome to the Single Guy channel. So I get probably about an email, a message, a DM, or a story reply, or a comment here. Pretty much several times over a day about a guy who has a situation with a girl that he needs help on. And almost always the question is like, oh, this and this happened. Sometimes it was good, now it's bad. And now he's wondering, should I move on or should I keep pursuing this girl? Is this girl wasting my time? So that's the question I'm gonna answer in this video today. Is she wasting your time? So what I'm gonna cover is I'm gonna cover the basic principle that you should have to know whether she's wasting your time. And then I'm gonna give you individual, specific examples of things that I look for in my life to figure out if a girl is wasting my time or not. Okay, so let's begin. What you need to get clear of first before you even start getting into the specific examples is what do you actually want from this person, okay? Do you want a relationship with this person? Do you want something committed? Do you want something open? Do you want, what do you want? Or maybe you're just looking to have fun and hook up with a bunch of people. Dude, I've been there. In some ways I'm still there, you know? But if you are going to keep doing that, then ask yourself that question. Is this person right for me and my life? Too often, guys will get lost and they'll start asking themselves questions that don't matter as much. Like does this girl like me, you know? Am I, do I look cool being around this girl? What are my friends think? What are my parents, like those kinds of questions? What you should be asking is, does this girl make sense for me and my life? Put yourself first. Always put yourself first. Okay, and ultimately that's what's gonna be the best for you and best for her as well too. So if you're in a situation with a girl and she's giving you a lot of things over text to make you think that she's interested, but then she won't meet up with you, does that sound like a good person for you in your life? I mean, if you want a pen pal, if that's your goal, then yeah, sure, it would be great. But if your goal is to have actual sex and get on an actual date with this person, then you need to meet up with them in real life. That's just what has to happen. You know, we got COVID right now. I know there's some people who just don't wanna touch other people or don't wanna go up. That's fine, take care of your health. But if you are a person who does want to do the heterosexual romp, then find someone who's down for that. Find someone who is open to do that sort of stuff with you, okay? And not everybody is and that's okay. So some of the things that I look for are first of all, like I said before, will they meet up with me in person? Super important. If I've tried to make plans with this person and they flaked on me twice, meaning we've set, we try to set something up and then they cancel or you know, you've figured out their schedule and then they're just really making it difficult while I'm busy all week. I can't do it then, I can't do it then. If she's done this to you twice, then you gotta move on and find somebody else, okay? You know, I went out with this girl who's in medical school one time and it was pretty much like, you know, every single time we'd make plans, it was like clockwork, like the day before she would cancel because she had to study for an exam or something came up in her school. And that's cool, you know, I'm happy for pursuing her career. But if you wanna date me, like I gotta meet up with you in person, I'm not just gonna hang around and wait for you all the time. So I ended up saying, no, you know, I'm sorry, I don't wanna go out again because you're gonna cancel on me and you know, you gotta take care of your career and I understand that but I wanna do what I wanna do as well too. And that's how it ended. So yeah, it doesn't matter if the person's nice, it doesn't matter if the person's really, really hot, it doesn't matter if the person's really, really into you. But if they're not good for a fit in your life, then it makes sense that you people should find somebody who will be a good fit for you in your life, all right? So if she flicks on you twice, fight somebody else. Also too, if she's not giving you her attention, you know, maybe she's responding to your text messages but she's not really reading them. Maybe when you hang out, she's like hanging out with you and drinking but she's constantly looking around to see who else is there. She's constantly looking at her phone. Other things are more important clearly for her, all right? If a girl's not giving me her attention, that's not sexy to me, I'm not into it. If she is giving me her attention, yeah, I'm into that. All right, so you wanna make sure that this person's giving you their attention. Also too, with the mixed signals thing, sometimes she's super into you, sometimes she's just really not into you. And look, man, women come and go, like they're very, you know, cyclical, they're very, their emotions change all the time and that's okay but if it's happening repeatedly where you just don't hear from her, she'll just ghost you out of nowhere or like, you know, sometimes she's just like really, really cold for no reason, if you've talked with her about this and she hasn't changed her behavior, then you gotta move on. And I would say like with the mixed signals thing, a lot of guys wondering, well, what is she trying to tell me with mixed signals if it's really early on in the dating process? I'm like, dude, that is the message. Sometimes she's really hot for you, sometimes she's not. And if you're cool with that, you know, and you just wanna sleep with her, yeah, you can just invite him out to a party if you're out at a bar late at night or something like that, she might show up if she's horny. Like there's a good chance she will. If she's like, still been on and off with you for a while. But if you're not into that or if you don't, you're looking for something more serious then probably not the right move. Move on and find somebody who won't give you mixed signals. Find somebody who will give you the signals that you're looking for consistently, okay? So yeah, sometimes it becomes a judgment call. I can usually tell sometimes with the way people are doing things that sometimes their approach was really wrong and if they changed up their approach then the girl wouldn't be wasting their time. But most of the time I would say guys are just putting their energy in the wrong place and you wanna put your energy in the right place with people that are actually gonna give you help. So that's one thing that I work on with my students a lot, how to do that, how to spot these women a lot quicker. And that's something that I talk about also in my approaching system which will actually get you a lot of options with women too. So if you wanna link to that, the link is in the description box below, click on it and you'll get signed up for the mailing list. All right, cool. Thanks for watching you guys. If you've made it today and consider subscribing I come out with videos like every single week and if you wanna get personally coached by me there's a link in the box below as well too. But yeah, thanks for watching you guys. Good luck out there.