 Guys hi, it's David here again, and this video is about Maybe the biggest question of them all What does it mean to be happy and? I'm gonna ask a question and The question is this do you want to be happy? Because I'm gonna talk about six Reasons why I think you don't want to be happy, okay? I'm gonna talk about six reasons why you don't want to be happy everybody I meet Says they want to be happy right we all think we want to be happy, but I'm gonna talk about you know is that true Is that actually true? Ask yourself that question. Do you want to be happy? Do you want to be happy now the stuff I'm gonna talk about a lot of it is in All sorts of spiritual paths of course in miracles Loads and loads of different paths talk about these principles, and I'm gonna sum them up in the six here now the first reason Why I'm Opposite this way I'm gonna tell you the secret to happiness at the end of this video right and My prediction is that almost everybody that watches this video Will have forgotten The answer within a couple of minutes of having finished this video I'm gonna give you the answer, and I'm not kidding about that. I'm actually gonna give you the answer to be happy You can be happy right now if you accept what I say at the end of this video But my prediction is that you want you want want to hear what I have to say, okay? The first reason you want You want it won't register with you you won't hear it or you won't accept it Is that when I say what I'm going to say next you'll get very defensive, right and what I'm going to say is Right now you and I'm talking to you personally you're you're very unhappy in your life you're very unhappy and That's not an easy thing for people to hear it's not an easy thing to accept right and when I say that to people right and That's an assumption, but it's an assumption. It's a very it's an educated assumption because Almost everybody in this world is unhappy Right almost everybody, and I'm talking 99.9 percent So when I say that to them they'll say No, what do you mean? I'm not unhappy. I'm not depressed. I'm not upset Okay, and they'll say you know I've got a good job. I've got a nice family I Get on well with people and they'll say all these things right But do you ever get upset? Are you ever lonely? Do you ever crave things that you don't have in your life? Are you searching for something? Is there a void inside? You ever feel guilty? It's a general feeling of emptiness that people have and And Do you ever get upset? I'm talking about if you ever get upset That tells me that you're not happy right now. That's a deep teaching there And I'll talk about that in a few later videos, but if you were ever Get upset That's a sign that you're not happy Right. That's the first reason right people get defensive about the reality They're in denial about the fact that yes, you know what I am not happy So first of all you have to accept the fact that I'm not happy where I am and That's your decision. You can make that the same for yourself. Okay, so it's the first one the second one is that When I tell you the secret to happiness You're already thinking to yourself. This is utterly impossible. This guy is full of it, right? He's full of it now Let me tell you I'm not full of it, right and I'm deadly serious about this Very earnest in what I'm going to tell you, but you'll think it's impossible think about this Like there is not one psychologist or one psychotherapist out there in the world that thinks That it's normal to live a life without any upset or any unhappiness We've accepted the idea that to be unhappy in the world is normal and the way it should be Okay, so there's this belief out there that to be happy is an impossible dream Right and I'm gonna tell you it's not You can be fully happy all the time It is possible, right, so Is that a belief that you want to give up that it is impossible and to accept the fact that yes It's very very possible and people have achieved it people have done it Now the third one is very difficult to accept And it's this the reason that you want to accept what I'm I'm gonna say at the end is that Not only are you miserable in your life? But you're addicted to your misery You value your misery more than happiness You value your misery more than happiness So what do I mean by that? Well? What if I asked you to give up something for happiness? Let's see how much you actually value happiness Maybe you're in a relationship or let's say you're not and you have a Really strong crush on somebody that you find very attractive and you would you think to yourself with that person would complete my life, right? What if I was to make a bargain with you right now and say You need to give up that right now, and I will give you perfect happiness right Give up that person you're in the relationship with the amazing person in your life You have to just never see them ever again. Let them go put it on the other hand. I will give you complete joy all the time a Lot of people would say no way not doing it, right? So they value something more than happiness, right? What if I said to you you have to give up your reputation? You give up your reputation and you will be blissfully happy happy for the rest of your life Would you be willing to have your name solid? Okay, your reputation tarnished Well, if I said forget making 50,000 Euros a year or dollars forget making 100,000 I'll give you 10,000 here, and I can guarantee you you'll be happy Really happy. Would you do it? Can you live without the car or the lifestyle that you're chasing? Most people wouldn't most people They think that these things that that bring them happiness in in their lives are Are amazing that they think they're there the things that make their lives worth living But what if