 Uh, guys, don't be trying to get in these women's inboxes unless you are serious about dealing with this. I'm just trying to hit the scans. Come on now. What's going on? Hello? Hey, I'm good. How are you? I'm well. What do you got for me? How old are you? I'm 31. 31? Yes. All right. Why are minor women so panicked relationships? Um, I mean, I know for me, I know why I am. I know it takes two people to make a relationship. I'm not one to blame the guy, um, but my problem is, is that I tend to attract narcissists and I'm the complete opposite of a narcissist, like I'm very, I'm a very caring, very empathetic person. Um, yeah, I keep attracting unavailable men, like constantly, um, real one, real one, four years ago, four years ago. Yes. How long did it last? Uh, it lasted three years. Was he a narcissist? No. Why'd you leave him? Let's just say it didn't work out because I, I messed up. I was the one who messed up. What does that mean? Um, I cheated. So you're, you're coming on and you're playing the violin to where everybody's feelings involved. Poor empathetic girl who attracts the bad guy, who's a narcissist. Then we asked a few questions. You had a relationship with the guy for three years that you cheated on. Yep. I did. I did. And I regret it. And you left him. Yeah. Okay. What you leaving for? At the time, my excuse was that I was bored. Oh, okay. Um, and I know I'm, I'm literally saying, like, I'm, I'm speaking the truth. There's always a reason a lot of women leave. But see, so honestly, what, what, what men here is there's no reason to be a good guy because, you know, when I was a good guy, women left me. But when I became a player. Yeah. Those problems. It's asked backwards. I know. But the thing is my issue with what you did is you came in with the victim car. Oh, I was coming in currently now what my issue is now. Cause that was, that was four years ago. My issues now are different. You know what karma is? Yes. And I do believe in it. And I understand that. Oh, that's not, that's not your issue. It's just your karma. Yeah. But you don't come in with that. So when does, so when does karma end? No, that's the universe. This is why I don't fuck with karma. So I leave it alone. That's why I stay on the good side. True. Because you don't, because you don't get to, because you don't get to turn it off just because you're tired of it. That's true. But I believe in, I don't pray what you believe in the universe got its own scales. That's true. So the guy you cheated on, where's the app? Me and him are actually friends. We, we talk, we speak, but it's nothing. We're cordial, I guess. I don't know if you'd say we're friends, but we're cordial. That's the word you use. After you cheated on me, when did you, how did you apologize to it? Hold the phone, hold the phone, hold the phone still. Sorry. Um, it wasn't until probably like last year when I got repeatedly used and hurt. Okay. You broke up with this, you left this guy with five years ago, 10 years ago. Uh, it's four going on five. So you broke somebody's heart and cheated on me. And then you didn't apologize to them or two years later after you got, and you wonder why your karma is not clean yet. Well, a lot of people don't realize what happens to them until they get hurt. The question I asked is you wonder why your karma is not clean yet. You apologized one year ago for something that happened five years ago to somebody who involved with the three years. You may have another seven or eight years of this. Because of karma. That's karma. See, the funny thing is, if we flip this and we put it on the side and said, you were a man and what you did to a woman, women will be outraged. You cheated on her because you got bored. They want to burn you at the stake. And then what you didn't apologize for five years, I hope he died by himself. He did that five years and got nervous to say that they're friends and that person, hey, ma'am, look, you had a good guy and you blew it. I sure did. Unfortunately, I got news for women all around. You don't get to get, you don't, you don't get, I don't know why you ladies feel like you're going to get second and third and fourth and fifth chances. So are you saying I'm going to be single? Now, how can I say that definitively? But what I can say is that you guys don't get infinite chances. I don't think anyone does. It all depends on the universe, like you said. No, no, no, no, no. Here's what it depends on. I don't want to say this. The world has told you ladies that you can move through a life like men and you can't. We're not, we're, we're different. And at 31, you met that guy and y'all were together for three years. So y'all started dating when you were 24. Yeah, mid-20s. Yeah, that should have been your husband. 70 years ago, you'd have married that guy and you had been on and off with another life. That was your man. He would have had him for 50 years. Got news for you ladies? Just because we don't call it anything different when you meet them early and you're with them? Just because you ladies don't have the, what it takes to go the distance doesn't mean that the universe or men are just going to say, you keep getting men. No, that was your guy. That's how it works. That's how it used to work anyway. Yeah. And your life is telling you this because since that person you've had failure after failure after failure after failure and it's not getting any better. See, our forebearers knew better than we did. They got married early and didn't try to get out here and think they could have a bunch of relationships and casual sex and do shit. They went on about life. And women realized that, you know what? You can't get out here and just throw your kitty out around town thinking that you're going to be fit for another man. You have a comedy section. Yeah. I mean, I hear you, but so right now. Everything that comes in, everything that comes before but doesn't matter. Okay. So what do you suggest I do? Right now I'm not dating anyone. I'm single. I'm not even talking really to anyone. How long have you been therapy? Honestly, I'm not in therapy anymore. I was. I took a break from it. I took a break. It's not like I'm not going to go back. Why? I took a break. Why? Why did I take a break? Yeah. It was giving me a lot of anxiety, honestly. Yeah. So it'd be like an obese mother suck and taking a break from personal training because they got anxiety. I mean, I believe in breaks. It's okay to take a break. You know what? The things you believe in don't seem to work well going through things. I think my break is working out well for me, actually. Okay. I'll go back. I'm just taking a break. Okay. Alright. Intermission. So, okay. Again. Life on your terms doing what you do. This is another problem with modern women. You're in charge of your own life. So when it's chaotic and hectic like this, you decided when you're in therapy, you decided when you're out because it's giving me anxiety. What gave you anxiety? The fact that you've got to do some shit? I'll give you a different example. Let's take it away from you because it's getting deeper and deeper. I don't think you can hang with this. I don't think you can hang with this level of truth. Let me give you something you can't hang with. Okay. Parallel. Not to haul it. Put you in detox and rehab. Seven steps. Got you clean. But now you need to work the 12 steps. Are you still in therapy? No, I quit after step two. Why? I just took a break. So you're back to drinking and drugging. Yeah. The program just give me anxiety. So you're back to the drug. Yeah. I mean, I'm going to go back to the program, but I'm just going to use, I'm just going to shoot a little heroin. I'm just going to drink a little bit. Okay. Hmm. No, no, no, no, no, no, no. Let's do this in another way. You're in college. All right. Well, there's a, there's a degree plan and it has all these hours. So you got to go through. You took a semester off? Yeah. I'm going to go back. Why? I need a break. But how many semesters you're going to take off? I've been off six, but I'm going to go back. Hmm. Yeah. I have gone back. You don't know my pattern of therapy. I don't care about your pattern. I don't care about your pattern. I like it. I care about it. I don't care. Okay. This is where I put your dick up. Put your dick up. Too many of you women come in and get your masking and energy. See, you asked my question. I asked and I'm telling you. I'm listening. What you're doing is not working. And all it takes to really get you off a little bit is to trigger you. And here it comes. Go back and watch this. What you're doing is a working. You came in like the victim. The problem in my life is I keep attracting narcissists. I'm an empathetic caring person. Virgin Mary on the cross, but I'm sorry boo. That ain't what's showing right now. So how would I, how should I approach it first? Talk to it with, discuss it with your therapist. Because you're not equipped to be in charge of your own feeling. So working on myself and my son and kind of just not talking about it anymore. Myself and my son. Your son too? Yes. Where's your child's father? He passed away. Sorry to hear that. Was it before the guy you cheated on or after? After. So I'm not, I'm not doing like you said. So he's eight. Yeah. Ma'am. Yes, sir. You had a good man. I know. That's why I said I don't. That's that good man. Yeah. You made a child out of wedlock. Yes. And a bunch of damaged chaotic relationships. Yes. You've been in therapy, but decided to take yourself out because it gave you anxiety. Yes. Anxiety is a real thing. Yeah, yeah. But I don't give a shit about your anxiety. I care about your son. Yeah. I don't give a shit about you. It's about making a better role model for him. Yeah. Because you decided to bring another life into this world so and about you. Mm-hmm. Yeah. So go back to therapy. I'll go back to therapy. I mean, I don't, I don't really, when I'm saying, the woman I'm talking to right now, you're not really cut out for the relationship. Because of something that happened in my past. Three years ago. That's part of it. But everything, I mean, I think I'm pretty decent at reading people. And when I put together so far, man, the way you told your story is troubling. Well, that's why I don't think I'm ready for a relationship either, which is why I said I'm not. Why you don't think you're ready, why you don't think you're ready is different. You don't think you're, but you came in saying your problem with relationship is not you. It's these narcissists. No, that was just the first thing I said. I said, I know it takes two people in a relationship. And I don't blame the guy. I know that it's me too. That's what I said. So I know it's things that I have to work on myself as well. And I know, I know, I understand why I keep attracting these type of men and why I was. I don't know why you, I don't know why you're still friends with the guy you did that way. Typically those are. He knows I have a good heart. That's why. Oh, shit. He knows I'm not a bad person. That's why. If we were to flip this and make it a man still being friends with a woman he dog down, they would say he's using her. Yes. Who would say that? Society? The world would say yes, because he would be. That's why I don't go by society standards. All right. I'm done. Can't make this shit up, man.