those things that you're actually holding on to are? Like a ball and chain. They're actually the things that are keeping you from happiness So the next one I'm going to talk about the fourth reason you won't want to listen to this is That you're currently a thrill-seeker You are you're you're seeking thrills rather than actual happiness So what do I mean by that? To be happy is to be at peace All the time Okay, never get upset about anything and never get overly invested or excited about anything So what most of us do is we seek the thrill and then of course we have the crash Okay, so we were after this cycle now We were only after the point to the the top point the crest of the wave But that would break and eventually we realized that you know, we're on a we're on a roller coaster here Whereas the the path of happiness is just like that all the way through constant now Something that people don't understand about that is that this level Actually starts to ascend and goes up and up and up higher and higher and higher But we think that well, yeah, but I can get that thing now that really cool thing that's going to give me all the excitement and We're addicted to thrill-seeking and we want to give that up because it's it's here now. We can actually Forsee that happening. It's it's like a possibility to us the idea of being happy or being at peace seems like a pipe drink so Are you willing to give up the thrill-seeking? Because seeking things in the world that you think are going to make you happy So that's the fourth one the fifth reason is Most people Suffer a lot in the world or they have suffered and they've suffered in trying to get whatever it is in life that they want Right, and they have setbacks and they have highs and lows and if someone was to come along and say yeah All that suffering was completely pointless And you didn't need to go through any of that to be happy at all. It was a complete waste of time How would you respond it would mean all your suffering was completely for nothing didn't mean a thing You didn't get any brownie points from it, you know, you weren't working off karma. It's just It was a waste of time So you would have to let go of all that stuff that story about all the hero's journey and I struggled through this and I Overcame everything. It's pointless You don't have to do that Okay, so that's number five And the last reason is What I'm going to tell you next number six is a difficult one because It means that when I tell you the secret It means that you have to take full Responsibility for your happiness and not only your own happiness but your Your your happiness, right? So you were in complete and total you're fully responsible for however it is you feel and That means you have to stop blaming other people It means you have to stop blaming the world. It means that a stop. You have to stop blaming your parents your job society, okay, politicians and You just take complete control Okay, how many people are willing to let go of the story about well that person, you know That person really did me wrong there Okay, or I was I was I was wronged in that situation or my boss really is arrogant or Any number of stories, you know those stories, right? Are you willing to let those go? And that's the sixth reason so Here is that brings me nicely to the secret. This is the formula for happiness Okay, and it's so simple the formula for happiness is That you stop actively Engaging in the process of making yourself unhappy and then you'll be happy You stop actively engaging in the process of making yourself unhappy and Then you'll be happy Okay, so it all comes down to you Happiness is not something that you attain Happiness is something that shows up when you stop actively making yourself unhappy With all these crazy ideas we've picked up Through the ears all the programming we have about what it means to be happy none of it is true None of it you don't need someone else to complete you Don't need a great job You don't need to be poor Right, there's no there's no nobility in poverty. There is no There's nothing to do. There's nothing to achieve. There's nowhere to go. There's no one to see. There's no one to talk to There's no guru right It's just you stop putting all these demands in front of The piece that you want the piece that is there and it's free Anybody can have this You know a poor person working in Bangladesh Can be happy right and a CEO and an investment bank, you know Can be happy It doesn't matter. It's just What do you value? Do you value happiness if you value it? It's yours just for the asking So can you remember some people are probably forgetting already? How do you become happy? You stop engaging in the process of active actively making yourself unhappy So your job is not to become happy. Okay your job is to look at all the blocks that you have put in the way of your happiness and Start dropping them so that's the video and That is how you attain happiness and now you've got some work to do now. You've got to start looking at those beliefs and Start putting them under the microscope a little bit. Okay, and start bringing them to that higher Self that everybody has that peaceful part that is in everybody's mind That is there if you call on it and it will help you look at these beliefs And it will help you see this is this isn't good. It isn't bad. These beliefs aren't good or bad. You know what they are they're silly They're silly and you start to You start to giggle at them a little bit and and after a while You just a little grin comes on your face when you start thinking about these things But I need to control that person or I need to manipulate this situation. Why? You don't need to do any of that so bear that in mind guys and I will talk to you soon